\DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
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Monday Bitchfest (10/10)
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Re: Monday Bitchfest (10/10)
I'm so tired of sitting on a toilet at my own home that is wet. Between two potty trained boys (DH and DS1) and one boy in training (DS2) - it is a constant war zone in the bathroom and I am the only one who cares. SO GROSS.
DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
* formally bornmommy
Yes my boobs are bugging me today to, nappies feel like sandpaper was rubbed agonist them!
My 2 year old won't go down for her nap and this mama needs a nap!!!
Granted, I'm only 4+3 now and my boobs didn't start hurting with DD until about 5-6 weeks in...but I'm wondering if maybe since I'm still nursing DD (just in the evenings, once on each side) they won't bug me so much? I mean aren't they supposed to hurt because they're getting ready to lactate? And I'm already lactating, and have been for the past 15 months, so what could they possibly need to get ready for?? With my luck I bet they'll start hurting after DD weans (which god willing will be in the next few months on her own, so I don't have to force it), and i'll have achy boobs at the same time as heartburn starts to kick in.
My Bitch is that I'm at work today and my boss isn't here so people keep asking me questions in his absence. Ugh, leave me alone, it's Monday. Also Mondays are really a let down because I have such fun all day with DD on the weekends, and so I miss her a lot on Monday. She was still sleeping when I left this morning. Boo.
movie but the less fun part of being pregnant again is an adjustment.
It is a norm on most Bump forums to avoid starting your own thread unless it really can't go anywhere else. I probably need to simmer, but board organization and etiquette has a purpose. If I'm the in the minority, I will have to adjust...but our BMB will be a chaotic mess.
@swanbrooner It doesn't necessarily bother me either way (I'm not the most orderly person in the world) but I do think that as we get more people posting if will run much more smoothly if we have more organization so I completely get your frustration.
@swambrooner It doesn't really bother me but I'm also not uber organized. I know I'll miss things but the tagging, notifications, and such TB has now makes it easier not to.
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DS #1 born 05/25/2012
BFP#2: 06/12/2013 ---- loss
DS #2 born 4/08/2014
BPF#4: 2/1/2016 --- 2/23/2016 suspected molar pregnancy--- 3/15/2016 D&E - diagnosis MM
BFP#5 - 9/22/2016
* formally bornmommy
I'm with @swanbrooner on organization. I feel the shared threads foster a greater sense of community and rally people around common situations, interests and experiences. I don't think it has to be that "You can't start any threads unless part of a pre-approved thread", but more a matter of "Is this post going to aid others here or be entirely dear diary in nature or is it already being discussed on another thread". If dear diary or already am ongoing thread, I would say the thoughts still have a place on the board, but in those shared threads (eg "pregnancy chatter") rather than individual post. I've seen boards end up in chaos without organization and they ultimately don't have a strong sense of community. I've also seen very important threads get pushed down because of irrelevant one off posts. Ohhhh just wait ladies. It well get bad without organization. How would you like to see a dozen "let me rant about my baby shower" posts in a single day. Yes, a single day. My last board had situations like this arise and it was very frustrating when women were experiencing hardships and needed support or other major milestones were trying to be discussed (eg anatomy scan, high risk issues), but he threads were lost or bumped down with less people having visibility to give much more needed support. I personally love to visit these forums as a means to support my peers on this journey (and from time to time seek support) and it gets difficult to do so when the board is cluttered with random individual posts. Just my opinion.
@swanbrooner, I can tell you're irritated by it. I don't really have a preference. That being said, on TCF's GKU board it was very rigid and people were only allowed to post in designated threads, the poster would get called out and the the graduates would come tell us what bitches we were being. I think the random posts can be annoying at times, but by that same token, I think the same old threads weekly for 36+ weeks can seem monotonous.
On O10 and M14 there were no guidelines, people made individual posts, but then there were your normal FFFC, HDBD, UO, Bitchfest, etc. It worked just fine.
I was an end of the monther on my last bmb and it was so annoying to see all these threads that were 10 pages long. What was the point of adding your age or where you're from at that point? No one was really reading them anymore. So there were some repeat questions and posts but it worked itself out when everyone was there and when there was a regular core of that community.
I haven't eaten in over 10 hours. I'm sleepy. Next nasty thing he says to me I'm gonna throw a dirty dish rag in his face and walk out this birch
I only spent 3 months on TTGP and consider that one of the most if not the most organized board on TB. Things were slightly more free flowing on the IF board where I spent more time, but still well grouped too. I made strong bonds on the IF board in particular and I have to say that having shared threads in those communities made it so easy for me to get to know the group, commiserate with women going through similar issues/setbacks/etc. the support was amazing! Honestly we are all so early on in our pregnancies and everyone is excited. No one wants to think about this kind of stuff, but I think it will help in the long run and get a great bond going if we have shared support threads. Again, just my opinion from someone having seen multiple approaches (M14, N15, Tri boards, TTGP, IF and avid BMB lurker).
I guess what I'm trying to say is that I like the idea of the IF boards free-flowiness, yet still maintaining organization.
I'm not against having organization of topics and posts here, I just think it'll naturally clear out as people become more regular and the June bfps are all here.
K born 8/31/12
C born 1/11/14
BFP #3 Nov 2014: D&C January 2015
BFP #4 Sept 2016: Due May 31 2017
My bitchfest is basically about the majority of today. We had teacher in service - while I had planned to clean my classroom for the past couple of weeks specifically for today, we had to sit in multiple meetings that were sprung on us this morning. I almost fell asleep during two of them from the fatigue.
As for the boards organization, I am pretty go with the flow, but I definitely can see why one would want specific etiquette for all to follow. The last board that I was a part of the longest was Sept. 2011 and that was a free for all for the trolls. This board seems less trolly, but my guess is because that it is still early.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married: July 2009
BFP: November 2012 after 2 years of TTC DS born August 2013
Diagnosed with PCOS April 2016
3 months of trigger shot with timed intercourse BFN x3
First IUI: 9/17/16 BFP: 9/30/16 EDD: 6/11/17
And as we begin to be more consistent with starting each daily thread, people will naturally fall in line (this sounds more harsh than I intend but I can't think of better phrasing).
I also think that as our board gets a more solid core of people, we can always reconfigure or change some of the topics if needed. Increase or decrease how many times a post is started for the week depending on the needs of this community or what we see being repeated in SS posts.
Does this make more sense? I'm definitely not advocating for pure chaos, just a little patience as we get more solid footing.
The hardest adjustment for me in my first bmb was that not everyone did come from TTGP. But we managed to keep it somewhat together (the exodus was a completely separate issue).
I think the board will get better with time. I like organization but I think being too rigid scares people away. I also think some of the group threads get so long and hard to follow people just give up and want to post on a specific topic. That will probably get better as we move forward as well. So I'm just going to go with the flow. You ladies seem to know what you are doing!
Regarding board organization -- I see it both ways. I admit the threads with pages upon pages seem overwhelming if you aren't able to keep up daily. But I also like grouping similar topics when possible.
Also just my personal POV (in case I did a crappy job of conveying it before), but I think it is totally cool to start threads outside the "norm" used on other boards. For example, if ladies want a thread dedicated entirely to coping with food aversions, specific ultrasound results (eg placenta previa), test results (eg GD, strep b test) that strikes me as helpful to many. At the end of the day, I really just care about the "will this thread impact/aid others" mentality (with of course the obvious exception for a lady needing major support for that dreaded U/S news).
Again, this is just my POV. I certainly don't mean to imply these are rules or how things must be/should be.
As for board organization... I spent such little time on TTGP before moving over to TTTC and IF that I'm unfamiliar with that level of organization. On IF there were group threads for people who were cycling together with similar treatments and I really liked that, but people also created individual threads all the time (which would sometimes get turned into group threads) and it was all fine. The individual threads don't bother me (at least not yet, lol).
Me: 34, DH: 38 ~ TTC since 2014
IUI #1-3 (Nov 2015, Feb 2016, May 2016) = BFNs
IVF ER (July 2016) = 7 PGS normal embryos
FET #1 (Sept 2016) = BFP! DD born 5/30/17
FET #2 (April 2019) = BFN
FET #3 (July 2019) = BFP! DS born 3/27/20