Making Mom friends

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  hejo2016 member

  December 2016

  Ha! Yes! It's taken me until now (my oldest is 8), to have two really good mom friends. We go on trips together etc. I met both of them through my husband, go figure. It really takes a lot of effort to carve out time to hang out, but always worth it.

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  Sandrag313 member

  December 2016

  Yeah i guess it's the whole making friends again as an adult that I'm finding hard but I know that I'm in a new phase of my life and this is necessary. Most of my closest friends I made in college but it seems like we're all moving in different directions and don't see each other as much now even though I still consider them my really good friends. I think in addition to adjusting to being a mom, I'm realizing my friends are changing too. Glad you made some close mom friends!
  

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  hejo2016 member

  December 2016

  It's hard! Once the baby is a little older, library story times are great for meeting some people.  Sometimes ya just got to get up the nerve to say "hey! We should hang out! Can I get your #!". I'm bad at that...

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  Sandrag313 member

  December 2016

  Lol me too! Thanks!
  

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  lilaros member

  December 2016

  This is going to make me sound like a judgey jerk, but I have met a few locals moms and none of them are the type of people I want to hang out with at all.
  
  We live in an area where pretentiousness runs high. In my childbirth class I was the only person who did not have a 40 page birth plan. I mean seriously one girl cried because she didn't want a single intervention right down to not wanting to get an IV because then they might try to give her antibiotics for her Group B Strep.
  
  After B arrived, I went to a moms group lunch hosted by a local yoga studio and was immediately questioned by the other moms on why I got an elective epidural (um, because I don't like pain?!), why we're not cloth diapering and why I am going back to work so early. I'm going back when my son is 4 months. That's not early for most people! After that one lunch I never went back.
  
  My husband and I are not tech millionaires or vegans who only let our baby wear organic clothing and won't allow electronics near their child (Actual statement by another mom). I want to meet moms like me who watch too much Netflix and plan on letting their child have a hot dog one day. Haha!
  

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  Sbrown721 member

  December 2016

  @Laraeq WHAT?! Must be nice not to have to go back to work! I think people are just so clueless to "normal" people's lifestyles and finances that they think some moms are choosing to go back early. My boss said I could only get 6 weeks off and I desperately pushed and was granted 8 weeks. It has been ROUGH and absolutely not what I would have wished for. If I could stay home with my baby all day and breastfeed him I would! That is not the reality for many, many people. He isn't even 3 months old and has been sick since he started daycare. It sucks. I have been awake since 2 am this morning caring for him. Ugh. That's annoying!

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  hejo2016 member

  December 2016

  Omg @Laraeq that sounds terrible! Yeah, like I said, took me almost 8 years to find TWO mom friends, ha! People are crazy!

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