Wedding anniversary

Jendink · October 2016

So we are going out for our anniversary tonight and I'm debating a glass of red wine... Yay or nay?! I obviously wouldn't chug it and will drink lots of water (if I can without feeling sick). I know it's controversial but just wanted some of your thoughts....

brij2006 · October 2016

Probably a FFC but I continued to have the occasional glass of wine or glass of beer while pregnant with DD.
The midwife told me that if I'm used to drinking then my body knows how to process it. But she told me not to have more than 4 ounces in a setting and not more than twice a week. I had a 4 ounce glass maybe once a month or would taste wines if I went to a winery with friends.
H joked that I had my pregnancy bottle of wine that took me the whole pregnancy to get through.

Jendink · October 2016

So I was a drinker before I got pregnant... Probably a beer per night (not any more than that). I would think my body would react similar to what you've said. It's the perfect fall weather where I live and red wine sounds amazing!

mkrel · October 2016

You should read the book Expecting Better by Emily Oster. It is so interesting because it breaks down all of the studies and their validity for the rules of pregnancy. She is a health economist and mother and it is a very fun read if you are curious and like statistics. She basically came to the conclusion that light drinking has not been shown to have a negative impact, and light drinking was defined as up to two drinks per week in the first trimester and up to one drink per day in the second and third trimesters.
Also, I have been told by my OB that an occasional glass of wine is ok. That being said, I personally don't think I would be comfortable with even one glass until I'm into the second trimester.
Happy Anniversary!

pghctwife · October 2016

I think you just have to do what you are comfortable with. I have always been comfortable with the occasional glass of wine outside the 1st trimester (and I never had any in the last tri bc holllllllly heartburn, wasn't worth it).

Ive yet to be convinced that there is a danger in the very occasional small single drink, but there is obviously a line where it becomes unsafe, and we are not sure what that line is.

I also look to europe on this. And depending how early you are, plenty of women don't learn they are pregnant that early and may drink unknowingly. It seems that is not considered a problem either.

I think with all the dos and donts in pregnancy, you have to look for yourself at what the risks of the specific food or activity is, how likely, how dangerous. And weigh what you are comfortable with and what you are not. OK maybe lay off the crack pipe regardless. But alcohol, deli meat, sushi, soft cheese, exercise, hot dogs, and on and on and on... if we avoided every single thing we would be left with very little. For me, I was more worried about food poisoning, or lysteria than I was a single glass of wine. I do not believe the 1 glass will cause FET but a single occurrence or lysteria could have bad results. Thats just me though, we all need to decide what is right for us.

Jendink · October 2016

Thanks ladies! I'm a little worried about he heartburn it may cause

sammy.k · October 2016

Happy Anniversaey! Our anniversary is today, too!!

delujm0 · October 2016

brij2006 said:

Probably a FFC but I continued to have the occasional glass of wine or glass of beer while pregnant with DD.
The midwife told me that if I'm used to drinking then my body knows how to process it. But she told me not to have more than 4 ounces in a setting and not more than twice a week. I had a 4 ounce glass maybe once a month or would taste wines if I went to a winery with friends.
H joked that I had my pregnancy bottle of wine that took me the whole pregnancy to get through.

Exactly this. A small glass of wine consumed slowly while eating food is fine. The alcohol will be metabolized by your body long before it gets to the baby...and depending on how early it is, if your placenta hasn't implanted yet, baby isn't eating what you eat anyway, so if that's the case there is zero chance of the alcohol getting to the baby.

I second the recommendation for Expecting Better, it is seriously awesome. I read it during my first pregnancy and I want to reread it now.

I had two tasting portions of wine with food at 6 weeks with DD. Mostly so the friends I was traveling with wouldn't suspect anything. So I don't judge on the wine front.

sagehens47 · October 2016

LOVE expecting better - it takes away so many fears. Just be smart!

Jendink · October 2016

I'm totally ordering that book right now btw! Thank you ladies!!!❤️
Edited to add: I'm 6 w 4days

wifeinraleigh28 · October 2016

My two cents: Even if it's probably fine, why would you risk it? Do you really need wine that badly? Maybe I'm missing something here.

Edited just to add that I am a wine lover. Still, I don't understand why you would risk wine while pregnant.

NamelessAria · October 2016

I'm personally with @wifeinraleigh28 here. Would a glass of wine be OK? Maybe. But the first trimester is already really risky. I personally would never feel OK about drinking any amount during the first trimester. Maybe the second or the third when everything is more safe as long as I did my research first and knew what was documented to be safe. But that's me. You do what is right for you.

Jendink · October 2016

@sammy.k happy anniversary to you too!

JessErinF · October 2016

@Jendink It certainly is personal preference and the recommendations have changed widely over the years, but the current recommendation is ZERO alcohol at all is safe during pregnancy.

BTW My anniversary was wednesday! Congrats! :-)

mrlight · October 2016

I'm with @wifeinraleigh28 and @NamelessAria. Sure, there are studies that small amounts of alcohol may be okay; however, there are a lot of other studies done that alcohol can harm your baby. The argument is that plenty of women drink a long time into their pregnancies because they didn't know they were pregnant and had healthy babies, but it can also be argued that plenty of women have been on hard core drugs and have ultimately had healthy babies, too.

**TW** Maybe it's just because I have previously experienced a loss, but I couldn't imagine doing anything that could risk the health of my unborn child. If I were to experience another loss, and I knew I had drank alcohol, I know I would blame myself, and would never forgive myself.**TW Ending** In my opinion, if a woman can't go 36 weeks without alcohol for the health of her child, she may need to ask herself why drinking is that important to her.

(Full Disclosure: Before I got pregnant I did drink beer and wine pretty regularly, and liquor occasionally. I'm not opposed to drinking in general, just during pregnancy.)

Jendink · October 2016

Thank you for everyone's input. I know that everyone is entitled to their opinion and while I welcome differing opinions I will say that I did have a few sips of wine to celebrate with my husband but nothing more than that. (go right a head and judge me if you must) It is not something I plan to do regularly and was more of a one time thing. I went my entire first pregnancy without drinking so it by no means is that I can't go 36-40 weeks without alcohol.
*TW*
@mrlight I actually have experienced 2 losses so I do know how that feels and neither of the losses were due to alcohol intake.

jackiemarie1989-2 · October 2016

I don't know why I'm stuck in Italics.
I personally didn't feel comfortable with it in first tri. With my son I had a half-glass on Christmas Eve at 26 weeks, and occasional sips of my husband's beer to taste it. I don't judge women who have a small glass here and there. The odds are in your favor that it wouldn't hurt anything.
I don't think it's fair to say that if a woman chooses to have a a small amount that is within reason, it means she "can't go without it" or that she has a drinking problem.
Edit to add, just realized that you already had the dinner, oops! Happy anniversary a few days late.

BelhurstBride · October 2016

mrlight said:

In my opinion, if a woman can't go 36 weeks without alcohol for the health of her child, she may need to ask herself why drinking is that important to her.

(Full Disclosure: Before I got pregnant I did drink beer and wine pretty regularly, and liquor occasionally. I'm not opposed to drinking in general, just during pregnancy.)

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