me too but not quite yet - a lot of people still don't know and I want to tell them in person
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I was wondering if this would get brought up, I think my Nov14 started theirs earlier but I think if others wanted to wait until about midway that would be ok with a lot of members. I like having the FB group since it's harder for me to log into TB all the time.
I know there are facebook groups for March, and May already, and I was wondering when this was going to get brought up! I'm ready to join whenever it gets made!
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Honestly it feels late to start a fb group. TB is a pain to use so the sooner the better! Just because it exists doesn't mean it has to be visible to others, so those that haven't told people don't have to worry about it getting out.
I wouldn't mind joining. I feel like many of us have gotta to know each other (especially the super regular posters). Although, I'd still like to see the BMB be active...
Personally I'm on TB way more than FB because I'm fed up with FB and the drama and the election. Haha. But I would join. I would just hope TB stays active too.
I'd be willing to join a FB group. I joined the Feb 12 group and we've been going for almost 5 years. I regret not joining Oct 14 before everyone left.
I don't mean to be rude, but I wouldn't want to join a group started by someone I've yet to see post here...
I don't think it's too early or too late, but I know that it will decrease activity here, which is already slow. I'd be personally willing to join if it was with people I mostly recognized, but I'd be sad because I know that people will end up being left out since it's so early (my last BMB didn't go to FB until around the time the babies showed up and that worked out just fine).
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
I would be willing to join a fb group, but what is the difference between being in a group on there or on here? FTM here so maybe I just don't know the ins and outs of all this yet lol.
I would be willing to join a fb group, but what is the difference between being in a group on there or on here? FTM here so maybe I just don't know the ins and outs of all this yet lol.
FB is much less private, in general. Even if you don't "friend" people from the group, they could see some of your info and pics, depending on your settings (at least your full name that you use on FB). That's why I said I wouldn't join a group started by someone I hadn't known here first for a bit, like OP.
My last BMB's FB group was basically trolled, after being on the Bump for all of pregnancy and then a FB closed group for another 6 months or so. It was really rattling. I know you can never "know" a person online and I've made some great IRL friends from the group too, but I'd be at least slightly cautious before jumping in with folks that I'd never seen post here for a bit.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@SDSwenson I thought about that but I dont think so - think facebook is more for social stuff, this here is more about going into the details, symptoms, etc. I probably wouldnt want to post on facebook, with my name, that I am leaking pee! over here, I have no issue sharing
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
@SDSwenson I thought about that but I dont think so - think facebook is more for social stuff, this here is more about going into the details, symptoms, etc. I probably wouldnt want to post on facebook, with my name, that I am leaking pee! over here, I have no issue sharing
Everyone in the FB group would know who you are here though...so they would be able to figure it out. Is that what you mean? I don't know if it's always the same, but once my last group migrated the FB, the BMB all but died. A few people stuck around but most people left because FB is a lot easier to use
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco not really, I don't mind YOU GUYS knowing, but facebook is less private than this forum.. I would mind OTHERS knowing.
I agree with you though, I would join if all my bump "friends" would be in it, you, @HGRich@KirstinH88 and people whose names I know and see regularly. Wouldn't join if it was just a random person I never heard of.
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
@smallanimal I think we're on the exact same page. Usually, you can make a "Closed Group" (or maybe it's called a secret group?) so only people in the group can even see it exists and that you are part of it.
Honestly, if people are all for this thing, I'd rather be one of the ones starting it up, because, well, I know myself Or someone else who posts a lot would be cool too.
Me: 31 DH: 36 Married 5 years DD born 8/30/13 #2 expected 4/25/17
@cafedisco if you start it I'll join, but depending on what the majority wants, I am easy either way. Just not quite yet
Me: 35 year old FTM, a busy city banker living in London, and a constant worrier. My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever. Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!! Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I know there are facebook groups for March, and May already, and I was wondering when this was going to get brought up! I'm ready to join whenever it gets made!
Lurking from May. Just because a may fb group was started doesn't mean April has to follow suit just because they're ahead. A lot of us feel that the fb was started way too soon when some of us were still getting BFPs. Yesterday was the deadline to join and at least half of us are not even out of the first trimester, including myself. Those who have stuck around and will stay active, we plan to wait until closer to our due dates to create a more solid group since we will have gotten to know each other better then.
I agree with what a lot of other people have said. I would prefer to stay on TB for now. I'm a pretty private person so I don't post a lot of stuff on FB, so I like being able to say more private things here that I wouldn't say on FB. Plus I worry about Trolls like others have mentioned. I just hope if you guys do start a FB group that TB still stays active. I like coming on here. I can ask FTM questions without feeling silly! Just my thoughts.
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Count me in the group that would like to wait a bit. I don't want activity to die down around here (and I can't see how it wouldn't considering how easy and accessible FB is) and I'm honestly more comfortable with being anonymous at this point. I'd join one eventually though. It seems like there's a great deal of variation on BMBs about this but I'm comfortable with where we are as a group right now!
I guess I should add that if there is a Facebook group started, I think it would be best if it was a secret group so it can't be searched and maybe only add people that actually post on a fairly regular basis
Just curious, what type of stuff is usually discussed in the FB group? At least on TB there's an easy way to seek out relevant topics and updates on ones you're interested. I'm on FB, so I'm not opposed to there being a group, just as long as it's secret.
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I think everyone agrees it would be a secret group, no one from your normal group of friends would see anything you post so you wouldn't have to worry about any TMI's or other stuff. As far as trolls or the catfish, I believe the way my N14 group did it was 2-3 people were in charge of creating the group and then adding people to it. You'd have to pm them here for the add, the admins would friend you on FB and then within 24hrs they would add you to the group. I think they vetted requests on TB to make sure they weren't a first time poster or seemed suspicious or whatever, and then from their FB profile I'm sure they could tell whether or not someone was catfishing. They unfriended you once they added you to the group to protect their own profiles bc the only way to add to the secret group is to already be friends with the person, but some of us in my n14 are FB friends on our own now too after we had the babies.
This at least was my impression of how they did it but we could have our own system here to make everyone feel comfortable. I like the deadline idea though. Our bmb didn't die until the babies were born, then everyone pretty much switched to FB.
I don't use FB anymore, so I would be sad to see people go, as that tends to happen when people find FB easier to use than TB. My old BMB had a FB group that was GREAT, but people started trolling it and it eventually got deleted. No one went back to TB, so I felt like I lost a lot of my support group. My old BMB is DEAD and it's the same three special snowflake type posters, so I don't even go there anymore, haha. I would hate to see that with this group.
I would probably join a Facebook group closer to April. One of the reasons I joined TB was because it was more or less anonymous, and I can share things here that I wouldn't ever post on other forms of social media (Facebook, Instagram, etc). Also agree that I'd be hesitant to join a group stared by someone who isn't a regular poster here on TB first.
I'll change my vote to waiting. It does seem like an FB group is more useful closer to, and especially following birth. Right now, many of us don't have questions that need an immediate response (like, my 2 month old did X, what do I do?) so there isn't as much of a need for FB.
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Personally, I like my privacy... a lot. At this point I'm not interested in joining a Facebook group, but I probably would towards the end, assuming I feel I've made a connection with several of the people here. I always assumed the Facebook groups were created towards the end after babies were born and TB didn't seem as practical.
Re: Facebook group?
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My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
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Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
Baby 1 - November 2009
*loss* - March 2010
Baby 2 - January 2011
Baby 3 - June 2015
Baby 4 - April 2017
Baby 5 - May 2019
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
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Annabelle: 1-1-08
Patrick: 8-15-10
EDD: 4-20-17
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DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
I don't think it's too early or too late, but I know that it will decrease activity here, which is already slow. I'd be personally willing to join if it was with people I mostly recognized, but I'd be sad because I know that people will end up being left out since it's so early (my last BMB didn't go to FB until around the time the babies showed up and that worked out just fine).
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My last BMB's FB group was basically trolled, after being on the Bump for all of pregnancy and then a FB closed group for another 6 months or so. It was really rattling. I know you can never "know" a person online and I've made some great IRL friends from the group too, but I'd be at least slightly cautious before jumping in with folks that I'd never seen post here for a bit.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
I agree with you though, I would join if all my bump "friends" would be in it, you, @HGRich @KirstinH88 and people whose names I know and see regularly. Wouldn't join if it was just a random person I never heard of.
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
Honestly, if people are all for this thing, I'd rather be one of the ones starting it up, because, well, I know myself Or someone else who posts a lot would be cool too.
DH: 36
Married 5 years
DD born 8/30/13
#2 expected 4/25/17
My DH: French guy, car fanatic, best husband ever.
Our baby boy: Due on 17 April, currently 37 weeks. I can't believe it - I made it to full term!!!!
Last measurement: 3150 gs at 37+1! This is going to be a big baby
I just hope if you guys do start a FB group that TB still stays active. I like coming on here. I can ask FTM questions without feeling silly!
Just my thoughts.
Cautiously expecting April 5, 2017
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This at least was my impression of how they did it but we could have our own system here to make everyone feel comfortable. I like the deadline idea though. Our bmb didn't die until the babies were born, then everyone pretty much switched to FB.
DS--N14
Baby #2 EDD--4/16/17
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022