I see you put our two posters @adirat and @antoto in 'bump jail' and blocked their postes. I'd like to request you unlock these two users. They are amazingly knowledgeable, incredibly supportive members of The Bump. It is ridiculous for them to be in trouble after the incredibly hurtful things that happened in TTGP yesterday.
Also I shouldn't be here anyways since this wasn't even my third warning. I sent this in a message to you guys @bumpadmin but not sure if you saw it.
My warning history for those who want to know: February 2015 - First warning. Has 0 points. August 2016 - Second warning but was reversed because whoever the BG was who warned me warned the wrong person. But even though it says it's reversed there are still 2 points associated with it... so that's dumb. and then Yesterday, January 2016 - Yeah fine I deserved that warning, but it should only count as my second warning! So I should have 3 points total, not 5.
This is totally unfair! The OPs were more disruptive and rude to the community than either @adirat or @antoto who are respected memebers of the boards.
Me: 34 | DH: 33 Married Aug. 2013 TTC #1 Sep. 2016 ***TW***
BFP Jan. 15, 2017; MMC Mar. 4, 2017 at 10w6d BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF. BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
I 1937282 x agree with all of this. The OP from that thread was beyond rude and hurtful, along with breaking rules of TB, and long-time in-goo-standing-members are the ones who get punished?
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
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@adirat and @antoto are amazing and valued members of this community! They were doing what anyone would do and defending their friends and what has become like an online home to them! Free @adirat and @antoto!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Me: 38 DH: 38 Married 6/11/16 TTC Since 6/2016 12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal 3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve 8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC 7/2018 Clomid+IUI 11/2018 Letrozole+TI 12/2018 Letrozole+IUI 2/2019 NTNP 5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
I second to give them their posting rights back, both @adirat and @antoto are supporting members of this community, always ready to help fellow TTC-ers in need. Them being blocked -- it is just very sad
Me: 33, DH: 38 Married: May 2015 TTC since September 2015
Also, @BumpAdmin, @BumpTara, @BumpCaitlin, it appears that @adirat's entire post history has evaporated into thin air. As a valued member of this community who has provided great advice and insight, that's a huge loss to anyone who might be searching these boards for information on previous posts.
Relocating that info from whatever black hole it's been dropped into would be great. Thanks.
Yesterday's troll said some incredibly hurtful things that caused valuable members pain and also made them want to protect their friends. If you have forgotten, she used the c-word, a racial slur, used the b-word, and repeatedly mocked members for not being as fertile as she supposedly is. Including popping into the WTO to say something nasty about our supposed inability to get pregnant.
There is no way that these two long-time, valued contributing members should be in jail or banned over this. Both should be reinstated and all of their previous posts that are not in violation of the TOU should be returned.
please free @adirat and @antoto. They don't deserve to be in jail when they were only protecting members from the drive by poster yesterday!
We shouldn't be posting on this board in fear that we will be banned for looking out and supporting one another. I told a member three times to go to her birth month board to resolve drama appropriately, and was given my first warning for referencing that in the randoms thread that was deleted.
why are members jailed or warned for protecting themselves and others when random posters can come here and insult us, call us names, make racial slurs, and stir up drama on our threads by antagonizing the regs here? This isn't right!
I agree!! Things that OP's said were so very hurtful to all of us. This is supposed to be a safe space for us to talk about our TTC troubles with each other freely, not feel judged and be made fun of by some random poster who clearly violated TOU. @adirat and @antoto did nothing wrong except to protect their friends who were being hurt by this disgusting and hurtful posting from OP's.
It is unfair and uncalled for to put respected members and contributors @antoto and @adirat into "Bump Jail" for yesterday's posts. They were defending other members and contributors against a cruel new poster who violated TOU several times and called regular members vulgar names and said hurtful things. Your goal is ad revenue, correct? New people will only find and join the Bump if its members contribute the real, scientific advice and knowledge the Bump is known for, and you've silenced two members who offer that advice and knowledge. They're supportive members of this community and to cut them off is to cut off your nose to spite your face. Please reinstate their accounts, and their posts.
Me: late 30s | H: early 30s TTC #1 since April 2015 RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016 IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal Polyp removed May 2017 FET May 2017 - BFP! Baby boy born 2/2/18
I'd like to echo what everyone else said - @adirat and @antoto are perhaps THE most valuable resources on here. They are knowledgeable, supportive and caring - and they shouldn't be penalized for defending our safe space.
Also - please restore @adirat's post history - she has shared so much valuable information that it would be detrimental to the board if it were lost.
Also, not to throw TOO much shade but like... We wouldn't have felt such a need to defend people (and ourselves, might I add) if the BGs hadn't taken entirely too long to shut down that user's thread and ban that awful person.
Yesterdays troll drive by said some hurtful things and @adirat and @antoto were only sticking up for this community. I came here to find support and that's what they were doing, they don't deserve to be punished.
Wholeheartedly agree. @adirat and @antoto were standing up for our community against posters whose only intent was to clearly stir up drama and be hurtful.
I just am trying to understand where the rules are posted so that we can all ensure as a community that they are enforced fairly across the board. There seems to be quite a bit of confusion as to why these posters have been punished and why others weren't, and a discrepancy as to how the "punishment" is being doled out. How are we supposed to have order when it does not appear there is any sort of organization to how this board is run? What is the process here?
Please remove the "jail time" for @adirat and @antoto! During my TTGP time, these were two ladies who I valued and looked to for advice and verification. They are both extremely HELPFUL and SUPPORTIVE. As you can see above, we all feel the same way. Please reconsider and bring them back!
All of this. Yesterday was really one for the record books.
It's pretty clear here where corporate stands in terms of creating a space for regs who need and give support unflinching vs. keeping a bunch of asshole randos in the pipeline. It's disgusting. They get to come here and outright MOCK in various and sundry ways people who may be struggling to concieve, and when we stand up for the integrity of our supposed safe haven, we're the ones who are punished.
@bumpadmin@BumpTara@BumpCaitlin Please hear what we are saying. I can tell you that I would not have stayed on this board if it weren't for @adirat and @antoto. If you are looking for one-off clicks, then keep going the way you are going. But if you are looking for long term, returning users who start in TTGP and move on to other boards, then you are seriously shooting yourselves in the foot by jailing long time, supportive and contributing members. Not to mention all the hurtful, awful things that poster yesterday said.
I think it would also be beneficial if you could come on here and truly explain your process (instead of just a canned response) since it seems like the "process" is inconsistent at best. If these two aren't able to come back, you are seriously risking losing some of your most regular users. I'm sure your advertisers would be less than thrilled.
Re: Hey @bumpadmin
My warning history for those who want to know:
February 2015 - First warning. Has 0 points.
August 2016 - Second warning but was reversed because whoever the BG was who warned me warned the wrong person. But even though it says it's reversed there are still 2 points associated with it... so that's dumb.
and then Yesterday, January 2016 - Yeah fine I deserved that warning, but it should only count as my second warning! So I should have 3 points total, not 5.
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Me: 30 | DH: 34 | DSS: 14 | DS: 4
PG #2, EDD 10/12/2023
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Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
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Together 2003, Married 2011
DD: July 2005
BFP: 4/10/16, MC: 5/20/16
BFP: 1/10/17, DD2: Sep 2017
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Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
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FREE @adirat and @antoto !!!
Me: 33 DH: 33
Married: 6.9.12
DS born: 4.9.14
DD born 7.27.17
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@adirat is clearly a supportive members of The Bump. She is one of this weeks leaders!
Together 2003, Married 2011
DD: July 2005
BFP: 4/10/16, MC: 5/20/16
BFP: 1/10/17, DD2: Sep 2017
TTGP Dec '16 siggy challenge winner!
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These two were very well respected and supportive members of this community. Free @adirat and @antoto!!
Married 9/2015
TTC #1 6/2016
Dx Unexplained IF 6/2017
Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI 7/2017 - Cancelled (overstimulated)
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #1 - BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI #2 -BFN
Letrozole + Ovidrel + IUI#3 - BFP! EDD July 15 2018
Baby Girl H - July 22 2018
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@adirat and @antoto are amazing and valued members of this community! They were doing what anyone would do and defending their friends and what has become like an online home to them! Free @adirat and @antoto!
"It's time to try defying gravity."
Married 6/11/16
TTC Since 6/2016
12/2016 RE appt; 1/2017 SA & HSG results - all normal
3/2017 Dx Hyperprolactinemia; 5/2017 Prolactin levels normal; 8/2017 Low Ovarian Reserve
8/2017 TTA for personal reasons; 10/2017 NTNP; 12/2017 Re-start TTC
7/2018 Clomid+IUI
11/2018 Letrozole+TI
12/2018 Letrozole+IUI
2/2019 NTNP
5/2019 Stopping all TTC efforts; living Childfree
Married: May 2015
TTC since September 2015
Relocating that info from whatever black hole it's been dropped into would be great. Thanks.
There is no way that these two long-time, valued contributing members should be in jail or banned over this. Both should be reinstated and all of their previous posts that are not in violation of the TOU should be returned.
@BumpCaitlin
@BumpTara
@BumpAdmin
Married: June 2011
TTC since Feb 2016
BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16
BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
please free @adirat and @antoto. They don't deserve to be in jail when they were only protecting members from the drive by poster yesterday!
We shouldn't be posting on this board in fear that we will be banned for looking out and supporting one another. I told a member three times to go to her birth month board to resolve drama appropriately, and was given my first warning for referencing that in the randoms thread that was deleted.
why are members jailed or warned for protecting themselves and others when random posters can come here and insult us, call us names, make racial slurs, and stir up drama on our threads by antagonizing the regs here? This isn't right!
DD born: 3/31/19
I wholeheartedly agree.
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@BumpCaitlin
@BumpTara
ETA: Sig warning
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Married 9/27/2014
TTC Since 1/1/2017
BFP: 2/6/2017
Due Date: 10/13/17
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It is unfair and uncalled for to put respected members and contributors @antoto and @adirat into "Bump Jail" for yesterday's posts. They were defending other members and contributors against a cruel new poster who violated TOU several times and called regular members vulgar names and said hurtful things. Your goal is ad revenue, correct? New people will only find and join the Bump if its members contribute the real, scientific advice and knowledge the Bump is known for, and you've silenced two members who offer that advice and knowledge. They're supportive members of this community and to cut them off is to cut off your nose to spite your face. Please reinstate their accounts, and their posts.
TTC #1 since April 2015
RE Dx: Fibroids, surgery Jan 2016
IUI #1 and #2, Nov/Dec 2016, BFN
IVF March 2017: ER - 5R/3M/3F, 1 PGS normal
Polyp removed May 2017
FET May 2017 - BFP!
Baby boy born 2/2/18
Married: 04/05/15
TTC since: 02/16/16
Also - please restore @adirat's post history - she has shared so much valuable information that it would be detrimental to the board if it were lost.
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@BumpTara
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@BumpTara
@BumpTara
@BumpCaitlin
@adirat and @antoto are valuable members of this community!!!
Fight the power!!!! Free @adirat and @antoto
@BumpAdmin
@BumpCaitlin
@BumpTara
Please remove the "jail time" for @adirat and @antoto! During my TTGP time, these were two ladies who I valued and looked to for advice and verification. They are both extremely HELPFUL and SUPPORTIVE. As you can see above, we all feel the same way. Please reconsider and bring them back!
@BumpAdmin
@BumpCaitlin
@BumpTara
***TW in Siggy***
Me: 34 / DH: 33
Married: Nov 2011
TTC #1: Jan 2013, BFP Sept 2013, DD: June 2014
TTC #2: Aug 2016, BFP Nov 2016, DS: August 2017
It's pretty clear here where corporate stands in terms of creating a space for regs who need and give support unflinching vs. keeping a bunch of asshole randos in the pipeline. It's disgusting. They get to come here and outright MOCK in various and sundry ways people who may be struggling to concieve, and when we stand up for the integrity of our supposed safe haven, we're the ones who are punished.
What an absolute joke.
@BumpAdmin
@BumpCaitlin
@BumpTara
BFP #2 3/18/19 * EDD 11/25/19* DS born 11/30/19
@bumpadmin @BumpTara @BumpCaitlin Please hear what we are saying. I can tell you that I would not have stayed on this board if it weren't for @adirat and @antoto. If you are looking for one-off clicks, then keep going the way you are going. But if you are looking for long term, returning users who start in TTGP and move on to other boards, then you are seriously shooting yourselves in the foot by jailing long time, supportive and contributing members. Not to mention all the hurtful, awful things that poster yesterday said.
I think it would also be beneficial if you could come on here and truly explain your process (instead of just a canned response) since it seems like the "process" is inconsistent at best. If these two aren't able to come back, you are seriously risking losing some of your most regular users. I'm sure your advertisers would be less than thrilled.
Dating: 12/21/2001
Married: 09/08/2012
BFP: 11/16/2016 EDD: 07/27/2017
Baby Fish born: 08/01/2017