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Knottie13257900Knottie13257900 member
in June 2016 Moms

I'm almost 4 months postpartum and we've only had sex maybe 3 times because I have no sex drive anymore. It seems like we fight a lot and when we don't, I feel kind of numb, like I don't know why I'm with him anymore... It's kind of a scary feeling. I'm hoping it's just temporary...

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  • rlbrooks84rlbrooks84 member
    It could be PPD, it never hurts to go talk to your doctor. I hope you start feeling better!
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  • Tawny87Tawny87 member
    edited September 2016
    After I had my twins my hubby and I would fight a lot. I was virtually always pissed off at him. I think for me it was stress from having two premature babies to care for and being unable to basically leave the house all winter, and also from the hormone level. I was like this for about 6-9 months. I agree with above that you should talk to your dr about this.

    ETA: we did not have sex again until our twins were 14 months old. So you don't have to feel bad about that ; ).
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  • Knottie13257900Knottie13257900 member
    Thanks. It's weird because I don't feel depressed. Yes I feel stressed sometimes but I have a lot of help from my mom, so it's not TOO hard. But this is a weird feeling.
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  • rlbrooks84rlbrooks84 member
    I didn't feel depressed after I had Charlotte but I didn't want to be social and for me that's a sign that I'm getting depressed. I have a few close friends and I didn't even want to see them. I seem to always be easily irritated by my husband after I have a baby for at least 6 months! It's just hormones and lack of sleep. Can I ask what you guys argue about or is it just randomness? With our first we would argue and it was usually because I felt he wasn't helping or being supportive enough.
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  • huskypuppy14huskypuppy14 member
    We only have done it once... It's so hard with a new baby and we work different shifts. They say the first year with a baby is the hardest.



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  • Knottie13257900Knottie13257900 member
    We fight about little things, like whether I should pump and give the baby a bottle so that we don't have to rush home from what we are doing (I don't usually breastfeed in public, we have a hard time latching correctly so I prefer to do it at home), and how he doesn't help enough with the baby, etc.
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  • adiaz132003adiaz132003 member
    We started fighting about little things too. I lot of it has to do with sleep I'm sure but also because things can change so fast with babies that by the time we get used to one way it all changes and we have to start over.  So frustrating.p
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  • celticlorcelticlor member
    Sorry if this is TMI, but for my husband and myself, I am sure he would love to have it more frequently but I have only felt comfortable enough to do it twice since she was born (almost 4 months pp) It still is very tender in that region and right now I need lubrication otherwise I am in pain. I hope I am not the only one going through this. :-/
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  • vintagevix2016vintagevix2016 member
    celticlor said:
    Sorry if this is TMI, but for my husband and myself, I am sure he would love to have it more frequently but I have only felt comfortable enough to do it twice since she was born (almost 4 months pp) It still is very tender in that region and right now I need lubrication otherwise I am in pain. I hope I am not the only one going through this. :-/
    Nah, we have to lube up too. I only experience some acute discomfort initially though and it passes pretty quickly. We try to get a little sexy time in once a week but hope to do it a bit more frequent once Damien moves to the nursery full time. A friend of mine said she had pain during sex for 6 months pp.
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  • lm45678lm45678 member
    celticlor said:
    Sorry if this is TMI, but for my husband and myself, I am sure he would love to have it more frequently but I have only felt comfortable enough to do it twice since she was born (almost 4 months pp) It still is very tender in that region and right now I need lubrication otherwise I am in pain. I hope I am not the only one going through this. :-/
    We were finally able to have sec without lube for the first time last week but it was after my friend's wedding and I was very tipsy. (I'm about 3.5 months PP) We too are trying to get it in about once a week but it's still not as enjoyable for me as it was pre-pregnancy or during pregnancy which was the best! Poor DH!
    Me (31) & DH (32)
    Married 9/27/2014
    DD Born 6/23/16
    Baby #2 Due 3/7/20
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