WTF Wednesday

lulu1180 · October 2016

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thatcma · October 2016

WTF to DH. He took it upon himself to cook me a special dinner last night because what I had cooked for myself on Monday I said I didn't want (the chicken looked gross). That's nice and all, but when I got home and was not excited about what he cooked at all he got upset. He said he thought I would be super excited about it. Then later on we got into an argument about me having a crappy attitude and when I apologized about it I apparently didn't apologize correctly.

We fixed it and talked it out but still. just...

flashley-2 · October 2016

WTF to clients who book appointments and do not show up. Way to go you got into TW Tuesday and WTF Wednesday. I should start forwarding my bills to them !

lulu1180 · October 2016

@osucma Sorry your DH was being kind of a jerk.

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My WTF is also my DH. Last night we were "scheduled" to BD; previously he had told me that I just need to tell him when he needs to be ready so he can kind of prepare himself, so to speak. We ended up not BDing last night - I asked him if he was still up for it and he responded with something along the lines of yes and something about my tone. Then he said that it was starting to feel like a chore, so I told him fine, I wasn't going to force him. I get in bed and turn off the light and he puts his phone down and lays down and I made the mistake of asking him what was wrong. We got into a huge argument and was telling me how this scares the shit out of him and how it will change things and how we're not necessarily in the best position for it and so on. I did remind him that he only needs to perform for about a week or so since I O very early (around CD10) compared to people who have to keep at it for 2-3 weeks. I also nearly changed from actively TTC to NTNP and just letting it happen "naturally." In the end, he told me to just keep doing what I'm doing because he knows this will make me happy but I feel like he won't necessarily be happy. He doesn't have the burning desire to have a baby like I do. He said when he was younger, he definitely wanted kids but as he got older, he just kinda figured that if it happens, it happens. Then he tells me that I need to include less of the science after he previously asked for more information. He basically wanted to pretend like it hadn't happened and let everything just return to normal but it's difficult to forget this argument. I was still so annoyed this morning that I nearly left without kissing him (intentionally) and on my way to work, I blared Metallica and was all like

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JulesDP · October 2016

WTF to my body -- despite having tested OPKs at least 3x day since CD9, I still managed to miss my stupidly short surge.

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@osucma ohhhhh men. MH gets very sensitive when he does something to help around the house and I'm not overly thrilled with the results. E.g. He does the laundry... but shrinks 50% of my work pants.
@FLAshley people who have no respect for others' time/schedules make me so angry.

abjm0325 · October 2016

@lulu1180 @osucma Creepy Internet hugs to you both today! Sometimes those (insert your favorite word other than "darling" here) husbands just don't get it.

lulu1180 · October 2016

@JulesDP So sorry your body is a jerk!

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@abjm0325 Thanks, he seemed to understand at first but never actually sat down and talked to me about this in an actual conversation. And that all means that I didn't sleep well again last night. I just want to get a good night's sleep!

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JulesDP · October 2016

@lulu1180 a Little Rascals gif AND Animal House gifs???

Sorry the YH was being a pain last night. I'm also struggling with how much of the TTC science to share and how much to leave to his imagination. He keeps asking questions and wanting to look at my FF app. But sometimes will just throw up his hands and say "ugh this should be easy!". GRRRRR. Oh, and the "let's act like everything's normal and pretend that we didn't recently have a fight" bit makes me so RAGEY.

thatcma · October 2016

@lulu1180 first off, thank you for using a Little Rascals gif. Made me super smiles! Also so sorry you had issues with your H last night. They really just don't get it. Your drive to work sounds like something you really needed.

@julesDP and @abjm0325 thank you for the support!
@FLAshley I despise when people don't show up for scheduled visits. It's my biggest pet peeve about working in the medical field.

lulu1180 · October 2016

@JulesDP hahaha, I actually didn't realize it was Little Rascals but yeah, those Animal House gifs were totally me on my drive in this morning! And to top off the whole "let's pretend this didn't happen," he rolled over and started to snuggle me. And I really just wanted to push him away but unfortunately I don't sleep as well when he doesn't snuggle me

@osucma You have no idea! I think I got up to 90 mph at one point and I just didn't care.

flashley-2 · October 2016

@lulu1180 oh my. We are dealing with a similar issue. DH wants a baby but doesn't quiet understand the science behind it and the science behind it freaks him out. I made the mistake of mentioning CM and that totally made him gag. He told me he feels like a breeding bull so I have stopped mentioning anything to do with my cycle and a sex schedule. I'm starting to wonder if he thinks the stork story is real !!!

flashley-2 · October 2016

Oh, and @lulu1180 he told me just to chill and let it happen but last night I was a bit upset and he says "what's wrong?" naturally after one says they don't want to hear about it because apparently I'm a scientist now I say nothing. Then he gets upset and tells me it's not fair that I'm not talking to him !! I felt like saying my cervix is high, soft, and opened and my CM looks like egg whites but I should just chill right. Let the stork fly ! Guys are kind of stupid haha.

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motherhubbard19 · October 2016

First off, WTF to my uterus. I've been cramping for a week straight and AF just won't get it over with.

WTF to my lazy, worthless coworker. I just recently took over her duties as she is about to go part time and her responsibilities will change. I get a call about something SHE screwed up about a month ago and has yet to fix. The person calling me informs me she directed her to me because I am the one doing that job now and she no longer has access to help fix the problem. BS!!!! She still has just as much access as I do and could have easily resolved the issue herself but decides to pass the buck onto me because she is too lazy to do it herself. And how long did it take me to fix the problem this morning? A little under a minute!! I have never in my life met someone so entitled and spoiled in my life. She is your textbook definition of that "millennial" attitude. Which infuriates me because I am only a few years older than her and I technically fit into the millennial generation. But I most certainly do not fit into the stereotype that has been associated with that generation. It is people like her that give us a bad name.

JuneRoseRuby · October 2016

WTF AF is such a B! I had to leave work early yesterday because my cramps were so bad and sit on the couch with a heating pad all day!

I feel like we have all had that conversation with our Hs. They just don't have that burn for a baby like the rest of us women. I don't think it happens for them until the delivery room!

RunRestRepeat · October 2016

@lulu1180 I'm so sorry - it sounds like you're DH needs a kick in the pants! I just don't get the whole "let's just see what happens" mentality. That's just not how it works!

Kudos for some Metallica, though! My go-to is Rise Against, but I can get behind some Metallica

ohemgee-2 · October 2016

@lulu1180 Sorry about your argument. My DH doesn't believe me when I tell him how small the window is, and how important timing is. He's all "I'm 31 and why am I only learning this now?!" (because in school you're lead to believe looking at a girl gets her pregnant!!!) We got into an argument Saturday because we needed to HIO, and he was more interested in going to our friends place earlier, so he told me I'm driving him crazy and I'm driving myself crazy, and if I don't change it's never going to happen because I'm stressing too much. Pretty sure I just rolled my eyes and walked away, but what I really wanted to do was punch him

pepper16-2 · October 2016

@lulu1180 @JulesDP @FLAshley Why don't they get it?! Last night I knew we would need to HIO today, but we have our weekly Family Dinner (don't get me started...) tonight and I knew neither of us would feel like it after THAT clusterf#ck so we decided on this morning. So the alarm goes off and we both brush our teeth and let the dog out and then I try to make it all cute and playful like I used to to keep him from going to work and to stay in bed with me, but he just goes, "are we going to do this or not, because otherwise I'm going to go do my exercises." WELL FINE THEN. WAY TO KILL THE MOMENT. I was less than impressed, but had to just pull it together and smile so that it would still happen.

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lund · October 2016

Sorry to all of the ladies dealing with ignorant DHs. I still get annoyed that we have to do 99% of the work, and fake like we're insatiable sexaholics for a week just so that they can stay in their warm and fuzzy mental state and perform.

WTF to my mom. Not sure if everyone caught it in TWW about 10 days ago, but long story short, she's a relapsing alcoholic who totaled her brand new car whilst driving back from visiting me in ND... because she was wasted. I'd had no idea she was drinking again. She's lucky to have survived with only minor injuries, and it was a single car accident (yay mom), so no one else was hurt. Anywho, now she's dealing with the well-deserved repercussions of a DUI, and I can't help feel like she's whining and complaining about it. She's going to have to put some of the attorney fees on a credit card because she can't afford it outright, blah blah blah. Situations like these make me very glad that I no longer live in the same state as her. Aside from the fact that if she hadn't driven out to visit me, she might not have drank half a bottle of vodka whilst driving back from said visit (but yes, I know it's not my fault).

lulu1180 · October 2016

@Ohemgee @Pepper16 My DH understands more than most as he grew up on a farm and his family raised sheep until he we in high school. Animal husbandry helped to teach him a few things about female sexuality so some of this kind of came as a bit of a surprise to me

GeorgiaWife6912 · October 2016

Ugh! Creepy internet hugs @lund !! It is in NO way your fault, but I can empathize with the guilt. I had a lot after my mom died. "I should have tried harder to get her help..." etc. But, she is an adult and has to deal with the repercussions of her bad decisions. I'm sorry you have to deal with all of this. It's definitely no fun!

lulu1180 · October 2016

@LuND I'm so sorry you're dealing with that right now! It's never fun to be the bystander in a situation like that. My ex got 2 DUIs within 6 months while we were together and he only recently decided to really quit drinking (about 8 years later), going to meetings and everything. I hope she gets her shit together and realizes soon how destructive she is to everyone around her

kiwi2628 · October 2016

@lulu1180 sorry about your DH being a butt. My H went through that once, and after like 2 or 3 days he apologized and said he was freaking out, but its still stressful and hurtful

@LuND I am so, so sorry about your mom

My WTF wednesday is directed at myself. I am obsessing a bit this TWW (read: a lot. A whole lot. Unhealthy amounts a lot) and I want to know why I am turning into a crazy person.

thatcma · October 2016

@kiwi2628 it is so hard to NOT be a crazy person, especially if things are happening that you haven't experienced before. Just know you are not alone in the crazy!

lulu1180 · October 2016

@kiwi2628 I can totally relate! 2 cycles ago, I was completely and totally convinced that I was KU (thanks to Dr Google). The BSC is real and even though you tell yourself that you won't become "that person," it inevitably happens and you obsess over every. single. minuscule. twinge. It's maddening!

eggplantface · October 2016

In line with "They taught us that getting pregnant is so easy but it's so NOT": My WTF is to Pirates of the Caribbean. Yes, Pirates of the Caribbean. We watched the third one last night, I don't know why, and during the scene at the very end, after Will spends the day with Elizabeth on the island before he goes off to be Davey Jones, I sarcastically said to H "Wow, it's lucky Elizabeth was ovulating the one day she got to spend with Will." I hate you, Disney, and your bullshit plot holes.

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RunRestRepeat · October 2016

@kiwi2628 I am right there with you this TWW... my WTF is my own body (or maybe just my brain for obsessing over every little thing it does). My Google history is embarrassing,and I can barely focus on anything other than the bsc ss. And now my TWW is turning into a THREE week wait. I may need to put myself in SS jail...

JulesDP · October 2016

Hugs to you, @luND. I unfortunately have had to deal with a very similar situation. I logically could see that it wasn't my fault, but it was hard not to second guess if I could have done something to change the outcome. I'm not sure if al-Anon is something you would (or have) considered, but I would suggest checking it out. It ended up not being 'my thing', but it was comforting to know that there are others in similar positions. Hang in there!

lund · October 2016

@kiwi2628 @GeorgiaWife6912 @lulu1180 @julesDPThank you for your kind words! I'm very grateful that I have a place like this where its safe to vent about this.

@JulesDP When I lived in Colorado I attended some Al-Anon meetings. I liked some of them and even went as far as to seek out a sponsor for a while. I'd be happy to attend some meetings now, but there aren't any near me in rural ND. There's general AA, but in a small town like this, nothing is really anonymous.

lund · October 2016

Pepper16 said:

I try to make it all cute and playful like I used to to keep him from going to work and to stay in bed with me, but he just goes, "are we going to do this or not, because otherwise I'm going to go do my exercises." WELL FINE THEN. WAY TO KILL THE MOMENT.

OMGGGGGGGGG. Sure, but when WE are all business and just want to get it done DHs can't perform or whine about it being a chore. I'm becoming a great actress with all of the "I'm a sexaholic" acting I have to do to get DH to seal the deal.

motherhubbard19 · October 2016

@LuND I am sorry you are having to deal with that. I hope that your mom gets the help she needs. Sending you internet hugs!

pepper16-2 · October 2016

LuND said:
"I'm a sexaholic" acting

^^This is everything hahahahahah

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flashley-2 · October 2016

@Pepper16 Hats off to you because I'm pretty sure I would have pulled a Melissa McCarthy !

flashley-2 · October 2016

thatcma · October 2016

Pepper16 said:

LuND said:
"I'm a sexaholic" acting
^^This is everything hahahahahah

This!

JulesDP · October 2016

Sorry y'all - back with more WTF to add to the pile.

WTF weather? Between the rough TTC day and a bad day at work, I thought maybe a run would help me feel like less of a hateful hell beast. NOPE. 86 degrees, humid, and gnats do not a happy run make.

And double WTF to me for opening up Facebook whilst stuck in gridlocked traffic on the way home. The first two posts on my timeline were a pregnancy announcement and a birth announcement back to back.

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Wine, please?

ETA: Just opened a bottle of wine and split the cork. You win, Wednesday.

hartmich · October 2016

@JulesDP When having a bad day, always go for the twist off. It's faster.

JulesDP · October 2016

I like how you think, @hartmich

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NYTino24 · October 2016

Oh ladies, the gif game is strong on all of the posts / threads today. I'm too brain-dead to tag people, but ugh to bodies and men who don't understand them and the TTC process! My WTF goes to me saying I wouldn't get upset when someone I am close to gets their BFP. I am happy for her, but I'm definitely jealous... mostly because she was saying how easy it was to just DTD EOD during her FW. We accidentally hit O on our wedding night and two days during last month cycle when O came early... and no BFP. I'm doing a million other things to get my body ready and I don't need someone else being so insensitive.

SaphireSweetie88 · October 2016

@FLAshley - I have applicants who do that and it's so frustrating.

@motherhubbard19 - I hate lazy co-workers like that.

@LuND - Sorry to hear about your mom. I can understand the frustration with it. My biological mother is a raging alcoholic.

@kiwi2628 @RunRestRepeat Everyone goes a little crazy in their TWW

@NYTino24 - I get jealous too. Allow me to pour you some wine

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NYTino24 · October 2016

Thanks, @SaphireSweetie88! It would go great with my Cheerios since DH decided not to cook dinner tonight.

He left for a game before I got home at 8:30 and told me not to worry about cleaning up the mess, which led me to believe there was food to eat. There wasn't not. Whomp whomp... I'm ready for tomorrow.

SaphireSweetie88 · October 2016

@NYTino24

That stinks! Tomorrow will be here soon...

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