Monday Bitchfest 10/10

bumpybump · October 2016

JDW0325 · October 2016

Was having a fine day today (even after early testing BFN this morning) and then see 2 different pregnancy announcements on FB. I get it, I do, you are happy. You want to share it. But I am sad. And I am jealous. And now I am crying in the bathroom at work.

EDIT- Sorry for the sad post. This really just has me all messed up now.

izza2 · October 2016

My MBF is that I'm currently on week two of having a cold, and it's now morphed in to endless coughing fits and a slight fever.
And instead of calling in this morning when I almost passed out making H's lunch, I'm currently at work watching over a sleeping patient, trying my hardest not to cough and wake him up.
And I ran out of cough drops an hour ago.
And have to ask permission to leave the hospital and buy more.

bumpybump · October 2016

@JDW0325 I'm sorry you're having a rough day. Your post made me so sad for you. Maybe take some time away from FB if you can?

SaphireSweetie88 · October 2016

@JDW0325 - My heart broke for you reading your post. That's rough. Sending you hugs!

@izza2 - I'm surprised the hospital doesn't have something you can take. Hopefully you wont have to deal with your cold / cough too much longer. When I have a cold like that, I love getting the mint green tea from Starbucks (it's so warm and soothing). Add a little honey (1 pack) and it's perfect.

vflux33 · October 2016

My MBF is that sometimes TB highlights my entire post and it's driving me nuts. I have other annoying shit going on in life right now but because it just did it again just now I'll go with this one for today.

That sucks @JDW0325. I second @bumpybump's suggestion. I left Facebook because of the election, but I've decided to stay off throughout TTC for this very reason. I'm sure I miss a few event invites, but other than that I don't miss it much at all.

Edited to add MBF

CallaLily25 · October 2016

Having a very emotional day...I've been crying at everything (like dumb TV shows) when I never do. Probably PMS.
1. My car died and it's most likely the transmission. I'm dreading the price tag.
2. My mom has to have a stint put into her heart on Thursday to clear a minor blockage. I'm grateful that they can do something, but I'm really scared for her.
3. I'm SS a lot today and seeing nothing. I've convinced myself that being 12 DPO with a low cervix and practically dry/little sticky CM means a BFN is coming my way.

kiki75 · October 2016

Coworker #1 started a "juice diet". This means weeks of him waltzing around telling everyone how great it is, how incredibly healthy it is, and implying that we're a bunch of pathetic fatsos because we're not doing the same thing while I try to bite my tongue and not explode telling him that it's basically a way of rubber-stamping disordered eating and yelling
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Oh yeah, the guy who developed the diet did it for like a year and lost 100 pounds. *Eyeroll*
Juicing is so much more filling than like, eating an apple. You just feel full for so long afterwards. Sure. Believe what you want.
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Other coworker (the other one who is always off-base pious AF about health stuff) was just on the phone with her dr's office for an eye problem. Apparently she's upset because she's still having the problem but she's only been using the antihistamine and hasn't been using the steroid because she doesn't want to. Hmmmm. Wonder why you're still having the problem.

@vflux33 I kind of like keeping Facebook just so I know who I can be disappointed in, who can confirm that they're what I always thought, and who can amaze me with their ridiculousness.

@JDW0325 I'm sorry you're having a tough day.

SaphireSweetie88 · October 2016

@CallaLily25

I'm sorry you're having a rough day

FX and prayers for your mom

RunRestRepeat · October 2016

@JDW0325 I'm so sorry that today has been rough. Just know you're not alone - creepy internet hugs to you.
@CallaLily25 Fx to your mom - it sounds like she has a good team!
@Kiki75 Ah, the juice cleansers. My SIL (who is bsc) does those from time to time. Swears by them, but then can't understand why she has so many nutrient deficiencies.

No major bitchfest for me... I was supposed to have an event recap meeting from 7 to 8:30 tonight for an event that's not even happening next year (WTF?) but I may have lied and said I couldn't make it. Oops. So really, it's just another Monday.

vflux33 · October 2016

@Kiki75 Ha! Yeah I am definitely missing out on that stuff. Also, I totally agree on the juicing. It's kind of similar to veganism. Like, go for it if you want, but you really don't need to talk about it all the time and make me feel guilty for making different diet choices.

Edited because cheese

mylove071407 · October 2016

My MBF is this....so DH thinks that the cp that I had was not a legit pregnancy so I shouldn't be upset. Then last weekend my SIL posted that she is pregnant. She told me via a text to check FB where she announced it to everyone else in the world. I found out that her family knew weeks ago. I also found out that DH knew when she initially found out three months ago so way before I was even pregnant. She was one of the first people I texted about the cp. I feel like DH betrayed me when he didnt tell me and he allowed me to be blindsided at a family function. DH still believes he did nothing wrong and doest get that all that I want is an apology for hurting me.

rainbowturtles · October 2016

Ugh so sorry for everyone's MBF's!
@JDW0325 I also had a BFN this morning and am having a tough day and then saw a pregnancy announcement on Facebook that made me sad and jealous

hugs

My MBF aside from the above is sort of petty but I'm annoyed. Why are men so clueless about food??? For one thing, I buy and pay for 95% of the groceries so I usually have plans for when they're supposed to be eaten/what they're supposed to be used for. Since I was doing soooo much cooking this weekend for thanksgiving, I didn't feel like planning lunches because I still had some curry soup for myself to eat, so I just got DH some chunky soups. Just now he wanted lunch but he decides he wants the leftover ham from thanksgiving and I'm like "you can't just have ham for lunch and that ham is for dinners", then he says he's going to have ham and cheese and crackers. I tell him we're out of crackers. So he cuts up a bunch of ham, an entire wedge of asiago cheese and some garlic cheese. That's it. I basically say "wtf?!" and tell him I got chunky soups for him for lunch because food is expensive and I can't make him food EVERY meal and he says that he doesn't really like chunky soup. *eyeroll* I tell him we can't always have what we want and that a $2 meal isn't necessarily a bad thing...chunky soups aren't terrible ffs. Sighhhh guess I DO have to prepare food for him for every meal or he's going to eat expensive crap! It probably shouldn't piss me off so much but with the day I'm having.....

slaven · October 2016

@mylove071407 I'm sorry that happened to you. I'll admit, I didn't know a CP was a real thing before TTC. It was just plain old not educated about it. Is there a way to teach your DH about it? Maybe not now while the wounds are fresh because I'm sure researching that brings up sad results, but sometime in the future. I really hope he gets his head out of his ass. Also, who texts someone to say check FB? Like, "I could tell you I'm pregnant now but I went out of my way for a cutesy announcement so waste your time and go of FB".

@rainbowturtles DH does stuff like that all the time. I constantly ask what he wants for breakfast and lunches so that he doesn't eat out and so that I can make it ahead. I never get a good response and then he ends up spending $20 on coffee and a subway sandwich meal. I've been slowly cooking out our pantry and fridge trying to get rid of things so our meals have been funny. I'm also trying to get better at using up those random leftovers. We had cous cous and broccoli left over but I wanted to make tomato soup and grilled cheese so I ended up adding the broccoli to the soup (used a blender) and then had cous cous on the side.

mylove071407 · October 2016

slavenski said:

Also, who texts someone to say check FB? Like, "I could tell you I'm pregnant now but I went out of my way for a cutesy announcement so waste your time and go of FB".

She claims to have done it that way because she didn't know how to tell me. I want to say to her "you should have put your big girl panties on and just told me" I also feel like she doesn't think I'm a member of the family because she told everyone else in person. But I rate with Facebook. Apparently the 11 years I've been with her brother don't count for anything.

kiki75 · October 2016

*TW* To the whole thing.
@mylove071407 Would he understand better if you put it this way:
Say you were offered your dream job. You got all of your information about your benefits package, saw where your office was going to be, started making plans for how you were going to arrange it, how you were going to spend your money, how you were going to tell your family, what you're going to wear to your first day of work, and all of the awesome things you were going to do at this job. Then, while feeling miserably crampy, you get a text, "OOPS! LOL, JK. We meant to offer the job to the OTHER BOB. Good luck to you!" Now, not only were your dreams within reach and have been yanked away, you feel like crap physically, you're wondering what you did wrong (nothing but the self blame is usually strong), and are now looking at going back to square one on job hunting. Sure, maybe you didn't get clear up to having your office decorated and your new outfit on for day one before having it taken away but that doesn't make it much better at all. Pretty crappy, yeah? Then a close family member announces, "I just got my dream job! My office is great, I'm going to paint it like this, I'm going to do X,YZ, and it's going to be awesome!" Now imagine that that's a baby and not a job.

It's just such a different experience for them all around. They aren't peeing on things all the time. They don't wake up a little in the morning needing to pee and thinking of what a chore it is (wake up enough to pee in cup successfully, dip stick, wait around for five minutes, clean up). They aren't waking up in the night wondering if they should temp or what time it is or if they can just go back to sleep. They aren't checking their apps trying to mastermind when the best times to have sex are. They're not scouring the internet for the magic trick to get KU. They don't spend time considering what they eat and drink as far as what it means for the process. And then, in a loss, it's not happening to them physically. They don't look at other men who are going to become parents and think, "That's what my body should look like by now."

Try to get him to at least understand that there is something that he doesn't understand. And he doesn't have to understand it to be sympathetic and gentle with you.

NYTino24 · October 2016

Oh, ladies! I'm sorry this Monday sucks for everyone. I told my best friend no June baby and her response was, "Yay?" My answer was, "Well, hopefully we will have more luck when we actually start trying in a few weeks." She did a 180 after that, but I'm sure she's happy it won't get in the way of her (possible) wedding. Maybe I took the first text the wrong way... I hate PMS headaches! They give me such a short fuse.

haylsbayls-2 · October 2016

@Kiki75 this is such an amazing way to put it! Thank you for providing me and I'm sure everyone else with a helpful way to explain to our SO on why we are all BSC when it comes to this process.

@rainbowturtles my DH does this all the time! He thinks I'm being selfish with my food but I have to explain to him that I just like to plan our meals! I thought he learned his lesson when he ate my sandwich that I had prepared to take for lunch and it was a vegemite sandwich! He was drunk, took one bite, and threw it out the window of our moving car! But nope, he still steals all of my food.

@mylove071407 I don't even know what to say to this! I hope you use @kiki75 explanation and he finally understands. Hugs to you!

icecubeinthedesert · October 2016

@Kiki75 YES, YES, A THOUSAND TIMES YES! (I wish I could live tit your comment that many times).

I will also agree to all those commenting about Facebook announcements. SO MANY. But the whole Facebook thing is like people watching... I can't look away...

Now back into to my mopey lurking I go...

mylove071407 · October 2016

@Kiki75. I've tried to ex plain to him that it was exactly what you said...God said here's a baby but then a week later said no just kidding. And he still doesn't get it. He's so dense and hurtful sometimes. He always thinks he's right and he never has to apologize for anything. Getting an apology out of him is like pulling teeth. I should also add to the story that when I found out I told him not to tell anyone and he told his sister.

JDW0325 · October 2016

sorry to post and ghost yesterday. I'm just really having a hard time with everything. I'm going to take a little break from the internet all together I think. I'll check back in when my spirits are a little better, although that seems like a wish that will never be granted right now.
Best of luck to you all!

GeorgiaWife6912 · October 2016

So many hugs to you @JDW0325! Please take care of yourself!

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