Weekly Chatter January 16

glitzandglitter · January 2017

Hello Ladies! Hope everyone had a great weekend

What's going on with you this week? Looking forward to or dreading anything?

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week?
Anything else you'd like to add?

glitzandglitter · January 2017

What's going on with you this week? Today I'm enjoying a day off at home with the boys. DH had to work and MIL is here but is leaving soon. Not too much out of the ordinary planned.
Looking forward to or dreading anything? Well grad school started so with that comes homework. I am eager to see how well I balance school, work and mommy hood this week. My mom said last night she thinks it's great that I'm going to grad school but she also thinks I'm nuts.

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week? Getting my homework done and turned in on
Anything else you'd like to add? I hope everyone has a great week!

irohspupil · January 2017

What's going on with you this week? The weather has just started looking up so I'm hoping to take LO out to the zoo soon. oh. And I'm learning if my husband gets laid off or not tomorrow

Looking forward to or dreading anything? The whole possibility of DH losing his job is pretty dread-worthy. If he isn't part of the bunch losing their jobs in this restructuring, then we will probably start NTNP.

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week? I hope to write at least 1k more in my manuscript. I've been pretty obsessively checking TheBump whenever I've had a minute instead of writing, but I gotta make up that time! I'd also like to finish the remaining hundred pages in the book I'm reading.

Anything else you'd like to add? I'm new here I was going to participate in TTGP but i felt like a jackass posting in the TTA/Benched thread so I'm gonna hang out here until we're at least able to NTNP.
Also, I have 1 DD from AUG15 group

glitzandglitter · January 2017

@irohspupil - Welcome

I felt the same way about posting on TTGP. I am still on the pill for a few months so I hang out here for now.

FX that your DH isn't in the group they let go.

PhillymommaX2 · January 2017

What's going on with you this week?
Nothing new! Being a sahm can be a little boring at times lol

Looking forward to or dreading anything?
The girls slept at my parents last night and tonight going to a Retirement dinner for my mom at a nice restaurant. Looking forward to it! Not dreading anything

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week?
cleaning out my basement a little bit

Anything else you'd like to add?
Have a great week!

aggo · January 2017

Hi, I'm pretty new here

I've been lurking a lot the past few days and just started posting yesterday. I'm so grateful something like this exists, there is such a wealth of information.

What's going on with you this week?
Long days at work this week, but I don't mind that much. I get overtime which is great for building up that baby fund.

Looking forward to or dreading anything?
Looking forward to AF being over as we will begin our first try at TTC!

I don't know if this is the place for it (apologies if not, I'm still lurking and learning!), but some random fears: I'm a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding in early October. If we get pregnant in our first 3-4 months (which would be absolutely amazing), I'm worried about telling her because I'd be pretty big for the wedding, especially if we are lucky enough to conceive our first try. I don't want to plan my life around my friend's wedding because we planned on TTC now over a year ago but I don't want to upset her by not looking the way she wants me to for her wedding or by making her feel like I'm taking away attention from her, especially since my baby shower would be in the months leading up to her wedding. At the same time, if we are blessed with a baby, I don't want to minimize my own happiness with such a huge life event. I don't think anyone would do the same for me, and rightfully so, these are all such huge life events and we all deserve to be through the roof happy about them. I haven't told her we are TTC because I think that's between DH and me and I don't want to put pressure on us. If we don't end up successful our first try, I plan on telling her we are TTC so we can plan on me ordering a different bridesmaid style a few sizes bigger just in case - it'll be expensive to tailor if we have no luck at all, but that's my problem, not the bride's. Has anyone else felt like this or been a pregnant bridesmaid?
Another random fear: Though our future baby has been very well planned and thought out, DH and I have been married just under 6 months. I worry when/if we tell friends they will say things that will hurt my feelings like "Well that was fast" instead of "Congratulations". For a little background I'll add we got engaged and married within two months and got some snark about that, even though we had been trying to get parental permission to get married for two years prior to that - we were tired of waiting to get married!

This is of course, all speculation because I have no idea how long it will take us to get pregnant and DH and I would be so overjoyed with a baby regardless of how anyone else felt about it, but just wondering if anyone here has gone through something like this or has similar worries.

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week?
My crazy pile of reporting at work this week!

Anything else you'd like to add?
Wishing everyone a happy week! (And sorry for accidentally posting this in last week's thread)

PhillymommaX2 · January 2017

ag90 said:

Hi, I'm pretty new here I've been lurking a lot the past few days and just started posting yesterday. I'm so grateful something like this exists, there is such a wealth of information.

What's going on with you this week?
Long days at work this week, but I don't mind that much. I get overtime which is great for building up that baby fund.

Looking forward to or dreading anything?
Looking forward to AF being over as we will begin our first try at TTC!

I don't know if this is the place for it (apologies if not, I'm still lurking and learning!), but some random fears: I'm a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding in early October. If we get pregnant in our first 3-4 months (which would be absolutely amazing), I'm worried about telling her because I'd be pretty big for the wedding, especially if we are lucky enough to conceive our first try. I don't want to plan my life around my friend's wedding because we planned on TTC now over a year ago but I don't want to upset her by not looking the way she wants me to for her wedding or by making her feel like I'm taking away attention from her, especially since my baby shower would be in the months leading up to her wedding. At the same time, if we are blessed with a baby, I don't want to minimize my own happiness with such a huge life event. I don't think anyone would do the same for me, and rightfully so, these are all such huge life events and we all deserve to be through the roof happy about them. I haven't told her we are TTC because I think that's between DH and me and I don't want to put pressure on us. If we don't end up successful our first try, I plan on telling her we are TTC so we can plan on me ordering a different bridesmaid style a few sizes bigger just in case - it'll be expensive to tailor if we have no luck at all, but that's my problem, not the bride's. Has anyone else felt like this or been a pregnant bridesmaid?
Another random fear: Though our future baby has been very well planned and thought out, DH and I have been married just under 6 months. I worry when/if we tell friends they will say things that will hurt my feelings like "Well that was fast" instead of "Congratulations". For a little background I'll add we got engaged and married within two months and got some snark about that, even though we had been trying to get parental permission to get married for two years prior to that - we were tired of waiting to get married!

This is of course, all speculation because I have no idea how long it will take us to get pregnant and DH and I would be so overjoyed with a baby regardless of how anyone else felt about it, but just wondering if anyone here has gone through something like this or has similar worries.

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week?
My crazy pile of reporting at work this week!

Anything else you'd like to add?
Wishing everyone a happy week! (And sorry for accidentally posting this in last week's thread)

Stuck in quote box again. I hate mobile bumping!!
Anyway DH and I got pregnant with DD1 2 months after we got married. Some people made comments but it didn't bother me. Don't let other people ruin your happiness or your life plans! I also wouldn't worry about being a bridesmaid. You can still do honorary bridesmaid things like plan the shower and bachelorette party. And if your due date conflicts with the wedding then she will just have to understand. That's life!

aggo · January 2017

Thanks @PhillymommaX2 , that makes me feel a lot better! Still hoping I can be in the wedding because I really want to be there for her, but will let her make that decision since it's her wedding. Sometimes I feel those comments are made out of jealousy, so if it happens I'll try to ignore and focus on my happiness instead.

glitzandglitter · January 2017

@ag90 I got pregnant 6 months after marrying my DH. While I am happy things worked out the way they did we did get comments. We had been together a while but were still young (23) and we were the first of our friends to get married let alone have kids so we had a period of time where we were just kind of in a different place than our friends. We even had a family member who was less than enthused and was just like "Oh

Was it on purpose?" They came around later but sheesh! I know it is easier said than done but try to ignore the negative comments from others. People say things often without any thoughts of how they might effect or be interpreted by others. You should do what feels right for you and your DH:)
As for the bridesmaid issue - I would keep to your time table. If it happens right away then you can figure out what to do then. I do think I would put off ordering my dress as long as I could. Telling others that you are TTC is a personal choice. I had a few close friends that knew each time we TTC but they were people that I knew weren't going to tell anyone else or ask me every time they saw me if I was pregnant.

aggo · January 2017

@glitzandglitter thank you so much, that was exactly what I needed to hear. It's so helpful to know other people have gone through or felt something similar. Love this community so far, definitely aids in keeping up my confidence with our life planning! During my wedding planning I was so concerned about everyone else's feelings that I forgot about my own - something I absolutely refuse to do with a baby. I'm really just hoping my friend still wants me in her wedding because I really want to be there for her, she was the one who was really there for me during all of my wedding things. But, she's also a huge feminist, I'd be surprised if she demoted me just because I was bigger than anticipated.

mill1020 · January 2017

@ag90, I agree w/ @PhillymommaX2 and @glitzandglitter: do what's right for you and DH. True friends will be understanding of these things, even if they do end up feeling a little bit disappointed. And your friend probably won't demote you in her wedding. As far as others' comments go (relating to the timing of pregnancies), I can relate to being stressed about that, too. We were actually pregnant with our THIRD child when we got married--I've probably heard every comment under the sun. "Do you know what's causing it?" etc, etc. After awhile you start to respond with things like, "well, all DH has to do is walk by me on the way to the shower..." Lol.

aggo · January 2017

Thanks @mill1020, you're absolutely right. Family first!

mothernorth · January 2017

What's going on with you this week? Not a blinkin' thing!

Looking forward to or dreading anything? Nothing at all in particular, hoping something will come up though (to look forward to!)

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week? Hmmm. I guess actually come up with something and get it done haha

Anything else you'd like to add? I hope all the rest of you have a great week!

@irohspupil Hello fellow Aug 15 mom!

@ag90 You already got some solid advice and I have nothing to add, but would just like to emphasize any true friend would understand, good luck!

rooonilwaazlib · January 2017

What's going on with you this week? Looking forward to or dreading anything?
Had a busy weekend with work -- my job is to coordinate leadership conferences for teenagers, and we held our first one over this long 3-day weekend. It was awesome but I am completely exhausted!

What is one thing you hope to get accomplished this week?
I have a Passion Planner which I love to use, but haven't in the past few weeks because work has been so busy. I'd love to sit down one night this week and write in it, mapping out what my next few months will look like.

Anything else you'd like to add?
I can't believe January is 2/3 over already! Wasn't it just Winter break!?! My wife and I are going to visit her aunt and grandma in February in Florida, so I'm looking forward to that!

glitzandglitter · January 2017

@mill1020 - I am dreading those comments. I know they are coming we are not telling anyone when we start to TTC our next but when I eventually do get pregnant it will be our 4th and I am sure I will get plenty of comments. Why can't people just keep their thoughts to themselves?!

@lala2moms2be - I was literally just saying the same thing yesterday. What happened to January??? I am glad though. I am having a hard time waiting until we start TTC so I am hoping the time passes quickly

Florida is beautiful this time of year - I hope you have a great trip!

irohspupil · January 2017

Well DH was laid off. We've got a possibly permanent/possibly temporary job lined up for him already. It sucks but we're going to revisit the conversation about TTC sometime in May. I'll probably hang out here until then.

@AllyTheKid hey there! How's it going with 2 under 2? (I hope I'm remembering correctly; Oct16 baby too right? I used to be username micshi)

glitzandglitter · January 2017

@irohspupil - I am so sorry

I am glad you already have something else lined up. We are happy to have you hang out here though

aggo · January 2017

@glitzandglitter we are planning on having four as well, and we want them all relatively close together. I'm sure we'll get comments about that just like we'll probably get comments on how we'll be (hopefully) pregnant with our first just 6 months after getting married. As if they know all the planning and saving that went into it.

mothernorth · January 2017

@irohspupil Bummer on the lay off, but it's good he already has something lined up, even if it's just part time for now.

Two under two isn't as hard as I thought it would be, but I tend to go about expecting the absolute worst at all times, so I'm almost always pleasantly surprised by the realistic outcome haha

Saratiff · February 2017

@irohspupil and @AllyTheKid hello my friends from A15

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