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June 2017 Moms
Ashraffe
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Gender ultrasound
Ashraffe
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so I want to do a Christmas gender reveal and surprise my family at our Christmas Eve party. The recommended is 15 weeks at the independent ultrasound places, I'll be 14w when I plan to go (dec 20th). I had an ultrasound done with my son at 16 weeks and everything went well and they could easily tell gender. For those who have done this, at what week did you get a gender confirmation? I'm also super nervous they'll get it wrong, any horror stories?!
Re: Gender ultrasound
All joking aside, as I know there will likely be comments made to correct the post re: gender vs. sex...
I am thinking of doing one around Christmas or my kids birthday in early January so they can see/understand as well as find out the sex early. This is through a 'boutique' type place but with my Perinatologist from my first pregnancy... same techs used for medically necessary ones...
Not only is it a shot in the dark to be able to determine sex at 14 weeks, but the ACOG advises against u/s unless the benefits outweigh the risks. Being impatient to learn your child's sex isn't one of the cases.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Beyond all of the above, my SIL (aka the most impatient woman in the world) had an elective ultrasound like this with baby #4 to see if she "finally got her girl". She had one around this time frame and it was inconclusive, but they thought girl so she went with it. She started planning her own baby shower to celebrate the girl. The girl by the way was confirmed to be my 4th amazing nephew just a few weeks later at her anatomy scan.
@Elyse1384 haha this is my fear. I definitely wouldn't get too excited about It and won't be buying stuff until my anatomy scan later in January.
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
Gavin - 8/27/10
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Gabriel - 2nd tri loss 5/17/16 Trisomy 18 & 21
Hope - 2nd tri loss 12/7/16 complications from pneumonia
TTC #1 since 9/2015
BFP #1 1/14/16, MC 3/23/16
BFP #2 9/21/2016, EDD 5/30/2017
I'd like to do a short u/s with my boys to see the baby but the a/s will be too long and I don't think I'll have anymore between this week and then... obviously if my OB recommends against... I'll listen and save the ~ $120 but I do think it would be fun for my boys to see their sibling, if it works out.
my ob didn't seem to have an issue with it when I talked with her about it with my first baby. I was under the impression ultrasounds weren't dangerous for the baby....
You may not think it matters, the difference between gender and sex, but how about from a grammatical perspective, at least? It's like saying "I could care less" when you mean to say "I couldn't care less". They are two different phrases with two different meanings. Yes, A LOT of people say gender when they should say sex, but that doesn't mean you should now, and I like to think it's because a lot of people simply don't know that they are not interchangeable. Once you know better, you should use it correctly.
Me: 36; DH: 38
DD: 7; DS1: 4; DS2 due 6-21-17!
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MMC & D&C Aug 2016
Oh if it doesn't matter TO YOU, that's fine then, no worries, carry on. #entitlement
I guess then, as a straight person, "it doesn't matter to you" when someone uses the derogatory F-word to describe a homosexual person either? Because the sex vs gender thing is just as offensive for people whose gender identity is not the same as their physical sex. I'd really hate to hear your stances on racial issues, especially the ones that don't matter to you because they don't directly involve you.
Gender = is what you feel/identify with.
It's not heated, it's simply fact of the matter.
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My daughter was breech and My doctor did ultrasounds at every appointment at the end to check her positioning. So I have a hard time feeling like one quick extra ultrasound is really that harmful compared to what I've been through before. From my research I also haven't found any real hard facts but if someone has some please share!
I haven't booked this yet but I should be about 16ish weeks. I think 14 would be a little too early to tell and I would lean towards doing a blood test instead. I'm also in the process of checking the costs of that test with my insurance and as might go that route.
So I get it you don't agree with doing an elective scan. I never did before. And I am definitively into the science behind why. Right now I'm leaning towards thinking it's ok for me for my pgal brain.
Going from 8 weeks to 20 weeks without seeing my babes heartbeat and watching him or her wiggle in an US feels like a really long time. The Doppler doesn't ease my anxiety. Stress isn't good for me or the baby either.
And I feel like in my past 2 healthy pregnancies my doctors have done ultrasounds for a ton of reasons. Say I had 10 ultrasounds with my first due to preterm labor and breech then 6 with my second due to early spotting and positioning for VBAC and this time if everything is good I've already had 2 plus early scans plus I will have my anatomy scan and my doctor will do one at the end to check weight/positioning since I'm VBAC That's 4 for sure. I don't see the harm in doing 1 elective knowing my doctor would do one in a heartbeat if I brought up any concerns. But I totally understand people that don't feel that risk is necessary for them. To each their own.
Me: 29 DH: 35
Married: 9/29/12
DS #1: 3/8/15From the FDA: the scans expose body tissues to heat and in some cases can produce very small bubbles, called cavitation, in tissues. Since the long-term effects of tissue heating and cavitation are not known, and since fetal keepsake videos provide no medical benefit to the fetus, the FDA advises steering clear.
The ACOG: in part because there may be biological risks to the mother or fetus that simply haven’t been identified yet. ACOG also warned that having an ultrasound in a nonmedical setting may falsely reassure pregnant women that their unborn baby is free of abnormalities, or, on the flip side, reveal a possible abnormality without a qualified health professional on hand to interpret and discuss the findings.
The American Institute of Ultrasound in Medicine: Ultrasound bioeffects may result from scanning for a prolonged period, inappropriate use of color or pulsed Doppler ultrasound without a medical indication, or excessive thermal or mechanical index settings. The AIUM encourages patients to make sure that practitioners using ultrasound have received specific training in fetal imaging to ensure the best possible results.
The AIUM also believes that added cost arrangements other than those of providing patients images or copies of their medical records at cost may violate the principles of medical ethics of the American Medical Association
DD2 8.22.13
MMC 1.4.17 at 16w
Expecting #3, EDD 1.29.18
What if you are high risk or GD so your doctor does 12 ultrasounds during your pregnancy and I have a normal pregnancy and I only have 4 (one of those being elective). How is mine any worse or unhealthy for my baby vs the person who had multiple. Plus some doctors are more scan happy then others. There are different standard practices where a different number of ultrasounds is normal. I don't see how me doing one elective scan in a hospital with a trained doctor this time around is any more dangerous then when my doctor did 10 scans with my first pregnancy due to breech position which really isn't necessary either.
And on the note of risk we are all comfortable with different levels of risk during pregnancy. I drink caffeine but I don't eat lunch meat etc. I also did a VBAC even though some doctors would say a 2nd csection is safer (although my own research said otherwise but that is a different debate).
So As long as you aren't doing repeated scans with untrained technicians why is it really that much different?
And as stated above. I didn't do any elective scans with my first two children. Only the ones scheduled by my OB. So I understand that side of things. But now that I'm a loss mom
as well my mind has changed.
I agree with @JessyKV there are so many variations in practice and what my doctor says and does may be very different from the next person's. So IMO the only thing that matters is discussing these things with your provider and if you're both comfortable with it, then go for it.
Im still checking on the NIPT with my insurance as well.
My doctor is absolutely fine with an extra ultrasound if something is causing me stress and anxiety. PGAL is hard and stress is not good for anyone.
What I'm sensing from those wanting early scans to learn the sex is more an underlying theme of impatience. Ladies.... I too am a planner. I too am impatient in many areas of life. I went Team Green with both kids because having been through 3 years of IF treatment just to get my take home baby taught me that a healthy child in and of itself is ALL that matters. If I can make it 40 weeks without knowing (as most women before and after me have done by choice or lack of technology), I can guarantee that no harm will befall you physically or emotionally by waiting an extra 4-6 weeks to find out the baby's sex when you have your anatomy scan. I just would urge you to exercise caution in medically unnecessary ultrasounds.
I agree people have different opinions on what can be/is harmful and different doctors tell you different things. I drank a glass or two of wine (total not a day or anything) in the last trimester of both my pregnancies. People might loose their minds over that. I've done for and against research and talked with my doc. I also eat lunch meat and drink coffee. I do not use any drugs even on the safe list. The list goes on..
Finding out the sex isn't my only reason for wanting an elective US it's an added benefit if I do have one. Everyone deals with PGAL differently.
Im really not impatient about it at all. I found at the sex at my anatomy scan with my first at 19 weeks and went team green with my second. So I've done both and know I can wait. I actually thought about being team green this time since I already have one girl and one boy.
I dont want to retype my statements before but I'm saying I feel comfortable with the risks of one hospital elective scan with a doctor in general just as some people are ok with the risk of caffeine or wine. I don't see it as much different. Some doctors do 1-2 scans a whole pregnancy and some do 10 plus for different "medical" reasons and I feel like if they are comfortable with that then I am comfortable with it too.
I think it's the elective part that bothers people. If your doctor was monitor happy would you decline? If you felt off one day or a tad less movement you would ask for an ultrasound right? The risk would be worth it? I feel like it is and I feel like there is nothing wrong with an elective scan if it's at the right place with the right people. But that's my opinion and if you don't want to take that risk I totally understand.
I had at least 10 u/s with my second pregnancy to monitor IUGR/GD. I don't think in your case one additional is going to hurt.
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MMC: 09/13 (9 weeks)
DD: Born 8/22/14
Babies #2 & 3: Due dates 6/9/17
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I had (gasp!) about 25 ultrasounds with my last pregnancy because I had early bleeding and a severe placental abruption at 27 weeks landing me in the hospital until 37 weeks. They had zero impact on my dudes development. I understand and respect what the FDA and research suggests (I live and breathe a research based work life), but you're going 1x to a hospital. You're fine.
It's fine. Your decision is fine. Happy healthy pregnancy to you!
DH: 29
DS: 18 months 4/2/2015
Baby #2 EDD: 6/1/2017