I had to go to my two year old cousin's birthday party today. The only reason I didn't pull the "too pregnant" card was because it was a chance to move around and hopefully get something started. No such luck.
My MIL is starting to make me crazy. She seems to think I have no idea how to take care of a newborn and all her cultural expectations are starting to wear on me.
My MIL is starting to make me crazy. She seems to think I have no idea how to take care of a newborn and all her cultural expectations are starting to wear on me.
My MIL is starting to make me crazy. She seems to think I have no idea how to take care of a newborn and all her cultural expectations are starting to wear on me.
The lingering reminder that I'm not suppose to leave the house for three months. Coming up with ideas to change my daughters name. Wanting to give her water/traditional medicine/other things than breast milk. Covering her in 1000 layers every time they see her and telling me she's cold. Not letting me breast feed when she is obviously rooting/hungry.
I guess these might not be expectations so much as cultural norms? I don't know. I just want to raise my daughter without my MIL having to put her opinion on everything.
@kmolleltz Ugh, that's really hard. Is your husband accepting of what your cultural norms are? Maybe he can have a talk with his mom? That's sucks. Hang in there!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@mrscorker he's understanding and on my side. He doesn't think any thing will actually come of any of it, it's more so I need to be respectful of her and listen but it doesn't mean I am committing to any action. It's just wearing.
@mrscorker he's understanding and on my side. He doesn't think any thing will actually come of any of it, it's more so I need to be respectful of her and listen but it doesn't mean I am committing to any action. It's just wearing.
I can imagine that would be exhausting when you're already exhausted. I hope it eases up for you soon!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@kmolleltz... I'm so sorry. That sounds so tough. I hope things get better soon!
My petty problem... some of you may have seenon FB, but I am in pre/early labor purgatory and its horrible. My stupid fucking cervix won't dilate so I'm stuck here at home dealing with regular, painful, contractions. This. Is. Horrible.... but also petty bc, at least it's labor, I guess.
adding... I'm exhausted. I didn't sleep at all last night (literally, none) and only a couple of hours the night before bc of this. I was able to sleep between contractions after we got home from the hospital this morning... but pain plus tired= no bueno
@bnsmith85 ugh. The no rest is the worst. Combined with everyone in your life telling you to "rest up" while you can. Err. Thanks. But I can't rest while my uterus is contracting every few minutes. So so sorry!
@kmolleltz 3 months is crazy. One of my coworkers was (culturally) expected to stay inside for one month. That was long enough to be maddening. I can't imagine three months! Sorry you're dealing with this stress.
@bnsmith85 ugh. The no rest is the worst. Combined with everyone in your life telling you to "rest up" while you can. Err. Thanks. But I can't rest while my uterus is contracting every few minutes. So so sorry!
@bnsmith85 exciting!! But I'm sorry it is going slow. Maybe your water will break and it'll speed things up. My labor was slow but since I had an amniotic fluid trickle, they admitted and sped things up for me lol.
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DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
I guess these might not be expectations so much as cultural norms? I don't know. I just want to raise my daughter without my MIL having to put her opinion on everything.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
My petty problem... some of you may have seenon FB, but I am in pre/early labor purgatory and its horrible. My stupid fucking cervix won't dilate so I'm stuck here at home dealing with regular, painful, contractions. This. Is. Horrible.... but also petty bc, at least it's labor, I guess.
adding... I'm exhausted. I didn't sleep at all last night (literally, none) and only a couple of hours the night before bc of this. I was able to sleep between contractions after we got home from the hospital this morning... but pain plus tired= no bueno
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019