I am a nanny. Kids come to my house during the day. Yesterday, I had a two year olde that had a problem with hitting the other kids with toys. I tried raising my voice and time outs. It didn't work. When my son came up crying from being hit in the head, I told him to hit him back. Yes, yes I did. My son who is 3 went over and hit him back and that was the end. The two year old cried and tried to get me to coddle him. I just said, sorry I told you to stop! He just went back and played.
Back Story: My husband tells me about his work Christmas party last minute every damn year and it drives me crazy! He knows about it for weeks, and tells me days before.
I have a womens circle tonight that I have been excited about since October. I haven't seen some of these friends in months, and I need the time to recharge and reconnect. We make a beautiful altar, circle and just be together. It's amazing. Fastforward to Monday... and husband tells me that his party is this Friday and wants to know what time I can be off work to meet him.
I said no, I have plans and he can give me adequate notice next year! Win. No fucks given at all!
@Wino0920 Yes!! No flames from me. I have a home daycare, and had the exact same situation a couple years ago. Except it was my son who was the offender, it sure worked though!
I feel like being pregnant is really starting to effect my teaching and relationship with my students.
1. I am SO grouchy. I typically can take the mild talking, up out of their seat, etc... but right now, I have no patience for it. I have given out more consequences in the past couple months than I have in the entire past few years of teaching.
2. I can NOT STAND to be touched right now. A lot of my students come and hug me after class (I teach elementary resource/small group special education for reading and math) and I literally grin and bear it... but I am worried my students are feeling unloved from me. I see 1 student in particular for several classes a day, and on the 4th time he came to hug me... I said "That is enough. I am hugged out for today." The look on his face made me feel AWFUL!
@Wino0920 I think that's perfectly acceptable. Kid can dish it out but not take it back? That ain't how the world works. You're doing him a favor.
@EmeraldNC I actually think that's a GOOD thing, to say no and mean it, about physical contact. It's actually really important, in this day and age, that we teach our boys about physical boundaries. I know it seems super innocuous--it's just a hug from a kid to a teacher, right?--but it's still physical contact and a boundary he's crossing. We as women should NEVER feel guilty about saying no. You, too, are teaching him a valuable lesson. And he'd better use this opportunity learn to take it gracefully. /soapbox
Me: 35 | DH: 46 MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks) DD: Born 8/22/14 Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17 And my other love: writing
I sneakily hid some of the toys my DD doesn't really play with much (and a couple I'm just sick of) and plan on taking them to Goodwill next week if she doesn't notice and pitch a fit. Got to make room!
MC Sept 2010 BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012 TTC again since July 2014 First IUI 9/26/16: BFP! EDD 6/19/2017 It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
@Emerald27 - I hear you! I was so grouchy when I was teaching and pregnant. Andplusalso, I became such a germaphobe I would literally excuse kids away from my table to cough. The coughing drove me insane. I just kept feeling like I was breathing in all sickness.
Leaf collection is tomorrow and my husband took today so I could help him with the leaves. (Trees dump loads on our lawn, its a full day thing.) Welp, I was outside for a total of 15 minutes and said I was going in to get water and haven't returned. I'm watching him and our sons rake the leaves while typing this. tehe.
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DS #1 born 05/25/2012 BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss DS #2 born 4/08/2014 BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM BFP#5 - 9/22/2016 * formally bornmommy
DH and I are afraid to tell our parents about baby #4. We have the resources and the space for 4 kids but both sets of parents think that 2 kids per family should be the max. We don't ask for our family's time or money so they shouldn't cAre. I don't know why we care so much what they think.
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) #1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo #2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015 #4!!!!!!! due June 2017
DH and I are afraid to tell our parents about baby #4. We have the resources and the space for 4 kids but both sets of parents think that 2 kids per family should be the max. We don't ask for our family's time or money so they shouldn't cAre. I don't know why we care so much what they think.
We were the same way when telling my parents, we're self reliant and have the money and stability, but my parents have opinions about everything.
They were actually very happy, but neither are really huge parts of our lives, they were absentee parents, so I don't really care what they think anyway.
I didn't shower for 3 days in a row this week. I was way too exhausted to wake up on time in the morning and the thought of doing my hair was just too much. Thank goodness for braids. I am showered and clean today though!
Married 12/17/2011 K born 8/31/12 C born 1/11/14 BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015 BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
I am using my pregnancy as a way to get out of dog poop patrol in my backyard. I am sensitive to smells right now but really I just don't want to. Sorry hubs.
I am using pregnancy nausea as an excuse to skip a party with my husband's extended family, because his cousin, her husband and their kids are assholes and I'm just too tired and bitchy to hold my tongue .
I've actually worked for a grand total of maybe 2 hours today. I am so tired and just cant handle the smell of pulling dead animal samples out of the freezers right now (part of the job, not a psycho. Promise). I'm basically counting down the hours until the weekend. It's not too bad as long as I have everything expected of me done....right?
I ate sushi the other night at a work event. It was the cooked kind and one roll of the uncooked. I didn't even think about it until after I had left the restaurant.
The people who live above us are super loud late at night and insist on doing laundry at 10pm. My DH and I regularly encourage our 3 yo to practice his throwing skills.....at the ceiling.
Also, this is our second but I really want a celebration. NOT a full blown baby shower or a "sprinkle" necessarily. I just would love to get together with family and friends and celebrate another life joining us....no presents wanted or needed. I just think every pregnancy is special, and I love parties. I will, of course, NOT be throwing one or asking someone to but I am secretly hoping someone does a little luncheon or something.
Me: 34 DH: 35 Married: July 2009 BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013 Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016 3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3 First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
I've been drinking raw milk. I get it from my grandpa, and I don't even care. Frankly, I believe that stuff is better for you than the pasteurized stuff they sell at the store. I also have eaten deli meat without heating it through.
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I have a womens circle tonight that I have been excited about since October. I haven't seen some of these friends in months, and I need the time to recharge and reconnect. We make a beautiful altar, circle and just be together. It's amazing.
Fastforward to Monday... and husband tells me that his party is this Friday and wants to know what time I can be off work to meet him.
I said no, I have plans and he can give me adequate notice next year! Win. No fucks given at all!
and I definitely would have done the same in your situation. My girls nights are sacred! Work parties are not!
1. I am SO grouchy. I typically can take the mild talking, up out of their seat, etc... but right now, I have no patience for it. I have given out more consequences in the past couple months than I have in the entire past few years of teaching.
2. I can NOT STAND to be touched right now. A lot of my students come and hug me after class (I teach elementary resource/small group special education for reading and math) and I literally grin and bear it... but I am worried my students are feeling unloved from me. I see 1 student in particular for several classes a day, and on the 4th time he came to hug me... I said "That is enough. I am hugged out for today." The look on his face made me feel AWFUL!
@EmeraldNC I actually think that's a GOOD thing, to say no and mean it, about physical contact. It's actually really important, in this day and age, that we teach our boys about physical boundaries. I know it seems super innocuous--it's just a hug from a kid to a teacher, right?--but it's still physical contact and a boundary he's crossing. We as women should NEVER feel guilty about saying no. You, too, are teaching him a valuable lesson. And he'd better use this opportunity learn to take it gracefully. /soapbox
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
BFP Oct 2011 - DD born July 2012
TTC again since July 2014
First IUI 9/26/16: BFP!
EDD 6/19/2017
It's a girl!
Born 6/26/17, 9lb 5oz
Leaf collection is tomorrow and my husband took today so I could help him with the leaves. (Trees dump loads on our lawn, its a full day thing.) Welp, I was outside for a total of 15 minutes and said I was going in to get water and haven't returned. I'm watching him and our sons rake the leaves while typing this. tehe.
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DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
* formally bornmommy
TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!! Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui)
#1 born December 2011
TTC#2 - Beta #1 -51@10dpo Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
#2 born May 2013
TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
#3 born August 2015
#4!!!!!!! due June 2017
They were actually very happy, but neither are really huge parts of our lives, they were absentee parents, so I don't really care what they think anyway.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
It's way too early to be buying candy for Christmas anyway. It would totally be stale by then. Therefore, you've done him a favor.
MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
And my other love: writing
I do plan to shower first thing tomorrow morning. I just don't give a F tonight.
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017
Also, this is our second but I really want a celebration. NOT a full blown baby shower or a "sprinkle" necessarily. I just would love to get together with family and friends and celebrate another life joining us....no presents wanted or needed. I just think every pregnancy is special, and I love parties. I will, of course, NOT be throwing one or asking someone to but I am secretly hoping someone does a little luncheon or something.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17