I'd be more than willing to start a FB group. I am a regular poster so maybe more people would recognize me? I don't mind friending ppl so I can add them to a Secret group then unfriending. I would be willing to admin it until we get rolling. However I'd prefer to do this as the last of us reach 20 weeks, so about a month from now. Early December ish? As people feel more comfortable they can join. I would suggest we cut off joining early in March as you want people you know before the nitty gritty gets going.
My J13 FB group has been lifesaving for me and we have become an extremely tight night group. Our actual bump board died a few months after los were born which can naturally happen
I'll be happy to start one up this spring. Maybe around March so it's going when babies arrive. Sound good to people?
And again, doesn't have to be me... If anyone else wants to do it, go for it!
I am with @cafedisco and think we should wait until March to even get things started. If we start it now, people will join who will fall off the face of the earth in a few weeks. If one was started now I would not join even if I personally waited until March because of the fact that there would be people who joined now that aren't active come our due dates but will be able to access a lot of your private information. Did no one see the Dr. Phil episode about the lady who was able to essentially steal the identity of two newborns because she was in a Facebook Baby group with the mom???
IMO, the facebook group should be left until we are much further along and have a steady and stable group of regular contributors.
IMO, the facebook group should be left until we are much further along and have a steady and stable group of regular contributors.
This makes me a little sad because I don't get on here more than once every week or so. Facebook is so much more user-friendly for me on my phone. Also, since I don't log in much, I don't post much, and even when I do I'm sure it's amidst others who are "regulars" and I just kinda skip in for a second and then I'm gone for a week again.
Baby 1 - November 2009 *loss* - March 2010 Baby 2 - January 2011 Baby 3 - June 2015 Baby 4 - April 2017 Baby 5 - May 2019
This is my third BMB so I will attest to the list of active members being vastly different 12 weeks post birth. The regs join a facebook group while still pregnant, then the lurkers start posting on TB and eventually they start a facebook group, and somewhere along the lines TB implodes with mass bannings and censorship and an exodus to an off-site occurs.
IVF/ICSI #1 - BFP, DS born Jan 2013
IVF/ICSI #2 - BFP, DD born Feb 2015 IVF FET - BFP, due April 2017
IMO, the facebook group should be left until we are much further along and have a steady and stable group of regular contributors.
This makes me a little sad because I don't get on here more than once every week or so. Facebook is so much more user-friendly for me on my phone. Also, since I don't log in much, I don't post much, and even when I do I'm sure it's amidst others who are "regulars" and I just kinda skip in for a second and then I'm gone for a week again.
I want a FB group for support NOW in addition to after the babes are born. This board is super slow and I feel like a fb group would be more active. People will drop in and out regardless of when it's started.
@cafedisco thank you for responding! I guess I would rather be a part of whichever one will be more active. I do have to say, I am on fb more often than on here. I didn't realize there was so much potential "drama" either. Hopefully if a fb group does get it started, it will be by an original member we know won't be going anywhere. I would hate to have so many people/posts/time invested into a fb group and see it disappear. I know it may seem silly to some, but TB eases my anxiety about being a FTM. I know i can ask questions, read and learn information, and get to know other beautiful women going through pregnancy and life right along with me. I look forward to posts and responses on here!
There are closed groups and secret groups too. The secret is so it can't be found in a search I believe or perhaps just 0 info is given in a search. i have a local mom's group that is always switching between the 2 depending on the size of the group.
I actually have a second facebook account I had to create for my information technology class that we could use as the "adding people" profile. Then you guys can just unfriend me after I added you to the group. My real name is really really generic, so I'm not really worried about being stalked or anything.
Baby 1 - November 2009 *loss* - March 2010 Baby 2 - January 2011 Baby 3 - June 2015 Baby 4 - April 2017 Baby 5 - May 2019
I'm not a fan of starting a FB group now. I really avoid using Facebook for anything other than staying in touch with real life friends and family. It isn't because I am super private or anything. I just like my safe little Facebook world. I never joined a FB group with my last BMB, even though I was very, very active there. I would consider joining a group in March or April, since that is when the BMB tends to really drop off. But, I definitely don't see a need for one now. So, I am definitely with the others who vote to wait.
Me: 28 year old SAHM/Birth Doula DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
Married: October 8, 2011
DD1: September 24, 2013 BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016 DD2: April 16, 2017 BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019
Re: Facebook group?
And again, doesn't have to be me... If anyone else wants to do it, go for it!
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My J13 FB group has been lifesaving for me and we have become an extremely tight night group. Our actual bump board died a few months after los were born which can naturally happen
I am with @cafedisco and think we should wait until March to even get things started. If we start it now, people will join who will fall off the face of the earth in a few weeks. If one was started now I would not join even if I personally waited until March because of the fact that there would be people who joined now that aren't active come our due dates but will be able to access a lot of your private information. Did no one see the Dr. Phil episode about the lady who was able to essentially steal the identity of two newborns because she was in a Facebook Baby group with the mom???
IMO, the facebook group should be left until we are much further along and have a steady and stable group of regular contributors.
Baby 1 - November 2009
*loss* - March 2010
Baby 2 - January 2011
Baby 3 - June 2015
Baby 4 - April 2017
Baby 5 - May 2019
IVF FET - BFP, due April 2017
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
There are closed groups and secret groups too. The secret is so it can't be found in a search I believe or perhaps just 0 info is given in a search.
i have a local mom's group that is always switching between the 2 depending on the size of the group.
Baby 1 - November 2009
*loss* - March 2010
Baby 2 - January 2011
Baby 3 - June 2015
Baby 4 - April 2017
Baby 5 - May 2019
DH: 30 year old pneumatic electrical engineer
BFP: June 25, 2016 and MC: July 3, 2016
DD2: April 16, 2017
BFP: November 30, 2018 EDD: August 14, 2019