Gender announcement etiquette

Hoffie44 · October 2016

Hello fellow parents to be! We just found out we are having a boy and are excited to share the news. We will not be having a shower as our families are wide spread and we live in upstate NY where nobody wants to travel come winter. In it's absence though we wanted to send out gender reveal cards and include our registry information. Just not sure what to say or how to present the big reveal and registry info without it sounding like "It's a boy! Now Buy us stuff!"

Any suggestions?

DrillSergeantCat · October 2016

Unfortunately, I think that's exactly how it's going to come across no matter what.

Burrberrymum · October 2016

I agree with @DrillSergeantCat

librarymom917 · October 2016

I think I would just send out gender announcement and not include the registry. I would just tell people where you are registered if they ask. I'm not doing a shower either but I have three registries(walmart, target and amazon) so if anyone asks there are plenty of options for them

DrillSergeantCat · October 2016

librarymom917 said:

I think I would just send out gender announcement and not include the registry. I would just tell people where you are registered if they ask. I'm not doing a shower either but I have three registries(walmart, target and amazon) so if anyone asks there are plenty of options for them

That's perfect! Be sure if you have the same items on each registry to update them as their purchased or you might end up with 3 bathtubs.

kjd291 · October 2016

librarymom917 said:

I think I would just send out gender announcement and not include the registry. I would just tell people where you are registered if they ask. I'm not doing a shower either but I have three registries(walmart, target and amazon) so if anyone asks there are plenty of options for them

This ^^ only bring up registry if people ask.

Jen524 · October 2016

I also agree with PP. if people ask then give them your registry info.

kap1988 · October 2016

From what I've heard it's best to let registry info spread by word of mouth, even if you are having a shower.

sunshine507 · October 2016

+1 for don't put registry info on the announcement.
I'd just make sure whoever the hub of information in your family is (mother, grandmother, chatty sister, etc - probably the first person who asked you where you're going to register anyways) knows registry info and trust it will disseminate that way.

kiyamurph · October 2016

I actually disagree @kap1988. A shower is a gift giving event, so it's ok to put registry info on a shower invite as giving gifts is the sole purpose of a shower. Etiquette wise, it's rude to put registry info on wedding invitations for obvious reasons, but not the wedding shower invite. Since this is just a gender announcement and not a shower invite, I agree with everyone else and would not put registry info on there. You might find that friends and family will call to congratulate and ask if you're having a shower. Then you can say something like, we're not having a shower but we are registered at X. That way, you're simply responding to someone's question and not sounding gift grabby. They may also talk to the grandparents and ask them the same thing. Either way, congrats on your boy! You'll have lots of little boy snuggles coming your way!

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