Yeah told them all. I told them we wanted to announce it once we got together and the cousin who told was the one who is also expecting. But didnt tell anyone they are expecting.
Was it really an announcement if you didn't announce it? It seems like someone else did for you but maybe because of this it didn't feel special? No offense, I'm kind of confused
No i put announcement because thats what it was supposed to be but turned out i didnt announce anything thats why to me it was announcement gone wrong what i planned for didnt happen. Im sorry i think i make sense and then it turns out i only make sense to myself.
No i put announcement because thats what it was supposed to be but turned out i didnt announce anything thats why to me it was announcement gone wrong what i planned for didnt happen. Im sorry i think i make sense and then it turns out i only make sense to myself.
My hubby stepped in dog poop seconds before we told his Mom. I stopped him halfway through his saying "we have some exciting news" to make him go and wash his shoe. Smh.
Hope it's okay to chime in - I haven't posted in a bit.
@babybumb1229. I'm so sorry your cousin spoiled your opportunity. I would be bummed too! The kicker is how dare she tell your news and not spill her own! Like WTH!
Ugh that stinks, and it's strange that she would tell your news and not her own. I'd go ahead and do an official announcement anyway, because you still deserve to do it your own way. And maybe you'll get a better reaction b/c maybe people didn't know how to react to her spilling your beans.
Maybe family was just caught off guard by someone else telling the news and they were unsure how to react? I'd still make your official announcement, if you want to, it might be received better coming from the actual person.
Not an announcement but told our boys on Christmas morning with an extra stocking with baby items and an u/s picture.
They didn't really get it or focus... they are still getting used to the idea and I just had hoped for so much more from them! At least they weren't upset but it feels like they are indifferent... which in some ways feels worse.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Sorry for my bad grammar and punctuation maybe it would be better if you ignored my post instead of replying to it. I understand at times I'm not the smartest. I'll work on that. Thank you have a good day hope your head feels better.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Sorry for my bad grammar and punctuation maybe it would be better if you ignored my post instead of replying to it. I understand at times I'm not the smartest. I'll work on that. Thank you have a good day hope your head feels better.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Sorry for my bad grammar and punctuation maybe it would be better if you ignored my post instead of replying to it. I understand at times I'm not the smartest. I'll work on that. Thank you have a good day hope your head feels better.
Thanks for the sympathies. I'm sure my head will feel better soon.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Really? I didn't realize it was acceptable to make fun of people because of their grammar. Thank god you're perfect and no one will ever have to publicly shame you for your shortcomings. I hope we can just try and support one another as women going forward.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Really? I didn't realize it was acceptable to make fun of people because of their grammar. Thank god you're perfect and no one will ever have to publicly shame you for your shortcomings. I hope we can just try and support one another as women going forward.
It's pretty clear that I wasn't making fun of her. If you've been around these parts before you'll know that people appreciate proper grammar and punctuation. It goes along way.
Fwiw, I am totally fine with common errors but lack of attempt to even use a simple period. Yeah, no thanks.
It might just be because it's your second. This is totally ridic, but DH and I were rewatching Scrubs on Netflix when I got my BFP. There's this episode (spoilers, I guess, but it's an old show) where Turk & Carla get pregnant for the second time, and no one even cares. So Turk finds someone who doesn't know it's their second, and when she asks if it's their first, he lies and says yes. So she is appropriately excited, and in typical sitcom style, chaos ensues.
Anyway, it's relevant because a week later, we announced (to be fair, over phone calls since we live far from family), and everyone was like, "Oh. Yay for you guys." I was especially mad at my BIL because I'm sure he wasn't even listening. He was, like, multi-tasking on FB or something and didn't hear the first time my DH said it.
So it's a thing. A real one. A stupid one, but a real one. I know I wasn't as excited when my only sibling told me he and his wife were pregnant the second... and third... and fourth time. But at least I didn't tell them it was a bad idea because how will they pay for more children? like my mother did.
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Really? I didn't realize it was acceptable to make fun of people because of their grammar. Thank god you're perfect and no one will ever have to publicly shame you for your shortcomings. I hope we can just try and support one another as women going forward.
FWIW, I didn't read the reply from @itsfine as making fun of OP. I also had a really difficult time following the post and pondered if it was just me and my brain neglected to join me today. I make plenty of punctuation/spelling/grammar mistakes, but I try to edit my post if I catch it after the fact or I try to read my reply quickly before posting to ensure it makes sense. Maybe OP was in a rush or was trying to just get the stream of thoughts out while she had them and forgot to review, but a quick edit after the fact wouldn't hurt.
OP - Honestly the situation sucks. People respond how they will and often don't think about the feelings of others. I'm on baby #3 and thus far have received "What!? You just had a baby!", "Wow, again?" and "Maybe you shouldn't have gotten pregnant with #3". People can kind of suck. Try not to let it diminish your enjoyment of the pregnancy.
I had a hard time even reading the post because grammar and punctuation. My head feels a bit fuzzy.
Really? I didn't realize it was acceptable to make fun of people because of their grammar. Thank god you're perfect and no one will ever have to publicly shame you for your shortcomings. I hope we can just try and support one another as women going forward.
FWIW, I didn't read the reply from @itsfine as making fun of OP. I also had a really difficult time following the post and pondered if it was just me and my brain neglected to join me today. I make plenty of punctuation/spelling/grammar mistakes, but I try to edit my post if I catch it after the fact or I try to read my reply quickly before posting to ensure it makes sense. Maybe OP was in a rush or was trying to just get the stream of thoughts out while she had them and forgot to review, but a quick edit after the fact wouldn't hurt.
Ditto. Often times I understand people are often ESL and/or still learning so I don't comment. But when it's brutally hard to read due to lack of proofreading/laziness it's frustrating. Not sure of OPs background, but it wasn't just a lack of periods. There were even periods in the middle of sentences. Tough read.
It was like a puzzle which I think is why so many of you are thinking her cousin spilled the beans against OPs wishes when that's not what happened at all. I believe she gave her cousin the go ahead to tell. "Had a cousin who knew go ahead and spill the beans for us".
If it wasn't so difficult to read, that part would have been a lot easier to convey.
@hopefulnoob I don't think so, I think she's saying that she told this cousin and this cousin took the liberty to spill the beans without the go ahead to do so.
@lmudra Come on. There's no denying that this was difficult to read and understand. This is an online forum where we write everything so it's kind of important to care a little bit that what you write can be understood. I'm totally with @itsfine and @Elyse1384 - I can give grace to mistakes but it has to be readable!
Me: 36; DH: 38 DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17! **TW** MMC & D&C Aug 2016
The OP was very difficult to understand, yet I and several ladies took the time to decipher and offer perspectives. And then you leave in a snit of post deletion?
BYE.
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
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@babybumb1229. I'm so sorry your cousin spoiled your opportunity. I would be bummed too! The kicker is how dare she tell your news and not spill her own! Like WTH!
Sorry your cousin is a jerk.
They didn't really get it or focus... they are still getting used to the idea and I just had hoped for so much more from them! At least they weren't upset but it feels like they are indifferent... which in some ways feels worse.
I hope we can just try and support one another as women going forward.
Fwiw, I am totally fine with common errors but lack of attempt to even use a simple period. Yeah, no thanks.
I must be a bitch because this is EXACTLY what I would have done. LOL
...goes a long way.
It's always the ones who point out others' grammar mistakes that don't mind their own!
Anyway, it's relevant because a week later, we announced (to be fair, over phone calls since we live far from family), and everyone was like, "Oh. Yay for you guys." I was especially mad at my BIL because I'm sure he wasn't even listening. He was, like, multi-tasking on FB or something and didn't hear the first time my DH said it.
So it's a thing. A real one. A stupid one, but a real one. I know I wasn't as excited when my only sibling told me he and his wife were pregnant the second... and third... and fourth time. But at least I didn't tell them it was a bad idea because how will they pay for more children? like my mother did.
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
OP - Honestly the situation sucks. People respond how they will and often don't think about the feelings of others. I'm on baby #3 and thus far have received "What!? You just had a baby!", "Wow, again?" and "Maybe you shouldn't have gotten pregnant with #3". People can kind of suck. Try not to let it diminish your enjoyment of the pregnancy.
It was like a puzzle which I think is why so many of you are thinking her cousin spilled the beans against OPs wishes when that's not what happened at all. I believe she gave her cousin the go ahead to tell. "Had a cousin who knew go ahead and spill the beans for us".
If it wasn't so difficult to read, that part would have been a lot easier to convey.
@lmudra Come on. There's no denying that this was difficult to read and understand. This is an online forum where we write everything so it's kind of important to care a little bit that what you write can be understood. I'm totally with @itsfine and @Elyse1384 - I can give grace to mistakes but it has to be readable!
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
**TW**
MMC & D&C Aug 2016
The OP was very difficult to understand, yet I and several ladies took the time to decipher and offer perspectives. And then you leave in a snit of post deletion?
BYE.
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
@Elyse1384, it will forever be too soon.