Flame Free Friday Confession

jackiemarie1989-2 · October 2016

No FFFC yet today? Let's hear your confessions, ladies.
Disclaimer: Not actually flame-free

flyingncmama · October 2016

I've been eating junk food all week and I think the bump is trying to shame me with their daily nutrition checklist that keeps popping up.

Jendink · October 2016

I just puked and peed myself a little. That's a new pregnancy low for me!

mamaraffe · October 2016

The pregnancy chatter thread stresses me out. I can't open them anymore.

momma2char · October 2016

I'm the type of parent who buys their kid a toy to keep them entertained/happy when shopping at Walmart. Daughter starting to have a meltdown? Let's go to the toy aisle and pick something cheap out. I hate dealing with meltdowns in public- I'm an introvert and don't like making a scene. My daughter is only 1 though so maybe it's just because she doesn't understand when I say "we don't act this way in public" etc. When she's older and understands what I'm saying, I'm sure my parenting style will change. I absolutely don't want to raise brats or have my kids think that when they whine they will get what they want. Still trying to figure this parenting thing out!

FSUNole31 · October 2016

@flyingncmama me too! I blame it on not being able to drink...I eat away the stress now.

mombod · October 2016

When I was pregnant with my son I told my husband pregnant people cant pick up dog poop. When he was born I said you cant pick up dog poop when breastfeeding. Well... Im still breastfeeding and now pregnant again. 2+ years of no dog duty and counting!
Sorry, not sorry.

MrsCaliRN · October 2016

I will be secretly upset if LO is a girl. I know that every baby is a blessing, but I can't help it! In my experience (cousin, sister, and friends with baby girls), they have been little nightmares. I think it's mostly because I am afraid of the karma that would await me from the h*ll I put my own mother through. FX for a "turtle" on the screen at my anatomy scan next year!

Assiram42 · October 2016

Jendink said:

I just puked and peed myself a little. That's a new pregnancy low for me!

Dude, I will forever have to cross my legs to sneeze or cough or puke. I have no pelvic floor.

Assiram42 · October 2016

MrsCaliRN said:

I will be secretly upset if LO is a girl. I know that every baby is a blessing, but I can't help it! In my experience (cousin, sister, and friends with baby girls), they have been little nightmares. I think it's mostly because I am afraid of the karma that would await me from the h*ll I put my own mother through. FX for a "turtle" on the screen at my anatomy scan next year!

This is flame-worthy, IMO. I don't think my three daughters are nightmares, nor do their teachers or other parents we know. I'm not one to think my children are perfect, they can be assholes. I think children, in general, can be nightmares at certain points, but I don't think one sex is particularly more nightmare-ish than the other.

I do hear you on karma though, my 10 y/o has the stubbornness of a bull and tests me a lot. We are very much alike, but I also imagine we'll be best friends when she's older and out of my house.

kfry22 · October 2016

I got home from work at 9 last night and left to work again this morning at 3am. I'm beyond tired. So I'm currently sitting on my bathroom floor looking at Facebook and the bump and using my bathtub as a "babysitter" for my son. His dad has decided tonight would be a good night to drink beer with the neighbor instead

FSUNole31 · October 2016

@kassyfry no shame. When I was a SAHM I would randomly do baths sometimes in the middle of the afternoon just to get a break. Hope bedtime comes soon!!

michaela0704 · October 2016

Totally laid on the floor at work inbetween meetings while I was feeling super sick... I was acting like I was looking at/trying to fix my stand up desk... totally just needed to lay down.

DH says I should bring a towel or blanket in...

HgPa · October 2016

I voted straight ticket and guessed on a couple of local non-partisan races yesterday. I know that local politics is often the best way to enact change as a voter, but I had a free afternoon and I wanted to get it done even though I knew I hadn't researched everything. I'm bracing myself, because this is actually pretty flame worthy.

BelhurstBride · October 2016

Yesterday I told my husband I couldn't handle washing the dishes, that the smell was getting to me.

I just didnt feel feel like doing dishes.

HollyGolightly09 · October 2016

@Ashcicle me too!! So glad it isn't just me.

Everything my husband does just absolutely grinds my nerves. He is so sweet, and will do absolutely anything for me. But... these past couple of days.. he's just annoying.

lmc929 · October 2016

@MrsCaliRN sending you some flames for that one....

flyingncmama · October 2016

In another thread someone mentioned drama on the TTGP board. I've spent the last 30 minutes looking at a bunch of the closed posts so I could be entertained by the drama.

flyingncmama · October 2016

michaela0704 said:

Totally laid on the floor at work inbetween meetings while I was feeling super sick... I was acting like I was looking at/trying to fix my stand up desk... totally just needed to lay down.

DH says I should bring a towel or blanket in...

I spent a fair amount of time hiding under the desk at the Target fitting room when I worked there during my first pregnancy. My co-workers knew and would cover for me.

xomarisaxo · October 2016

flyingncmama said:

In another thread someone mentioned drama on the TTGP board. I've spent the last 30 minutes looking at a bunch of the closed posts so I could be entertained by the drama.

I'm LOLOLING

lmc929 · October 2016

@flyingncmama it will hurt your brain - it's best to stay oblivious.

Sirius37 · October 2016

Not super scandalous, but whenever someone makes a pregnancy announcement on FB, I always count back from their due date to see how soon they are announcing.

Assiram42 · October 2016

flyingncmama said:

In another thread someone mentioned drama on the TTGP board. I've spent the last 30 minutes looking at a bunch of the closed posts so I could be entertained by the drama.

Did the offender join our BMB? That would be interesting...

MotherofDragons · October 2016

@Sirius37 same!

Elyse1384 · October 2016

Assiram42 said:

flyingncmama said:

In another thread someone mentioned drama on the TTGP board. I've spent the last 30 minutes looking at a bunch of the closed posts so I could be entertained by the drama.

Did the offender join our BMB? That would be interesting...

Ugh every time I see one of those drive by BFP troll threads on TTGP I am taken on a roller coaster of emotions. From immediate frustration on behalf of the TTGP ladies, to chuckling at their take down of the troll, to irritation upon calculating out the potential EDD of the offender realizing that she will probably join us soon

cutiebugg-2 · October 2016

@Sirius37, do you feel some people announce too late or too early?

I was told I was weird because I didn't announce the pregnancy until I was 20 weeks and told it was weird I didn't announce the birth on Facebook. I didn't want pics of my son on FB at the time - although this has changed since! I told people via phone and/or in person and it felt right at the time

delujm0 · October 2016

MrsCaliRN said:

I will be secretly upset if LO is a girl. I know that every baby is a blessing, but I can't help it! In my experience (cousin, sister, and friends with baby girls), they have been little nightmares. I think it's mostly because I am afraid of the karma that would await me from the h*ll I put my own mother through. FX for a "turtle" on the screen at my anatomy scan next year!

Flame worthy, but I do think part of it is just what you're used to. We have a daughter and we're both kind of like "I mean we don't have a boy yet, so that's fine, but another girl would just be easier." We already know what to do with a girl! DH knows how to deal with girl parts during diaper changes. And he really doesn't like little boys at the park...he finds them dirty and rough and annoying. We have two nephews that we love but still think DD is easier.

I grew up with a sister so I think I'd prefer a girl so that DD has a sister too. But obviously either way we're happy. A boy would just require more learning...and a lot of clothing purchases.

Assiram42 · October 2016

Yeah, @MrsCaliRN, I forgot you had a DS, so I don't think it's as flame-worthy anymore because, like @delujm0 said, it is what you know. I get that.

Sirius37 · October 2016

@CutieBugg I think it's more of a curiosity thing for me more than anything, but I do tend to pause when I realize that it's still pretty early (I remember one person posted as soon as they had a positive test, ~4 weeks or so). Announcing so early isn't what I would personally feel comfortable doing, but I've come to realize the ones that announce earlier probably would just like the extra support if something awful (God forbid) were to happen.

Edit: Missing words

riverrainez · October 2016

My first pregnancy I thought I wanted a girl and got a boy. HE IS THE BEST EVER EVER. Now I want another boy. But if we have a girl she'll obviously also become the best ever ever. So really it's a win-win.

cutiebugg-2 · October 2016

@sirius37 Hadn't thought of it like that!
I guess I'm more of a private person even though I'm extroverted !

Assiram42 · October 2016

I thought of @Sirius37 today when my friend posted her u/s photo and EDD as 6/11, yet she announced basically when she got her BFP. They did a cutesy announcement and I assumed they were due in May or April...nope.

I was talking to my H about it because neither of us felt comfortable posting yet. Maybe they've been fortunate enough to not have to un-tell people they're pregnant, or maybe they just thought they'd want support either way. Their choice. I'm rambling. I just thought it was way too early.

thatlauragirl · October 2016

@Assiram42 I think about that a lot as well. I think part of me is a little jealous that they're so carefree they're not even thinking about worse case scenario.

When I lost my son this May, I was visibly showing and in the second tri so people knew. It was hard, but in a way it was a blessing because we had so much support from family and friends. I couldn't imagine going through it in secrecy. Still, no way in heck I would want to announce this early. I'm rambling, too!

Xath · October 2016

**TW - Loss Mentioned**

I used to judge people who announce early. Then I lost my daughter a few days after she was born at 35w6. That was the worst thing that has ever happened in my life, but I would go through it all over again just to get that little bit of time back. And I'm including all of the time I had with her, first trimester included. People celebrated the life of our daughter with us; they mourned with us and supported us after she died. And we needed that. So many people suffer in silence.

I've been pregnant 3 times since then. We still don't share publicly prior to the 2nd trimester, but that's a personal choice because we enjoy that time celebrating with just our most immediate family. I miscarried last December and went through that mostly alone, because I needed to process my grief alone at that point and that was my choice. But I'm not silent about it now. I'm pretty vocal about breaking the silence, breaking the stigma that surrounds child loss. And part of that is encouraging parents to share their children whenever they are ready to; regardless of age, regardless of how likely/unlikely you are to have a loss. There are no guarantees in life; there is nothing written in stone saying that if our children make it past X point, we get to keep them forever. So celebrate every moment of your child's life. And if that means you want to announce and celebrate before the pee dries on the stick, I'll be right there cheering for you.

cutiebugg-2 · October 2016

Thanks for sharing your story . I'm so sorry for your loss @xath I agree whatever floats people's boats... I'm just in th discreet side myself which is why this group is a great support network

Assiram42 · October 2016

@Xath and @thatlauragirl, thanks for sharing. Sorry for your loss. I was in no way judging, really, I was just caught off guard because I expected them to be further along. It's totally their choice.

**tw**

we found out we were expecting baby #2 around the holidays and we immediately told family at Thanksgiving and Christmas. Well, I m/c in Jan. and when we saw family again at Easter and they asked about the baby, it just forced us to relive it all over again, so we choose to wait.

Xath · October 2016

Yeah @Assiram42 I'm in no way trying to say that people should or have to share early. I'm a "whatever floats your boat" kind of person. I'm so sorry for your loss.

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