FFFC - Black Friday Edition

cayaylonglegs · November 2016

Because I'm sure we haven't all been perfect angels this holiday.
*not guaranteed to be flame free.

yellingbanana · November 2016

I hate that I have to split this 4 day weekend between 2 families. I wish they could just all come to my place, even though it's not really big enough for that many people. And my moms place is too catty for my in-laws, they have allergies, so they won't go over to my moms. Also, I was too tired and 38 weeks pregnant this year, so I didn't even try to convince them.
Next year, I just want to go on vacation for thanksgiving!

penelope4612 · November 2016

I'm bummed that there weren't more Black Friday deals that I could take advantage of and/or more things that we need because I really wanted to spend some money today. I purchased a few nursing things and a few baby things that we still needed but nothing major. I would've loved to go clothes shopping but since I'm 39 weeks pregnant, buying clothes right now doesn't make a lot of sense....

Pgh_Kel · November 2016

FI and I hosted Thanksgiving for both of our families and they left us with about one serving of each side and NO TURKEY leftovers. :-( Normally I'd just be glad to be rid of it all, but I'm 9 months pregnant and ragey, and want a leftover turkey meal today while I lay around and do nothing. I'm irrationally irritated over this.

Kacie209 · November 2016

This week has felt like it took forever. After giving birth Monday morning, being discharged Wednesday, not having anything ready for when it came home since he was 3 weeks early, LO being admitted yesterday for high bilirubin on his follow-up appointment, and being discharged today for his number going down (thank goodness)... I am pooped.

I was bummed we didn't get Thanksgiving with family, but was nice to be with DH and LO for the day. The hospital had a Thanksgiving special meal, so I at least still got some turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, cranberries and pumpkin pie. It sucked, but it was for LO and that was important.

Now today, I wish more business would be open. I called my docs office to schedule LO's 2-week appointment and someone must have failed to put on the out of office message. I then called my leave office to see what will go on since I delivered early and my leave actually wasn't starting until this coming Monday (I was actually on vacation this week); left a message. Then I called my insurance company to get LO added as instructed today before we left, but their office is closed. So... all of that will have to get done Monday.

zubenescamali · November 2016

I wish my sister wasn't such a bad cook. My home smells like her failed attempt at roasted Brussel sprouts and we are out of candles. They left most of the thanksgiving leftovers here and none of it is good. Every year she makes a soggy pumpkin pie, but at least I usually cook, so I know the meal will be good. I know I should be grateful that they all love me enough to come here and cook but I can't get there.

ea301 · November 2016

@Kacie209 I agree re: businesses being open. It is so annoying to have to wait til Monday to talk to insurance.

Mine is: I love my step-MIL but she is so obnoxious with things I should do. The latest incident was earlier this week. I guess she wasn't ready to see me looking so ridiculously haggard (no makeup, hair messy, etc.) when she came to visit / meet the baby because she told me about 50x I needed go take a nap. I wasn't tired at all but she was relentless. I ended up saying, "I'm happy to go sit upstairs if you're trying to get rid of me," and felt bad for being snarky because I know she means well. It's just how she goes about it as if she knows better than me about everything. I mean dang lady... I'll sleep when I feel like it!

sourlemon · November 2016

My 2.5 year old is skyping MIL right now. I'm literally hiding in the nursery because I have no interest in seeing her...she's coming in 10 days and staying 2 weeks, so that's enough.

I scared DH last night. I woke up screaming in pain...with a calf cramp. all I could get out was "cramp" and he thought I was having the baby right there. I've never seen him jump outta bed and run to my side so fast haha.

allicat89 · November 2016

It always makes DH a little uncomfortable when I mention the fact that we have sex in front of his family, so I couldn't help but throw in a well-timed and tasteful sex joke at Thanksgiving this year. DH and I have been married 5 years, and I'm 9 months pregnant with our first child. Trust me, DH, they know we're having sex even if I don't tell them.

SaraRose83 · November 2016

@penelope4612 I'm with you! I so want to be fun shopping right now. But going to the grocery store right now wears me out. I think I'll knock out a few family Christmas presents online at least.

cayaylonglegs · November 2016

I totally waddled myself into Walmart last night and got my hands on that 27 piece pioneer woman cookware set. Totes worth it. Then we went to Jack in the Box for Thanksgiving dinner. I suppose I deserve the reckoning it did to my intestines for the rest of the evening.

Christinaruth74 · November 2016

I can't even with Black Friday. people be cray.

i don't have any juicy confessions... but I don't like cranberry sauce, so there's that.

Mamax2 · November 2016

@Christinaruth74 I can't stand cranberry sauce either! It's another texture issue with me.

mysteryship · November 2016

I usually do Buy Nothing Day on Black Friday because I'm an insufferable hippie like that. But this year there are some things I really want to save on (cloth diapers and blanqi leggings mostly). Since most online sales go through the weekend, I just bookmarked what I want yesterday and will order stuff today. Really sticking it to the man this way, I'm sure.

phoenix870509 · November 2016

My cousin's little boy turns 1 today and she's having a party for him at her mom's house. I'm being selfish and not going. Her house is an hour away, so I don't feel like traveling that far at 38 weeks. Also, I just don't wanna deal with the drama that is my cousin and her family.

Austenista · November 2016

I don't understand Thanksgiving leftover recipes. I have some objections.
1. Didn't I just cook a bunch of stuff? Why am I recooking it into something else?
2. Don't you share your leftovers with your folks? At our house anyone who wants one gets a doggy bag.
3. What's so wrong with just eating what you don't send home with everyone else as it already is?

The most adventurous after-Thanksgiving recipe I have ever attempted was a turkey sandwich.

tinattt23 · November 2016

@Austenista Apparently the whole send every guest home with leftover thing is cultural. Totally the norm in my family. You make way too much food and push all the extras off in others. In FI's family, it's considered the reward for hosting that you get to keep all the leftovers for yourself. They find it rude if anyone asks to take food home with them. Took me awhile to adjust to that mindset.

Lexibizzel · November 2016

@mysteryship good for you for holding out! I felt like such a fool waiting up until midnight for CD black Friday sales, but I didn't want to miss out. Guess it paid off, I was able to get some bamboo prefolds I'd been wanting. But yes, still lots of goodies left today. Good luck!

ashleaf2018 · November 2016

My FFFC: I used to judge co sleepers hard as being unsafe, blah blah blah. Now that baby is here and eats every two hours, I just want to say I've eaten my own words. I always swore I would never do it and we've done it every night since he was born. Whatever makes the breastfeeding relationship easier, I'm all about. Definitely one of those "don't knock it til you try it" things, I've learned my lesson.

penelope4612 · November 2016

Off topic but off of what @ashleaf2018 said - can someone explain exactly what cosleeping is? Does it literally mean the baby is sleeping on the mattress next to you? Isn't that dangerous with all the pillows and blankets? I honestly cannot imagine an infant surviving the night between DH and I and all the stuff in our bed so it's making me wonder if I just don't actually understand what cosleeping means? Or maybe people get rid off all the extra fluff when they cosleep? I've also seen the DockTot or whatever and I don't get how you use that as a cosleeper either...

ashleaf2018 · November 2016

@penelope4612 Yes, baby sleeps between FI and I. We have a queen bed and right now FI has his own blanket and pillows on the far side, I don't sleep with a blanket and only sleep with two pillows. Baby sleeps closer to me, he stays on his back at this point and doesn't roll at all. He's a very "gentle" heavy sleeper, when he's out he is knocked out and he doesn't move from whatever position he's in. Like I said, I used to judge it hardcore and just "knew" we wouldn't be doing it, but I can't get up and down constantly with the c section incision so it helps to just lay down with him once and not have to get up again for awhile once we're down. I think there's ways to make it safe if it's something you want to do but it's obviously whatever you're comfortable with.

penelope4612 · November 2016

@ashleaf2018 - I'm definitely not judging, but definitely find it confusing. But DH and I also sleep with 1 sheet, 2-3 blankets, and at least 4 pillows in the bed (at least one of which DH hugs when falling asleep that then ends up somewhere randomly in the middle of the night). So I think we'd have to make some major changes before having a baby in the bed would be safe. Makes more sense if you don't sleep with lots of random blankets/pillows.

PensiveCrayon · November 2016

@ashleaf2018 My sister and I survived cosleeping!

That said, I'm not planning on actively doing it but I can see myself not putting the baby back in the bassinet at the end of a long night.

tinattt23 · November 2016

@ashleaf2018 Agree that cosleepig isn't the devil. Just has to fit with your sleep habits. But I can't see it ever working for us. We share our bed with a snuggly 60 pound lab. I move all over during the night. We have a fluffy down comforter I can't sleep without (even in the summer). Our bed is basically full of baby land mines. But I did get a halo bassinet to get him as close to our bed as possible while still being safe. But like you said, never say never!

SmashJam · November 2016

I was the same @ashleaf2018! I know so many who cosleep, and I could not do it for reasons similar to @tinattt23, but no longer judge.

I had a similar epiphany with breast feeding...I used to judge toddler breast feeders but after really having a hard time with nursing,now all I can think is, "good for you, mama!"

yellingbanana · November 2016

I have 'cosleep when I am so exhausted that it just makes sense' rule. Sometimes the baby and I fall asleep in the bed together (I have 1 pillow, 1 blanket, and DH sleeps on his side of king bed). Sometimes I manage to smoothly get baby into the arms reach bassinet next to my bed where I can just reach out and comfort baby. Sometimes the bassinet is not next to the bed. Whatever works! Both DDs survived the 'whatever works' method. But I will admit, I sleep super lightly since I became a parent.
I left a bed in the baby's room so that him and I can have it to ourselves.

I'm excited.

DiFazette · November 2016

@ashleaf2018 and friends - I said early on during the inception of this board that I 'never say never'. Parenting will make you reconsider everything you thought you knew. I swore I'd never have to 'threaten' DS to listen. Here I sit with an app on my phone that makes Santa call me and address him by name and mention whatever behavior he's struggling with. I try to no longer make definitive statements about parenting styles/choices (within reason) because I know they come with a large spoon that I will later eat my words with.

juliehollz13 · November 2016

2nd night with baby and i don't know how anyone can help BUT to cosleep at some point whether by choice or not. Id MUCH prefer him in the bassinet but he wakes up and cries within 10 minutes of being put down and is currently cluster feeding. I finally got 1.5 hours of sleep after keeping him with me right by my face. I also noticed that i wake up every time he makes any noise or grunt. We plan to keep him in a bassinet in our room but we'll see what his sleeping is like. I know for the past 2 days I've gotten only cat naps in during breasfeeding or while his dad is holding him. I can't function on 0 sleep forever. Lol.

gowenc · November 2016

@juliehollz13 that sounds pretty rough. Hang in there mama!

Toller · November 2016

@juliehollz13 it was like that with DD. we had one of those in the bed sleepers that we slowly had to transition her over to the co-sleeper in... she was very needy! it feels like forever right now (I'll never forget that endless feeling of the first weeks) but it WON'T be forever. do what you need to do! also- are you swaddling?

We never planned to co-sleep but it totally happened when needed!

ea301 · November 2016

Here's a question... does it count as co-sleeping when baby falls asleep on mom's chest, then mom falls asleep for a nap? I feel dumb for even asking but I'm not sure.

yellingbanana · November 2016

@juliehollz13 that sounds so much like my DD2, she always had to be near my face or boob! Lol

@ea301 great question! I'd say yes, that's how my off and on co-sleeping happened. I'd lay down to feed baby, and then we would both fall asleep.

juliehollz13 · November 2016

Toller said:

@juliehollz13 it was like that with DD. we had one of those in the bed sleepers that we slowly had to transition her over to the co-sleeper in... she was very needy! it feels like forever right now (I'll never forget that endless feeling of the first weeks) but it WON'T be forever. do what you need to do! also- are you swaddling?

We never planned to co-sleep but it totally happened when needed!

@Toller our bassinet detaches to allow the basket on the bed too for co sleeping, but he's not a huge fan on of it but at least he's on the bed and we've been trying to get him used to being in it a few minutes at a time. We ARE swaddling as well.

sreysaw17 · November 2016

As someone who grew up in another culture, I saw cosleeping all the time. I didn't realize what a huge deal it had become here in the US until returning for college. When we found out we were pregnant, I researched all kinds of bassinets because I knew that the proximity was good but the "in the bed with you" sleeping was "extremely dangerous." The more I thought about it though, the more it made sense to have your baby nearby if you're breastfeeding. Then, at one of our baby classes at the birth center we are using, the nurse mentioned this guy: James McKenna. She urged us to watch an interview with him in which he explains quite a bit about cosleeping that I'd never thought about. It's on this website: https://cosleeping.nd.edu/

To sum it up, he says that cosleeping is just sleeping in such a way so that the parents and the baby are cognizant of each other's presence. That can be in the bed, in an attached sleeper, or in a bassinet in the same room. The benefit is proximity as much as physical closeness. In the interview he lists a bunch of reasons why, as well as some guidelines about how to make sure you're doing it safely. I thought it was a good explanation. Just FYI.

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