If you tailgate and zigzag in and out of traffic you're a horrible person. Why is your desire to get to your destination slightly faster more important than my desire to get there in one piece? You're super horrible if you tailgate me while I'm in the middle or right lane and there's plenty of room to pass. Seriously, your brain is broken. It doesn't even make sense.
FTR, I tend to go 5 mph over the speed limit on highways and stay to right or middle lanes as appropriate, so I don't think I'm the crazy one here.
If you tailgate and zigzag in and out of traffic you're a horrible person. Why is your desire to get to your destination slightly faster more important than my desire to get there in one piece? You're super horrible if you tailgate me while I'm in the middle or right lane and there's plenty of room to pass. Seriously, your brain is broken. It doesn't even make sense.
FTR, I tend to go 5 mph over the speed limit on highways and stay to right or middle lanes as appropriate, so I don't think I'm the crazy one here.
I usually go 5-10mph over the speed limit depending on the speed and if someone tailgates me I will slow down to exactly the speed limit and set my cruise until they finally pass me. I used to tap my breaks to scare them but have decided that my new method is safer and more satisfying. People need to stop acting like it's their right to go faster than what I'm going. I also get way more enjoyment than I should when people who do dangerous things like zigzag or pass over double solids end up stopped right in front of me at the next red light. Hope the risk was worth it so they could sit at the same light for an extra 30 seconds...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Since we are all getting close, this could very well be a flame worthy UO... but I don't think all babies are actually cute. I used to think they were all cute, but then my sister had my niece, and I accidently slipped to one of my brothers that "At least Arianna is getting cuter." oops!! He and his wife are planning on starting to try for a baby in January, and he said "We talk about that all the time, if you think I have an ugly baby, tell me and I'll stop." Hahaha
@kswiger06 YES! My baby will be adorable (because reasons) but so many babies just look like this to me: My cousin has really ugly kids, poor things. And another set of cousins were ugly kids and they never grew out of it. Sad.
Since we are all getting close, this could very well be a flame worthy UO... but I don't think all babies are actually cute. I used to think they were all cute, but then my sister had my niece, and I accidently slipped to one of my brothers that "At least Arianna is getting cuter." oops!! He and his wife are planning on starting to try for a baby in January, and he said "We talk about that all the time, if you think I have an ugly baby, tell me and I'll stop." Hahaha
I totally admit to the fact that DD was so not cute when she came out. She has definitely gotten cuter over the years Hahahaha.
Oh I'm totally on @kswiger06 's side on the not all babies are cute issue. Or any kids for that matter. I don't particularly think that all children need to be cute, and I get that parents see their own children in a different light (I know I will too) but when people AWish their kid daily on FB with captions like "your daily dose of cuteness, you're welcome!" I roll my eyes.
I really hope I have the awareness to know if I produce an un-cute baby. Because there are definitely ugly babies, but I wonder if you realize it in the moment? @fourPsinapod, sounds like you recognized your kiddo has grown much cuter, but did you, like, look at the baby in the newborn baby bliss and still recognize "yeah, not the cutest"? Or did you realize it later?
I thought my baby was adorable when she came out. I recognized she went through a rough patch though starting with the baby acne... around 5-6 months it all went uphill again.
I really hope I have the awareness to know if I produce an un-cute baby. Because there are definitely ugly babies, but I wonder if you realize it in the moment? @fourPsinapod, sounds like you recognized your kiddo has grown much cuter, but did you, like, look at the baby in the newborn baby bliss and still recognize "yeah, not the cutest"? Or did you realize it later?
I realized it later. DD wasn't the cutest newborn. She got a lot better once she got a little older and filled out some more, but she was too teensy & long right away.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
Maybe this is unpopular, maybe not, but I don't like getting or giving gifts anymore for Christmas. I'm freaking out about not having any gifts but thankful that we decided to do our gift exchange next weekend (meeting with two sets of family on DH's side, the side we're going to this weekend only does white elephant). We're on a tighter budget this year & I honestly don't know what to get people. What I do get, I feel like won't be enough because they might spend more on us. I know it's the thought that counts, but I hate the guilt that comes with Christmas now. I really just want to spend time with family.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
@Aussie45 I get it... I like buying people stuff but we put most our budget to our kids, and I feel cheap when so many people buy us stuff and we can't keep up.
It makes me feel like such a scrooge to say that, but it's honestly how I feel. I love spending time with everyone, but I feel like such an ass to not get gifts the way they get gifts for us. I want to, but spending that kind of money just isn't something we can do right now.
BFP #1: DD born on 08.25.12
BFP #2: 09/08/15 miscarried at 6w
BFP #3: DD2 born on 02.07.17
I really hope I have the awareness to know if I produce an un-cute baby. Because there are definitely ugly babies, but I wonder if you realize it in the moment? @fourPsinapod, sounds like you recognized your kiddo has grown much cuter, but did you, like, look at the baby in the newborn baby bliss and still recognize "yeah, not the cutest"? Or did you realize it later?
In the moment, I was so happy to have her and so thankful for her but I also thought she wasn't so cute right away. She was really puffy and swollen and red from screaming when she came out. Now I think she's the most beautiful girl in the world but the newborn phase was not a good look for her haha.
It makes me feel like such a scrooge to say that, but it's honestly how I feel. I love spending time with everyone, but I feel like such an ass to not get gifts the way they get gifts for us. I want to, but spending that kind of money just isn't something we can do right now.
DH has a lot of family members and about 3 years ago, we proposed the idea of not buying for us personally, but just buying for the kids. Two of his siblings don't have kids so we still buy for them but the others, we just get gifts for their kids too. And we don't go overboard on spoiling them either. It still costs a pretty penny but it cut a few people out of the buying process.
@Aussie45 I'm with you. I'm glad DH and I are on the same page and are transitioning to making Christmas about the kids. It's nice with his sister having a kid we agreed to just get the kids stuff. I honestly enjoy the family time and good food more than opening presents. Plus it's way more fun to see a child excited about presents in my opinion.
Im hoping too many people didn't get us gifts this year for my family. We just moved and are getting ready for the baby so money is tight this year. We got my parents a gift but I didn't have the time or energy to make the gifts I usually get other family members.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@Aussie45 It's late for this year, but maybe next year you can level set ahead of time with the family that you guys are on a budget, and won't have a lot to spend on gifts. Most reasonable adults will understand that! We all have budgets, and that's part of life.
We also do not buy for siblings anymore - we buy for kids in the family, and parents. But, we let everyone know in advance and all of our siblings but 1 were equally happy to just do kids and parents. Frankly, we are all grown and understand that there is more to it than something sparkly under the tree. Well, except DH's one sister... but I'll save her for my MBF.
@Aussie45 I love giving gifts. I hate the expectation of spending a ton on people. I think a thoughtful small gift is lovely but not everyone feels that way. And I refuse to go bankrupt for Christmas.
For several years we made handmade gifts. Last year we made cheeseboards for everyone and gave them out with a sampling of 3 cheeses, some nuts and dried fruit. People loved them and we only spent about $10/ person.
Re: UO Thursday, 12/22
FTR, I tend to go 5 mph over the speed limit on highways and stay to right or middle lanes as appropriate, so I don't think I'm the crazy one here.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
My cousin has really ugly kids, poor things. And another set of cousins were ugly kids and they never grew out of it. Sad.
My UO is that sometimes I like seeing drivebys and MUD because I'm addicted to snark. I probably need an intervention.
BFP May 16th 2016
DD born January 30 2017
Surprise BFP/MC April 2017
DH has a lot of family members and about 3 years ago, we proposed the idea of not buying for us personally, but just buying for the kids. Two of his siblings don't have kids so we still buy for them but the others, we just get gifts for their kids too. And we don't go overboard on spoiling them either. It still costs a pretty penny but it cut a few people out of the buying process.
Im hoping too many people didn't get us gifts this year for my family. We just moved and are getting ready for the baby so money is tight this year. We got my parents a gift but I didn't have the time or energy to make the gifts I usually get other family members.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
We also do not buy for siblings anymore - we buy for kids in the family, and parents. But, we let everyone know in advance and all of our siblings but 1 were equally happy to just do kids and parents. Frankly, we are all grown and understand that there is more to it than something sparkly under the tree. Well, except DH's one sister... but I'll save her for my MBF.
For several years we made handmade gifts. Last year we made cheeseboards for everyone and gave them out with a sampling of 3 cheeses, some nuts and dried fruit. People loved them and we only spent about $10/ person.