This is extremely difficult for me to write and I'm doing it here because its the only way for me to do so without telling a lot of people a lot of things they don't need to know. But in a nutshell I have recently found out there is an extreme amount of infidelity among the ranks of my husband's unit (national guard). No I'm not hearing rumors. Actual accounts first hand. Not only are soldiers cheating on their civilian spouses (male and female) there's a wm present that has been with two soldiers, also an E7 and now my husband as well. WTH am I supposed to do with this?! I can't even wrap my mind around the fact that I am now going to have to prepare myself and my two young children for our entire lives to be irreparably changed, but I'm also 13 weeks pregnant and have to ask my OB for a freakin' std panel!!! Obviously this is fraternization at its extreme, but I feel like there's nothing I can do. If it gets reported to the command more than just my family is destroyed, many families will be ruined. On top of that isn't this grounds for less than honorable discharge for all those involved and therefore removing any available benefits from them and their families? So if i report this not only are lots of lives destroyed by the infidelity, all the defendants get doubly hurt by losing all their benefits as well. I'm so utterly devastated I can barely function and in fact ended up in the ER today with high blood pressure and a migraine. Can someone please have a word or two of advice about any of this I can't even think straight or stop crying long enough to even see what my next step options are..... and for the love of God if all you have is judgement please, please just keep it to yourself I literally can not take anymore negativity right now.