I have another BF. My fucking Mammaw. As many of you know per the family matters thread, my little sister is going through some serious shit and is in a mental hospital. She's been there for about a week and a half now. There's a ton of fall out because of it that I am having to handle... her apartment rent is due next week, her electric, her car insurance, she has a dog, her job...just many things. She's not making any progress, I'm making the 20 minute drive to visit her 3 days a week, and now they are wanting to transfer her to a long term facility. But there aren't any in state, and going out of state is so expensive we can't afford it. But she can't be discharged either, and she can't stay there much longer because they aren't designed for that type of treatment. And even if she could be discharged, she can't live alone as she is still severely depressed and suicidal. So ALL OF THIS is going on and I'm trying to deal with it and get things figured out and my Mammaw has the actual nerve to be pissed at me for not talking to her for the last few days...like I have the time, and when we do talk, I don't give her any information...because (as I already explained to her several times) I either don't have any info, or I can't give that info out because my sister requested it stay between us. I am the only one she is talking to right now, I'm not about to betray her trust and then have her talking to no one. I do not have the time or the patience to deal with my Mammaw's petty shit right now. I'm just so irritated that her granddaughter is going through such a bad time and all she can think about is herself!
+1 to no sex. Nor do I want any. At all. I found a bottle of lube on DH's bedside table and instead of thinking about how terrible of a wife I am, I was relieved and thankful that he's an independent man who can take care of himself without bothering me.
@yogadevil I also have sky-high deductible BCBS. The OB charges us $400 MONTHLY for routine prenatal care and that doesn't even cover the delivery hospital bill. Fml.
Oh and my bitchfest is that my dog was so excited for me to come home today, she took her 50+lb self and jumped right on my belly. I don't think she hurt anything but she managed to jump directly on that right round ligament and I can't kick that sharp pain.
@yogadevil, I was going to suggest the same thing...to request all the CLAIMS (not the EOBs) from your doctor's office and go over them. That's great that the advocate is helping you. If you need help with understanding any of this stuff, feel free to PM me. Somebody else was talking about setting up payment plans.....it is no one's duty to have to accept a payment plan. The hospitals do it because they have a lot of accounts receivable and if they didn't set up payment plans, they'd lose a lot of money. Private practices....not all of them accept payment plans. Some will set up only a 3 month plan.
My sort of MBF....my work wants me to start tomorrow instead of Wednesday. So that's why I've been running around trying to get everything done today. This just means that they really need my expertise but also that I'm going to have a lot of pressure at work. Woof. Most importantly though, I'm grateful I have a job!
Another +1 to the no action list going. My libido was up maybe a month ago, but has since taken a nose dive again. I'm grateful my DH has been understanding.
I think my real BF is that I have a cold for the second freakin' time in my pregnancy. Once again thanks to hubby bringing it to the house. Boo. He tried like the dickens not to give it to me, but I suppose my immune system is still down. My next few morning shifts are going to suuuuuck.
I've been on "pelvic rest" since the positive pregnancy test. With my previous incompetent cervix and the cerclage I got at 12.5 weeks, it's a potential risk for infection. So no action here!
The new VP of my dept decided that my entire team of 20 workers is a "redundancy that needs to be eliminated" yesterday so we are getting laid off. So he can use our pay to build glass conference rooms in the office. Yea.....ASSHOLE ASSHOLE ASSHOLE. Who calls people that after laying them off and so you can purchase useless shit?! Who wants to hold a meeting in a see-through room?! At least pretend you give a shit about people losing their jobs. Unreal! My coworker friend got called at home on her due date since she is out on mat. leave to find out she has no job to return to. AND they asked us to report to normal work until Nov 18th b/c they have to distribute the many daily duties we do to many other people and need time to do that...even though we supposedly do nothing useful. What a joke. And I have to do it in order to receive my severance package. DH says someone should sneak in and leave dog shit in his office.
The positive at least is I think DH will be starting at a new company soon...1 of 2 options....and they both pay well for his trade so maybe I can float a part time job after I have baby girl and spend more time with her than I would if I still had my full time job to go back to. Or find a work from home job and stay with her all the time like I truly have wanted to do all along. I can hope anyway...
@Ifrank12 - yes he was laid off 2 weeks ago! We both got hit. But he is lucky to have a degree and certifications in a good trade so he has had some companies wanting to pull him in. That is our saving grace.
@Janefelicity - in my case no. They eliminated my entire job, so all 20 of us got canned and they aren't offering job placement just severance. In my husband's case, he has several opportunities with good companies so he will be back to work soon enough thank goodness. I have good experience and computer skills just no degrees, so I can probably find an office job somewhere after I have the baby. I joked to DH that if he becomes a big shot at one of the companies, I can be his stay at home secretary....but boy that would actually be pretty cool if it happened. I am looking into some at home options for jobs....so we will see what is on the horizon. The way we were laid off at my job was just rude and cruel, but the big boss is a known asshole so we expected him to be classless about the whole thing just not to that degree.
@BlondePeanut eff all that noise. layoffs right before the holidays!?!? that is some next level scrooge type shit. i'm sorry you're going through this.
@BlondePeanut can you wear a scrooge shirt on your last day? maybe all of your coworkers can have the same t-shirt made and pose for a picture on the 18th? i don't know about dog poop, but this needs to be commemorated in some way. fucking ridiculous.
@BlondePeanut That is such an incredibly rude thing to say! How could he think that is an appropriate thing to say after laying off a whole team? Even if you think it, there is such a thing as professional courtesy for Pete's sake.
But if you want to see the brightside @blondepeanut now you won't have to go in for Christmas like you were expecting! It sucks getting laid off, I hope one of the jobs for your husband pulls through. Maybe this was a nice nudge so you can stay home like you wanted
@cruffino - that is a great idea lol. I may have to pass that around.... @WinchesterGirl - right! and this coming from a jerk who is working on marriage #7....yes #7...I wonder why....and he is walking around the office with his nose in the air as people around me are crumbling b/c some of my team have 1 income and just lost it. as this guy makes like 200,000 a year....karma is a bitch. maybe one day someone will say he needs to be eliminated. the other people around us who weren't effected were like how is he even a VP with that type of unprofessional tasteless wording? i guess he bullied his way up the corporate ladder
@kswiger06 - you are right about that. and yes that is what I am hoping.....when one door closes another opens. You always see the bright side in things
@BlondePeanut Shit. That stinks I'm so sorry. I'm glad H has opportunities. I hope the next few weeks go by quickly and you get a good severence check!
@Gretchypoo - thank you! the severance check is decent, so we will save that up. and I am so grateful DH has some good opportunities knocking. Phew @MLRocha - thank you, I am doing my best to find positives....
@TeacherMom2517, I'm sorry your mom was trying to pull the feel bad for me card and trying to butt into all the plans after she said she didn't want to deal with it. That's ridiculous and I'd be annoyed as hell too. I hope everything ends up going great with your shower despite that.
@yogadevil, that insurance stuff was making my head spin just reading what you are dealing with. I really hope the patient advocate can help you get that resolved because that really is insane. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that crap. You're not dumb at all for being confused and overwhelmed trying to figure out and keep track of payments and whether or not accurate billing codes were used and bs through your insurance. That's not your job. Somebody dropped the ball bigtime on that and it sure as shit wasn't you.
@marriedhamstermom, your H's cousin sounds like a clueless moron. Is he a lot younger, like an age where one might not even be thinking about having to manage finances and family/household financial responsibilities? Either way, he needs to learn to mind his own business and keep his comments and assumptions about your jobs/money to himself.
@scifichick09, I'm so sorry you're having to handle the stress of all your sister is struggling with and then on top of it you have your mammaw guilt tripping you about the amount of time you have left to spare after dealing with all that. That's ridiculous especially since she's fully aware of what's happening with the situation. Anyway, you must be a pretty great person to do what you're doing for your sis and also for the fact that even though she's mentally act where she is, she's still choosing to confide in you.
What absolute garbage, @BlondePeanut. I am sorry you are going through this, but it sounds like you're keeping your spirits up. Every time I've had a job fall through, something so much better has been waiting in the wings. Hoping it's the same for both you and your H!
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Son Max born 1/10/17 BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@MoonOverGoldsboro - thank you! I am hoping that myself. My goal since we got pregnant was to try and be at least a partial SAHM since I have been working full time and ot for the past 8 years at the job I just got laid off from...so maybe that will be in my cards finally
@PerraSucia - you can't be laid off as a solo person during maternity leave, BUT if you are part of an entire team or dept that is removed, they can lay you off. Depending upon when your effective lay off date is, you may be eligible for maternity leave for a certain period and then your lay off takes effect. my coworker who started her leave last week will be permitted to stay on paid leave until dec 31st, and then she will have to file for unemployment. In my case, I wouldn't be starting leave for a while so I will be allotted some time to keep my insurance as part of my severance package...I can keep my current lower rate for medical insurance until mid feb and after that I can remain with them for and additional 18 months at a higher rate of cost. I will still get my free breast pump once I hit 28 weeks and a severance check.
@scifichick09 - I know! and I think he will regret his decision once he realizes how much we do day to day and that the people he is distributing our duties to cannot hack it on top of what they do already. we bust our asses day in and day out, work holidays, the whole 9. I hope he falls flat on his ass.
@BlondePeanut here in CA if you get unemployment you have to sign a biweekly thing stating your actively job hunting but people lie all the time to milk that income. I assume if I was laid off while pregnant I'd just use the whole unemployment time as maternity leave? But there is no way we could afford that as our only income.
@PerraSucia - ours is a weekly agreement that we are able to and actively seeking full time work. I will be eligible for 6.5 months of it. I am going to try and use it all as my leave if we can afford it
@BlondePeanut can you wear a scrooge shirt on your last day? maybe all of your coworkers can have the same t-shirt made and pose for a picture on the 18th? i don't know about dog poop, but this needs to be commemorated in some way. fucking ridiculous.
Bill Murray Scrooged shirts, and no dog poop. Maybe human poop.... I'm sorry you're dealing with this. I hope it works out for the better @BlondePeanut
@BlondePeanut I feel all ragey at this guy on your behalf. What an evil little cum maggot. 20 people get to be job searching during the holidays because he doesn't understand what you do. Sounds like it might turn out for the best for you, but still. So. Shitty.
@BlondePeanut Hopefully this is a blessing in disguise and you are able to take a little longer leave and find something part-time and/or at home! That would be awesome.
And i GUARANTEE this will come back to bite him in the ass. There is no way 20 people are doing a job that is redundant. There is obvoiusly a need for the position. Screw him! And a glass conference room is dumb too.
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BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
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Kirsten Grace 1/20/17
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TTC #1 since 09/2015
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BFP 05/28/2016!
@yogadevil I also have sky-high deductible BCBS. The OB charges us $400 MONTHLY for routine prenatal care and that doesn't even cover the delivery hospital bill. Fml.
@yogadevil, I was going to suggest the same thing...to request all the CLAIMS (not the EOBs) from your doctor's office and go over them. That's great that the advocate is helping you. If you need help with understanding any of this stuff, feel free to PM me.
Somebody else was talking about setting up payment plans.....it is no one's duty to have to accept a payment plan. The hospitals do it because they have a lot of accounts receivable and if they didn't set up payment plans, they'd lose a lot of money. Private practices....not all of them accept payment plans. Some will set up only a 3 month plan.
My sort of MBF....my work wants me to start tomorrow instead of Wednesday. So that's why I've been running around trying to get everything done today. This just means that they really need my expertise but also that I'm going to have a lot of pressure at work. Woof. Most importantly though, I'm grateful I have a job!
I think my real BF is that I have a cold for the second freakin' time in my pregnancy. Once again thanks to hubby bringing it to the house. Boo. He tried like the dickens not to give it to me, but I suppose my immune system is still down. My next few morning shifts are going to suuuuuck.
The way we were laid off at my job was just rude and cruel, but the big boss is a known asshole so we expected him to be classless about the whole thing just not to that degree.
@WinchesterGirl - right! and this coming from a jerk who is working on marriage #7....yes #7...I wonder why....and he is walking around the office with his nose in the air as people around me are crumbling b/c some of my team have 1 income and just lost it. as this guy makes like 200,000 a year....karma is a bitch. maybe one day someone will say he needs to be eliminated. the other people around us who weren't effected were like how is he even a VP with that type of unprofessional tasteless wording? i guess he bullied his way up the corporate ladder
@MLRocha - thank you, I am doing my best to find positives....
@yogadevil, that insurance stuff was making my head spin just reading what you are dealing with. I really hope the patient advocate can help you get that resolved because that really is insane. I'm so sorry you're dealing with that crap. You're not dumb at all for being confused and overwhelmed trying to figure out and keep track of payments and whether or not accurate billing codes were used and bs through your insurance. That's not your job. Somebody dropped the ball bigtime on that and it sure as shit wasn't you.
@scifichick09, I'm so sorry you're having to handle the stress of all your sister is struggling with and then on top of it you have your mammaw guilt tripping you about the amount of time you have left to spare after dealing with all that. That's ridiculous especially since she's fully aware of what's happening with the situation. Anyway, you must be a pretty great person to do what you're doing for your sis and also for the fact that even though she's mentally act where she is, she's still choosing to confide in you.
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
@BlondePeanut Hopefully this is a blessing in disguise and you are able to take a little longer leave and find something part-time and/or at home! That would be awesome.
And i GUARANTEE this will come back to bite him in the ass. There is no way 20 people are doing a job that is redundant. There is obvoiusly a need for the position. Screw him! And a glass conference room is dumb too.