Weekend Chatter: 10/15 & 10/16

silliegirlie143 · October 2016

What's everyone doing this weekend?

GTKY: Favorite Actor/Actress
bonus points for a gif/pic of their best role!!

silliegirlie143 · October 2016

I'm going to AW here and have no shame about it! Today's my birthday so we are on a weekend getaway. On today's agenda: the zoo! DD was so excited when's we told her last night that she started naming the different animals she wants to see today.

GTKY: My favorite actor is Denzel. I will watch anything he's in. My favorite role was Man on Fire.

Assiram42 · October 2016

Happy birthday, @silliegirlie143!

Today is also my DD's birthday and we're having a party at a play place with her Kindergarten class, my anxiety level is high. I'm mainly looking forward to cake. Then tonight we're going to birthday dinner.

Favorite actor ever, always and forever!

lizerspitz · October 2016

I've been taking a professional exam review class for the past couple days and it continues. I'm not sick but have been snacking constantly and trying not to snooze for 9 hours of intense financial conversation. Much of it is very dull but I'm pleasantly surprised at how I'm surviving.

swanbrooner · October 2016

I am babysitting my sweet little 3 month old niece today and grading literary analysis essays this weekend before grades are due.

Joan Cusack is comedic perfection in every single role!

email2ash · October 2016

We are going pumpkin picking this weekend

Jeremy Renner and JLaw always!!

kaymiller913 · October 2016

We'll be getting ready to ship cows...so very busy!!

GTKY: I absolutely, adore Robert Duvall!

Knottie42089123 · October 2016

Our business just opened last week, so I'm spending the weekend working. Tomorrow we're taking my dh's family over there to surprise them because they still don't know about it!! They did not lie when they said entrepreneurship will take a lot of work, but I love it so much!

MotherofDragons · October 2016

We have a lot of nothing which sounds amazing. Last week with the hurricane and best friend's bacherlorette, I'm worn out.

GTKY: this is always changing for me based on my latest obsession. And currently Julia Louis-Dreyfus is the funniest lady on earth.

jackiemarie1989-2 · October 2016

Today, hanging out with my fussy toddler and breaking out the crockpot for some white chicken chili. Tomorrow, in laws house to celebrate FILs b day.

GTKY: Leonardo Dicaprio. It used to just be a heart throb thing when I was younger but now I really respect him as an actor and his work for the environment. How can I pick just one role?

I could keep going but, ya know.

FSUNole31 · October 2016

I went and hung out with my sister and her two daughters before they leave town tomorrow already this morning. Probably football watching the rest of today and tomorrow consists of errands and a fall festival thing with rides and games that my son can't stop talking about.

Ahutch428 · October 2016

My plan is to catch up on homework for grad school, sleep, and maybe take DD to the park.

Favorite actor is Tom Hanks! I just love that man!

alm52386 · October 2016

I'm going to a 2 year old birthday party for the little girl I've been babysitting since she was 3 months old! Homework and relaxing tomorrow!

I don't really have a fav actor/actress! I like a lot of them!

verde1984 · October 2016

Doing some laundry today and I have a couple personal maintenance appointments later. But probably just relaxing on the couch after that. Tomorrow might be more couch time (we're in the middle of Stranger Things), or DH and I might catch a movie. We got a Blue Apron box this week, so we'll be making dinner together tomorrow - seared salmon with apple brown butter and fall vegetables. Yummy!

Forgot favorite actor - Benedict Cumberbatch.

QueenNub · October 2016

Would anyone switch jobs while pregnant? The job is very had to get and the position is never posted when it's open. I've been wanting this job for 5 years. At the office, I would be the only woman. The other 3 positions are held by men. I don't know how receptive they will be to me taking a leave after months on the job. Will thet resent me long term? They will undoubtedly pick up some of my slack but not all. I know I automatically get 4 weeks of vacation each calendar year and FMLA will not apply to me.

mirdamae03 · October 2016

QueenNub said:

Would anyone switch jobs while pregnant? The job is very had to get and the position is never posted when it's open. I've been wanting this job for 5 years. At the office, I would be the only woman. The other 3 positions are held by men. I don't know how receptive they will be to me taking a leave after months on the job. Will thet resent me long term? They will undoubtedly pick up some of my slack but not all. I know I automatically get 4 weeks of vacation each calendar year and FMLA will not apply to me.

If this was a once in a lifetime type job, then I would definitely take it.

mamaelle27 · October 2016

QueenNub said:

Would anyone switch jobs while pregnant? The job is very had to get and the position is never posted when it's open. I've been wanting this job for 5 years. At the office, I would be the only woman. The other 3 positions are held by men. I don't know how receptive they will be to me taking a leave after months on the job. Will thet resent me long term? They will undoubtedly pick up some of my slack but not all. I know I automatically get 4 weeks of vacation each calendar year and FMLA will not apply to me.

Since it's so rarely open, it sounds like it would be worth pursuing. However, not sure if you plan to mention your pregnancy up front (there could be downsides to that) but you may want to try to negotiate extra vacation or some sort of maternity leave. Otherwise, would you have to use that 4 weeks vacation as your maternity leave? It would be very difficult to go back to work with a 4 week old baby (your body, breastfeeding, hormones, emotions, etc.) and to even find childcare for a baby that young, and then you'd have no more days off left (ex. if your baby got sick the rest of the year). So, I'd want some assurances you could make the situation work for you so you don't find yourself in a bad position this summer. Good luck! It's very hard to find the work-life balance but it's worth fighting for.

thankfully · October 2016

QueenNub said:

Would anyone switch jobs while pregnant? The job is very had to get and the position is never posted when it's open. I've been wanting this job for 5 years. At the office, I would be the only woman. The other 3 positions are held by men. I don't know how receptive they will be to me taking a leave after months on the job. Will thet resent me long term? They will undoubtedly pick up some of my slack but not all. I know I automatically get 4 weeks of vacation each calendar year and FMLA will not apply to me.

I did. I was very newly pregnant and did not disclose until I hit 2nd tri. I took 10 weeks paid leave via short term disability. It was not ideal in that the job required months of training so I was just getting in a groove when I went out, but 2 years later I'm managing the department so I wouldn't say it hindered my career growth in any way. This is a corporate environment though, might be different in a small business.

QueenNub · October 2016

I would request a minimum of 6 weeks leave. I also have plenty of help via my and my DH grandmother in the event that childcare is unavailable.

I wouldn't disclose until 2nd trimester or at the latest after the anatomy scan.

I never officially applied for the job. I wasn't even looking. I got a call from the inside that a position was opening up. I met with the big boss the week I ovulated. Go figure.

kfry22 · October 2016

My son and I went to a vintage market and antique sale this morning. I scored a bunch of greats finds for our house and his big boy bedroom. He is still using a crib in the room we use as a nursery for right now. Then we stopped at my parents house for lunch and came home to take naps. My husband is working because he is a small business owner and works every Saturday. No idea what we are doing tomorrow.

Dont have any favorite actors or actresses. Really couldn't even identify half of them if I tired. I do like a lot of the movies Ryan Gosling is in though so maybe I would say him. In college is was obsessed with Michael Cera but have fortunately grown out of that

lovesclimbing · October 2016

Not too much. I'm feeling sick and my stomach is a little "off" right now so I'm on the couch. H is working. I really need to work on packing because we have a move coming up soon. Dinner with friends tonight. Church tomorrow. Not much else going on. Probably more packing tomorrow.

I'm feeling sorry for myself because I'm home alone and not feeling well. I want to tell my mom I'm pregnant and talk to her, but H doesn't want us to for a bit yet. I'm only five and a half weeks along.

jackiemarie1989-2 · October 2016

lovesclimbing said:

Not too much. I'm feeling sick and my stomach is a little "off" right now so I'm on the couch. H is working. I really need to work on packing because we have a move coming up soon. Dinner with friends tonight. Church tomorrow. Not much else going on. Probably more packing tomorrow.

I'm feeling sorry for myself because I'm home alone and not feeling well. I want to tell my mom I'm pregnant and talk to her, but H doesn't want us to for a bit yet. I'm only five and a half weeks along.

I'm feeling the urge to tell my mom as well. With my first pregnancy, I was so afraid of "jinxing" it that I didn't tell anyone for a while. But this time I'm feeling less superstitious and I just want to talk to someone about it. Just the people closest to me, like my mom, my best friend. Those are the people that, if something happened, I would need to lean on and talk to, anyway, so why hide it?
The problem is I can't trust my mom not to blab to the rest of the family, so. The struggle is real. I guess it depends on who you'd be OK with talking to if (heaven forbid) something went wrong? And who do you trust to keep a secret?

On a semi-related note, I'm afraid my MIL and FIL are going to realize what's up tomorrow at the birthday dinner when I'm not drinking. I always drink a glass of white wine with my MIL (she has really good wine, ha)

Knottie42089123 · October 2016

@JackieMarie1989 totally with you. My mom spilled my biggest secret this year (my business before the purchase) to extended family and I was livid. It sucks that I can't tell her about this blessing

silliegirlie143 · October 2016

Food for thought to everyone who is struggling with the decision to tell or not tell those closest to you:

I lost my Mom during 3rd tri while I was expecting DD. We didn't tell anyone until 2nd tri and I was, for whatever reason, super private about what was going on during the pregnancy. I was very sad for a long time that I missed pregnancy bonding time with her. I wished we would have shared our joy and milestones with her, but you just never know what tomorrow will hold.

This time around we will do a better job of letting others share our joy... at least the people who we would want to support us if we have tough times during this pregnancy.

MotherofDragons · October 2016

@silliegirlie143 I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what that must have been like. Thank you for sharing your perspective.

lovesclimbing · October 2016

JackieMarie1989 said:

lovesclimbing said:

Not too much. I'm feeling sick and my stomach is a little "off" right now so I'm on the couch. H is working. I really need to work on packing because we have a move coming up soon. Dinner with friends tonight. Church tomorrow. Not much else going on. Probably more packing tomorrow.

I'm feeling sorry for myself because I'm home alone and not feeling well. I want to tell my mom I'm pregnant and talk to her, but H doesn't want us to for a bit yet. I'm only five and a half weeks along.

I'm feeling the urge to tell my mom as well. With my first pregnancy, I was so afraid of "jinxing" it that I didn't tell anyone for a while. But this time I'm feeling less superstitious and I just want to talk to someone about it. Just the people closest to me, like my mom, my best friend. Those are the people that, if something happened, I would need to lean on and talk to, anyway, so why hide it?
The problem is I can't trust my mom not to blab to the rest of the family, so. The struggle is real. I guess it depends on who you'd be OK with talking to if (heaven forbid) something went wrong? And who do you trust to keep a secret?

On a semi-related note, I'm afraid my MIL and FIL are going to realize what's up tomorrow at the birthday dinner when I'm not drinking. I always drink a glass of white wine with my MIL (she has really good wine, ha)

exactly. And I definitely trust my mom. I would like to tell our parents early on but not spread the word broadly until I'm closer to the 11-12 week mark. H is ok with that, but wants to wait a little longer. Maybe 7-8 weeks.

He thinks his mom would have a harder time keeping the secret or wouldn't want to. I kind of think she would if we asked her, but may have trouble with it "slipping out." I don't know. And obviously, it's not really fair to tell my parents but not his. This is my parents' third grandchild, but it's H's parents' first, so even though I know my parents will be very excited, I think the excitement level and desire to share is probably higher with my ILs because they are becoming grandparents.

H came home for lunch, so that was nice to see him.

sagehens47 · October 2016

Went to a children's museum and then back home so I could puke, nap, and decorate the house for Halloween.

LLo3 · October 2016

@silliegirlie143 so sorry for your loss, this not something I had ever considered. I'll be talking to DH about sharing with our parents a bit sooner tonight.

alm52386 · October 2016

My parents and DH's parents both live in AZ and we live in WI. We will be there for Thanksgiving and will be having an early Christmas dinner with all of them. I will be about 10 weeks and it will be after my first appointment. We have told some close friends, most of whom have kids already so they are a great source for advice! Even though we decided to wait to tell them it's so hard to not tell them now!

Knottie42089123 · October 2016

@silliegirlie143 so sorry about your loss. I've thought about that, especially because I've always been somewhat anxious about my parents being older and the possibility of them not meeting my kids. They had me later in life (by 80's standards) and I had resigned myself to accepting that they might not be here for it. I was at least happy that they got to enjoy my sister's children. I'm 100% daddy's girl, and I had thought about revealing at his birthday later this month. Lots to consider.

qtjo5 · October 2016

My 15 month old was so fussy today it was exhausting. We did manage to get out of the house and I made sure we went to the park so he could burn off all his fussy energy before bed. Tomorrow we will probably go shopping with my MIL for DH birthday presents. Other than that, a quiet weekend.

HookEmNelson · October 2016

@silliegirlie143 I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you have found some healing, along with emotional support from close family and friends this pregnancy. I am glad you are here to share your pregnancy with us.

We had a Halloween party for my son and his friends today. A long 5 hour nap happened after everyone left, and now I am awake. Tomorrow, we are going out to lunch and then passing off my son's clothes to a friend. A low key Sunday is what I need.

Edited: Late night spelling, y'all.

silliegirlie143 · October 2016

Thanks for the responses everyone. I wasn't meaning to be a downer, just I wish someone had reminded me of the whole "your parents won't be around forever so share what you can" thing.
I'm in a good place with it. My Dad has a great girlfriend who treats my DD like her own grandkid so I know she will be SUPER stoked when we share the good news with them.

The zoo was great. I hadn't been in years and it was fun seeing DD run around like a crazy person naming off all the animals she knows.

Had a very cozy bday dinner with DD and the Mr. And since DD was playing with the tv remote and bought the pay-per-view of Suicide Squad we watched that tonight after she went to bed. Good birthday, all around

mrt · October 2016

Spent yesterday finishing my final project for my first Fall class. So glad I will be done with my degree in May BEFORE this baby is born! Pretty sick of spending my weekends writing papers. Today I'm going to take my boys to a carnival in town.

rn_momma · October 2016

@silliegirlie143 I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine how difficult that was.

Yesterday I went to a friend's bachelorette party, where I spent the day pretending to drink. Today I'm not sure what we'll do. No real plans, so it'll be a nice laid back day.

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