UO Thursday 11/17 (a day early... oops)

slartybartfast · November 2016

Let's get one of our regular thread going again

Mamax2 · November 2016

Am I a day behind and not realizing it?

slartybartfast · November 2016

I'll start with one that's a little uncomfortable.
D16 has had some early babies and not by mom's choice - but by circumstances. I'm so happy they are all doing well but I know preterm and even early term labor comes with risks and challenges. Some that last a long time. I'm pretty unsettled by the posts that are taking on a tone of wanting preterm (before 37 weeks) or early term (37-38 weeks) labor. It's totally understandable to be OVER pregnancy and some of the mamas on here have had it REALLY rough. But preterm and early term birth can come with serious complications and challenges for baby. It seems to me like it's also a little insensitive to the mom's with their babies in the NICU too.

slartybartfast · November 2016

DANG IT. It's totally Wednesday.

FAIIIIL

ajstevenson · November 2016

Hahaha slarty, no worries! I did start up a WTF Wednesday board.

sourlemon · November 2016

So this is now UO Wednesday AND Thursday haha. 2 days!

I agree with you @slartybartfast. as much as I want this thing out of me (mainly because I am having multiple complications), I want her to stay in as well. I feel selfish when I want her out (37 weeks tomorrow) yet I'm also mentally and physically worn out. I'm tired of the hospital and everyday checking my bp 6 times. I'm tired of not having use of my right hand. I'm tired. But at the same time, so long as it's safe for her to stay in, I know that's what's best.

slartybartfast · November 2016

@sourlemon - I'm actually having easier weeks and I am VERY ready to be done... I'm focusing those thoughts on futile wishes that time would tick faster. I want this baby to have every opportunity at healthy prenatal growth and development... but I wish I could check out til she's ready.

whitneyp26 · November 2016

I've been holding onto a couple for weeks now and I can't remember them lol damnit

karmba · November 2016

I agree with you @slartybartfast. Since the beginning, I've had it in my head that LO is coming early (for no real reason) and I feel like I'm constantly reminding myself that the longer he stays in, the better. I set myself up for failure by letting my head tell me he's coming at Thanksgiving to mentally prepare in case he was early haha. By contrast, DH has it in his head that the baby is coming close to Christmas.

I was just telling my DH last night that I never thought I'd end up being someone who complained about pregnancy and was ready for it to be over (mainly due to a previous loss). But I've realized that was naive. Pregnancy is hard - and compared to a lot of people on this board, I've had it pretty easy. I think after 8ish months of not feeling in control of your body, people do feel selfish and can come across as self-centered. I tend to think most people wishing for pre-term/early-term labor are mostly just voicing frustrations with complications etc and not actively hoping for an early baby - but that might be naive as well.

juliehollz13 · November 2016

I agree to an extent that it's unreasonable and selfish to hope for early delivery, but for me there are two reasons why I'm anxious for him to arrive. 1) The baby has been measuring ahead the entire time so my official EDD is end of November and at last U/S they came very close to making it 11/22, but decided to stick with the 28th so I feel like I'm farther ahead than what I initially set myself up for with the ticker and the BMB 2) PPGAL brain is pretty messed up - I feel like I want him to stay in as long as possible but now am panicking and want him out because i'm scared of something happening this close to the EDD and am terrified of birth complications or cord issues. Plus having an anterior placenta hasn't helped, even though he's big now I still don't feel him as much as I should be and with him running out of room becoming less active, every day is stressful because I try so hard to count kicks and he's not cooperative. So it's hard because on one hand I know the longer he stays in the better, but it's causing me a lot of anxiety.

paulpaw · November 2016

@juliehollz13 I feel the same sense of urgency and anxiety, I'm with you girl we will get through it. PGAL brain is real.

princesslockness · November 2016

While I completely get where your feelings come into play slarty, no one - not the MFM, none of the OBs at either of the 2 practices I have seen, no one thought I would make it past 30 weeks. I had to prepare mentally and physically for a 3 month NICU stay. It was just a fact in my life. Now I have been told every week since 28 something along the lines of 'well You should have a baby be next app, but we will still schedule an app.' That has been 10 weeks of it.

I am done, I have been done for about 6 weeks already. Mainly because this pregnancy has been 8 weeks longer than anyone thought. Its been 2 months of 1-3 L&D trips every week, with timeable, intense contractions, most of which could been seem through my clothes.

All that is to say, it literally feels as though I am almost 50weeks pregnant, and not 40.

yellingbanana · November 2016

Excellent conversation ladies. Valid thoughts and opinions. I tried to hold in my wishes to have the baby come out until the last week, and anytime I've voiced them, I've felt extremely guilty. While it's hard to control the feelings, I should be able to control what I say. Even though my babies are at least 8.5 lbs, I know it's healthier for them to make it full term. In fact, DH was just reading a sourced article about how babies who make it beyond their due date tend to be super smart kids. Our DD 1 went 8 days over her due date, when we had to get induced because she wasn't getting any smaller. She is 10 now, and overall very smart, but her math skills are so great that it freaks me out sometimes.
So yes, we should all hope that our Littles make it near or to their due date, for their sakes - even if they are measuring ahead!

And I'll be back tomorrow with a UO of my own... dun, dun, duuuuunnnn!!!

ashleaf2018 · November 2016

I am 1000% done with pregnancy and I don't really care what anyone else thinks about that. After weeks of only keeping down water and not much else, I can't imagine it's a healthy environment for Rhett and it's definitely not healthy for me. I don't want him to be hurt by being delivered too early, but now that I'm 37 weeks the sooner he's out the better. Who knows what kind of dental problems/GI problems I'll be dealing with after this is all over, especially since no one will touch me if I'm pregnant. I literally don't have a clue how this pregnancy is affecting my body internally and it may be such that we don't have any more biological children after this because I don't know if my body can withstand this a second time. It's scary as hell and I'm ready for it to be over.

PensiveCrayon · November 2016

I generally agree that babies need to stay in as long as possible but if anyone deserves to have their baby early it's you @ashleaf2018. I can't even imagine.

Still @yellingbanana...I like that tidbit. Now I want this one to stay in as long as possible so he can be an egghead like his dad!

yellingbanana · November 2016

I'm going to second that @ashleaf2018 can go ahead and pray for baby time. She has suffered like 5 pregnancies in 1!

slartybartfast · November 2016

OK - I think we've made it to Thursday at this point...
I'm super into how early Christmas is being brought out of the closet this year. Often I roll my eyes at the money-grabby-ploys of window displays in early November but this year I am SO for it. Because - by real Christmas, I will have a baby! And will be able to feel comfortable again! Heartburn will be gone! DECK THE HALLS!!!

l9i · November 2016

@slartybartfast I am usually very much a wait until after Thanksgiving to put up anything Christmas related and also roll my eyes at holiday stuff being displayed way too early. I intended to put the tree up last weekend but DH never brought it up from the basement so maybe this weekend. I think mostly I just want to be ahead of the game in case baby would make a surprise early entrance. Also, since we planned ahead with shopping we're done Christmas shopping so I feel like it should be here already!

Austenista · November 2016

@slartybartfast I was just thinking about this this morning. My hard, fast rule is always Christmas can start the day after Thanksgiving but until then, no. This year I am all about Christmas. I have to keep reminding myself about Thanksgiving. Our Christmas trees are up and the foyer is full of decor boxes we are still going through. I've been singing Christmas songs throughout my pregnancy because I knew I'd be getting a baby for Christmas. ❤️

temmetime · November 2016

To hop on the train on conversation, I understand both sides of wanting babies early. If you're having a healthy pregnancy with fairly minimum problems and you're wanting this to be over for selfish reasons, I think it's frustrating and annoying. After reading the brain development that happens in the last 5 weeks along with so many other health factors that baby is strengthening, I don't agree with 'wanting this baby out now' simply because you're uncomfortable. However, there are so many women on this board with intense complications physically that make us question if the environment of baby is even comfortable at this point anymore. My SIL complained like no other of how bad she wanted it to be over from 35 weeks on and I thought it was annoying to hear, which I realize is a bit insensitive & not sympathetic. Every situation is so completely different and I told myself from the beginning that I am not going to complain the last few weeks.. because guess what? Talk to me a month or 6 after he is born and I guarantee I will miss being pregnant.

I'm so ready for all the Christmas things!!

l9i · November 2016

Now that a project for work is complete, one of the contractors was told two weeks ago about his last day being tomorrow. It seems like a majority are sad. They feel sad about letting contractors go, but to me that's the nature of contract work, there is an end date. I am actually excited for him to be gone since he's shady AF and I caught him in yet another lie today. About me and one other person see that bc we work so closely with him. Everyone else thinks he's such a nice guy.

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