The mental health hospital my sister is in. I called FIVE times yesterday trying to get ahold of her therapist to get some questions answered, sometimes they'd transfer me to the wrong ward, other times the phone just rang and was never answered, and the 5th and final time I was transferred to a voicemail (that I am assuming is for her therapist). I left a message to call me back. Never got a call back. Called again this morning and was again transferred to the therapists voicemail. I JUST WANT TO TALK TO SOMEONE!!!!
My TW is whoever is in charge of the AC in our building. It's actually controlled in our downtown central office, so whoever's job it is doesn't even have to live with the consequences of their actions. All the AC in the classrooms in my building has been turned off for about two weeks. Our windows don't open, so the air has gotten stagnant and hot and stinky. I've kept my door open and a fan running, and the lights are off as often as I can manage, but it's still incredibly hot. And stinky. Teenagers are so, so stinky.
My TW is a follow-up to last weeks. Company that I have previously worked for 4 times as freelance contractor, has confirmed that they will not be hiring me back this year b/c I am pregnant. They reached out to me to offer the position again and I disclosed my pregnancy (trying to do the right thing.) Spoke with HR yesterday and was told now that there is no position available for me.
Trying to decide if I file and EEOC claim against them. This sucks.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
My TW is the guy who delivered my lunch and couldn't find my office. I had to go outside to the complete opposite side of the building and he gave me attitude. Sorry, I know my office can be difficult to find but trust me it isn't impossible! And then my food was cold. BOO.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@krob that is awful. I hate that they did that to you. Do whatever you feel is right, but I think filing a claim is going to be an uphill battle. Sounds like they can easily just say they filled the position and it had nothing to do with your pregnancy....it'd be hard to disprove that.
@scifichick very true and part of the reason I don't want to file the claim, is I don't want to spend time directing my energy at a negative experience.
However I do have an email from my boss essentially stating that I am not being brought back as a result of my pregnancy. Because I have this proof is the only reason I am considering filing.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
@scifichick very true and part of the reason I don't want to file the claim, is I don't want to spend time directing my energy at a negative experience.
However I do have an email from my boss essentially stating that I am not being brought back as a result of my pregnancy. Because I have this proof is the only reason I am considering filing.
Because you have paperwork I'd file. But I 100% understand wantingto just move on.
@scifichick very true and part of the reason I don't want to file the claim, is I don't want to spend time directing my energy at a negative experience.
However I do have an email from my boss essentially stating that I am not being brought back as a result of my pregnancy. Because I have this proof is the only reason I am considering filing.
I would file purely on principle. That is fucked up, and employers like that are what make women scared to disclose pregnancies. What assholes.
1. MYSELF! I just burned my arm pulling Snickerdoodle cookies out of the oven. Love the cookies, hate the buuuuurn! And it could have been avoided if I would just slow down for five seconds... but why would I ever do that?
2. The stupid website that I looked up "pregnancy exercises" on and they suggested the below formation making me feel totally inept. I didn't ask HOW to get pregnant, jeeeeeez.... haha
1. MYSELF! I just burned my arm pulling Snickerdoodle cookies out of the oven. Love the cookies, hate the buuuuurn! And it could have been avoided if I would just slow down for five seconds... but why would I ever do that?
2. The stupid website that I looked up "pregnancy exercises" on and they suggested the below formation making me feel totally inept. I didn't ask HOW to get pregnant, jeeeeeez.... haha
That move is crazy, I could do it in my first but my bump is now to point it is starting to be a problem picking things up from the ground... a man must of made this exercise is all I can think.
@krob I also think you should file a claim, solely on principle. You have proof of discrimination in writing - which was ballsy of the manager to give you... Most companies who want to discriminate against pregnant women do so in a way that does not provide proof. You have the proof, so go for it!
@krob I think you should file since you have the proof. Otherwise, it would be a waste. I feel for you since I was let go for the same reason but I have no proof.
@krob another +1 to filing. If anything, it creates a paper trail. And even if it doesn't help you the way you want, it may help another pregnant employee in the future. Shows a pattern with this employer/company
You guys!!!! Thank you so much for the support. You have no idea how much it makes this all better. I spent the better part of the day in tears yesterday, third sadness, third sheer rage and a third hormonal.
I really appreciate you all having my back. I think I will file the papers tomorrow. I will keep you posted on the developments.
Me: 36, H: 37 FTM, 2 Furbabies married 03/17/07 lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC due: 2/15/17
@krob good on you! I hope it works out in the end. It pisses me off when I see employers get away with such blatant discrimination. It's especially frustrating when it's some arbitrary reason like not wanting to hire and train a temp while you're on maternity leave or some garbage. Stick it to them, I really hope it works!
My twatwaffle is half the doctor I saw on Thursday and half me I suppose? I saw my midwife today and we got talking about the fact that I was told to take four days off work after seeing a doctor at my local walk in clinic. Said doctor told me at the time that I had a particularly large baby and so it was causing some stretching a little faster than normal. When I tell this to the midwife she said to me that it was basically just round ligament pain and there was no indication on the ultrasound results that the baby was measuring particularly large, in fact everything was quite normal. She told me that four days off work was a little extreme and I absolutely could have just continued on with my job, so I lost wages for nothing more or less. My midwife was kind of shocked and maybe even a little offended I didn't talk to her about my pain first, and when I told her it was my employer who insisted I go to the clinic she said that it was my body, and my baby, and I didn't have to listen to that, she was my care provider for the child and she would have been more than happy to talk to me about it. That's all well and dandy only it was 8am and I had no idea if she would be in her office yet or not, and when my boss is telling me to immediately go to the clinic and not screw around with this I'm not really in a position to argue. I didn't argue with the midwife either, I just smiled and nodded and explained that I knew that for next time now. It was all really kind of frustrating though.
My TW is my insurance company right now. I hate it when they try to tell you what medicine you can take. I've already tried everything else, just give me my Symbicort already!! Gahhh!
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 10/18
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Eeewww, @NiceyMeany that sounds terrible! I feel for you!!
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
Trying to decide if I file and EEOC claim against them. This sucks.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
However I do have an email from my boss essentially stating that I am not being brought back as a result of my pregnancy. Because I have this proof is the only reason I am considering filing.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
What assholes.
2. The stupid website that I looked up "pregnancy exercises" on and they suggested the below formation making me feel totally inept. I didn't ask HOW to get pregnant, jeeeeeez.... haha
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
Husband: 35
Married: June 2007
Son Max born 1/10/17
BFP #2: 10/5/17; EDD: 6/11/18
@TeacherMom2517 that exercise does not look safe at all.
My kind of TW....I have to cut my nails again.
@NiceyMeany I don't know how you're handling the smell of an entire room full of teenager stink. Gag.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
I really appreciate you all having my back. I think I will file the papers tomorrow. I will keep you posted on the developments.
FTM, 2 Furbabies
married 03/17/07
lived in Houston, Austin, Los Angeles and NYC
due: 2/15/17
My twatwaffle is half the doctor I saw on Thursday and half me I suppose? I saw my midwife today and we got talking about the fact that I was told to take four days off work after seeing a doctor at my local walk in clinic. Said doctor told me at the time that I had a particularly large baby and so it was causing some stretching a little faster than normal. When I tell this to the midwife she said to me that it was basically just round ligament pain and there was no indication on the ultrasound results that the baby was measuring particularly large, in fact everything was quite normal. She told me that four days off work was a little extreme and I absolutely could have just continued on with my job, so I lost wages for nothing more or less. My midwife was kind of shocked and maybe even a little offended I didn't talk to her about my pain first, and when I told her it was my employer who insisted I go to the clinic she said that it was my body, and my baby, and I didn't have to listen to that, she was my care provider for the child and she would have been more than happy to talk to me about it. That's all well and dandy only it was 8am and I had no idea if she would be in her office yet or not, and when my boss is telling me to immediately go to the clinic and not screw around with this I'm not really in a position to argue. I didn't argue with the midwife either, I just smiled and nodded and explained that I knew that for next time now. It was all really kind of frustrating though.