I've been super self conscious lately with clothes and what I wear to school. I feel like my face and arms are getting bigger. I changed outfits 3x this morning and still didn't feel comfortable but I was already late. And it's my first day wearing maternity pants, double self conscious.
So I have hallway duty with the band teacher every morning. He is old, creepy, and odd to talk to. Never told him I was pregnant. Today he goes "welllllll, I think there's something going on with you". And proceeds to tell me that he has figured out I'm pregnant and he can "definitely" tell now because of my face getting bigger and my cheeks fatter!
That is not what an old guy says to a woman when he finds out she is pregnant. How rude. And now I'm angry, emotional, and trying not to cry while simultaneously stuffing my face and I feel even more self conscious and just want to put sweatpants and a baggy sweatshirt on. I just don't understand why some people they can say anything about a woman's appearance while she is pregnant. If you aren't telling me how fabulous and amazing I look, shut your face.
@wagnerw ugh! I'm so mad for you. That ticks me off. Men should never say a word about a woman's appearance unless he knows her very well, and then only positive! (Even then he should tread carefully.) I hope you feel better soon. I'm sure you look great and you have the best excuse in the world for your body to change.
My TW is a volunteer who came into work and was loudly asking in the midst of the crowded cubicles if I planned to stay home or come back to work after baby is born. It's a legitimate question. I work for a nonprofit and frankly she probably knows I don't make enough to make it worth it to pay for childcare. But I was not ready to share my intentions with my coworkers yet, having not finalized anything with my boss, and did not appreciate having to stutter something about "not sure yet what my plans are" while my coworkers listened. I love this person for all the good she does volunteering, but keep your mouth shut!
My TW is work. I finally told my boss today and he actually seemed surprised, which surprised me because we work together at least 1 day a week, but I guess he just thought I've been putting on weight? Anyhow, now I'm trying to figure out maternity leave. My vacation and sick pay will only get me through 4 weeks 1 day and I'd like to take a minimum of 8 weeks off (was really aiming for 12 weeks though).... sucks but I knew it was coming. The worst part is trying to figure out coverage while I'm gone! I primarily work alone and each office only has 2 employees with 1 floater for the whole 100 or so employees... No one will commit to covering for me since it's so far in advance! Looks like I'll just be taking 8 weeks off and then try to work part time for another month before going back to my regular schedule, or finding a new job. I'm so stressed/annoyed/sad about the whole stupid thing.
TW goes to a professor my husband works with periodically (and I have talked to maybe twice, ever) - we walked by his office today while his door was open, we stop to say hello, and he started talking to me about how the pregnancy was going, etc. Then he asks "So where are you delivering?" and I say the name of the hospital where my OB is located. He made a strange face and said "They don't do any natural stuff there, huh?" and starts quizzing me on if I'm planning on delivering naturally (apparently his wife did with both of their children and they're huge proponents). Um, what? I barely know you and I suuuuper don't need your judgement no matter what choice I make!
@HGRich that is so frustrating and an uncomfortable situation to be placed in! I'm sorry you had to deal with that
@LittleChick2 I kind of understand where you are coming from. There's a chance I would have to go back to finish out the last 2-3 weeks of the school year. I only have kids for 9 weeks at a time so it would not only be super awkward to come in for the end of the year and not know any of my kids but also seems a disservice to them to finish out with a different teacher when they had someone else all term and I would just sneak in for the final wrap up.
@schef070911 another frustrating question. None of his business! It doesn't impact him at all. Any choice you make the you are comfortable with is a good choice. No explanation needed!
My DOG. She gobbles fresh piles of poop in the yard before I can stop her, barks and yelps her head off when DS makes noise, freaks out barking at any noise outside, pees on the floor if I look at her wrong, and growls about toys and food. She's just so BAD and I know it's mostly our fault, but I've never more strongly considered rehoming a pet. I feel like a horrid person even typing it.
Re: TW Tuesday
My TW is a volunteer who came into work and was loudly asking in the midst of the crowded cubicles if I planned to stay home or come back to work after baby is born. It's a legitimate question. I work for a nonprofit and frankly she probably knows I don't make enough to make it worth it to pay for childcare. But I was not ready to share my intentions with my coworkers yet, having not finalized anything with my boss, and did not appreciate having to stutter something about "not sure yet what my plans are" while my coworkers listened. I love this person for all the good she does volunteering, but keep your mouth shut!
@LittleChick2 I kind of understand where you are coming from. There's a chance I would have to go back to finish out the last 2-3 weeks of the school year. I only have kids for 9 weeks at a time so it would not only be super awkward to come in for the end of the year and not know any of my kids but also seems a disservice to them to finish out with a different teacher when they had someone else all term and I would just sneak in for the final wrap up.
@schef070911 another frustrating question. None of his business! It doesn't impact him at all. Any choice you make the you are comfortable with is a good choice. No explanation needed!
ETA they were angels today.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17