January 2016 Moms
carlyhammond
member
Separation anxiety.
carlyhammond
member
Denver is 9 months. He has started pitching a fit when I leave. If he's in his jumper and the second I hit the door frame to the room he wails and sobs until I come back. This happens multiple times a day.
A few weeks ago I dropped him off at my oldest sisters house and when I turned to leave he broke down into hysterics, to the point where she walked outside with me and I could hear him crying from her back yard and I was in the front yard.
Last night I went and visited my (middle) sister, I let her husband hold him for a minute and I didn't even go 2 feet away and he wailed and sobbed until I got him back.
I HATE CIO but I need to break his anxiety. I neee help, I work- he has NO problem when I leave him with my mom daily to work- he's gotten to where he knows when I'm getting ready to leave and he will crawl and cling to me but no crying.
I don't know how to break him from this, we co-sleep and I even broke down his crib 2-3 weeks ago since we don't use it (and he fell out of it, but that's in another thread)
-Advice is greatly appreciated
A few weeks ago I dropped him off at my oldest sisters house and when I turned to leave he broke down into hysterics, to the point where she walked outside with me and I could hear him crying from her back yard and I was in the front yard.
Last night I went and visited my (middle) sister, I let her husband hold him for a minute and I didn't even go 2 feet away and he wailed and sobbed until I got him back.
I HATE CIO but I need to break his anxiety. I neee help, I work- he has NO problem when I leave him with my mom daily to work- he's gotten to where he knows when I'm getting ready to leave and he will crawl and cling to me but no crying.
I don't know how to break him from this, we co-sleep and I even broke down his crib 2-3 weeks ago since we don't use it (and he fell out of it, but that's in another thread)
-Advice is greatly appreciated
Re: Separation anxiety.
I talked to other moms who had same parenting styles as mine ( not fans of CIO and co-sleep etc ) and they told me to distract him when I leave and so far it's helped.
He doesn't cry as much when I leave and I'm feeling a little better about the situation now.
If she's at home, and feeling clingy, I will just wear her. I don't like to wear her when I'm cooking, so she'll hang out in her high chair in the kitchen with me.
If I have to leave her with someone else (or the church nursery on Sundays,) I make sure she is really distracted and then I sneak out. If she doesn't see me leave, it's like she forgets that she's "supposed" to cry.