Infertility

Girl on the Train - TW

*** Trigger Warnings ***
I wanted to post for everyone that this movie, while very good, has some serious triggers in it. Just be aware of that because it hit me like a ton of bricks. It has tones of infant loss, failed IVF, pregnancy, and childbirth. 

Good movie but I probably would have waited until I'm through with this phase of my life if I had known. 
Jennifer
Charlotte, NC

Re: Girl on the Train - TW

  • Really? I bought the book yesterday to help with my "benched" two week wait. Maybe I put it on the shelf this month - I was in the mall today and I swear 80% were pushing a stroller and it had to get out of there! 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
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  • I probably would have been ok if I had gone in knowing about it. There were a few parts that made me cringe and one very sad part about loss. It's good though, and very engrossing. It would be great for the TWW if you can handle that stuff!
    Jennifer
    Charlotte, NC
  • Thanks for letting us know. I am just about to finish a book and was planning on reading that next. Maybe I'll hold off for awhile. 
    Me: 28 with PCOS
    DH: 30, TTC since May 2015
    Started 2000mg Metformin in 8/2016
    8/2016: Letrozole (4 follies)  BFN
    9/2016: Letrozole (2 follies),  IUI, progesterone, BFN
    10/2016: Letrozole (2 follies),  IUI, progesterone, BFN
    11/2016: Letrozole (2-4 follies), IUI, progesterone, BFN
  • Thank you for the heads up! I need to find a good book to read. Its been a while. 
    TTC #1: March 2011 (slightly before)
    Fur-children: 3 dogs + 2 cats (all rescued)
    dx: Endometriosis and Fibroids 
    2 Laps and 1 Abdominal Myomectomy
    6 rounds of clomid
    5 rounds of iui
    Several HSG's sprinkled throughout the years to up my chances of a BFP
    Several dilation of cervix because they suspect the scar tissue is hindering it from fully opening (partially adds to the severe cramps all month)
    IVF #1 Gonal F, Menopur and Cetrotide
    ER 12/1/2016
    ER-Retrieved 22 eggs 10 fertilized
    4/4 day 5 embryos were normal for PGS!!! 2 boys/2 girls
    FET 1/10/2017  
    Gallbladder surgery 1/10/2017
    FET estimated end of Feb, beginning of March

  • They are both TW for sure (book and movie), but I found the movie to be much worse. They directly refer to IVF in it. My sister went with me and said even she felt uncomfortable for me, and wondered how it made me feel! :neutral:
    TTC #1 - December 2015
    Me:31 H:31
    DX: MFI - 1% Morph 
    12/16 -IVF #1 - Antagonist Protocol w/ Lupron trigger
    ER - 11 retrieved- 9 mature - 7 fertilized - 3 sent for PGS on day 5 - No normals (1 XXX Embryo - may use in future)
    3/17 - IVF #2 - Antagonist Protocol w/ HCG trigger
    ER- 13 retrieved - 11 mature - 8 fertilized - 2 sent for PGS on day 5 -2 Normal
    FET #1 - 5/16/17 - BFP! - Beta #1 5/25 - 156 - Beta #2 5/30 - 2562 - Beta #3 6/1 - 5191!




  • oh wow really appreciate that. thnx. I'll rent it instead. xo
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    Started TTC April 2011
    Me: 32, DH: 32
    Diagnosis: Endometriosis

    • 2012 - 3 Rounds clomid - all BFN
    • 2013 - 1 Fresh IVF with 2 day 3 embryos - BFN
    • 2014 - 1 Frozen IVF with 2 day 5 embryos - BFN
    • Took a long break, continuing trying naturally
    • Feb 2016 - Biopsy = Endo, DH sperm improved from 1% to 6% morphology
    • March 2016 - Fresh IVF cycle with acupuncture & intralipids: 20 eggs retrieved (17 mature), 7 ICSI'd fertilized, 9 naturally fertilized. 16 total embryos!
    • April 8th - 2 embryos (1ICSI and 1 Natural) transferred. (7 blastocysts frozen), April 18th - Beta = BFN
    • Sept 23rd - Lupron Depot Injection for Endo control
    • Nov 15th 2016 - Started daily Lupron Injections for upcoming FET
    • Nov 22 - Baseline US/BW - Intralipid Infusion - Start Meds for FET with immune protocol
    • Dec 16th FET transfer of 3 embryos (1 - AA, 2 - BB)
    • TW below
    • Dec 22nd - first ever bfp (very faint lines FRER & cheapie)
    • Dec 27th Beta = 192, Dec 29th Beta = 379
    • EDD - Sept 5th 2017

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  • Good to know... My friend wanted to go see this the other week and I turned her down (we were busy, it wasn't like I just didn't want to go), but she's a pretty new friend and doesn't know what we're going through, and I've been on a bit of a hair trigger lately.  Probably best I couldn't make it that night...
  • This was a good idea to post.  I saw it without having read the book and without having any idea that it dealt with failed IVF, I started crying in the theater.  It hit me really hard too.  
    DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, 
    then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.

    Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
    because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
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  • I'm just seeing this now and I wish I'd seen it sooner.

    We went to see the movie on Tuesday and it really affected my husband and I. I definitely cried in the theater and when we got home we were both in a weird mood and my husband just went straight to bed.

    Me: 28  DH: 28
    TTC #1 since Nov. 2015
    Dx: Both tubes blocked, PCOS, DOR, RPL
    IVF Cycle #1 Dec. 2016 - 11R·11M·5F - Transferred 2 - BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left
    IVF Cycle #2 March 2017 - 5R·4M·3F - Transferred 1 -  BFP - Miscarriage - 0 Embryos Left
    Instagram: KateDoesIVF

  • I texted my husband something along the lines of "oh great. This movie is about a woman who spirals into a depression and addiction following her failed IVF. She may or may not be killing people." His response was: "Leave. Get up and walk out. Do it now. Now. Nowwwwwww" I responded with "it's ok, I'm not falling apart. Plus I need to know if she did kill people. You know, for my future". 

    So yeah, it's a little tough to take. I didn't even tell him about the loss in the movie. He would have completely expected me to come unglued about that. But I didn't. I guess we are stronger than we think!

    Jennifer
    Charlotte, NC
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