TTC After a Loss

****October TWW*******

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Re: ****October TWW*******

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  • @DungeonTrollMel when is the end of the day for your office?? My results for anything always toon forever with my office, like sometimes they'd forget and I'd have to call the next day. Grrrr
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • Tomorrow @BitterBetty12?!? Dang, I'd be a huge ball of nerves! How can clinics do this to us? FX for great news tomorrow!!
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • Sending good thoughts your way @DungeonTrollMel! Grow baby, grow! Keep us updated.
  • Well I should go here, but after a positive OPK on Sunday and a lot of EWCM that ended yesterday, my temp actually dropped. WTAF? I slept like crap last night and I started the prednisone for my headache, so I wonder if that has anything to do with it. Either way, DH and I will be using protection the rest of this cycle be/c the last time my body faked me out and my temp didn't go up, my body released a triploidy egg, Not doing that again! I'm hoping that my 97.56 temp was due to crappy sleep and I will get a better spike after a better nights sleep? Otherwise, this just adds insult to injury after my crappy week.
  • 12DPO and BFN here. Don't think it's my month again. Days like today I feel like it will never be my month. I go for my yearly GYN appointment in a few weeks and I'm not even sure what to ask him.
    Me: 32 DH: 36
    Married 5/08
    BFP #1: 1/27/13 DS #1 born 10/16/13
    BFP #2: 1/20/16, ectopic discovered 1/23/16
    Surgery 1/23/16 to remove ruptured tube
    TTCAL 3/16
    BFP #3: 3/24/17 EDD 12/5/17
    DS #2 born 12/11/17



  • Lots of thoughts and prayers for a super strong beta for you on Thursday @DungeonTrollMel.

    Sorry about the temp drop @chloe97. Hopefully it's just the meds messing with you. Are they at least making you feel better? 

    @Taggarab so sorry about the BFN, this process really can get discouraging. Hugs <3

    I should be coming over here to join by the end of the week! Bring on the crazy!

    still have my fingers crossed for you @BitterBetty12.
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • @BitterBetty12 Congrats girl! Always good to see a TTGP lady get that BFP.

    @DungeonTrollMel FX for you. We're all here rooting for you and good betas!


    I'm in the TWW now as well. It's been a crazy week, where unfortunately my grandfather passed away. I took time off the Bump to spend time with family and in the meantime, I got CH (which I guess on the bright side is good because BD wasn't happening once we heard the news). This is my first TWW after a loss and I'm terrified of both a BFN and a BFP. I'm trying to keep myself grounded and say it's ok if this isn't our month but we all know that barely works.

    How does everyone handle their testing? I can't decide if a BFN is worse or the waiting for AF is worse. I think deep down I know that even if I get a negative, I'll still have a sliver of hope it was too early, etc. etc. 



  • Looks like I'm in the same boat as @Taggarab.   12 DPO and BFN this morning.  :(  
    I've been having crazy symptoms this month, and BSC is out of control.  I had a temp drop on Monday, so at this point I guess I'm hoping I just tested too soon. 

    @DungeonTrollMel sending good thoughts your way!

    MC #1: D&C Oct 23, 2015 (7.5 weeks)
    MC #2: July 1, 2016 (5.5 weeks)
    MC #3: October 17, 2016 (CP)
    RE #1: RPL testing November 2016-January 2017
    MC #4: Feb. 28, 2017 (CP)
    RE #2: Additional RPL testing March-November 2017
    MC #5: January 2019 (6.5 weeks)

    RE #3: More testing 2023. 
    Egg Retrieval Sept/Oct 2023, 2 good embryos after PGT-A testing.
    Surgery for endometriosis January 2024
    Lupron Depo March 2024.  Benched 3 months.  Hopefully FET after that.

    #BitterHagPartyOf1

  • BitterBetty12BitterBetty12 member
    edited October 2016
    @chloe97 FX that one temp was a fluke! Maybe a fallback rise? Only time will tell but I have everything crossed for you that it was successful ovulation. 

    @hartmich Thanks girl  <3 I really appreciate it. I haven't been super active over there in the last month but I still follow everyone. Also I am so incredibly sorry to hear about your loss  <3 My thoughts are with you and your family. As for testing, it is absolutely TERRIFYING to get a BFP after loss. But it's also incredibly exciting. And emotional. I have always been in camp 'I want to know if AF is going to show'. Hence why I was crazy and tested so early. But that's absolutely a personal preference. Knowing early can also cause unnecessary worry. FX.

    @Taggarab Sorry for the BFN. Having a yearly appointment coming up is definitely a good opportunity to start talking to your doctor about what is going on. I don't know what you should ask either but if I think of anything I'll let you know!

    ETA: @dpjennifer sorry for the BFN as well. Hugs.

    I'm still waiting for my beta. Going to call around lunchtime today if I haven't heard from the office yet. Hopefully I'll have an update for you ladies later  <3
    Me: 28 DH: 26
    Married: November 2015  3 
    TTC#1: January 2016
    BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
    BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
    DD Born 06/23/17 3
    TFAS: April 2018
    BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
    BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19


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    Still rooting hard for you @BitterBetty12 and @DungeonTrollMel! FX for good betas!
  • @BitterBetty12 Great numbers! FX for a happy and healthy nine months!
    **TW - Loss & Child mentioned**
    Me: 40  DH: 47
    Married: 10/2015
    DSD: 17
    BFP #1: 6/2/15, ectopic, metho 7/15
    BFP #2: 12/4/15, cp 12/7/15
    BFP #3: 8/5/16, MMC discovered 9/1, Misoprostol 9/19
    BFP #4: 5/10/17, EDD 1/20/2018
    Baby boy born January 12, 2018, 6 lbs 3.3 oz, 20.5 in.

  • @BitterBetty12 congratulations!! That's such great news :) 
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • Congrats @bitterbetty12 - I am so happy for you - that is the best news!! Still have my fingers crossed for you @DungeonTrollMel.

    Ugh Im sorry @chloe97- How is your migraine?

    Im so sorry @taggarab and @dpjennifer - this process is just so hard. Sending you both positive thoughts today!

    @hartmich - Im sorry for your loss!
  • @BitterBetty12 It's early in the morning, but it'll be hard to top such great news for the remainder of the day!!! :smiley:
  • @bitterbetty12 I can't love tit your post enough!! YAY! 



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    Great news @BitterBetty12!
  • @bitterbetty12 omg such good news! Yay!  <3
  • Aww yay @BitterBetty12!! Those numbers look great! <3
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • Congrats, @BitterBetty12

    @chloe97 So sorry to hear the migraine continues.  I hope you get some answers soon. 

    @fivetimesnoluck Glad you survived the hurricane with minimal damage!  That would definitely provide quite the distraction for the TWW.
    Me: 35     DH: 37
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- DS born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19 -- DD born 5.24.19 <3
    BFP: 9.1.21 | MC 10.1.21
    BFP: 11.11.21 | EDD 7.24.22 

     

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    Yay, @BitterBetty12!!!  So happy for your great numbers!!
  • Congrats to everyone who's gotten a BFP in October! Gives me hope!

    Today is 8 DPO and I tested this morning like a masochist. BFN. I got a BFP 9 DPO last time, so I'm convinced that if I get another BFN tomorrow I am really really out this month.  I keep reminding myself that it's not over until AF sings, but I'm feeling very pessimistic.  Maybe next month I'll try acupuncture or reiki or some other new agey thing that'll make me feel like I'm doing something productive about this whole situation.
  • Congrats @BitterBetty12! And @DungeonTrollMel - keep hope alive!
    @fivetimesnoluck - glad everyone is OK and you are handling thing well. 
    **** TW - kids and loss mentioned ****
    ~~ married 8.11.07
    ~~ DD1 1.16.11 ~~ DD2 1.3.14 ~~
    ~~ BFP3 12.22.15 MMC 2.29.16 @ 13 weeks ~~
    ~~ 2 D&Cs (3.1.16 and 3.10.16) for MMC
    ~~ BFP4 10.27.16  MMC 1.23.17 @ 16 weeks ~~ D&E 1.26.17 ~~
  • @hartmich so sorry about your grandfather passing, especially so soon after your loss :( Big hugs to you! As for which would be easier to take...BFN or waiting for AF....I'm always torn on this. The BFNs are hard. The only good thing is that by the time AF does show I'm usually not AS sad. That said, the first AF after loss is extremely hard regardless and can be very triggering, even if you know it's coming :/ Obviously I hope you get a BFP and don't have to worry about it but just thought I'd try to share my thoughts <3

    AFM, another BFN this morning just "to be sure" *eyeroll* Sorry to the other BFNs in here, too :( It feels like CD1 will be today or tomorrow so I'm trying to find out when my next FW will be and if DH will be home...and of course can't help but notice that the end of this next cycle will be right around our anniversary ....  :#
  • Back to WTO for me. I started spotting yesterday at 12DPO and bleeding today. Frustrating, but I guess my LP isn't necessarily too short right? I hope some of you have better luck this month.
    Me: 32 DH: 36
    Married 5/08
    BFP #1: 1/27/13 DS #1 born 10/16/13
    BFP #2: 1/20/16, ectopic discovered 1/23/16
    Surgery 1/23/16 to remove ruptured tube
    TTCAL 3/16
    BFP #3: 3/24/17 EDD 12/5/17
    DS #2 born 12/11/17



  • @taggarab sorry for AF showing up. I usually have an 11-12 day LP and my Dr said that's fine, as long as it's not 10 or less. 
  • @Taggarab I'm sorry you're back in two :( My LP has been 11 days and I'm wondering if that's my problem. so frustrating!
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • @DungeonTrollMel I'm thinking about you today!
        
    Me: 34 DH: 38
    Married: June 2011
    TTC since Feb 2016
    BFP#1: 7/7/16 MMC: 8/16/16 
    BFP#2: 5/8/17 - CP
    BFP#3: 6/27/17 EDD: 3/10/18
  • @Taggarab sorry about AF

    I chickened out of testing this morning at 10DPO. I'm down to one last Wondfo and I want to make it count! But honestly, I think I just don't want to deal with a BFN today. 
  • CD 1 sucks, I'm sorry, @Taggarab.

    @DungeonTrollMel - I am also hoping for the best for you today! Let us know.

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • I love reading about the bfps!  It gives me hope that our bodies can straighten themselves out after a loss. I wish all of you lots of luck.  I'll be here twiddling my thumbs as I wait for the next 3 months until I can ttc too.
  • AHHHHHHHH I have been waiting all day for this update!!!!! So many congrats @DungeonTrollMel!!
    Im really gonna miss you and @BitterBetty12 around here but am so glad you're both gone (in the nicest way possible of course). Wishing you a very healthy 9 months :)
    DH - 34, Me - 32
    Married 7/13
    TTC #1 since 10/13
    BFP 2/4/15, MC twin boys at 18w3d 5/15
    IUI #1 2/25/16

  • @DungeonTrollMel  Omg! I've been checking all day!!! I am so beyond happy for you and @BitterBetty12. I'm going to miss you guys but am so happy for you both. A wish you both a very healthy, happy, boring and uneventful 9 months :) 
     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!
  • Yay! So excited for you @DungeonTrollMel!!
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