TLDR; I went to speak at an advocacy event in Boston a couple weeks ago that centered around issues like family homelessness, low income/poverty level families, lack of safe affordable housing/shelters for families, etc. I guess they're trying to pass a bill through the state house that will affect all of this stuff. A caseworker from my kids school strongly encouraged me to go and speak along with a few other moms in similar housing situations so I did.
Heres the rest (SUPER long)
It was humiliating to have to stand up and speak in front of that many people because A.) I feel extremely self conscious these days and just like a giant blob and B.) I can barely admit to people I've known my whole life IRL how shitty things have been and continue to be as far as housing/employment for us yet... there I was standing in front of a bunch of senators, legislators, lawyers, news reporters, directors of organizations that deal with families like mine etc. sharing all the details. It was intense. WTF.
I was so close to not getting up to speak as I was literally shaking, turning red, sweating bullets and could barely make eye contact with anyone, but somehow I got through it lol I was so shocked afterwards when I had a line of people who I would never expect to give me the time of day waiting to speak to me one on one. I was able to make some solid connections and H and I have had some very productive meetings with some of these individuals since then, but I still can't shake the feeling of being overexposed since that day.
I guess I need to get over it and let it go because it shouldn't be about pride at this point, but about doing whatever might benefit my little family (not because I'm looking for handouts, but because we're at the point where we really need help) and also to speak up for others who might never get that kind of an opportunity. Plus, I signed documents consenting to my "testimony and video footage" being used so there's that. I guess a part of me is still in shock because I'm the type who doesn't even have FB or who never participates in threads involving pictures. I prefer to be this faceless anonymous person lol and now I'm not. It's just so personal, so private and honestly, so embarrassing.
Both the professionals that were there that day and people IRL keep telling me how proud they are of me for doing that and how motivating and moving it was for them to hear, but I just don't see it like that. It just feels like I was up there telling a sob story even though it sadly was the truth. I would be lying if I said I wasn't praying something good comes out of this for my family because it will make it well worth it the mental discomfort it's causing me.
@Jab3 That is so powerful! I'm proud of you too! I can imagine how much that took out of you to be so vulnerable in front of a crowd of people, but I pray the best things come out of it. Pat yourself on the back! You stood for yourself and other families in similar situations and that is awesome!
Thank you @foxrosy! A word you used describes exactly how I feel- vulnerable. It's like I try to convince myself I'm the type that doesn't care about what others think, but that's bs because I have such a strong fear of being judged.
H's family not so much, but I come from a highly critical, judgmental, extremely high achieving immediate and extended family so I think I've really internalized that over the years and feel like a giant failure/disappointment. Thanks again for what you said though, as you're definitely someone on here who's opinion on things matters to me. You're also hilarious and I love that because when I'm in a shitty mood (which is often these days) I read some of your posts and practically piss myself laughing. How is your son doing btw? I remember reading about how you said he was having a tough time dealing with another kid and no one was really doing anything about it? I just posted recently in the MBF something about my kid getting tormented by another kid so I feel your pain. I really hope things are better now for your little guy.
Sorry everyone for such a heavy start to the randoms, but I figured you guys could take it
@Jab3 way to go!!!! First for just conquering your fear, but also for trying to change your own situation and try and expose/highlight the situations of many others.
I think many people find it hard to ask for help and see it as a weakness, but I view it as a strength. There is power in vulnerability. And you will likely always be amazed as the kindness of others once they are aware of situations.
Kudos to you. I hope this does change things for your family and I also hope it helps those in power out a real face to issues and hopefully they are inclined to get off their asses and do something!
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
Thank you @krob! That's exactly why I did what I did, for the reasons you stated. And you're right that I felt weak to admit my life is as it is right now, even though I know asking for help and admitting it's needed can be seen as more of a strength. And I was taken aback by how many of these people seemed to genuinely care. Thanks again for what you said.
I don't want people to think I'm trying to make this thread about me either, I just happened to be the first to post. I won't lie though, I do seek out a lot of support from you guys because I don't have much at all IRL and simply put, you guys are great at giving it to me. So I do like to share stuff here!
@Jab3 awww, your words really touched me! Thank you for saying that! I can relate to how you feel although I probably am the most accomplished out of my family. I still had higher hopes for myself and feel like I should have been further. I struggle with my own personal demons and tonight I was feeling pretty down. So there you go! You have touched and inspired another person tonight.
My son is doing better (thank you for remembering and asking). It's actually been a whirlwind of emotions and experiences with him. His pediatrician believed he was experiencing anxiety and referred him to a behavioral therapist. Man, did I feel like a failure of a parent! I ended up taking him, and we were able to identify the variety of stressors in his life (pregnant, father recently married, new school and then daily physical fights at school) and how to help him through them. My instincts told me a big factor was the school. I did decide to move him and I'm glad. I've taken him to visit the new school a few times to get acclimated a bit. The new school has an amazing sense of community and caring. When I turned in my two weeks notice to the school the only thing the director said was "Bummer". She never inquired as to why I was removing him or ask of any concerns. It cemented my feeling that this was not an appropriate environment for him. I've been spending more one on one time with my son, often keeping him home with me some days and he has stopped wetting himself during the days and night. His stutter has improved and his tantrums have decreased. It was heartbreaking to see him struggling with fear and anxiety. I'm glad I made the decision to move him.
Anyway that was pretty long! Sorry about that, like I said it's been an emotional night for me too! Thanks for cheering me up a bit @Jab3.
I'm so glad I was able to somehow make you feel a little better too @foxrosy. I'm also so glad to hear your son is doing better now! Good for you for getting him in to see someone so quickly, switching him to a way better school and somehow finding more time to spend with him! That just shows how much you care about him. Trust me I know, it's not easy at all getting your kid in to see those kinds of specialists/therapists either. And I'm thrilled you got him out of that other school. Fuck that place. He will be so much better off not being there, sounds like he already is! Excellent decision on your part. He's so lucky to have a mom like you.
I know there's nothing worse than seeing your child all pent up and anxious filled with worries because mine has been doing the same and it's awful. And with stuff going in life it's so easy to fall into the trap of blaming ourselves, I understand that. I just really don't think you should have to feel like that though because everything you say on here about your little guy reflects just how much you care about him and how you would do anything for him. It sounds like he's made such great improvements already and I hope things only continue to get better for you both!
@Jab3 you mentioned feeling failure but all i could see was enormous strength & courage. To stand up infront of so many people and share your life & to again share the deails of it with us here takes an awful lot more than many of us would ever be able to muster. I have so much respect for you & i sincerely hope that you can see how everyone who has read your story will see you & that there will be positive things come from your actions. Xxx
@Jab3 way to go! That wasn't easy, but you likely helped so many people with your words and testimony. I hope you'll be able to put the tough feelings behind you and feel proud, or at least content, with what you did, and I hope that it leads to good things for your family.
@foxrosy so glad your son is doing better! Seems like it was a good case of trusting your intuition working out perfectly.
As for me, just got back from our fourth wedding weekend of the year. All were fun, but I feel so free that they are finally over and our time and money is our own once again!
@krob our first leg was delayed bc of fog and that was going to make us miss our connection in Dublin. So they stuck us on this flight. Otherwise, it was very good!
Bah... my test results came in on the online system they have for Gestational Diabetes, I am at 143, grr.... reading online it says I should be under 140. So close... I do not have time for the 3 hour test, I need all my sick hours for after the baby is born. Tomorrow I will go in to talk to the doctor about the numbers.
It's my birthday, and I'm sitting at work. Why do I never think to take my birthday off? The best birthday present I could have given myself would have been sleeping in this morning!
Happy Birthday @WinchesterGirl! What a fun birthday day! Hope you get to do something awesome.
So I am not the sharpest tool in the shed and scheduled my glucose test for tomorrow morning. Implying that pigging out on candy tonight would be a bad idea. By far my biggest pregnancy brain oops so far! Maybe a piece or two with a healthy dinner on the early side? I have the non fasting version but caution with my eating today still seems prudent to get the most accurate result.
@Jab3 leaving ones comfort zone is never easy. Way to go! I know that you made an impression on That audience.
@foxrosy im glad your son is doing better! Sounds like these were great changes for him. Anxiety is hard! He's lucky to have such a good momma!
@skiingstark that's about what I failed at both times. The ideal number depends as on the practice our local high risk doctor wants it under like 130 or something. Most doctors will allow you to test your BS at home 4 times a day for a set period of time. This is the option I have gone with both times. I had GD with my first, but it appears I just have a sugar sensitivity here with my second. (I have a sugar issue of some kind when not pregnant). It sucks to have to take it but most women do pass the 3 hour test!! I wish you the best!
@Jab3 Congratulations on overcoming your fears. You have opened the doors for meaningful discussion and a possible opportunity for a better life for you and everyone else.
So I have a 'hypothetical'... you know asking for a friend
DH has been complaining about his ipad for a looong time and it needs to be replaced (ipad 2), so I was thinking for Christmas and his Bday (Jan) I could get him one. We have separate accounts that we get "allowance" money every payday $150.00, and normally we buy each other gifts from our own spending accounts. There is no way I will be able to save up and buy the whole thing myself... so I have come up with a scheme... So I do the weekly grocery shopping for the family, the budget is set at $100.00 a week. I never spend that amount on groceries, so I was thinking about buy small amounts on gift cards to target and then when it gets close to Christmas I may have close to half of the cost of the new ipad and then pay the rest myself. I know he really wants the ipad and he has considered getting it himself and if I tell him the plan he will tell me know and that he will buy it.
@jab3 what an amazing story! I am so glad you went thru withit.
@Winchestergirl Happy Birthday!!! Why do we do the birthday thing to ourselves?? I made my daughters ear tubes appointment for 8am on my birthday in a few weeks... greaaat... early... carsick child and on my own... yippee happy bday to me... heres some barf...
@FishyMom, no you're not terrible at all for doing that!!
But how in the world do you only spend $100 a week on groceries?!?!
I am a budget shopper I suppose. Yesterday I spent $86.00 and that included my first target GC installment of $15. I am also a couponer and I plan my meals based around what is on sale at my favorite grocery store. It does make me wonder.. how much is normal spending at the grocery store??
@FishyMom, no you're not terrible at all for doing that!!
But how in the world do you only spend $100 a week on groceries?!?!
I am a budget shopper I suppose. Yesterday I spent $86.00 and that included my first target GC installment of $15. I am also a couponer and I plan my meals based around what is on sale at my favorite grocery store. It does make me wonder.. how much is normal spending at the grocery store??
Wow that's amazing!!!! I spent $230 yesterday. This week we have all 3 kids (stepkids every other week) so I tend to spend about $40 more on those weeks, but I am always right around $200!!!
@jab3 Kudos to you for having the courage to speak of your experience, it took a ton of strength to do so. For what it's worth, I think it's beneficial for us as a society, to speak of the issues that many people do have but no one wants to talk about.
@starfish113 my jaw literally dropped!! I am sure as the kids get older that amount will increase dramatically, thank goodness I'm not having a boy! This weeks was abnormally low due to my husband traveling and not having to make dinner at home for 2 nights this week.
@starfish113 my jaw literally dropped!! I am sure as the kids get older that amount will increase dramatically, thank goodness I'm not having a boy! This weeks was abnormally low due to my husband traveling and not having to make dinner at home for 2 nights this week.
I'm sure there is a way for me to cut back, I just don't know how. I make lunches for me and DH, and all three kids so that adds to it. And I get enough to cook a meal every night except Friday because we do pizza. I just feel like we go through so much!!!
@starfish113 my jaw literally dropped!! I am sure as the kids get older that amount will increase dramatically, thank goodness I'm not having a boy! This weeks was abnormally low due to my husband traveling and not having to make dinner at home for 2 nights this week.
I'm sure there is a way for me to cut back, I just don't know how. I make lunches for me and DH, and all three kids so that adds to it. And I get enough to cook a meal every night except Friday because we do pizza. I just feel like we go through so much!!!
I was just talking to another friend of mine about how I shop too. I normally will take the weekly add and plan my meals around that and normally for lunches the next day I double dinner (or whatever I need) and its leftovers the next day. I also like to stick to Mon - Casserole, Tuesday - Traditional dinner (pork chops, spaghetti, etc) Wed - crockpot, Thu - Freezer meal or another traditional (sometimes I double the casserole and stick one in the freezer for a rotating freezer meal stash) and Friday - Grill or out. My DD is 2, and I have to send snacks and lunch to school but its normally not much so that may be the difference there.
@starfish113 my jaw literally dropped!! I am sure as the kids get older that amount will increase dramatically, thank goodness I'm not having a boy! This weeks was abnormally low due to my husband traveling and not having to make dinner at home for 2 nights this week.
I'm sure there is a way for me to cut back, I just don't know how. I make lunches for me and DH, and all three kids so that adds to it. And I get enough to cook a meal every night except Friday because we do pizza. I just feel like we go through so much!!!
I was just talking to another friend of mine about how I shop too. I normally will take the weekly add and plan my meals around that and normally for lunches the next day I double dinner (or whatever I need) and its leftovers the next day. I also like to stick to Mon - Casserole, Tuesday - Traditional dinner (pork chops, spaghetti, etc) Wed - crockpot, Thu - Freezer meal or another traditional (sometimes I double the casserole and stick one in the freezer for a rotating freezer meal stash) and Friday - Grill or out. My DD is 2, and I have to send snacks and lunch to school but its normally not much so that may be the difference there.
I take leftovers on the weeks its just us and DD. But when I'm feeding 5, we rarely have leftovers!! So I usually make salads on those weeks. I do the crockpot at least twice a week to save myself work
Man, I would love to have a grocery budget that low @FishyMom, and there are only 2 of us! We do try to eat organic/unprocessed, so that definitely bumps it up. As part of our attempts to cut back for the baby budget, we're planning to try out BJs in November to hopefully save some.
@Jab3 Good for you for sharing your story! I don't think I'd have been able to do something so brave like that.
@fishymom I could never spend under 100! That's amazing! We don't eat out a lot because we don't have options to but I normally spend about 150. Then I realize I've forgotten something or decide I need to go back and spend another 50 or so. Me and my husband eat a lot of food for two pretty small people.
So I wrote in symptoms about weird leg cramping/pain when I'm walking. It got to the point where I decided to call in. I've spoken with three different people so far and my situation seems to be traveling up the food chain each time I get a call back. Eek
And I was complaining yesterday that I spent $100 at the grocery store! Maybe it is a cost of living difference, but I am usually able to stay around $75-100. We also usually get some kind of take out once or twice a week depending on our schedules. I try to shop the sales and stock up on our staples anytime they are at their lowest price
@jab3 that's amazing. I hate public speaking at all so I can't even imagine doing it about something so personal. How brave.
@WinchesterGirl happy birthday friend!! we will eat candy in your honor.
@FishyMom that's the opposite of a crappy wife. Your "friends" husband better have all the feels. We do the allowance too! And I'm so impressed with your food budget. My H eats that much on his weekly binge day.
Our grocery budget is $100 per week for 3 of us but DD barely eats no matter what I try. This is a comfortable number for us and I'm not at all looking forward to when our growing family gets to the point that it will go up significantly
@fishymom we do about $75/week on groceries but I would love to even bump it up to 100 or 125... when someone gets left out of a "goody" I decided my husband can bite the bullet. He came up with the grocery budget and I think it sucks lol. But I think if you are able to shave off a little and he never notices, it's a good plan. Unless he questions where the extra money came from, would he be upset?
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Heres the rest (SUPER long)
It was humiliating to have to stand up and speak in front of that many people because A.) I feel extremely self conscious these days and just like a giant blob and B.) I can barely admit to people I've known my whole life IRL how shitty things have been and continue to be as far as housing/employment for us yet... there I was standing in front of a bunch of senators, legislators, lawyers, news reporters, directors of organizations that deal with families like mine etc. sharing all the details. It was intense. WTF.
I was so close to not getting up to speak as I was literally shaking, turning red, sweating bullets and could barely make eye contact with anyone, but somehow I got through it lol I was so shocked afterwards when I had a line of people who I would never expect to give me the time of day waiting to speak to me one on one. I was able to make some solid connections and H and I have had some very productive meetings with some of these individuals since then, but I still can't shake the feeling of being overexposed since that day.
I guess I need to get over it and let it go because it shouldn't be about pride at this point, but about doing whatever might benefit my little family (not because I'm looking for handouts, but because we're at the point where we really need help) and also to speak up for others who might never get that kind of an opportunity. Plus, I signed documents consenting to my "testimony and video footage" being used so there's that. I guess a part of me is still in shock because I'm the type who doesn't even have FB or who never participates in threads involving pictures. I prefer to be this faceless anonymous person lol and now I'm not. It's just so personal, so private and honestly, so embarrassing.
Both the professionals that were there that day and people IRL keep telling me how proud they are of me for doing that and how motivating and moving it was for them to hear, but I just don't see it like that. It just feels like I was up there telling a sob story even though it sadly was the truth. I would be lying if I said I wasn't praying something good comes out of this for my family because it will make it well worth it the mental discomfort it's causing me.
H's family not so much, but I come from a highly critical, judgmental, extremely high achieving immediate and extended family so I think I've really internalized that over the years and feel like a giant failure/disappointment. Thanks again for what you said though, as you're definitely someone on here who's opinion on things matters to me. You're also hilarious and I love that because when I'm in a shitty mood (which is often these days) I read some of your posts and practically piss myself laughing. How is your son doing btw? I remember reading about how you said he was having a tough time dealing with another kid and no one was really doing anything about it? I just posted recently in the MBF something about my kid getting tormented by another kid so I feel your pain. I really hope things are better now for your little guy.
Sorry everyone for such a heavy start to the randoms, but I figured you guys could take it
I think many people find it hard to ask for help and see it as a weakness, but I view it as a strength. There is power in vulnerability. And you will likely always be amazed as the kindness of others once they are aware of situations.
Kudos to you. I hope this does change things for your family and I also hope it helps those in power out a real face to issues and hopefully they are inclined to get off their asses and do something!
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
I don't want people to think I'm trying to make this thread about me either, I just happened to be the first to post. I won't lie though, I do seek out a lot of support from you guys because I don't have much at all IRL and simply put, you guys are great at giving it to me. So I do like to share stuff here!
@krob, how was your trip to London?
My son is doing better (thank you for remembering and asking). It's actually been a whirlwind of emotions and experiences with him. His pediatrician believed he was experiencing anxiety and referred him to a behavioral therapist. Man, did I feel like a failure of a parent! I ended up taking him, and we were able to identify the variety of stressors in his life (pregnant, father recently married, new school and then daily physical fights at school) and how to help him through them. My instincts told me a big factor was the school. I did decide to move him and I'm glad. I've taken him to visit the new school a few times to get acclimated a bit. The new school has an amazing sense of community and caring. When I turned in my two weeks notice to the school the only thing the director said was "Bummer". She never inquired as to why I was removing him or ask of any concerns. It cemented my feeling that this was not an appropriate environment for him. I've been spending more one on one time with my son, often keeping him home with me some days and he has stopped wetting himself during the days and night. His stutter has improved and his tantrums have decreased. It was heartbreaking to see him struggling with fear and anxiety. I'm glad I made the decision to move him.
Anyway that was pretty long! Sorry about that, like I said it's been an emotional night for me too! Thanks for cheering me up a bit @Jab3.
I know there's nothing worse than seeing your child all pent up and anxious filled with worries because mine has been doing the same and it's awful. And with stuff going in life it's so easy to fall into the trap of blaming ourselves, I understand that. I just really don't think you should have to feel like that though because everything you say on here about your little guy reflects just how much you care about him and how you would do anything for him. It sounds like he's made such great improvements already and I hope things only continue to get better for you both!
@foxrosy so glad your son is doing better! Seems like it was a good case of trusting your intuition working out perfectly.
As for me, just got back from our fourth wedding weekend of the year. All were fun, but I feel so free that they are finally over and our time and money is our own once again!
@Jab3 thanks for asking. london was amazing and relaxing. even without the beer and wine. lol
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
It's freezing cold here with strong winds and I gotta take DS trick or treating.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
I'll start with a confession. I've already stolen 4 fun size candies from the Halloween bowl and scarfed them before even getting my coffee :-)
@Jab3 that was very brave and admirable to try and make a difference for so many.
@WinchesterGirl happy birthday! Any chance of getting out early for a little time for yourself??
So I am not the sharpest tool in the shed and scheduled my glucose test for tomorrow morning. Implying that pigging out on candy tonight would be a bad idea. By far my biggest pregnancy brain oops so far! Maybe a piece or two with a healthy dinner on the early side? I have the non fasting version but caution with my eating today still seems prudent to get the most accurate result.
@foxrosy im glad your son is doing better! Sounds like these were great changes for him. Anxiety is hard! He's lucky to have such a good momma!
@skiingstark that's about what I failed at both times. The ideal number depends as on the practice our local high risk doctor wants it under like 130 or something. Most doctors will allow you to test your BS at home 4 times a day for a set period of time. This is the option I have gone with both times. I had GD with my first, but it appears I just have a sugar sensitivity here with my second. (I have a sugar issue of some kind when not pregnant). It sucks to have to take it but most women do pass the 3 hour test!! I wish you the best!
@foxrosy I'm soooo glad your son is doing better
and Happy Birthday @WinchesterGirl!!!
Happy birthday ,I hope it is a great one !! @WinchesterGirl
So I have a 'hypothetical'... you know asking for a friend
DH has been complaining about his ipad for a looong time and it needs to be replaced (ipad 2), so I was thinking for Christmas and his Bday (Jan) I could get him one. We have separate accounts that we get "allowance" money every payday $150.00, and normally we buy each other gifts from our own spending accounts. There is no way I will be able to save up and buy the whole thing myself... so I have come up with a scheme... So I do the weekly grocery shopping for the family, the budget is set at $100.00 a week. I never spend that amount on groceries, so I was thinking about buy small amounts on gift cards to target and then when it gets close to Christmas I may have close to half of the cost of the new ipad and then pay the rest myself. I know he really wants the ipad and he has considered getting it himself and if I tell him the plan he will tell me know and that he will buy it.
Thoughts? Am I a terrible wife if I do this?
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
@jab3 what an amazing story! I am so glad you went thru withit.
@Winchestergirl Happy Birthday!!! Why do we do the birthday thing to ourselves?? I made my daughters ear tubes appointment for 8am on my birthday in a few weeks... greaaat... early... carsick child and on my own... yippee happy bday to me... heres some barf...
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
But how in the world do you only spend $100 a week on groceries?!?!
I am a budget shopper I suppose. Yesterday I spent $86.00 and that included my first target GC installment of $15.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
@WinchesterGirl Happy birthday!!!!
@foxrosy I'm glad he's doing better!
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
I was just talking to another friend of mine about how I shop too. I normally will take the weekly add and plan my meals around that and normally for lunches the next day I double dinner (or whatever I need) and its leftovers the next day. I also like to stick to Mon - Casserole, Tuesday - Traditional dinner (pork chops, spaghetti, etc) Wed - crockpot, Thu - Freezer meal or another traditional (sometimes I double the casserole and stick one in the freezer for a rotating freezer meal stash) and Friday - Grill or out. My DD is 2, and I have to send snacks and lunch to school but its normally not much so that may be the difference there.
ET 9/10 - transferred 1 perfect 5AA blast
7dp5dt BFP ~~ Beta on 9/19 - 77.4 Beta #2 on 9/21 - 357
Low heartbeat on 10/7 86, lower heartbeat on 10/11 76, no heartbeat 10/14/13. D&C 10/15/13
Tests revealed MTHFR c677t mutation, put on Folgard.
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FET #1 1/6/14 - 4BB blast - BFN
@FishyMom i think thats a good idea and ultimately he gets the present he wants without having to pay for it himself.
Thank you ladies for all the birthday wishes!
@Jab3 Good for you for sharing your story! I don't think I'd have been able to do something so brave like that.
@fishymom I could never spend under 100! That's amazing! We don't eat out a lot because we don't have options to but I normally spend about 150. Then I realize I've forgotten something or decide I need to go back and spend another 50 or so. Me and my husband eat a lot of food for two pretty small people.
So I wrote in symptoms about weird leg cramping/pain when I'm walking. It got to the point where I decided to call in. I've spoken with three different people so far and my situation seems to be traveling up the food chain each time I get a call back. Eek
@WinchesterGirl happy birthday friend!!
@FishyMom that's the opposite of a crappy wife. Your "friends" husband better have all the feels. We do the allowance too! And I'm so impressed with your food budget. My H eats that much on his weekly binge day.