This is my selfish side showing but I can't wait until DS is old enough to truly appreciate food and I can cook delicious dinners that I see on Pioneer Woman or Farmhouse Rules.
@BumpasaurusRex you never know...DD wolfed down creamed spinach because I told her it was the sauce for the noodles. And today she asked for seconds of kohlrabi because they were cut just like fries. Gives me hope sometimes, it really does.
I'm purposefully steering clear of commenting on the mom stuff. Not because I don't feel you and get it, but because I am currently waiting for my mom to pull into town for a visit, and I am working on putting my game face on. I will be back to this thread in 24 hours, I am guessing...
I'm putting this vent here because I'm completely jealous and as long as I get out it to someone, I can then let it go.
Some of you might remember awhile back me talking about my boss who brings her son to work but this is a privilege that only she is allowed. I also found out that the nanny who comes into the office with her son is paid through the company payroll as an employee. She doesn't pay a cent for childcare out of her own pocket (she's part owner so I guess this is allowed?)
She just bought a new house. A huge, gorgeous new house and I'm jealous. I'm so freaking jealous and I need to stop it. I just can't help feeling that if I didn't have to pay for childcare, maybe we could pay off some of our debts and be in a nicer house and not living paycheck to paycheck.
So that's my confession. I'm a jealous monster right now who should be so grateful that I have a home of my own, a job, and a beautiful family and soon to be baby boy. I just can't help this feeling right now.
@BumpasaurusRex did you ever approach your company on the childcare topic?
I think it's so hard to watch someone else who has it a lot easier (and with more wealth to boot) and I think your jealousy is very valid. I know you're grateful for what you have, but man wouldn't it be nice if perks were spread a bit more evenly?!
Sort of on the same topic but my own FFFC- I was alerted of a job posting right up my alley, competitive salary etc, and there's no way I can consider it. I make very little being a caregiver, but the flexibility with being pregnant/having a baby I can take care during the day paired with the help my dad needs has to come first. But I'm feeling those pangs of "what if we had more money?" Then I feel immediately guilty because what I'm doing is right where I need to be. Sometimes I don't know how to process these emotions, there's a lot of guilt, but there's also some secret jealousy too
@kirstynikole Migas sound amazing, though! I'm sure they kicked the donuts' ass
I had to Google "fudgeo" and I saw a whole bunch of tasty looking chocolate cookie sandwich things but I couldn't find a good description on what it actually is. I'm pretty sure our stores here don't carry them.
I react to stress poorly - and I'm more selfish than DH (though I think I'm less selfish than average - but that might be a cognitive distortion) - I worry that our kid will love DH more, or go to him more than me because he'll be a better parent than I will. I know I'll willingly make changes and compromises for our child, but what if that makes DH upset because I haven't done the same for him? Or what if our child feels she needs to protect me? I want to be a parent that is relied upon.
---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---
I don't read the nursery thread because Hannah isn't getting one. I also don't read the symptoms thread unless I hear there's something funny/ entertaining in there.
I cussed today in front of our 81 year old neighbor. I was trying to help prove a point that just because my husband and I are "nice" we don't like people getting carried away with things that aren't appropiate. I was very clear when I told him the lady on the other side is a bitch. He looked very shocked lol
I have been actively trying not to cuss at DS's preschool and failing. Not like at kids but when the principle lady talks to me about stuff. They're probably so put off by non church going cussing me.
This isn't really a confession other than I tried to take this pic, and my flash went off so if you see that guy in the background, he caught me lol... and its blurry because when the flash went off I was trying to get my phone down lol... this lady wore this shirt to open house, and @PerraSucia reminded me of it, talking about cussing in school lol
On the topic of cussing, I have gotten bad with it lately. Mostly at work, which is extra naughty. Like every time the phone rings and I'm already busy I let out a long, exasporated "fuuuuuuck" before answering. It's like my pre-game warmup for whatever happens to be on the other line.
Also, neighbors. I may or may not have called one of ours a "cuntcake" and I'm still not entirely sure where I got that from--but it apparently stuck and now it's the "cuntcake" household, instead of the "catty bitch" household. Oops!
I don't read the nursery thread because Hannah isn't getting one. I also don't read the symptoms thread unless I hear there's something funny/ entertaining in there.
This kid isn't getting a nursery either. Neither did DD (1BR apt until she was 2, so we room shared for a looooong time). Now we are in a 2+BR, LO will room share with us until 6 months or so but then will move in with DD in her room. I still stalk the nursery thread because I love seeing what other people's ideas are (specifically @PerraSucia's animals in frames). I might hang something over her crib while she's in our room, but that's it.
I never swore nearly as much until I married a man in the military. Every other word out of his mouth is a swear word and he doesn't hear himself doing it. I'm pretty certain this baby's first word will be "fuck"
Have you guys seen the movie "Role Models?" We have already come to terms with the fact that our kids will be just like Ronnie. Lots of parent teacher conferences in our future..
Oh man yesterday DS was like "fuck a duck man" no one here says this so other kids st his school must have parents who are better at keeping it in while in public.
@LivingLaVidaGinger same here. I married a sailor and now I curse like one. Thankfully DS hasn't tried to say the F bomb but he's definitely said aw sh*t after I did. He's. Ever said it since but I'm just waiting to be "that parent".
I swear a lot but my kid doesn't. I make a big effort not to in front of her. Me: fuck! DD: what did you say, Mommy? Me: nothing, boo. DD: I heard you! You said a NAUGHtY word! To myself: the fuck are you asking me what I said then....
I have a horrible mouth. Like really bad. I have no idea how I am going to correct it either. I don't even realize I'm doing it anymore. I think I may have to start with one word and try to eliminate it. First up, my favorite, the F bomb.
I have a horrible mouth. Like really bad. I have no idea how I am going to correct it either. I don't even realize I'm doing it anymore. I think I may have to start with one word and try to eliminate it. First up, my favorite, the F bomb.
Did you see the move "The Man" it has an amusing way to stop with the F-bomb... say it but follow it through with crying out loud... then youll put it together fast like Fuckcryinoutloud... then eventually it will come out "for crying out loud!" Lol
Oh man, I swear a lot too... But everyone in my family does, even around the kids. I just plan to teach my kids that there is a time and place for swearing (at home, and not AT people). That's what my parents did with me and my siblings, and it worked out well for all of us (except I guess we all swear a lot as adults, so maybe it didn't work?)
I've been kind of avoiding the nursery thread, because it bums me out... We live in a small 2-bedroom house, and the second room currently serves as an office and guest room. We are taking out everything except the desk and futon to make room for baby stuff, but I don't really feel like it'll be a "nursery" per se. But since our house is so small, we can't devote the entire space to baby stuff, even though I would really like to. We're not painting anything, and the walls will remain covered in Star Wars posters, Ralph Steadman prints, and other random artwork. It's a pretty big room, so at least half of it will be for baby stuff. But it makes me want to move into a bigger house ASAP. (The baby will also be in our room for the first 6 months, so I guess it doesn't matter we don't have a nursery yet anyway...)
Re: FFFC*!!! 10/7
Grow out of the chicken nuggets already!
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Dessert trumps everything else though of course.
Some of you might remember awhile back me talking about my boss who brings her son to work but this is a privilege that only she is allowed. I also found out that the nanny who comes into the office with her son is paid through the company payroll as an employee. She doesn't pay a cent for childcare out of her own pocket (she's part owner so I guess this is allowed?)
She just bought a new house. A huge, gorgeous new house and I'm jealous. I'm so freaking jealous and I need to stop it. I just can't help feeling that if I didn't have to pay for childcare, maybe we could pay off some of our debts and be in a nicer house and not living paycheck to paycheck.
So that's my confession. I'm a jealous monster right now who should be so grateful that I have a home of my own, a job, and a beautiful family and soon to be baby boy. I just can't help this feeling right now.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
I think it's so hard to watch someone else who has it a lot easier (and with more wealth to boot) and I think your jealousy is very valid. I know you're grateful for what you have, but man wouldn't it be nice if perks were spread a bit more evenly?!
Sort of on the same topic but my own FFFC- I was alerted of a job posting right up my alley, competitive salary etc, and there's no way I can consider it. I make very little being a caregiver, but the flexibility with being pregnant/having a baby I can take care during the day paired with the help my dad needs has to come first. But I'm feeling those pangs of "what if we had more money?" Then I feel immediately guilty because what I'm doing is right where I need to be. Sometimes I don't know how to process these emotions, there's a lot of guilt, but there's also some secret jealousy too
@kirstynikole Migas sound amazing, though! I'm sure they kicked the donuts' ass
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
I also don't read the symptoms thread unless I hear there's something funny/ entertaining in there.
Also, neighbors. I may or may not have called one of ours a "cuntcake" and I'm still not entirely sure where I got that from--but it apparently stuck and now it's the "cuntcake" household, instead of the "catty bitch" household. Oops!
I still stalk the nursery thread because I love seeing what other people's ideas are (specifically @PerraSucia's animals in frames). I might hang something over her crib while she's in our room, but that's it.
"This cookie is delicious!"
"This cookie is f*cking delicious!"
It's a natural adjective enhancer.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
Me: fuck!
DD: what did you say, Mommy?
Me: nothing, boo.
DD: I heard you! You said a NAUGHtY word!
To myself: the fuck are you asking me what I said then....
I've been kind of avoiding the nursery thread, because it bums me out... We live in a small 2-bedroom house, and the second room currently serves as an office and guest room. We are taking out everything except the desk and futon to make room for baby stuff, but I don't really feel like it'll be a "nursery" per se. But since our house is so small, we can't devote the entire space to baby stuff, even though I would really like to. We're not painting anything, and the walls will remain covered in Star Wars posters, Ralph Steadman prints, and other random artwork. It's a pretty big room, so at least half of it will be for baby stuff. But it makes me want to move into a bigger house ASAP. (The baby will also be in our room for the first 6 months, so I guess it doesn't matter we don't have a nursery yet anyway...)