Worst Date

flyingncmama · October 2016

Such a slow board this weekend, so tell us about your worst date.

Mine was in high school. I sat in the backseat of a car in a bowling alley parking lot with my boyfriend. He went to plant a kiss on me and the next thing I knew his tongue was all over my teeth and gums. I've been turned off to tongue kissing ever since.

tmrussell · October 2016

That made me laugh!! I don't have any good stories I can think of.

keniialise · October 2016

My first make out kiss was highly similar to your story @flyingncmama I absolutely refused to "make out" for years following.

Jendink · October 2016

I had been trying my hand at online dating when I was in my mid 20s. (A little back story-I'm a HUGE St.Louis Cardinals fan!) the all star game was in St Louis and I agreed to meet up with this guy at a
bar just for a drink. Around the same time I met up with the guy, a (guy)friend of mine had text me about having tickets to the celebrity game and home run derby the next day (Of course I wanted to go) While I explained to him what was going on, he seemed understanding and so I text the friend back a few times. Then this dude got pissy, threw a fit, called me a bitch and a horrible person then left me alone at a bar. I was kind of in shock but laughed it off. He then had the balls to text me and continue to call me nasty names and that I'm an awful person. Needless to
say there was no second date and I was forced to block his number. He was kind of a psycho. But I had a blast at the celebrity game and HR derby the next day !!! Lol

mamaraffe · October 2016

A guy I had been talking to asked if I wanted to go caving. I had never been and it sounded like fun, let she go look at stalagmites and stuff right? Well turns out his mom was meeting us there and it had been raining so everything was muddy and slippery. They started equipping us with knee pads, helmets with little flossy lights, thing jackets, etc... red flag. Wtf is happening? Turns out I wasn't just observing, I was being asked to shimmy and crawl into the smallest spaces. With the rain water was pouring in and there was about an inch of water on the grounds. At one point the wall was at my back and an inch from my face and I had a panic attack and started freaking out and asking to leave. He was behind me and kept pushing me further into the cave. I wanted to vomit on his face. Eventually the tour guide recognized I was 3 seconds from passing out and trapping everybody and demanded my date back out and let me through. I never talked to him again.

NamelessAria · October 2016

The worst date I went on was a blind date a friend set up. She insisted the guy was good looking, charming and we'd hit it off. She said he was a decent guy from a good family etc and so I was like "sure, why not?" and went along with it.

He was fairly good looking and charming. And he'd planned a pretty romantic date. Everything was going pretty well till he suggested we go for a walk along a river in a park because "a moonlit walk down the river will be romantic!" It was a public park and there were some other couples around so it seemed innocent enough. We somehow ended up a long way from everyone else out in some woods along the river. I then realize the guy has a gun with him. I ask why he has a gun and he gives me some "oh it's to protect us in case we come across some unseemly character out here." I was young and naive and thought "makes sense. good plan!" He just acted really strange about the whole thing though. I should have known something was off. Things got really awkward and then he abruptly said we should head back. We went back to his car, he took me home and that was that. I wasn't sure what had happened but the next time I saw him I suspect he slipped something into my drink. Once he was convinced I was far enough gone to not remember anything he confessed he'd been planning on taking me out into the woods and killing me and then dumping my body in the river. He said I'd been too nice to him and he couldn't bring himself to do it. From his body language and tone of voice I'm pretty sure he was serious. He called me the next day and cryptically asked what I remembered from our talk. I said something like "it's really weird. I don't remember anything at all after I drank that Pepsi you gave me. I must have been more tired than I thought I was and fell asleep or something. Sorry about that. I'm a boring date!" Ya know because I didn't want to say "Yeah I remember you drugging me and then confessing you had planned to kill me." Somehow that didn't seem smart. Needless to say that relationship didn't go anywhere and I refused to do anymore blind dates suggested by the friend that had set me up with that guy.

babytuck15 · October 2016

Uhhh I think @NamelessAria wins this one.

I honestly have have never been on a terrible date.

lmc929 · October 2016

@NamelessAria that is terrifying!

Sirius37 · October 2016

@NamlessAria What. The. Eff. I hope you warned your friend about that psycho!!

Hmmm, worst date. Well, I remember I went on a first date to a haunted house (around Halloween time) with a guy and the whole time it's like he was trying to play up how "scary" everything was and having me hold his hand which was annoying because it made me feel like I was supposed to play the scared little girl role or something. When we got back out to the parking lot he made the whole first-kiss-move and it was not good. All I could think about was that it was how I imagined kissing a parrot would feel like. Ugh.

NamelessAria · October 2016

Sirius37 said:

**SNIP**
All I could think about was that it was how I imagined kissing a parrot would feel like. Ugh.

That is amazing. I totally got a good laugh out of that phrasing.

silliegirlie143 · October 2016

@NamelessAria Like WHOA!! That sounds like a story from one of the true crime shows

My worst date was a guy I met at a party. He knew a friend of mine (came to find out he was some random dude in her class, not someone she actually KNEW) so I agreed to go out with him.

He picked me up for dinner and we had a nice time. Good conversation, but no real connection. He called me the next day to set up a 2nd date and I declined. That's when the switch flipped. He wouldn't take no for an answer. He left flowers and a mix cd with an I Love You card at my apartment. He would leave voicemails where he'd cry and ask what he did wrong. He would show up at my work and follow me around the store telling me that the sappy Muzak that was playing was written for us.

One day while I was waiting to catch the bus for work he pulled up to the stop and told me to get in the car. I wouldn't so he tried to get out of the car to make me get in. Thanks goodness the bus pulled up just then! I jumped aboard and told the bus driver that the crazy dude was trying to kidnap me. She called the cops on him but he took off. That was the last I heard from him.

I would randomly see him around campus but thankfully never had to talk to him again

Wino0920 · October 2016

NamelessAria said:

The worst date I went on was a blind date a friend set up. She insisted the guy was good looking, charming and we'd hit it off. She said he was a decent guy from a good family etc and so I was like "sure, why not?" and went along with it.

He was fairly good looking and charming. And he'd planned a pretty romantic date. Everything was going pretty well till he suggested we go for a walk along a river in a park because "a moonlit walk down the river will be romantic!" It was a public park and there were some other couples around so it seemed innocent enough. We somehow ended up a long way from everyone else out in some woods along the river. I then realize the guy has a gun with him. I ask why he has a gun and he gives me some "oh it's to protect us in case we come across some unseemly character out here." I was young and naive and thought "makes sense. good plan!" He just acted really strange about the whole thing though. I should have known something was off. Things got really awkward and then he abruptly said we should head back. We went back to his car, he took me home and that was that. I wasn't sure what had happened but the next time I saw him I suspect he slipped something into my drink. Once he was convinced I was far enough gone to not remember anything he confessed he'd been planning on taking me out into the woods and killing me and then dumping my body in the river. He said I'd been too nice to him and he couldn't bring himself to do it. From his body language and tone of voice I'm pretty sure he was serious. He called me the next day and cryptically asked what I remembered from our talk. I said something like "it's really weird. I don't remember anything at all after I drank that Pepsi you gave me. I must have been more tired than I thought I was and fell asleep or something. Sorry about that. I'm a boring date!" Ya know because I didn't want to say "Yeah I remember you drugging me and then confessing you had planned to kill me." Somehow that didn't seem smart. Needless to say that relationship didn't go anywhere and I refused to do anymore blind dates suggested by the friend that had set me up with that guy.

Wait and did you tell someone?? What if he did this to someone else?!?!? This has to be a lie. I'm not buying this that you just went along with life. Sucks for the next girl huh?

JessErinF · October 2016

I also did the online dating thing during and shortly after college. Met my hubby online actually! Success!!! Certainly met my fair share of weirdos. One guy wanted to marry me after the first date. One guy didn't tell me until our first date that he had been in an accident and couldn't talk (wouldn't have been a big deal, but why not just tell me?). but the worst was a 2nd date.

This guy and I hit it off so well chatting online and on the phone for a couple weeks. I was hooked! We planned a first date and it was terrible and boring and just awkward and awful. i told myself oh everyone is nervous for the first date. Second date, invited him to my dorm to watch a movie. He turned down every single movie i owned ( i was like omg just pick something...) so i told him to make himself comfortable and went on my computer to look up TV guide. Turned around and he was laying on my bed with no pants on. I was like ummm i think you should go...

brij2006 · October 2016

H and I actually started dating in High School, so I didn't really have dates outside of him and they were good.
However, there was a stint of time in college where we broke up. I traveled abroad to London for 6 weeks and met a guy there. He was pretty awesome and we hit it off really well. Ended up kissing on a night out with a group of friends and made plans for a date the next day.
Got to his place that next morning so we could head to Buckingham Palace to watch changing of the guards (yeah, it was pretty romantic). I went into his place and he had just done laundry, so he had clotheslines hanging all over his place and was hanging up his boxers on them. Um, okay, but weird. It was a studio apartment, so small, but I shrugged it off. Then on the date we were getting to know each other. Favorite movie, TV show, hobby, etc. He didn't like anything I did and his favorite hobby was taxidermy. Okay, I know what that is, so just like to hunt and process your own meat? Nope, he enjoyed cutting open animals, skinning them, and processing the meat. Didn't even like hunting. He didn't even do this as a service for hunters to get paid for. Ummmm, okay. I grew up on a farm and helped process rabbits and chickens, so this isn't anything I get squeamish about but it's most definitely not something I enjoy. But once he learned that I had done it to smaller animals on the farm, he started talking about how differently the skin separates on the different animals and how cool it is.
Yeah, I was instantly turned off from there. I couldn't get past that he probably got off on processing wild animals.

Assiram42 · October 2016

Uhhh @namelessAria, I am glad he didn't murder you...:o

NamelessAria · October 2016

@Wino0920 I was young (17) and really stupid. I'd been home-schooled and was just super naive to how the world worked. I told my mother and my friend who set up the blind date. My friend had no idea what I should do other than no see the guy again. My mother told me that the guy was from a rich, influential family in town and his dad was some big-shot lawyer so there wouldn't be any point in reporting it. She said it would just bring shame to our family and since I didn't have any proof it would never go anywhere. It would be my word against his and his fancy lawyer. So I just let it go.

He may have been joking and I didn't recognize the joke. I mean, he obviously didn't murder me so I'll never know for sure.

ETA: On a lighter note my worst "normal" date was in college when this guy I'd had friendzoned for awhile convinced me to give him a chance once we were finally both single. He took me to Hooters and spent the entire time we were eating dinner going on and on about how sexy our waitress was and how much he liked her large breasts. I had very small breasts at the time (34A) and it was a sre subject for me. Then after dinner we went to a haunted house (it was around Halloween) and he felt the need to tell me how incredibly sexy every other large breasted girl we saw was. At the end of the night he tried to kiss me and like some others have mentioned it was just being attacked by way too much sloppy tongue. I decided he made a far better friend than date.

Wino0920 · October 2016

NamelessAria said:

@Wino0920 I was young (17) and really stupid. I'd been home-schooled and was just super naive to how the world worked. I told my mother and my friend who set up the blind date. My friend had no idea what I should do other than no see the guy again. My mother told me that the guy was from a rich, influential family in town and his dad was some big-shot lawyer so there wouldn't be any point in reporting it. She said it would just bring shame to our family and since I didn't have any proof it would never go anywhere. It would be my word against his and his fancy lawyer. So I just let it go.

He may have been joking and I didn't recognize the joke. I mean, he obviously didn't murder me so I'll never know for sure.

There is just so much wrong with this. I can't even wrap my head around it.

first: your mother?!? Smh!!!!

Second: you weren't too stupid to think of telling him you didn't remember and getting yourself out of it.

Third: he drugged you. One trip to the doctors/re and boom your proof. Even if you couldn't prove the killing part, he still drugged you.

I just feel bad for all the girls before and after you. And their families.

None of this adds up and I'm praying and hoping that you fabricated a story for a bunch of internet strangers.

Elyse1384 · October 2016

Worst date was definitely with DH. We began dating in college and lets just say on our first date he drank wayyyy to much. I could tell he was nervous (he had liked me for some time and we knew each other for a year prior), but I think he tried to give himself some liquid courage and it backfired. After struggling to get him back to my apartment so that he could sleep it off or call a cab, he proceeded to spend the next 3 hours in my bathroom. A bathroom shared with my roommate. Very gross and I won't unsettle our stomachs more than necessary since most here are feeling nauseous anyway. Luckily my roommate and I distracted ourselves from the awkwardness with a movie. To this day I enjoy ribbing him about it.

lmc929 · October 2016

@wino0920 I was sexually assaulted in high school and didn't report it. Unfortunately, just because something happened and you may have some proof doesn't mean that we all tell the police. Hope there were no girls after me either.

Also, sounds like @NamelessAriasaw him slip something in her drink and clearly had a better recollection than he intended her to have - sounds like she didn't really drink it so there goes the proof.

Wino0920 · October 2016

lmc929 said:

@wino0920 I was sexually assaulted in high school and didn't report it. Unfortunately, just because something happened and you may have some proof doesn't mean that we all tell the police. Hope there were no girls after me either.

Also, sounds like @NamelessAriasaw him slip something in her drink and clearly had a better recollection than he intended her to have - sounds like she didn't really drink it so there goes the proof.

Just because you didn't report it, doesn't make it right.

and no she suspected he did the next time she saw him????? No where does she say she saw him do it and she drank it because she says "he suspected I was too far gone!"

The story just doesnt add up.

hjphillips · October 2016

My worst date was... a date that I didn't know was a date. I had this friend who had this huge creepy crush on me (got to the point that he told me that "God said we're going to be married" and I stopped talking to him), to keep the peace in our group of friends, I was friendly with the guy.

Im a pretty independent person, and one day he had texted me to ask what I was up to, so I told him. I was going to go see a movie I wanted to see. I was indeed planning on going alone. He was all "cool! I've been wanting to see that one too, can I come along?" Like. Sure. I don't see why not.

We get there, dude insists on buying my ticket. Weird, but not unheard of. I figured he was just trying to be nice and save some time, so I bought some popcorn and soda and called it even. Still had no clue he was intending for this to be a date until he tried to kiss me in the middle of the movie. Dude grabbed my head and started turning it, I was like "bro. I'm watching the movie here. Stop."

It was really awkward and I didn't talk to him for the longest time, but since he was close with my brother, he was obviously kind of hard to ignore.

lmc929 · October 2016

@Wino0920 sounds like good old victim blaming to me...

hjphillips · October 2016

@Wino0920 coming from a former homeschooler myself, I think you're really underestimating just how niave a really sheltered kid can be. She said she was homeschooled, and I don't know, I'm just assuming, but a lot of people homeschool for religious reasons. I have friends who were homeschooled that the only place they ever went was church until they were 16-17 and allowed to date. No joke.

Xath · October 2016

One time a date asked me to duck down and hide in his car as we were driving through the part of town where his mom worked.

kfry22 · October 2016

I went on a drive in movie date once in high school. We watched the last Harry Potter movie. I was super into it. The boy, not so much. I sat there watching the whole thing, barley blinking, and definitely not talking. When the movie was over, he touched my arm and said, "wake up." I told him that I had been awake the whole movie. He said no, that I wasn't because he could hear me snoring. He said, "your nose makes the cutest snort sounds ever." Um, no. I don't snore. And especially not during Harry Potter.

NamelessAria · October 2016

@Wino0920 I clearly made a mistake choosing that date to share. I should have chosen something more lighthearted and humorous since that was more the idea behind this thread anyhow. I don't know I guess when I read "worst date" that's just what stood out to me as the worst date I've been on. I didn't think after all this time it would bother me to have people say I'm making it all up but turns out it really still upsets me. So I'll say this and hopefully put this to rest: I'm not making it up but I don't fault you for thinking I am. I realize the whole thing sounds.... strange. I may not believe the story if someone else told it to me. You're probably correct that by not trying to pursue legal action I made the wrong choice because what if he did something to some other girl later on. What if someday someone didn't get as lucky as I did. I made what I felt like was my only real choice at the time since not one single person told me to pursue legal action. I trusted my mother to make a good decision for me regarding all that since she knew more about the legal system than I did. If she said no one would believe me and it wouldn't do any good then in my mind no one would believe me and it wouldn't do any good. If I could go back I'd make different decisions. I don't think the outcome would have been different because I had no evidence and my story sounds... questionable. But at least I'd be able to say I tried and did what I could to stop that guy from hurting anyone in the future. If he hurt some other girl later on and I found out I'd feel really bad for the girl and her family. And I'd probably feel pretty guilty for not having made better decisions. But it doesn't change the poor decisions I made at the time and that's on me.

So, everyone, I'm sorry I brought this up. I'll stop being the rain cloud on what should be a fun thread.

swanbrooner · October 2016

This isn't quite a date, but a strange encounter with a male nonetheless.

I lived in Chicago for awhile in my very early 20s after living the small time life for, well, all of my life.

I had just had my heart broken, so I was more than excited when this cute guy complimented my outfit (dress with black tights and motorcycle boots) and asked for my number when I was out at a venue watching my roommate's band play.

He flirty texted me all through the evening and wanted to meet up later. We had a couple drinks at a bar near my place. I thought I was being very metropolitan and adult by letting him come over to my apartment after. I blame watching too much Grey's Anatomy at the time. Ha!

There was some making out and eventually he asked if he could take off my dress. He said he didn't want to have sex, but just wanted to look at me. As a young and dumb girl, I thought all of this was very sweet and sexy, so I obliged.

He starts rubbing my feet. Still sweet.

He keeps rubbing my feet. He's really into it.

I'm getting uncomfortable at this point, but haven't said anything. It went from feeling awkward to "oh my god, this dude is straight up fucking my feet" in a split second.

I was in shock and grossed out. I didn't even know how to respond. I was so weirded out that I just let him do it. He finished and left in a big hurry...and that ended my attempts at getting over my ex by hooking up phase very abruptly. That shit never happened to Meredith Grey.

Sirius37 · October 2016

@NamelessAria You don't need to apologize for sharing your worst date and you have every right to participate without being made to feel like you're being belittled or a storm cloud to the thread. It's easy for people to cast judgement on a past situation, especially when they weren't even there. @Wino0920 I'm sure you're just concerned (it's probably fair to say we all are) but I don't think making another member feel like she has to defend herself for a situation she can no longer change is really necessary. Also.... @swanbrooner I would have been mortified.

Spookster · November 2016

@NamelessAria Thank GOD you didn't get murdered, honestly I think it was brave to even share that story with internet strangers. No one knows what they would do in a situation like that until they are in it. I think your reaction is similar to what most sheltered, young teenage girls would do especially when scared. Sometimes the shame we feel about situations we have been in clouds our decisions on whether or not to speak out. I am sure you may have felt no one would even belive you, just like obviously there are those among us who feel your story is too tall of a tale to add up.Much love to you.

email2ash · November 2016

I need to log into the computer for this one... TBD

email2ash · November 2016

My worst date was the summer after I graduated from college. A good looking engineering student that was a year younger than me started chatting with me on FB and asked me to go on a date. 24 hours before the date, he called and dropped the ball that he didn't have a car and asked if I would go pick him up. I figured what the heck but thought it was a little weird to wait a week to tell me.

The day of the date I drive to his family's home in a small town in the middle of nowhere. I mean cornfields and I grew up in cow town. When I pull up to his farm house he's standing outside with his parents that resembled a receiving line after a wedding. He is also holding a handful of picked wildflowers from his yard that still had roots and dirt attached. I think it is awkward to meet parents on a first date at my age but I'm friendly and go along with it. As we are chatting his dad walks over to my car and starts loading in a duffle bag, pillow, backpack, etc. I look at my date and ask what is going on? He says that over the summer he is working on his masters at the same time as he completes his undergrad (I didn't even know you could do that). Because we were planning on going to dinner and a movie they were all hoping I could bring him back to school after because it would be late. I went to UMASS Lowell, so figured no big deal I can crash at my parents after instead of driving back to my apartment.

We go to dinner and the movie and it was painful. We had nothing in common and I just could not wait to be done with the date. As we leave the movie theater I start heading towards my old school. He decides to drop the ball on me then that although he goes to undergrad at UMASS Lowell he is taking his master courses at UMASS Amherst! Amherst is an hour and a half away from Lowell and it is midnight at this point. I was so mad I didn't say one word to him the whole drive. I practically threw him out of my car and ignored his calls and messages after.

Two weeks later I started dating my husband

Elyse1384 · November 2016

@email2ash Please don't tell me you drove him all the way to ZooMass!? I dreaded the drives to visit my friend when she went there for undergrad. No thanks!

email2ash · November 2016

@Elyse1384 I totally did the too nice of person I was haha

awillis13 · November 2016

Worst date was when I was in college. I went out with a guy i grew up with. We went to Dave & Busters with a couple he was friends with, -land everything was fine. Until his couple friends decided we should go to a strip club (they drove, so I couldn't just leave). I wasn't going
to go in, until I realized how sketchy the neighborhood was. And to top it off, I had to pay for myself to go in. It was the skeeviest place I have ever been in. Oh, and there was a discussion with one of the strippers in the topless area with huge fake boobs about whose were better, her (fake) ones, or my (real) ones.

There re was no second date.

Praying41 · November 2016

Ashcicle said:

A guy I had been talking to asked if I wanted to go caving. I had never been and it sounded like fun, let she go look at stalagmites and stuff right? Well turns out his mom was meeting us there and it had been raining so everything was muddy and slippery. They started equipping us with knee pads, helmets with little flossy lights, thing jackets, etc... red flag. Wtf is happening? Turns out I wasn't just observing, I was being asked to shimmy and crawl into the smallest spaces. With the rain water was pouring in and there was about an inch of water on the grounds. At one point the wall was at my back and an inch from my face and I had a panic attack and started freaking out and asking to leave. He was behind me and kept pushing me further into the cave. I wanted to vomit on his face. Eventually the tour guide recognized I was 3 seconds from passing out and trapping everybody and demanded my date back out and let me through. I never talked to him again.

I have to urge to vomit and pass out just reading this! I would have died!

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