Coming off Birth Control...what was your experience like?

bmo88 · October 2016

Hopefully it's ok, I felt like this wouldn't fit in any of the other normal threads, but wanted to ask everyone. I know all experiences are different, but curious about what others went through.

I am getting my Mirena IUD out in 24 hours (tomorrow at 2:00pm) and it will be the first time in 12 years that I will not be on birth control. I am preparing myself for the potential long period I have read about, but also recognize that might not happen. My friend jokingly said she would get me a tub of ice cream, tissues and box of tampons to prepare for the emotional onslaught that will likely follow.

Since most of you are TTC on here, I am just curious what your experience was like coming off birth control and what type you were on before.

Thanks for any responses!

[Deleted User] · October 2016

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<div class="QuoteText">Hopefully it's ok, I felt like this wouldn't fit in any of the other normal threads, but wanted to ask everyone. I know all experiences are different, but curious about what others went through.

I am getting my Mirena IUD out in 24 hours (tomorrow at 2:00pm) and it will be the first time in 12 years that I will not be on birth control. I am preparing myself for the potential long period I have read about, but also recognize that might not happen. My friend jokingly said she would get me a tub of ice cream, tissues and box of tampons to prepare for the emotional onslaught that will likely follow.

Since most of you are TTC on here, I am just curious what your experience was like coming off birth control and what type you were on before.

Thanks for any responses!</div>
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QFP

adirat · October 2016

Remember when you created a post about this before?https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12689161/when-did-you-go-off-birth-control-before-ttc/p1

Was that not helpful?

Basherbaby · October 2016

OP, this question has been asked numerous times on this board. Use the search function and you will see a ton of great experiences. Check out the newbie guide at the top of this board to see where future questions like this will fit into the community. A post like this doesn't typically go over very well because of the board structure. I am just tying to warn you before this gets out of hand. Take a look at some of the recent posts on this board to see what I am talking about. You can still save yourself. Admit that lurking more would be in your best interest, turn this into a GIF party and participate on some daily threads to get to know everyone. This place is awesome and full of amazing women but structure is extremely important with the size of the community here.

Update: I realize you asked this previously. I tried to be nice but now I am a little frustrated.

Edit #2: I should have looked to see she wasn't a newbie. I automatically assumed someone regular would know not to post like this. I give up.

thatcma · October 2016

I just can't right now....

rainbowturtles · October 2016

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bumpybump · October 2016

@adirat I knew I recognized that SN.

mylove071407 · October 2016

Wow. If you just asked this why are you asking again?

lulu1180 · October 2016

OP you have been told multiple times by multiple people, this kind of subject is not deserving of its own thread! Stop wasting our time by making us flame you and stop clogging up the board! You have been on here long enough and lurking (even posting) to know better. You cannot claim ignorance! I would suggest lurking until you are off your BC and then lurking some more until you are completely and totally sure you understand the rules of the board and then possibly lurk a bit more for good measure. Then maybe do a re-intro and start posting in the appropriate daily thread.

bmo88 · October 2016

Wow. Before, I asked when they decided to come off. This is about what you experienced when you came off. The reality is, when a dead thread gets revived, people complain. When a new thread gets started, people complain.

I have been posting to this board for the past few weeks and have been on the bump for a few years. I have anxiety about coming off birth control tomorrow and was trying to alleviate it by talking about it with others, given I have no one in real life to do so.

But, clearly, no one wants to talk about it. So, let's just end the thread here.

If you don't want to comment about your personal experience, then please just don't respond. It's great to have community but seriously, the level of militancy around creating a post on here is exhausting sometimes. I did not find another recent thread about people's experiences coming off birth control after I looked, so I started one.

bumpybump: Just an fyi, I am not "back again" I joined a few weeks ago and have posted almost daily.

adirat: I recall when I created that and the topic was different. If you read it, you will notice it asked "when you went off bc." This post asked what your experience was like when you got off.

lulu1180 : Uhh..not sure what you are talking about. I have not been told "multiple times" to not post. In my last birth control thread, a few people said I shouldn't have posted and many, many others said it was fine and responded. So I don't know what you are talking about. Also, not claiming ignorance here, just disappointment.

Here's my unpopular opinion: Sometimes posters are quick to jump on the "this should not exist" bandwagon and don't recognize a need to discuss things. Had this fit in the WTO, TWW or another existing thread, I would have posted it there. But it did not.

I do not expect anyone to agree, but it's really disappointing that when something does not violate the TOS or is not a flounce post, that there is such a quick reaction to be catty, post gifs or eye roll.

lulu1180 · October 2016

@bmo88 Militancy?!?!? So you have a problem with the boards organization and the fact that we don't like individual posts (such as this) clogging the board and keeping the daily threads bumped down to the bottom or next page. If you don't like the organization here than I'm not sure you would do so well here. Especially considering you can't seem to take criticism well

mylove071407 · October 2016

OP....feisty pants simmer down.

You decided the get the IUD out congratulations. Every experience is different. Google is your friend and you could have utilized that fun feature that this website has called the search function.

ETA: Spelling and grammar

beary67 · October 2016

@bmo88 I'll play nice. Hopefully this link helps:

https://lmgtfy.com/?q=Experience+after+IUD+Removal

adirat · October 2016

bmo88 said:

Wow. Before, I asked when they decided to come off. This is about what you experienced when you came off. The reality is, when a dead thread gets revived, people complain. When a new thread gets started, people complain.

I have been posting to this board for the past few weeks and have been on the bump for a few years. I have anxiety about coming off birth control tomorrow and was trying to alleviate it by talking about it with others, given I have no one in real life to do so.

But, clearly, no one wants to talk about it. So, let's just end the thread here.

If you don't want to comment about your personal experience, then please just don't respond. It's great to have community but seriously, the level of militancy around creating a post on here is exhausting sometimes. I did not find another recent thread about people's experiences coming off birth control after I looked, so I started one.

bumpybump: Just an fyi, I am not "back again" I joined a few weeks ago and have posted almost daily.

@a dirat: I recall when I created that and the topic was different. If you read it, you will notice it asked "when you went off bc." This post asked what your experience was like when you got off.

lulu1180 : Uhh..not sure what you are talking about. I have not been told "multiple times" to not post. In my last birth control thread, a few people said I shouldn't have posted and many, many others said it was fine and responded. So I don't know what you are talking about. Also, not claiming ignorance here, just disappointment.

Here's my unpopular opinion: Sometimes posters are quick to jump on the "this should not exist" bandwagon and don't recognize a need to discuss things. Had this fit in the WTO, TWW or another existing thread, I would have posted it there. But it did not.

I do not expect anyone to agree, but it's really disappointing that when something does not violate the TOS or is not a flounce post, that there is such a quick reaction to be catty, post gifs or eye roll.

Omg WHY. I have so many responses to this.

First, if you had no problem posting in WTO when you have an IUD, why would you feel like you couldn't post about your anxiety there? That's where we all post about our anxieties, related to TTC or not. In fact, I have seen posts there about coming off BC before! No one flamed them. The posters were in a fully supportive place.

Second, the idea that these two threads you created are different is nonsense. In my field we call this "a distinction without a difference."

Third, if you think we are too militant and you don't like it, why are you here? I purposely chose to join here because it is a community and not constant new topic one-off posts. If you don't want that, that's completely fine. I just don't know why you'd choose here instead of another site with that structure.

bmo88 · October 2016

lulu1180: Never said I couldn't take criticism.
mylove071407 : Never asked for the congratulations. Also, I noted every experience is different. But googling is not super helpful. Let's face it, people ask questions on here that could be googled as well. We come here for a community of experiences, not to just google for answers.

lulu1180 · October 2016

@adirat

mylove071407 · October 2016

@bmo88 yes we come here for a "community of experiences" but who is to say your experience will be like mine? Or any one else on this board? It's an iud. You could get your period next week or two months from now. No one can say for sure. And what do you mean googling isn't helpful? I learned a lot from Google. Trust me.

adirat · October 2016

@lulu1180 By god we've done it again! You are wonderful and in the future you may cosign me to any post you make to a drive by.

lulu1180 · October 2016

OP if this is you taking criticism well, I'd hate to see what it's like when you take it poorly

rainbowturtles · October 2016

If you couldn't find any posts EXACTLY like this one (with plenty of people's personal experiences) when using the Search Function then you're doing it wrong

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SaphireSweetie88 · October 2016

@bmo88

You already asked this question back in September (a little over a month ago). And from glancing at replies, it looks like those who replied, shared their experience as well. So the reason for this post is...??

edited: spelling

thatcma · October 2016

I posted in the thread in September. I may not had had much to say but I gave input regardless. You got a lot of really good replies on that thread.

It is just unnecessary to make another thread. I get the wording is a little different but you are generally asking the same information. Let me also say that before my IUD was out I had a ton of questions and wanted input. Guess what? I used the search function, it has a lot of answers on there.

As many have said if you don't like how these boards function then don't use them, they aren't for everyone. I was put off initially by the tone and how it is laid out but these are the realest women around. TTC isn't all sunshine and roses and sometimes what you need is women like this to keep you in check. The "militancy" you say that is on here is the reason that I only spent 1 day on other sites and came right back here.

bmo88 · October 2016

For those saying to google: what's the point of the questions section on the WTO thread? What is the point of a discussion forum?

How about you just google it. I am not asking what happens when I get off bc, I was asking what other's experiences were. Which is what this board is literally all about...everyone's experiences in the TTC process. So if you all took the advice of googling, no one would be on this board...

Did I say TTC was sunshine and roses? Nope, obviously. I have seen that this board is far from sunshine and roses...clearly.

@SaphireSweetie88: I mentioned before, the other thread was different and asked when people decided to come off. But it's kind of a moot point now.

Lost cause at this point. Just go about your day everyone

[Deleted User] · October 2016

lulu1180 · October 2016

It wasn't the fact that you asked the question, it's that you didn't ask it in the appropriate place on the board. Or that you didn't use the search function. And after you've been on this board for a few weeks and seen the way we flame drive-bys you should really know better.

And for the record, a lot of time when I ask a question in the WTO or TWW thread I will also see what I can find on google but it's also nice to get it straight from the horse's mouth so to speak.

mylove071407 · October 2016

bmo88 said:

For those saying to google: what's the point of the questions section on the WTO thread? What is the point of a discussion forum?

Had you posted your question in the WTO section...you wouldn't have gotten the responses you did.

If you lurk, you would have noticed that the community doesn't like clutter...and a new post is clutter especially if you posted the same thing twice even if you reworded it.

But I will throw you a bone...I had an IUD for the prescribed 5 years. I spotted when I got it taken out. Then a month later I got my period. That's my experience for you. Take it with a grain of salt because yours could be 100% different.

RunRestRepeat · October 2016

I don't get it... if you know where the cs/q section of the WTO is, and have posted there before, WHY is this not there?

I'll second (or third, or fifteenth) the PPs who said they have come here specifically because it is NOT pages upon pages of one-off posts. I just don't get it.

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