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confession: i'm totally jealous of our nanny

kjlrskjlrs
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DD loves her. she gets so excited to see her, and says her name (and nanny's husband's name since he takes them out to lunch occasionally) a bunch over the weekends. we had our first awful, DD doesnt care about me day a week or two ago where DD wouldn't give me a hug goodbye or let me pick her up once her nanny was here, she only wanted her nanny.

 

obviously i'm so glad that DD is having a blast with her nanny the 3 days a week that she comes over and happy that they get along so well and really love each other. but part of me is completely jealous and almost resentful, wishing that DD didn't love her as much. then i start to feel badly like i'm not being enough fun. because i feel like our nanny has a leg up on me because obviously i'm dealing with real life also when i'm with DD so having to run errands, clean, talk to people, etc, instead of 24/7 getting to devote my full attention like our nanny can when she's over.

 

am i normal or crazy?

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Re: confession: i'm totally jealous of our nanny

  • katesmom73katesmom73
    It will change.  The same thing happened to me around your dd's age with her in-home dcp.  It was very hurtful but I tried not to focus on it...believe me, she knows who her parents are.
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  • DaiLyghtDaiLyght
    Very normal. I think every working mom has the exact same feelings at some point. ((hugs))
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  • brideonoct1brideonoct1

    I was a nanny for a family all through grad school and the kids would be like that sometimes. They go through phases.

    They always preferred their parents to me, though, when it was important (sick, scared, etc.).

    No matter how connected they are- she knows YOU are the mom and she will always love you the most :)

     

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  • Purrrfect433Purrrfect433
    Toddlers are so fickle:( The toddler I babysit during the week cries hysterically when her mom drops her off lately. It makes me feel so bad! But, then she cries hysterically NOT to leave when her dad or mom picks her up at the end of the day. I think you'd feel 100x worse if she cried hysterically when you left. I'm sure it stings that she doesn't seem to care but it would be so much harder to leave her knowing she was desperate for you to stay, right?
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  • DandRDandR

    I have days like this too.  I get jealous as well.  But, really, you are still mom.  you will always be the most important.  Right now, the nanny is just a FUN friend who your kid plays with. 

    It will pass.

    Currently my kids are in a "no mommy don't go to work" phase after the holidays...trust me...that's harder.  I hate leaving when they are crying. 

    But today I'm working from home and I hear them playing and having fun and they have no desire to come down and see me, so I know they love our nanny.

     

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