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Low fetal heart rate

Hi everyone! I'm new on here to post but have viewed so many amazing stories and seen great support from the Bump community. Here's a bit about me/us:

I'm 30, DH is 32, DS 19 months

BFP 6/19/16
MC and D&C 7/29/16

*YAY* BFP 10/16/16

We just had our first US after very light spotting last week. Baby measures at 6w3d but the heart beat was low at about 70 bpm. Actually she gave us a range, not an actual number. something like 67-80 bpm. Don't know the exact LMP dates...

I am so scared after a loss just a few months ago. I want to be happy about this but my heart is too afraid to get excited. I've heard similar things from other ladies out there. It's so tough mentally.

How about the heart beat? What are your stories on this?

Thank you :)
Me: 30 DH: 32
BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)

Re: Low fetal heart rate

  • Hi! So sorry for your recent loss. Fingers crossed for you and little one. Glad you got an early ultrasound. I don't have any experience or advice to share with you but I wanted to say we're pulling for you. Please keep us posted. 
    Pregnancy TickerMarried 7/28/12
    Angel 6/7/16
    Rainbow (DD) 4/9/17
  • I don't have any advice but wanted to say we're thinking about you 
  • I know for our first loss (which was due to other complication, nothing to do with heart rate) dr said heart rate was low but within range and that its important to remember that the baby's heart is starting from zero. The next appointment the heart rate was much better. when is your next appointment?
  • this happened with my second loss. It went on for a month before the heart stopped. During that time I read stories online about some positive outcomes. But for me, growth was too slow and the heart stopped at 9 wks. I hope your outcome is positive. 

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • Thank you everyone  :/ I appreciate your input and sharing your experiences. I'm always reminded how unique each of us is and try to not compare myself to others' stories, no matter the outcome. @MWoodside it's so sad :( I didn't realize this could go on for so long. There's so much about the body I don't know. 

    I can't imagine another loss. I never thought I would be the one to go through this. I think I had a veil over my face with my 1st pregnancy, which was perfect. 

    @ssnova
    My next u/s is November 14th. I took a day off just because. I'm trying very hard to be positive and hope for the best. Will update you afterwards! My progesterone was low so now I'm on a supplement. Betas looked fine from the blood draws. 

    FX!

     <3 
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
    BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
    1inthehopperBok Bagok
  • @Dobrovolskaya I have an appointment on the 14th as well (which I have been holding my breath for) ill be thinking of you, hope both our appointment end with great news!! I often say I feel robbed of the day to day joy of being pregnant.. not that I don't feel joy now, I do, its just fear seems to be my leading emotion these days. and you are right no 2 pregnancies are the same not even for the same mother. wish you the best!
  • @ssnova I'll be thinking about you as well and hoping for positive news for us. My first mc was a BO. It's was an empty sac and even then I was a mess. I'm petrified this time. Although I snap myself out of the negative thoughts. That's the only way to get thru the days ahead. Keep your spirits up as best you can :)
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
    BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
  • Yes, it was limbo hell. Thinking of you and hoping for the best.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • Hi everyone. Unfortunately today's us revealed there's no heartbeat anymore and the embryo has not grows since last week. So devastating. I can't imagine that his happened again. Our options are once again to try to pass naturally, take some sort of a medication, or the d&c like last time. Ugh. I don't know what to do. 

    Wishing eveyone the best. 
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
    BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
  • @Dobrovolskaya I'm so, so sorry. Two losses in such a short time. Please take good care of yourself. I've only had d&c so I don't have advice about what's best. Hoping the process goes as smoothly for you as it can. Again I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers will be with you. Hope your doc works closely with you to help you in your journey. Keep up your hopes--praying for a sweet rainbow soon for you. But take time to take care of yourself and grieve how you want to. 
    Pregnancy TickerMarried 7/28/12
    Angel 6/7/16
    Rainbow (DD) 4/9/17
  • I'm so sorry to hear this! I had two MMC in a row also. It's so hard to grasp something like that happening twice. I'm so sorry. I also had two DNCs with my losses. Mentally/emotionally I didn't want to wait for it to happen naturally, I needed to know it was over so I could start trying again. I'd absolutely push your doctors to find out what additional testing you can get to see what the cause, if any, can be found.  I had two losses, then after 6 months of trying went to a fertility specialist who did a bunch of testing and to our surprise did find a couple things with me that could contribute to infertility and miscarriage. 
    Please take care of yourself! 
  • @Bok Bagok we're still trying to decide what to do but it's ultimately what's best for my body i guess. Do i want to wait and have a horrible experience of bleeding at work (possibly) OR just go for another D&C and get it over with. I'm in shock though. I hoped so much that this would be a successful pregnancy. Having two losses in a row has discouraged me from wanting to try again...for a while anyway. I am so sorry for all the ladies who've experienced loss, most of all those with multiple losses. 

    @HGRich we keep getting different docs and nurses each time. They don't remember us and overall don't seem sincere in their compassion. Our doc today gave me funny faces when I asked various questions. 

    I think we need to take a break from "trying" and focus on being good parents to our son and little furbaby. I am not mentally prepared to face another loss (i know i'm being negative but at this point i can't help it).

    I wished I could have stayed on here on the journey with you ladies. I'll be back though :P We definitely want another kiddo (Lord willing!)

    Bye for now and thank you for all the kind words of support. It got me through the week.
    Me: 30 DH: 32
    BFP#1: 9/9/2014 DS born 4/7/15
    BFP#2: 6/16/2016 MC/D&C: 7/29/2016
    BFP#3: 10/14/2016 (fingers crossed for a sticky bean)
  • @Dobrovolskaya you're quite welcome. I completely understand about needing a break from trying. I think I would feel the same. Do what you need to and we will be thinking of you and praying for you. I'm also sorry you've not had a good experience with your doctor. Mine has been really compassionate so I hope you have better luck or can find one who is, whenever you are ready to try again. Best to you and your family. 
    Pregnancy TickerMarried 7/28/12
    Angel 6/7/16
    Rainbow (DD) 4/9/17
  • I'm so sorry - like @Bok Bagok  I chose d&c because I didn't want to wait and see (and I had 3 year old I was home with - was nervous I'd start miscarrying while watching him and had heard horror stories!) Plus, you can get the fetal tissue tested for chromosomal abnormalities which I'd really recommend.

    I don't think taking a break from trying is a bad thing - once you want a baby more than you fear another loss, you'l l be ready

    I also had 2 losses after my first child - nothing came up in the bloodwork, but I took progesterone and baby aspirin when I fell pregnant again. That baby was born healthy in 2014. <3 I'm so sorry for this heartbreak - my time after my second miscarriage was SO hard for me.

    A

    2010: son born 9/1 

    2013: 2 miscarriages + d&cs, both at 10 weeks: April & July

    2014: son #2 born 6/29

    2016: Baby girl stillborn at 21w6d 4/29 and baby boy stillborn at 20w 3d 11/16

    Bok Bagok
  • @Dobrovolskaya I'm so very sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and be patient with your grief. We will be thinking of you. 
    Bok Bagok
  • Oh goodness @dobrovolskaya I'm so so sorry we had two losses in a row the pain is unreal and it feels like the world is against you. Try to stay strong and focus on all the good in your life. Take time to hurt and mourn and be angry or any other emotion you are feeling.. I personally had both mc naturally  at 12w and 4w it is hard but I'm greatful for the way we did it. We could have had the 12w baby tested but decided against it. if you want to pm me I would be more then happy to give any advice or just explain what to expect with it. Each of my losses was with a different dr and this third pregnancy is with a new dr (she's wounderful) I kept looking till I found a group that understood my pain and worked with me. There are so many dr out there don't settle. 
    I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide and again I'm so sorry for how things turned out.
    Bok Bagok
  • So sorry. hugs!! 
  • MWoodsideMWoodside member
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    edited November 2016
    I'm so sorry. 

    I chose D&C both times bc once the baby has passed away I need it to be over asap for sanity reasons so I can move forward and heal physically and emotionally. I tried to wait it out the first time and after a week there was still literally no signs and I was in a breakdown state constantly. The hospital staff was so kind and lovely both times and just cared for me do well. I don't regret the D&Cs at all.

    sending love to you.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
    HGRich
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