DH was supposed to take DD to daycare today for me since I have the day off and he always takes her anyways. He decided last minute not to for absolutely no reason and didn't even mention it to me until he walked out the door. I know it's a total first world problem, but I was really looking forward to having some extra sleep time and not having to wake up and rush a toddler to school. I figured I might as well keep her home because 1) might be the last mommy daughter day we have together and 2) her schedule will be off if I take her later than usual and she will be all out of sorts. Aaaaand she just woke up.
I have two pairs of maternity jeans, which I am now cycling through as my only leaving the house clothing options. They have gotten quite tight in the thighs and now give me camel toe. I can't bring myself to care... Sigh.
I had a long, busy weekend and over did it. I really didn't want to come to work today, but knew I had a meeting at 10am. I was going to leave work after the meeting and go home and rest. Today is the perfect day to take off since our Government counterparts have the day off. Well I get to my desk only to discover late Friday they changed the meeting to 2:30 this afternoon. I'm skipping the meeting and still leaving early. Ugh! Happy Monday!
I have two pairs of maternity jeans, which I am now cycling through as my only leaving the house clothing options. They have gotten quite tight in the thighs and now give me camel toe. I can't bring myself to care... Sigh.
In packing my hospital bag I realized all the comfy clothes I intended on taking with me are being worn with great regularity now (except for the nursing tank tops). I just can't bring myself to put the yoga pants in the suitcase, but I'm scared that labor will decide to start right before I do a massive laundry haul.
I'm with you guys on the lack of clothing. I finally had to crack and buy gigantic underwear just last week; my regular stuff fit until he started to drop. I only have three shirts that reliably will not ride up and show my belly; I use them for days when I have meetings but my regular office mates can just deal at this point. No way I'm buying more maternity clothes when I'm probably OAD.
My BF: the random strangers who like telling me that I'm due "any day now" when I'm out and about. There needs to be a new rule:
1) Never ask a lady if she's pregnant 2) If she is beyond-shadow-of-a-doubt pregnant, don't ask her for details. She's just trying to get through the day and she doesn't know you.
I'm with you guys on the lack of clothing. I finally had to crack and buy gigantic underwear just last week; my regular stuff fit until he started to drop. I only have three shirts that reliably will not ride up and show my belly; I use them for days when I have meetings but my regular office mates can just deal at this point. No way I'm buying more maternity clothes when I'm probably OAD.
My BF: the random strangers who like telling me that I'm due "any day now" when I'm out and about. There needs to be a new rule:
1) Never ask a lady if she's pregnant 2) If she is beyond-shadow-of-a-doubt pregnant, don't ask her for details. She's just trying to get through the day and she doesn't know you.
Yessss. Random strangers at the checkout line keep talking to me about "how much longer" I have. I never would have the guts to do that to a stranger.
I'm with you all on the maternity clothes.I hate all of my bras. The only one I have that gives me good support has underwire that digs into my bump and is really painful by the end of the day. The other two I had to get a L and an XL to fit my massive cup size but that means they are too long in the shoulders and around the band. Their support is minimal but I just can't do the underwire anymore. I hate how expensive nursing bras are, I'm trying to stay in the $20 and under range which is probably my problem but I just can't see spending double or triple that when I might need another new size when my milk comes in...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I told H last week that there was a ton of stuff I wanted to do this weekend and that's on top of having to go pick out new shower parts (cause the ONE shower/tub in our house is broke right now). We had to go help his grandma take down Christmas decorations on Saturday and then Sunday we went sledding, twice. We have no food in the house, I have two loads of laundry to do, and a bunch of other stuff to get done today. I was being a bit irrational about it yesterday (and admitted that to him) and he was still all pissy. He doesn't realize how much harder it is for me to get things done now and he would just leave it all. It's driving me crazy.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
MIL was staying with us this weekend, which in itself is not a problem - she's very low maintenance and cleans up after herself and likes to cook for us. But last night we also had H's uncle (and his 10 year-old grandson, who he didn't tell us ahead of time he was bringing) staying here as a stopover on a longer road trip, all while H had to work graveyard. Oh, and since their family was here, BIL decided to hang out at our house too. Had H been home, I wouldn't have cared as much, since I could have just retreated to our bedroom, but since he was at work I had to entertain people.
I had told H ahead of time that it was on him to tell his family that they should stay at BIL's apartment, but his family takes those kind of things as suggestions - and when I mentioned that they may be more comfortable at BIL's, they said "oh it's fine we can all squeeze in here!" H didn't push back, and at that point I knew trying to be subtle and polite wasn't going to work so I gave up. H did apologize and thank me for putting up with it, but it is just exhausting to have four extra people in our tiny house, especially on a weeknight. And this is just how his family is - everyone's houses are just open to visitors, no one thinks to tell the hosts that extra people are coming, people who live in town (like BIL) just hang out for hours on end... It's their family culture, and it's difficult to combat.
Oh, and on top of all this: H's uncle is LOUD, and since they all got up super early this morning, I was awoken by loud-ass conversation in the next room a full 45 minutes before my alarm clock went off. H said he and MIL kept telling his uncle to be quiet, but I swear, this man has no concept of "inside voices". Both H and MIL apologized when I got up for waking me up early, but even with H reminding his uncle that I was trying to sleep and reminding him what time I usually wake up, he didn't even acknowledge the fact that I was up way before I should have been.
And then on top of all of this, my blood sugar readings were high for the first time ever this morning... I want to blame stress and lack of sleep, but I'm worried that I'm going to start seeing higher numbers as I get closer to 40 weeks :-/
I have a great story-- I can't believe I forgot to share this.
Last week I was at the bank for work. They know me there and see me abt 1x/wk. The teller is a girl I'd seen a few times before but never really talked to her. She starts doing my deposits and she says "Do you have kids?" Like, that is her opener, not even a hello. I said "just this one but she's not here yet!" and pointed to my giant belly. She says "congratulations! were you trying?"
I tried to keep the shock off my face bc i have to come to this bank 1x/wk for work and I don't want to make a scene. and she's young so I'm trying to be friendly. So I say "yep." and hope she doesn't say anything.
THEN she says "How did you do it?" I was so shocked that my jaw literally dropped. I just looked her straight in the eye and said totally deadpan "I had sex with my husband."
She turned 30 shades of red. And I just thought: Good! be embarassed! Fill yourself with shame! How dare you ask a stranger that?? How ishow I got pregnant any of your damn business?
Then I thought "Maybe she is trying to get pregnant and struggling. I'll show some compassion" So I said "Are you thinking about having kids?" And she said "Oh hell no!" WTF?
I thought about complaining but, again, I have to go to this bank constantly for work. I was totally unprepared for that interaction. Need some better RBF and one liners.
Lol @Gretchypoo that sounds like something that would happen in a movie lol. In the beginning I had several people ask some variation of "were you trying" but I kept thinking it was due to the fact that our kids are so much older and everyone just thought we were done. You are too funny though because if someone asked me how we did it, I would have said "what do you mean?" What an odd question to ask someone lol
@marriedhamstermom You nailed my issues with bras right now. I have one that is comfortable and fits - no underwire, stretchy goodness. But it very slouchy and really not work appropriate. The other two I have that fit, the underwire cuts into my bump and are SO miserable by the end of a work day. Not really sure what to do at this point, other than deal with the horrid underwire.
@Gretchypoo OMG, you get serious points for being straight with her. My standard shocked response is, "Uhm, pardon?" Followed by me staring blankly and forcing them to explain. I cannot believe she asked HOW you got pregnant.
+1 to RBF! Family is about the only people who ask questions.
My MBF is that we got some ice, all the schools are closed, a bunch of businesses are closed, but I had to strap my ice skates (not really, but ya know) on and get to the mall this morning to work. I've had 1 customer since I opened and there are basically tumbleweeds in the mall right now. I almost did the splits walking out of my front door to leave my house and I had to scoot around on the ice to scrape my windows like a chubby little penguin. I'm ready for maternity leave!
My MBF is the hospital cafeteria. I ordered pepperoni pizza and a side of grilled veggies. What I got was grilled veggie pizza and a side of grilled veggies. This mama just wanted some pepperoni:/
@marriedhamstermom and @WinchesterGirl I'm finding the underwire-free nursing bras pretty nice right now. I got mine at Kohl's for $20 each. They're S/M/L sizes so I'm hoping they'll still work with me once I'm milkin' it FT. They have good support and shaping for a no-underwire.
@marriedhamstermom and @WinchesterGirl I'm finding the underwire-free nursing bras pretty nice right now. I got mine at Kohl's for $20 each. They're S/M/L sizes so I'm hoping they'll still work with me once I'm milkin' it FT. They have good support and shaping for a no-underwire.
Kindred Bravely nursing bras are a bit more expensive than $20 but are available on Amazon and are very, very comfortable (no underwire!)
I am in the exact opposite boat on bras. I wore a padded sportsbra this weekend and the inch thick band being folded between my boobs and my belly was incredibly uncomfortable. I ultimately had to change into an underwire so it'd just tuck nicely into the crease.
I am in the same boat with the lack of fitting clothes.
My BF is I totally overdid it last night after work. I came home and went cleaning fit crazy b/c after days of laying down being sick with a bad cold, I was feeling decent. Well I did WAY too much, gave myself horrid hip pain to the point I was literally in tears thinking something was wrong. And of course now today I am sitting at work with my cold acting up again and my body feeling like I have been hit by a train. Not a happy camper
I am in the same boat with the lack of fitting clothes.
My BF is I totally overdid it last night after work. I came home and went cleaning fit crazy b/c after days of laying down being sick with a bad cold, I was feeling decent. Well I did WAY too much, gave myself horrid hip pain to the point I was literally in tears thinking something was wrong. And of course now today I am sitting at work with my cold acting up again and my body feeling like I have been hit by a train. Not a happy camper
This is me right now too Not sick, but I way overdid it on cleaning today and now I feel like death.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
Half an hour back at work after the long weekend and I already want to go home. Got a call 5 mins in from a lady checking on 5 cases that aren't mine so I don't know about them, got snarky about the person she called last time not calling her back so she demanded my first and last name and my phone number to hunt me down if I don't call her. I have a jillion emails and case responses and other people's work to do. Oh and I just despise my job in general soooo yay. end whiney rant
@jlellis603 I always hate when people take my name and number with the intent of calling me back and hounding me. Especially when it's something that doesn't even concern me. Maybe she'll just lose your number?
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
@Aussie45 I freaking hope so! Because 1. none of the cases she called on were mine and 2. what she asked me to check up on, isn't part of my job. So she can GTFO!
@Gretchypoo way to go for being straight up honest! I had a male coworker recently that I passed in the hall and had this convo:
Him: Hi Me: Hey, how are you? Him: Good, you? Me: I'm good. Him: How's everything going down there? Me: Blank stare Him: Rubs his belly Me: Oh, um good. Six more weeks to go.
It was such a weird convo because while I'm obviously pregnant, I've never told him or talked to him about it. He's not someone I interact with on a daily basis so we usually say hi in the hallway. I wish I could have been more bold and said something like "well I've been having a lot of pressure on my cervix lately".
@CurlyCupcake21 who phrases it like that?! I would've done the same as you, just kind of stared at them. I always think of great comebacks later but never actually at the time.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
He must have seen that I was weirded out by the question because I didn't say anything for a second and that's when he rubbed his belly. It was so awkward!
Re: Monday B*fest, MLK Day Edition
My BF: the random strangers who like telling me that I'm due "any day now" when I'm out and about. There needs to be a new rule:
1) Never ask a lady if she's pregnant
2) If she is beyond-shadow-of-a-doubt pregnant, don't ask her for details. She's just trying to get through the day and she doesn't know you.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I had told H ahead of time that it was on him to tell his family that they should stay at BIL's apartment, but his family takes those kind of things as suggestions - and when I mentioned that they may be more comfortable at BIL's, they said "oh it's fine we can all squeeze in here!" H didn't push back, and at that point I knew trying to be subtle and polite wasn't going to work so I gave up. H did apologize and thank me for putting up with it, but it is just exhausting to have four extra people in our tiny house, especially on a weeknight. And this is just how his family is - everyone's houses are just open to visitors, no one thinks to tell the hosts that extra people are coming, people who live in town (like BIL) just hang out for hours on end... It's their family culture, and it's difficult to combat.
Oh, and on top of all this: H's uncle is LOUD, and since they all got up super early this morning, I was awoken by loud-ass conversation in the next room a full 45 minutes before my alarm clock went off. H said he and MIL kept telling his uncle to be quiet, but I swear, this man has no concept of "inside voices". Both H and MIL apologized when I got up for waking me up early, but even with H reminding his uncle that I was trying to sleep and reminding him what time I usually wake up, he didn't even acknowledge the fact that I was up way before I should have been.
And then on top of all of this, my blood sugar readings were high for the first time ever this morning... I want to blame stress and lack of sleep, but I'm worried that I'm going to start seeing higher numbers as I get closer to 40 weeks :-/
/rant
I have a great story-- I can't believe I forgot to share this.
Last week I was at the bank for work. They know me there and see me abt 1x/wk. The teller is a girl I'd seen a few times before but never really talked to her. She starts doing my deposits and she says "Do you have kids?" Like, that is her opener, not even a hello. I said "just this one but she's not here yet!" and pointed to my giant belly. She says "congratulations! were you trying?"
I tried to keep the shock off my face bc i have to come to this bank 1x/wk for work and I don't want to make a scene. and she's young so I'm trying to be friendly. So I say "yep." and hope she doesn't say anything.
THEN she says "How did you do it?" I was so shocked that my jaw literally dropped. I just looked her straight in the eye and said totally deadpan "I had sex with my husband."
She turned 30 shades of red. And I just thought: Good! be embarassed! Fill yourself with shame! How dare you ask a stranger that?? How ishow I got pregnant any of your damn business?
Then I thought "Maybe she is trying to get pregnant and struggling. I'll show some compassion" So I said "Are you thinking about having kids?" And she said "Oh hell no!" WTF?
I thought about complaining but, again, I have to go to this bank constantly for work. I was totally unprepared for that interaction. Need some better RBF and one liners.
@Gretchypoo OMG, you get serious points for being straight with her. My standard shocked response is, "Uhm, pardon?" Followed by me staring blankly and forcing them to explain. I cannot believe she asked HOW you got pregnant.
My MBF is that we got some ice, all the schools are closed, a bunch of businesses are closed, but I had to strap my ice skates (not really, but ya know) on and get to the mall this morning to work. I've had 1 customer since I opened and there are basically tumbleweeds in the mall right now. I almost did the splits walking out of my front door to leave my house and I had to scoot around on the ice to scrape my windows like a chubby little penguin. I'm ready for maternity leave!
My BF is I totally overdid it last night after work. I came home and went cleaning fit crazy b/c after days of laying down being sick with a bad cold, I was feeling decent. Well I did WAY too much, gave myself horrid hip pain to the point I was literally in tears thinking something was wrong. And of course now today I am sitting at work with my cold acting up again and my body feeling like I have been hit by a train. Not a happy camper
Him: Hi
Me: Hey, how are you?
Him: Good, you?
Me: I'm good.
Him: How's everything going down there?
Me: Blank stare
Him: Rubs his belly
Me: Oh, um good. Six more weeks to go.
It was such a weird convo because while I'm obviously pregnant, I've never told him or talked to him about it. He's not someone I interact with on a daily basis so we usually say hi in the hallway. I wish I could have been more bold and said something like "well I've been having a lot of pressure on my cervix lately".
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17