@SaraRose83 - one of the hospitals nearby has shared postpartum rooms. If you end up having to share there is an area that the husbands/SOs can sleep but it's not in your room. I'm not delivering there but if I did and DH couldn't stay in my room I would def send him home. But the whole thing sounds like a nightmare to me.
Dh slept at the hospital with me because I had a c section and needed help. I ended up having to call the nurse to wake him up because he was sleeping so soundly...I even threw wet cold washcloths on him! But once he was awake he helped at night. During the day he was in and out a lot (showered at home, did some shopping for stuff I needed, spent some time with dogs, got food). It'll probably be that way again. I have no expectation for him to stay in that one room for the whole time. Everyone seems to handle it all differently.
DH: Are you looking forward to parent teacher conferences? ME: Does anyone look forward to parent teacher conferences? DH: I'm looking forward to being a parent. ME:
His question came out of nowhere, lol. We weren't talking about Spencer or anything.
Yesterday I had to go get IV fluids and FI came with me. Policy is to have just the patient go back to the observation room for admission questions and all of that stuff, and anyone you bring with you has to hang out in the waiting room until they are done admitting you.
So yesterday when they finally let FI come back to my room, he complained about how uncomfortable the observation room chairs are compared to the waiting room. He had to complain about how uncomfortable he was while I was in nothing but a hospital gown and had an IV in my hand, plus having BH that I couldn't make go away because I couldn't get out of bed or reposition myself and a major dehydration headache. I could have killed him right then and there.
Dh slept at the hospital with me because I had a c section and needed help. I ended up having to call the nurse to wake him up because he was sleeping so soundly...I even threw wet cold washcloths on him! But once he was awake he helped at night. During the day he was in and out a lot (showered at home, did some shopping for stuff I needed, spent some time with dogs, got food). It'll probably be that way again. I have no expectation for him to stay in that one room for the whole time. Everyone seems to handle it all differently.
Oh my gosh! I had to do the same last time. I had a c-section and needed help getting out of bed. The baby woke up and was crying, and DH wouldn't wake up. I was yelling his name. So I thought, fine I'll just call the nurse. But who had my button because it also had the TV remote on it? Sleeping DH in the cot next to me. So I had to throw pillows at him. It took 3 pillows to wake him up.
SaraRose83 GAH SAME! We were talking about which car we'll take to the hospital and I said, "well whichever one has the car seat in it" and he goes, "Well, it doesn't really matter, after you give birth, I can just come back home and install the car seat in whichever car we want." And I was like, "ummm noooooooooooo, you're not leaving until I do!"
Me: 29 years old
DH: 30 years old
Married: October 20, 2012 TTC Since: March 2016 BFP: March 27, 2016 EDD: December 3, 2016
My hubby keeps saying that he will leave the hospital too. I know that for some, that's completely fine - and at some point in our stay, I may ask him to step out for my sanity purposes, but it kind of bothers me that he assumes that it's just fine for him to leave to go home to do things (take care of the dogs, shower, change, sleep, ect). I'm sorry, I'll have just gone through a MAJOR ordeal and would kind of like my husband to suffer some discomforts as well (suffer may be a strong word, but it's not a happy glowy pregnancy day for me). We live about 20 minutes without traffic from the hospital, so the least amount of time he would be gone is an hour. I feel like instead of him just assuming that he will go home for things, that he at least ask what my opinion would be on the matter. And in all truth, I may be completely fine with it after the baby comes, but right now, I am scared out of my flipping mind (FTM) and would like to know that he will be there with me through the entire time.
I am glad that I am not alone with these feelings or the only one going through this battle. We have our hospital tour this weekend, so we will know what the room situation will be at that time regarding whether it is private or shared/ward (doesn't that seem a little outdated??).
With my group of friends, partner staying by mom and babes side is the total norm. I am also so happy my birthing center/hospital has private rooms for both delivery and recovery.
if we're there long dh will probably go home to check on DS this time
Heres in a nutshell what I posted: I don't think I'll confine him to my room or anything during the day, I just assumed he'd be by my side for the support over night. But I'm a needy kind of lady emotionally. Haha. Also, if I have a csection I'm really going to need him because surgery scares me. But I think either way I'm going to follow @sourlemon and throw wet wash cloths at him because that's hilarious.
@penelope4612 Sharing a room postpartum sounds like a nightmare in general, eeesh. Yeah if he couldn't sleep in my room I'd send him home too. First he'd have to come back with pizza, though.
@SaraRose83 I completely understand. Its all personal preference and what you have available. I was just trying to point out that in both my hospitals this go round it is not the norm, and may not be the majority where you are.
Formerly known as Kate08young August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Me: 28 H: 24 Married: 7/22/14 Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017. Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
@AbriannaO Yes, exactly! I love my DH, but I think suffer is the right word here. I'm sorry, not sorry - who's having a baby come out of her body here? And yes, shared rooms are outdated I think.
Last night Squish was on my cervix and I was complaining to DH while getting ready for bed. He looks and me and goes, "Wow, you are carrying so low!" I look at him and say "This is how I've looked my entire pregnancy..." and he says "No, it is super lower." So then he starts worrying, with me having multiple BH last night and the fact Squish was on my cervix, that Squish had dropped and I would be going into labor soon and we don't have anything ready. Chill out, dude, I'm pretty sure baby is coming early but not THIS early. And, of course, today Squish is back playing in my rib cage.
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
I must first preface this by saying I am the one who calls myself a beached whale. I started it, DH only says it because I call myself it.
Last night I was trying to turn over to my other side because I was uncomfortable and DH got offended because that meant no cuddling. So I told him I was just flipping over. He starts laughing so I ask what's so funny? He's not going to tell me because I'll get mad, so I promise nothing bad will come to him if he says it.
"Beached whales don't flip, they flop!"
Ugh............
Married 4/12/13 TTC since 6/13 Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016 SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
Not my SO, but still...this morning I walked into a meeting and a woman on our team (in her 60s) says (in front of the group of 10 or so men), "Oh my, you are looking super pregnant now". Ummm...thanks?! She immediately backpedaled and said that it's all baby, all in my belly, etc....I'm just glad it's Friday and that I only have 7 weeks left in the office before I start working from home on "baby watch".
Me: "I'm no longer dealing with pants. I'm done" DH: "but you have pants on now" Me: "These are leggings. This is what I'm wearing from now on" DH: "Same thing. You look sporty!"
Conversation with DH: me: we should talk about our birth plan, like what you need to pack and how you'll help me manage the pain. dh: what's there to talk about? We'll stay at home until you can't cope anymore, then I'll pack an awesome metal band t-shirt for post birth photos, and we'll head to the hospital and have the baby.
When I was admitted to the hospital we had to sign forms for anesthesia and some labs because they are provided by an outside provider. DH asked the lady if they were covered on our insurance (last DD we had about 500 in bills that weren't covered and we didn't know until months later). The lady said she wasn't sure because it depends on your individual plan. I said "we can't worry about it, I will need anesthesia" Lady "you can try natural but don't let a bill decide that for you" Me "well I'm having a c section so that would hurt" (tone was light/joking, not omg mean) DH "are you sure you can't just be cut in half without anything?" (He was joking too). I told him I'll do it if gets his vasectomy with no pain management and he turned white. Said "money is no object" !
I think the hospital lady thought we were partially serious because her jaw was on the floor! Nah, we'll sign that forms and pay if needed...we really just wanted to know if it was covered.
DH sets up a fan in front of our bedroom door every night to circulate the cool air. The belly is now making it difficult for me to squeeze past it in & out of the room. DH: "Man...you're having trouble getting by...we should get one of those Dyson tower fans, they're a lot thinner." Me: "Orrrrrr...we could save hundreds of dollars by moving THIS fan 3 inches...w....t...f..."
This is after I explained to him 99823794823 reasons why we cannot adopt a third dog from a deploying friend of his right before I GIVE BIRTH TO OUR FIRST HUMAN CHILD.
DH "Hey, those look like my pants that I've been looking for." Me "That's strange, you have pants that look like this?" DH "Yah, have you seen them? .... Wait. Are those my pants?" Me "Nope. These are MY pants now." *cue evil laugh
Re: Things my S/O has said...
DH: Are you looking forward to parent teacher conferences?
ME: Does anyone look forward to parent teacher conferences?
DH: I'm looking forward to being a parent.
ME:
His question came out of nowhere, lol. We weren't talking about Spencer or anything.
So yesterday when they finally let FI come back to my room, he complained about how uncomfortable the observation room chairs are compared to the waiting room. He had to complain about how uncomfortable he was while I was in nothing but a hospital gown and had an IV in my hand, plus having BH that I couldn't make go away because I couldn't get out of bed or reposition myself and a major dehydration headache. I could have killed him right then and there.
TTC Since: March 2016
BFP: March 27, 2016
EDD: December 3, 2016
I am glad that I am not alone with these feelings or the only one going through this battle. We have our hospital tour this weekend, so we will know what the room situation will be at that time regarding whether it is private or shared/ward (doesn't that seem a little outdated??).
if we're there long dh will probably go home to check on DS this time
Ugh the bump ate my mobile post. Argh.
Heres in a nutshell what I posted: I don't think I'll confine him to my room or anything during the day, I just assumed he'd be by my side for the support over night. But I'm a needy kind of lady emotionally. Haha. Also, if I have a csection I'm really going to need him because surgery scares me. But I think either way I'm going to follow @sourlemon and throw wet wash cloths at him because that's hilarious.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
haha thank you for pointing that out to me!
@Kate08Young my monkey boppy is "daddy travel pillow" and the purple one is "the purple one". I'm so creative, I know.
Last night I was trying to turn over to my other side because I was uncomfortable and DH got offended because that meant no cuddling. So I told him I was just flipping over. He starts laughing so I ask what's so funny? He's not going to tell me because I'll get mad, so I promise nothing bad will come to him if he says it.
"Beached whales don't flip, they flop!"
Ugh............
TTC since 6/13
Diagnosed w/ PCOS 4/9/15 - R/E recommended lifestyle change
BFP 4/10/16 - DS born 12/16/2016
SURPRISE! BFP 3/8/18
DH: "but you have pants on now"
Me: "These are leggings. This is what I'm wearing from now on"
DH: "Same thing. You look sporty!"
Sometimes he gets it right!
Dunno what they were discussing but mad points for accuracy.
me: we should talk about our birth plan, like what you need to pack and how you'll help me manage the pain.
dh: what's there to talk about? We'll stay at home until you can't cope anymore, then I'll pack an awesome metal band t-shirt for post birth photos, and we'll head to the hospital and have the baby.
priorities.
My Wedding Bio!
Lady "you can try natural but don't let a bill decide that for you"
Me "well I'm having a c section so that would hurt" (tone was light/joking, not omg mean)
DH "are you sure you can't just be cut in half without anything?" (He was joking too).
I told him I'll do it if gets his vasectomy with no pain management and he turned white. Said "money is no object" !
I think the hospital lady thought we were partially serious because her jaw was on the floor! Nah, we'll sign that forms and pay if needed...we really just wanted to know if it was covered.
DH: "Man...you're having trouble getting by...we should get one of those Dyson tower fans, they're a lot thinner."
Me: "Orrrrrr...we could save hundreds of dollars by moving THIS fan 3 inches...w....t...f..."
This is after I explained to him 99823794823 reasons why we cannot adopt a third dog from a deploying friend of his right before I GIVE BIRTH TO OUR FIRST HUMAN CHILD.
DH "Hey, those look like my pants that I've been looking for."
Me "That's strange, you have pants that look like this?"
DH "Yah, have you seen them? .... Wait. Are those my pants?"
Me
*cue evil laugh