TW Waiting for answers - Update

blueskies17 · October 2016

Sorry in advance for the essay. I had my first transvaginal ultrasound at 7w1d (6w6d if calculated off of ovulation date) this past Friday. I went to my regular gynecologist for a “pregnancy confirmation” appointment, just to bide my time until the OBGYN appointment/first scan on Oct 24. My gynecologist surprised me by doing a scan, and unfortunately it did not look good. We just saw an empty gestational sac, which she described as “very small”. When I asked her how big/how many weeks it looked, she said “about 1cm” and did not give a weeks estimation. (According to what I’ve read on the internet since then, that’s about 5w3d). She asked if it was possible that I conceived/ovulated later in my cycle, and I’m not sure if that’s possible because we were using OPK’s and my cycle is very regular. Of course I’m open to the possibility that I ovulated a little later than usual, but a week sounds like a stretch- especially since we didn’t BD after ovulation day (I was very paranoid and didn’t want to BD during the TWW). When I told her all of this, she said that it’s likely that I’m going to have a miscarriage, and asked me to come back a week later for another scan. She did not ask for any blood draws (and I forgot to ask for them).

My gynecologist does not practice obstetrics (even though she is certified as an OBGYN), so I imagine this means she doesn’t perform ultrasounds regularly. She is always very rushed and the ultrasound took a whole 2-3 minutes. I feel like I’m trying to pull hope out of nowhere, but I don’t know how to go through this limbo in any other way. I still have the same pregnancy symptoms and no signs of MC, so that doesn’t help me wrap my head around things.

Now I’m trying to decide whether I should go to this follow up appointment with my gyno on Thursday (8w0d) or whether I should cancel it and wait till Oct 24 to go to the new OBGYN at what will be 9w4d. I feel like I would get solid answers at that point (whether it’s by going through MC naturally by then or having a scan with definitive results). I feel like this gyno appointment on Thursday would just upset me and I would want a second opinion either way. I do realize it’s a very small chance that my gyno is wrong. I guess I’m not ready to accept it yet.

Update 10/14 ---

I had my appointment with the new OB-GYN and she confirmed that the gestational sac has not grown since my last scan a week ago. I am now going to wait for a natural M/C. I've had a lot of time to think about this and mourn the loss over the past week and I'm ready to accept that this was not meant to be this time.

Thank you ladies again for your support. If it wasn't for your advice, I would have waited in limbo for another week. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies and hope to be back on The Bump in the near future.

slam1110 · October 2016

I am so sorry you are going through this! Any chance you could call your new OBGYN, tell them about your initial appt with your Gyno and maybe they can get you in sooner?

FatPony · October 2016

^agree, could they get you in sooner?

Im sorry, I hope you get answers soon.

blueskies17 · October 2016

@slam1110 @FatPony Thank you for the support and suggestion. We had scheduled it for the 24th because my husband will be on a work trip next week. At this point, I think it could be better for me to go sooner, even if it's by myself. I will call them today and try to re-schedule.

Squirtgun · October 2016

I hope that they are able to see you sooner! I know my OB saves time slots every day for when people need to be seen more quickly for a good reason. I would definitely want an opinion from an OB who regularly sees pregnant women rather than a GYN who doesn't!

schnitz9 · October 2016

I'm so sorry you're going through this. There is a chance though that you ovulated later though. With out temping there is now way to tell when you actually ovulated. OPK test are sometimes not that accurate. Also sperm can live up to 5-7 days inside a women as well. We were actually measuring about a week smaller at our first US and the next US was a HB and good growth. Turns out I ovulated 5 days after the last time we had sex and was still able to get pregnant. I do hope your able to see your OB soon and get some answers. FX for you!

vrj0522 · October 2016

I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Hopefully you can get in with your new obgyn soon so you can get answers.

roper2617 · October 2016

So sorry you're going through this. I agree with pp's in that I'd check if your other place can get you in earlier. If not I would personally still go to the one next week. For me it would ease my mind knowing if there is or is not growth within the next week.
If you were just using OPKs it's actually very possible you still ovulated a couple days later than you thought. Case and point =me. According to my opks I ovulated 2 days earlier than I did. My late ovulation was confirmed by bbt charting and also the baby was measuring right on track for when I ovulated (6w2d instead of closer to 7 weeks as per lmp). Later ovulation plus later implantation could potentially account for not being as far ahead as you anticipated, I do hope this is the case for you. Keep us posted and I'll be sending you all the good vibes!

blueskies17 · October 2016

@slam1110 @FatPony @Squirtgun @schnitz9 @vrj0522 @roper2617

Thank you all so much for your support and great advice. I was able to reschedule the appointment with my new OBGYN to this Friday, so hopefully I will have some answers soon.

SKZW · October 2016

@blueskies17 Fingers crossed and sending good vibes your way... Friday can't come soon enough...

kat81 · October 2016

Good luck and keep us updated! I had bleeding and then an ultrasound that measured a week off but things seem to be going just fine! I hope you have a happy answer.

schnitz9 · October 2016

Glad to see you're going in fri. Like I said my first US they had me at 5wks and then 10 days later I was at 7wks 4 days ahead. There is a def possibility you ovulated later than you think. Happens more often then you think.

renee6465 · October 2016

I'm so glad they could get you in sooner and I hope to see a happy update on Friday.

blueskies17 · October 2016

I had my appointment with the new OB-GYN and she confirmed that the gestational sac has not grown since my last scan a week ago. I am now going to wait for a natural M/C. I've had a lot of time to think about this and mourn the loss over the past week and I'm ready to accept that this was not meant to be this time.

Thank you ladies again for your support. If it wasn't for your advice, I would have waited in limbo for another week. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies and hope to be back on The Bump in the near future.

RissaAnnmaria562 · October 2016

blueskies17 said:

I had my appointment with the new OB-GYN and she confirmed that the gestational sac has not grown since my last scan a week ago. I am now going to wait for a natural M/C. I've had a lot of time to think about this and mourn the loss over the past week and I'm ready to accept that this was not meant to be this time.

Thank you ladies again for your support. If it wasn't for your advice, I would have waited in limbo for another week. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies and hope to be back on The Bump in the near future.

Sorry for your loss. Sending lots of love your way❤️

CajunSnowWhite89 · October 2016

So sorry for your loss.

rkstro2 · October 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers for you.

laurenann89 · October 2016

I'm so sorry.

Abby7 · October 2016

I am so very sorry for your loss.

alr5k · October 2016

I am so sorry. T&P

schnitz9 · October 2016

blueskies17 said:

I had my appointment with the new OB-GYN and she confirmed that the gestational sac has not grown since my last scan a week ago. I am now going to wait for a natural M/C. I've had a lot of time to think about this and mourn the loss over the past week and I'm ready to accept that this was not meant to be this time.

Thank you ladies again for your support. If it wasn't for your advice, I would have waited in limbo for another week. I wish you all happy and healthy pregnancies and hope to be back on The Bump in the near future.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Glad they were able to see you sooner and your limbo didn't need to last longer than it needed to be. I got pregnant with-in 3 weeks of my MC in aug. Don't loose hope. Hoping that you can pass everything with out any intervention as well. Take care of yourself and hoping to see you on a new BMB very soon....

MrsFox2008 · October 2016

So sorry for you loss.

Icarriedawatermelon · October 2016

So sorry to hear this.

FatPony · October 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss

ddvj79 · October 2016

I'm so sorry for your loss.

IvyMagic828 · October 2016

I'm so sorry it ended up being a loss. Hugs to you at this tough time.

SKZW · October 2016

@blueskies17 I'm so sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you.

MoshiMoshi7 · October 2016

So very sorry to hear this. Take care of yourself.

roper2617 · October 2016

@blueskies17 I'm truly so sorry to learn about your MC. Sending you hugs and love and support

Squirtgun · October 2016

I'm so very sorry for your loss!

slam1110 · October 2016

I am so very sorry!

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