@bnsmith85 Ha I was so checked out of work for the last month. I have no idea how I could have worked this week (since obviously Baby B has no intentions of coming out..) I'll be around today!
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
+1 for winging it! "Ignorance is bliss" has been my motto this whole pregnancy along with it's all going to be trial and error. Just hoping for the best.
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
I make sure to take time with each shower to make sure I'm as well shaven as I can get... Tonight, I said f*ck it and half assed it all. Watch me go into labor now lol
@bnsmith85 This past weekend I shaved for the first time in the pregnancy - I really don't care how I look, but I don't like getting blood in my pubic hair. I got the middle all done but my razor ran out of battery and I haven't gone back to finish one side. I was actually kind of *hoping* that would fate me to have the baby already...
I'm on a conference call right now and I'm so tuned out. I know I'll have to re-learn all of this information in January when I go back to work so why bother learning it now?
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
I'm on a conference call right now and I'm so tuned out. I know I'll have to re-learn all of this information in January when I go back to work so why bother learning it now?
We've been having weekly meetings on Wednesdays to teach new stuff related to our re-org and I've been the same... completely tuned out. They have the meetings recorded and I know I'm going to have to relearn in January, so what's the point... I mean, I'm NEVER going to remember how to do a website build after 12 weeks and having never done it before then. Nope!
We talk a lot on here about our crazy mothers in law (which I have appreciated so much! Ty!!) so I've been having a bit of anxiety lately with this LO on the way that this will be me someday-- like I just have to accept my fate that I'll be the dreaded MIL for my unborn sons future wife/husband. is there anyone out there with a good relationship to theirs??? Like you sometimes spend time together, genuinely enjoying each other's company? I have to believe there's hope for me!
@Kittens22 I have an awful MIL but my H is very close with my mother and step-mother because they aren't bat-shit crazy. This thought has crossed my mind too but I feel like I have a good 25-30 years to figure it out. Will we get on the nerves of our future daughters/sons in law, most definitely, but I think that as long as we respect boundaries and be good people, we'll be ok. Cross that bridge when we get to it!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
Married: November 2014
TTC #1 Since: October 2015
BFP #1: 11/18/15 - CP BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16 IT'S A BOY!!!! DS Born 10/16/16
@MRSCORKER that's lovely, and genuinely encouraging to hear!!! Thank you you're right that we have a long ways to go. I hope it doesn't haunt me and I can focus on just being a sane mom to begin with haha. But it truly is nice to know that it's not a done deal!!!
@Kittens22 I have a great relationship with my MIL. We are both respectful of each other and she isn't overbearing. We have dinner with them once a week and we enjoy it. I know she is going to be wonderful to my son and a huge help to us. It can happen!
@Kittens22 - I think my inlaws are idiots, but my H has a very good relationship with my parents. I think it's all in how you handle the relationship and also a little on them too. If your DIL is BSC, I mean, there's just not a whole lot you can do lol
@Kittens22 My in-laws are the shit and I have a fantastic relationship with them. It is 100% possible to not be a crummy MIL in the future... just remember everything you hate about yours THEN... don't do that to your child's future spouse.
@Kittens22 My MIL is difficult but my husband is very close to my parents. He spent yesterday golfing with my dad for example. I think the biggest thing is watching his relationship with my parents v. Our relationship with his parents is that my parents treat us like adults with our own lives, goals, etc. His parents are extremely insulted anytime they demand something and we say no. They respond like you might to a teenager refusing to do what they were told.
For example, with this baby, my parents ask about our plans, what they can do to help. My in laws announced when I was about 20 weeks that there were driving up from sc (to nj) the day the baby was born. When we said we weren't ready to commit to long term visitors from out of town that soon, my MIL cried and told my husband he shouldn't fly down for her birthday as planned. That behavior doesn't work with other relationships, why would it be different with your adult children? Sorry this got so long but my point is, if you realize your children and their spouses are adults and treat them like you treat other adults, I think it's very possible to have a good relationship
@Kittens22 My MIL is difficult but my husband is very close to my parents. He spent yesterday golfing with my dad for example. I think the biggest thing is watching his relationship with my parents v. Our relationship with his parents is that my parents treat us like adults with our own lives, goals, etc. His parents are extremely insulted anytime they demand something and we say no. They respond like you might to a teenager refusing to do what they were told.
For example, with this baby, my parents ask about our plans, what they can do to help. My in laws announced when I was about 20 weeks that there were driving up from sc (to nj) the day the baby was born. When we said we weren't ready to commit to long term visitors from out of town that soon, my MIL cried and told my husband he shouldn't fly down for her birthday as planned. That behavior doesn't work with other relationships, why would it be different with your adult children? Sorry this got so long but my point is, if you realize your children and their spouses are adults and treat them like you treat other adults, I think it's very possible to have a good relationship
@kittens22 I think the fact that you are worried about it already shows that you are more mature than a good portion of the crazy MILs that we discuss on here! I don't think you have anything to worry about
@kittens22 I have a great relationship with my MIL. But, it's probably not a fair comparison because she lives in another country. However, that means when she visits, she's staying at our house and it's an extended stay. So, when we are around each other, it's pretty constant. She's adorable, and sweet, and doesn't pry. She also really likes her personal space, so she's never overbearing with others.
@Kittens22- I would like to echo that it shows a great deal of maturity and forethought on your side that you are considering this now. To answer your question, I adore my MIL and get along with her far better than I do with my own mom, stepmom or dad. I think I even get along with her better than my H does sometimes. She is basically my stand-in mom.
As an aside, i almost married an ex boyfriend from years ago and sometimes I think about how different life would've been had I been stuck to his awful family forever. She would've been another crazy MIL and I'm so glad we split (for so many more reasons than just his family of course).
I think that the important takeaway is that if you desire to have a good relationship with your child and their spouse, and you're willing to be respectful then that's the foundation. Of course if you have a bsc DIL/SIL then all bets are off again, like @AllyTheKid said.
ETA: in fact we get along so well with H's parents that we are trying to find property to build either 2 houses on or a townhouse type home on.
Random for today: when a few of us were talking about Gilmore Girls, I said I did not like April. Okay, I still don't really. BUT- I'm re-watching the last season and I have to say...the episode where Luke goes to Anna and says he is Aprils dad and will fight for his right to see her is one of my favorite Luke scenes. He seems so much like he just lets people walk all over him a lot, and this scene where he finally takes a stand and fights for his kid is awesome.
Also im thinking maybe it's not April I dislike so much, but her mom Anna. Anna is a B.
@bamacoop that scene is the best. Anna is horrible to him!! She doesn't tell Luke he has a daughter and then has the nerve to hold it against him to say he doesn't have a right to see her. Jerk!
We just bought a package of Oreos to make cookies and cream ice cream. And now I want to eat only Oreos..all day. Only one week to go at most, how much weight could I possibly gain?
We just bought a package of Oreos to make cookies and cream ice cream. And now I want to eat only Oreos..all day. Only one week to go at most, how much weight could I possibly gain?
@chriscasey33 I'm wondering the same thing. I gave up all willpower approximately 2 weeks ago & have a "F*** it I'm just gonna eat all the cookies" attitude. Everyday. Up 8 lbs since then. But don't really even care.
NBR but I guess could be a possible TW. Sorry for the story so feel free to skip over...
DH's uncle had heart surgery earlier this year and has been up and down healthwise since. It appears that he isn't going to make it much longer. He is not conscious right now and has a bleed they don't feel comfortable operating on. At the same time, DH's uncle on the other side of the family has been battling Alzheimer's for a couple of years. He has been having seizures and has started becoming violent. He will be moved to a home soon. My MIL is taking it very hard because she hasn't lived close to her family and is partially blaming herself (which is totally irrational but she won't see reason right now).
I feel like this baby will provide a welcome distraction to my in-laws but I hate that his birth may also be accompanied by all the bad news. If you pray or not, DH's family would appreciate all you've got. Thanks girls
Me:33 DH: 34 Married: May 2011 TTC #1: May 2015 DS: 10/20/2016 TTC #2: June 2019 #2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Thinking of you and your family @ibabyloveb87... My bestie's first arrived on the heels of her H's grandfather passing and then after his birth, his father's passing. It was a super sad time for them but her LO definitely provided the smiles the family needed in that time. I hope your LO has the same positive effect
So sorry to hear @ibabyloveb87. You and your family are in my thoughts. Baby B will definitely be a welcoming bundle of joy! ❤️
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
Re: Weekly Randoms 10.10.16
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
@ibabyloveb87.... we should be making up some sort of baby dance to make these LO's come on out!
Also, bumping from a computer today and I am so not used to this. #mobilebumping4lyfe
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
We talk a lot on here about our crazy mothers in law (which I have appreciated so much! Ty!!) so I've been having a bit of anxiety lately with this LO on the way that this will be me someday-- like I just have to accept my fate that I'll be the dreaded MIL for my unborn sons future wife/husband. is there anyone out there with a good relationship to theirs??? Like you sometimes spend time together, genuinely enjoying each other's company? I have to believe there's hope for me!
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
For example, with this baby, my parents ask about our plans, what they can do to help. My in laws announced when I was about 20 weeks that there were driving up from sc (to nj) the day the baby was born. When we said we weren't ready to commit to long term visitors from out of town that soon, my MIL cried and told my husband he shouldn't fly down for her birthday as planned. That behavior doesn't work with other relationships, why would it be different with your adult children? Sorry this got so long but my point is, if you realize your children and their spouses are adults and treat them like you treat other adults, I think it's very possible to have a good relationship
As an aside, i almost married an ex boyfriend from years ago and sometimes I think about how different life would've been had I been stuck to his awful family forever. She would've been another crazy MIL and I'm so glad we split (for so many more reasons than just his family of course).
I think that the important takeaway is that if you desire to have a good relationship with your child and their spouse, and you're willing to be respectful then that's the foundation. Of course if you have a bsc DIL/SIL then all bets are off again, like @AllyTheKid said.
ETA: in fact we get along so well with H's parents that we are trying to find property to build either 2 houses on or a townhouse type home on.
Also im thinking maybe it's not April I dislike so much, but her mom Anna. Anna is a B.
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
DH's uncle had heart surgery earlier this year and has been up and down healthwise since. It appears that he isn't going to make it much longer. He is not conscious right now and has a bleed they don't feel comfortable operating on. At the same time, DH's uncle on the other side of the family has been battling Alzheimer's for a couple of years. He has been having seizures and has started becoming violent. He will be moved to a home soon. My MIL is taking it very hard because she hasn't lived close to her family and is partially blaming herself (which is totally irrational but she won't see reason right now).
I feel like this baby will provide a welcome distraction to my in-laws but I hate that his birth may also be accompanied by all the bad news. If you pray or not, DH's family would appreciate all you've got. Thanks girls
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!