I keep trying to win these giveaways on Instagram for baby goodies and it never works! I mean... I know there's thousands of people entering every time but come onnnn baby give me a diaper bag!
*disclaimer: I know this might be the lamest MBF ever.
I haven't thrown up in two whole weeks. I was extremely happy about this - morning sickness has been the bane of my existence, as it has many of yours. This morning I wake up and spend 15 minutes dry heaving before I can finish getting ready for work. Boo hiss.
I woke up at 5:30 this morning and thought "ok, pee time"... It was two hours later than normal because we were up till midnight watching TWD and TD. As soon as I got up I was hit with the WORST gas pains ever. I almost cried. They wrapped all the way around my back and stomach in the most awful way. Needless to say, I could not get comfortable again and never went back to sleep. Not a great start to a Monday.
I could not eat any sugar or carbs yesterday, my tummy hated me and had major acid reflux. Now I cannot eat and am waiting for my doctor's office to open up so I can eat!! I hate the gestational diabetes test.... All I want is carbs and sugar!!
A friend of mine had her baby shower last night. She usually hates that kind of stuff, so it was just a group of friends who got together and paid for a cooking class and had fun. Super lovely, super great, etc etc. Except it was an evening class, so we didn't finish the main dish until 8:45. And let's just say I have learned my lesson about eating a largish portion that late. Oh my god I was up every 20 minutes last night, heartburn, indigestion, nausea, etc etc. Ugh.
No sex for I'm not even sure how long.... it was me at first, baby was sitting low and I was very uncomfortable. Now it's him same thing happened last pregnancy. The giant bump and kicking baby scares him a bit. Which I get and understand but ya know I miss it still!
My BS readings were looking great like perfect but now I've had several around 140/150 which are way to high. I'm really bummed that I am going to end up GD again. Not sure how the OB will react tomorrow.
Oh and the Network guy is in a mood again ugh whatever dude.
My mom had a totally 'life is all about me' moment 3-ish weeks ago and lashed out at my dad that she is so busy with work and her Masters and such that he needs to plan my baby shower. He's great with food and catering and events, so that wasn't a problem. I told him to call my best friend and have her take over for invites, decorations, favors, etc. and he can just focus on the food aspect. My friend was ecstatic, consulted with mom and dad, planned a date, location, and sent out gorgeous invitations last week. My mom agreed with her that they would have my baby shower in Jersey at their house. Yesterday my mom called her talking about potentially wanting to change the location to an hour and a half away at a restaurant in NY because she wants to be more accommodating to other people attending and get more RSVPs and she will just send out an email if they decide to change it, basically uprooting everything my friend has planned.
I'm so annoyed because my mom basically said she didn't have time for this and my best friend is ecstatic to take it all on and is doing a beautiful job putting it all together. But now my mom wants to play back seat driver and change everything AFTER its already been decided and she agreed upon it. Not cool, mom, not cool!
I'm so overwhelmed with insurance issues. BCBS claims I've maxed out my prenatal visits so we need to pay out of pocket, and that I should talk to my clinic about how they're coding things. My clinic is saying these appointments are essential, and their hands are tied on how they code these things. They told me to call BCBS to get it sorted out. For christs sake I'm not having these appointments for funsies, and I shouldn't have to spend over an hour on the phone on the brink of tears a few times a week to figure this out. I'm ready to throw in the towel and just spend the next few years in too much medical debt because I can't handle the run around anymore, its wearing me down. I've had a ton of ultrasounds, not one was elective, and my insurance is acting like I'm trying to scam them or something, WTF. I have another u/s on Friday to check on placenta previa and now BCBS wants me to pay out of pocket for that Dr appt itself ($450) and for the u/s ($275) plus u/s tech fees because it's not considered "typical prenatal care." I'm at a loss. Sorry I'm not having a "typical" pregnancy, my bad.
+1 to not having sex. We haven't had sex in I don't know how long, and like PP, it was me at first, but now I've gotten my libido back. I wanted to have sex SO BAD this weekend. Finding a position was difficult, Hubby got frustrated, then became convinced it was his fault for having a gut, and then spiraled into a depressed state...all while I'm laying there primed and ready like "So....we're not having sex then..?" Ugh. I just want his penis inside me lol.
@yogadevil That sounds so messed up. I have no clue about insurance but I would have to guess most people don't have "typical" pregnancies and need extra ultrasounds and all of that. What are all of these people having to do who have your insurance? It doesn't make sense to me. I'm sorry that's happening and you have to deal with all of that. It's always SO confusing! Do you meet your deductible or OOP max at a reasonable point in time? Ugh insurance is so shitty to deal with.
@yogadevil how effing ridiculous!!! That's beyond frustrating and I'm pissed off for you. I didn't even know that was possible! Something sounds really off. I really hope and pray something gets resolved because obviously there is still a ways to go, plus a whole delivery that needs to happen. Do you have an Out of pocket maximum? I'm in disbelief over this!
Something must have been in the air this weekend... DH and I managed to get some adult playtime in, but not without some awkward moments. 1) Me trying to climb on top of him was the opposite of sexy and led to a serious bout of giggles (just me). 2) Our stomachs touching and DH getting worried that we were "smushing the baby". I'm pretty sure that between the two of us, we have plenty of cushion to prevent that... Sigh (for so many reasons).
@homemake our deductible is sky high ($6500 per calendar year) but DH's work reimburses anything that is deemed medically necessary. So that boils down to how things are coded as well. We paid OOP for fertility testing and procedures, but now both BCBS and DH's work reimbursement program are both saying the same things about the coding issue tying their hands in regards to the actual pregnancy.
I'm not sure what other people do with our insurance. It's actually a phenomenal plan when you factor in coverage and the deductible reimbursement, our clinic even deals with BCBS as their preferred provider. I was on the phone with a Blue Cross patient advocate for 40 mins this morning and she agreed with me and apologized for a lot. So emotionally that made me feel better but financially it's the same runaround
With my first pregnancy, I was all about the sex in 2nd tri. This time around, I have zero drive and when we get around to doing it, it's actually uncomfortable and doesn't feel very good.... poor H. We still make time to fool around and such, but yeah, sex is kind of a no go at this point.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
@foxrosy thank you, it helps to hear that I'm not being unnecessarily mad and frustrated about this. We do have an OOP max which we'll hit for 2016 right at the buzzer if I'm calculating correctly. But I'm due in January so it will start all over again.
With my first pregnancy, I was all about the sex in 2nd tri. This time around, I have zero drive and when we get around to doing it, it's actually uncomfortable and doesn't feel very good.... poor H. We still make time to fool around and such, but yeah, sex is kind of a no go at this point.
I had the not feeling good issue. Tried in the shower--much better. Worth a shot!
+1 to team no action here. H and I just seem to be on different schedules and the last time we tried it was pretty painful for me. So, celibacy it is for now.
@yogadevil that's total BS! Is placenta previa considered 'high risk' and maybe the doctor's office needs to label that with insurance or something? I'm so sick of insurance and politics involving prenatal care and maternity care for women! Have you totally gone off on insurance instead of being nice and kind? I'm usually the one who tries to be totally sweet and gets screwed over when really they just need to be chewed out sometimes...
@yogadevil I second the high risk coding. My pregnancy was from IVF, so my doctor office codes it "high risk" because there is a miniscule increased risk of heart issues with IVF. (My doctor said she also doesnt argue the coding because she figures we have all spent a ton, so why not get a small break!) Anyways, my placena is low, about 2 cm from the cervix, but she said she is keeping the "high risk" label the rest of the time. I have UnitedHealthcare, but they have been covering everything at 100% because of this. I haven't hit my out of pocket, so they should only be covered at 80% at this point. But, being a large HC group, maybe they are similar? High risk i would think would get you more coverage or at least a few more visits!
@yogadevil I feel your frustration. I had BS through work, paid a couple thousand towards my deductible. Then left that job and had to buy independently with a whole new deductible. And yes, 2017 I get to start it all over again.
I still call BS on something with the billing. I had to fight for a patient who was being charged $400+ for a routine pelvic exam. I spent a lot of time on the phone and it turns out our biller submitted a code that wasn't the most appropriate. I wonder if there is a problem with the billing codes because this all sounds crazy.
We've been doing really well in the action department. Until this past week. DH is kinda being a girl and not feeling so sexy about himself. I'm trying to be supportive, but really just want to tell him "Get over it dude. You're hot! Get on this!"
OMG you guys I would die. I'm the opposite, I want sex like every other day. I cried last week because we went 3 days and DH didn't initiate anything LOLOL can I blame that one on pregnancy hormones?
@TeacherMom2517@leslie1331 I thought it was considered high risk? I was coded that way at around 15w due to contracting and bedrest. Idk what changed. I swear I'm Jekyll and Hyde when it comes to dealing with insurance, I've been sweet and assertive and then a straight up pitbull.
@Xstatic3333 I'm waiting to hear back to see what the patient advocate figured out. I've been documenting each phone call to the different companies so hopefully we can get on the same page eventually.
@foxrosy I swear it's the billing codes too! I ask everytime what they're coding the appointment as to add to my notes. I feel so unqualified to deal with this all (or maybe just dumb). I know it'll somehow get sorted out eventually, in the interim I just need a break from it all
We've been doing really well in the action department. Until this past week. DH is kinda being a girl and not feeling so sexy about himself. I'm trying to be supportive, but really just want to tell him "Get over it dude. You're hot! Get on this!"
Seriously! If anything, we are the ones who are supposed to feel not so sexy with all the changes to our body, and they should be cheering us on! So I'm with you, just tell him to man up and keep up with you, LOL!
@yogadevil you're totally not stupid for not understanding the coding stuff. It's hard enough for the people who work in the field! I'm glad you have a patient advocate and I really hope they get this all sorted out.
@yogadevil - that sucks. My insurance blows too and I paid ~10k for my last high risk pregnancy out of pocket. My recommendation is to start asking for payment plans for all your bills. I didn't start asking for payment plans until the end, and before that I was putting everything on a credit card which ended up taking a long time to pay off because I didn't really understand how it all worked. Someone told me (not sure if its true) hospitals have to say yes to a payment plan. I had no one push back when I asked, so in my experience, true. Not sure if drs offices are the same. But figure out what you can afford before you call, because I was asked how much per month I would like to pay. Good luck and I'm crossing my fingers that your previa has cleared!!
Well this one sounds dumb compared to all the insurance issues but I don't get how some people just expect DH and I to shell out money on useless things. DH was telling me his cousin was all pissed b/c DH told him he couldn't buy some new game to play with him. DH did just buy a new game to play with him a week ago so it's not like he always says no and this was another new game. His cousin just couldn't understand why it wasn't in our budget when DH has a "good job". Like yea he does have a good job but we are also about to close on a house and we're going to have a baby in a couple months so no we're not going to buy a new game every week. I guess I'm just shocked at the comment about how we should be able to afford it with our jobs, I would never be so bold as to assume someone's financial state, if they say it's not in their budget I accept that they know best not try to convince them otherwise...
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Dear all the people: touching my belly is a no-no. While I can secretly alllllmost tolerate a gentle open-handed pat (though most people in my life know to effing ask first or wait to be invited), the five-fingered tummy tickle (especially from two specific random coworkers) makes me want to punch you in the throat. The skin there feels insane right now, and oh, what? Don't touch people without permission period? Yeah, that too. Next person who does that is getting a five-fingered tummy tickle to the face.
Married: 2011 TTC #1: 3/2016 Me 39 - DH 44 BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17 DD born 2/3/17
@Vastra maybe just mirror their grope right back, on their non-pregnant-ness? Make sure you tell them you "just wanted to check what it felt like" because that makes it okay, right? I'm lolling at that imagined exchange.
The patient advocate called back and wants us to get a printout of all the billing so far from my clinic. Well do that friday at our appointment, then she's going to conference call us with BCBS customer service and get it straightened out. She claims that ALL these appts, ultrasounds, and in the first/second tri the twice-weekly blood draws are considered covered care. Fingers and toes crossed so tight this can get figured out.
@marriedhamstermom I despise when people feel entitled to others' resources like that, it's so inappropriate! It's not like your cousin needed money for an electric bill or something (and even then, that's your call) it's a video game for crying out loud.
I took my barely 6 month old car in for a routine oil change and tire rotation last Thursday only to get a phone call around lunch telling me that something was wrong and they had to order the part, but to be assured that it was covered under warranty. They said hey give me something to drive in the meantime. I have been a nissan owner for the last 4 years and always use the dealership for service. I spent a lot of money on this SUV so I would expect to get atleast something semi equivalent to what I pay for each month while they fix a mistake that was ultimately their fault. My husband took me to pick up the loaner car so he asked questions and discovered that's the maintenance guy causes the issue. So they give me a ring car to drive. No big deal, it was only supposed to be for the night. The car was disgusting. I guess they don't clean them after each person uses them. There was no washer fluid and the windshield was so dirty I couldn't hardly see out of it and it WREAKED of stale cigarettes! So my husband told the lady that if my car wasn't ready the next they would need to give me something else to drive all weekend. She said ok. I get in the car to go to work the next day and the tire pressure lights come on!! I was so mad that they don't keep these cars up. So of course the next day I get a phone call saying my car isn't ready and to come get something different to drive. I get there and it takes her 45 minutes to get me switched over. This car is in the same condition as the other. This one just doesn't smell like cigarettes, it smells like dirty feet. I sprayed it with Febreeze when I got home that day and it seemed to work. I get in it to go to work this morning and all 4 tires light up as having low pressure. And not just like 1 PSI, each one was almost 10 PSI low. How can they put their customers in vehicles like that! I have never had bad service from my dealership and this has been the worst. My husband asked if this service would be free considering all he inconvenience caused by their employees and she said "I don't know". I just want my car back! My safe, big, heated seat SUV!!!
Okay, based on all this action talk, my second BF is the fact that I have NO INTEREST in sex, and I hate it. I feel like such a wang because my husband is being so respectful and kind and supportive. He is taking such good care of me and expresses the desire to have sex in such a loving non-pressure-y way. And I have absolutely no interest. I WANT to want to, but ugh. Our sex life has had its ups and downs over the decade we've been together, and we were finally getting to a good place with sexy times and finding a balance between procreation and sex, and then we got knocked up, and now it's just... I feel like a jerk.
@poetryandoceans I hear you on that. Generally the idea of having sex while I'm pregnant is nothing but yuck. And when I go for it anyway, I spend the entire time trying to conceal how much I just want it to be done. I hate feeling that way about my wonderful H. The last two weeks or so I've actually had a bit of a sex drive and managed to enjoy me some actual sex, so maybe you'll have a good sex window coming up, too! I'll be sad when my little window inevitably closes.
I went to get my glucose test done this morning. I got there shortly after the lab opened and was told a few people were in front of me. Ok, nbd. H and I sat there for a while before I got called up for registration. That took probably 15 minutes and then we sat and waited for them to bring the drink out. It was an hour from us getting to the lab to me actually getting the drink and then, of course, we had to sit there for the hour of the test. I thought it was just going to be a quick thing this morning but I'm glad it's done. Now I'm sitting at work feeling like I'm going to fall asleep on my desk. I feel awful. I better have passed!
Re: Monday B*fest
*disclaimer: I know this might be the lamest MBF ever.
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
No sex for I'm not even sure how long.... it was me at first, baby was sitting low and I was very uncomfortable. Now it's him same thing happened last pregnancy. The giant bump and kicking baby scares him a bit. Which I get and understand but ya know I miss it still!
My BS readings were looking great like perfect but now I've had several around 140/150 which are way to high. I'm really bummed that I am going to end up GD again. Not sure how the OB will react tomorrow.
Oh and the Network guy is in a mood again
whatever dude.
I'm so annoyed because my mom basically said she didn't have time for this and my best friend is ecstatic to take it all on and is doing a beautiful job putting it all together. But now my mom wants to play back seat driver and change everything AFTER its already been decided and she agreed upon it. Not cool, mom, not cool!
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
I'm not sure what other people do with our insurance. It's actually a phenomenal plan when you factor in coverage and the deductible reimbursement, our clinic even deals with BCBS as their preferred provider. I was on the phone with a Blue Cross patient advocate for 40 mins this morning and she agreed with me and apologized for a lot. So emotionally that made me feel better but financially it's the same runaround
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Is there a company that oversees your practice that you could talk to?
I still call BS on something with the billing. I had to fight for a patient who was being charged $400+ for a routine pelvic exam. I spent a lot of time on the phone and it turns out our biller submitted a code that wasn't the most appropriate. I wonder if there is a problem with the billing codes because this all sounds crazy.
@Xstatic3333 I'm waiting to hear back to see what the patient advocate figured out. I've been documenting each phone call to the different companies so hopefully we can get on the same page eventually.
@foxrosy I swear it's the billing codes too! I ask everytime what they're coding the appointment as to add to my notes. I feel so unqualified to deal with this all (or maybe just dumb). I know it'll somehow get sorted out eventually, in the interim I just need a break from it all
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
TTC #1: 3/2016
Me 39 - DH 44
BFP 5/27/16 EDD 1/30/17
DD born 2/3/17
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
@marriedhamstermom I despise when people feel entitled to others' resources like that, it's so inappropriate! It's not like your cousin needed money for an electric bill or something (and even then, that's your call) it's a video game for crying out loud.
@Vastra PREACH.
I took my barely 6 month old car in for a routine oil change and tire rotation last Thursday only to get a phone call around lunch telling me that something was wrong and they had to order the part, but to be assured that it was covered under warranty. They said hey give me something to drive in the meantime. I have been a nissan owner for the last 4 years and always use the dealership for service. I spent a lot of money on this SUV so I would expect to get atleast something semi equivalent to what I pay for each month while they fix a mistake that was ultimately their fault. My husband took me to pick up the loaner car so he asked questions and discovered that's the maintenance guy causes the issue. So they give me a ring car to drive. No big deal, it was only supposed to be for the night. The car was disgusting. I guess they don't clean them after each person uses them. There was no washer fluid and the windshield was so dirty I couldn't hardly see out of it and it WREAKED of stale cigarettes! So my husband told the lady that if my car wasn't ready the next they would need to give me something else to drive all weekend. She said ok. I get in the car to go to work the next day and the tire pressure lights come on!! I was so mad that they don't keep these cars up. So of course the next day I get a phone call saying my car isn't ready and to come get something different to drive. I get there and it takes her 45 minutes to get me switched over. This car is in the same condition as the other. This one just doesn't smell like cigarettes, it smells like dirty feet. I sprayed it with Febreeze when I got home that day and it seemed to work. I get in it to go to work this morning and all 4 tires light up as having low pressure. And not just like 1 PSI, each one was almost 10 PSI low. How can they put their customers in vehicles like that! I have never had bad service from my dealership and this has been the worst. My husband asked if this service would be free considering all he inconvenience caused by their employees and she said "I don't know". I just want my car back! My safe, big, heated seat SUV!!!
Married: 9/2013
Love my LEO!!
TTC #1: 9/2015
BFP: 2/1/16 MC 2/8/16 @ 5wks
BFP: 5/22/16 RAINBOW BABY
EDD: 1/30/2017 *IT'S A GIRL!!!!*
Kirsten Grace 1/20/17