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December 2016 Moms
Christinaruth74
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3rd Tri Mind Eff
Christinaruth74
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anyone else feeling completely helpless and confused? This is my second time around and I'm so clueless.
I was having some UTI-like symptoms plus cramping, back pain and regular contractions so they advised I go in for monitoring. After 4+ hours in L&D, IV fluids, blood draws, 2 cervical checks and some swabs, early active labor was ruled out along with a laundry list of other things. They finally discharged me with all of us basically scratching our heads. My cervix is definitely closed for business and posterior, but my contractions held steady every 3-6 minutes even after fluids.
I have another ther appointment on Monday so we will talk about it more then, but wtf. I'm still contracting pretty regularly... the only thing that makes me nervous is that with DD1 my water broke, I was on pitocin with crazy strong contractions, but there was little to no dilation taking place. I'm nervous my body is prepping for something that it's not able to follow through with. I'm nervous that it will put my baby at risk again or that I won't be getting the birth experience I really hoped for this time around.
Sorry this turned long winded... I didn't realize just how nervous I was about all of this until I just started typing it out.
Anyone else in a similar boat?
I was having some UTI-like symptoms plus cramping, back pain and regular contractions so they advised I go in for monitoring. After 4+ hours in L&D, IV fluids, blood draws, 2 cervical checks and some swabs, early active labor was ruled out along with a laundry list of other things. They finally discharged me with all of us basically scratching our heads. My cervix is definitely closed for business and posterior, but my contractions held steady every 3-6 minutes even after fluids.
I have another ther appointment on Monday so we will talk about it more then, but wtf. I'm still contracting pretty regularly... the only thing that makes me nervous is that with DD1 my water broke, I was on pitocin with crazy strong contractions, but there was little to no dilation taking place. I'm nervous my body is prepping for something that it's not able to follow through with. I'm nervous that it will put my baby at risk again or that I won't be getting the birth experience I really hoped for this time around.
Sorry this turned long winded... I didn't realize just how nervous I was about all of this until I just started typing it out.
Anyone else in a similar boat?
Re: 3rd Tri Mind Eff
i feel like we did so well with DS and gave him such a warm and wonderful home - and the comfort and security he needed and now we have a wonderful little guy.
....and so I'm feeling wildly insecure and terrified of being able to provide that for DD and being able to continue providing that for DS...
tldr - wtf did we do - are we screwing everything up??! is this the beginning of the downfall of the slarty family happiness and sanity?!?! Ahhghhh!!!!
@slartybartfast amen times a million. Yes. And more yes. I'm terrified. How will I get out of the house with 2? How will i have time for DD2 or the ability to give her just as much love and security as we did DD1 without totally screwing them both up and without neglecting ones needs over another's? Idk if that makes sense I'm just stil trying to wrap my mind around WTF we signed up for
@yellingbanana I'm in the same boat with a RCS. I just can't help but get nervous that my body will start something before the RCS and the whole order of my universe will be thrown outta whack.
Plus, I was 1.5 cm on Tuesday and know that could be for awhile, but the way my OB was talking... I should be prepared for any sort of labor. She also emphasized that I was thin AND he was sitting very low. So, that is also freaking me out... as there is so much more stuff I want and need to do. I know we'd be fine with some of those NOT done, but I would feel better. Ever pinch and pain gets my mind rolling. And, baby hasn't been super active this whole time and now it's very off and on so there is that.
I know I can do this, just so weird that at any point... this baby will be here and it'll be more real. I didn't mind being pregnant until just this last week. And could do without the 50+ lb. weight gain, ha.
TTC Since: November 2015
BFP: March 31, 2016
DS: November 21, 2016
Each birth or start to it can be totally different! It's very unfair that you just don't start spontaneously and a baby slithers out after 3 hours with each successive birth! The injustice.
Some of my observations are that I have had more and more prodromal labor with each... as in it gets "worse" or longer drawn out (like every few nights for about 3 weeks prior.)
I think that may be due to expericed uterus' knowing it needs to prep and tone more for a birth... also if you have a bigger bump.
The upside for me has been that birth tends to go quicker and once it's the real deal my cervix works more effectively... it opens quicker... but prior to that it also shows NO change in dialation at all... which makes me feel like my body is very intelligent in knowing that the baby needs to stay put, while my uterus gets its strength built up. Your bodies aren't fighting you they are likely doing something quite smart.
Also... have you ever heard that readiness for delivery has more to do with the fundal
protion (upper part) of then uterus thickening during active labor... in essence it builds a brick that aides in literally pushing baby out. Until that builds up and thickens you can't be ready to effectly eject baby... and yet you can be at 10cm. That's why many 1st timers find it hard to push a baby out or simply can't... because their fundal thickening hasn't completed.
Finally, my course of action with frustrating prodromal labor is to go "zen". One of the best parts of midwifery care and being at home is that I don't have to worry about doing anything but being in my environment and relaxing in it... I generally have lots of "activity" at night and so I just get up, walk, drink tea and take a bath... relax in that moment... then go back to sleep. I would only take any action if my water broke or if I would start moaning... (I don't even time them until I start to make a noise)... as that my cue that things are real not frequency. Honestly, I won't even wake my husband until those things happen or are a factor. Until then it's all not "really" labor and should be treated (w/ walking or heat) and mildly ignored.
Stuff like cramping ought not be ignored but usually that kind of pain is a signal to me that baby is in a bad position more than anything else.
Last night while I was cooking dinner I got some sudden and very intense cramps down low... back pain and I could feel the baby pushing against my bowels in back! Not at all fun.
It lasted for several hours but after spending time on all fours (catting and cowing it) and then laying on my side and drinking water they went away. I still feel low pressure, but no pain.
Take or leave as you please... it really does stink it doesn't just get easier and clearer!
Due December 27th with baby #7
@sourlemon ughhhh 14 hours is rough and FIVE cervical checks?! Dear god. You rest, girlfriend. That is miserable. I'm sorry you're kind of stuck in limbo right now too... at least your RCS is right around the corner. They haven't scheduled mine, but I'm assuming it will be sometime the week of Christmas... it feels like forever away and I'm hoping my body keeps its sh*t together until then.
I have no idea if I'll even know I'm in labor and I am so worried that my sweet little boy won't handle this well. Especially as a single mom who doesn't get help from their father. You ladies are lucky to have your children's father there for you. I'm sure my SO will help as much as he can but at the end of the day neither of them are his own.