This probably could just go in randoms, but it has family in it... so we went to my parents yesterday for a visit, it all went good. But, I don't like to be touched, ever. I'm ok with hugging my own family, and I can suck it up to hug other people, but other than that I'm strictly a no touch type of person. (With the exception of my kids and husband) When we were leaving I had folded my hands out in front of my belly to avoid my parents touching it and then I gave my dad a hug bye, I immediately put my arms back in front of me, and my dad went right under my hands and "squeezed" my belly like he does the top of my kids' heads, and he said "bye baby". It was cute but darn it! Then my mom of course wanted to touch so I was like ok fine, and I put my hands up. My husband said, whoa looks like this is a free pass, you better do it now. Lol its so weird for people to grab and rub my belly. This isn't important or even interesting at all, but regardless, I've still been thinking all day, about a better blocking game play.
@kswiger06 I'm very anti-touch too, and I know your pain. I still hide the bump as best I can outside of the house (SO thankful for upcoming sweater weather!)
H is the only one allowed, and the appeal has kind of worn off for him--every once in a while he'll put his face by my belly and talk to baby, tickling my belly with his fingers. Other than that he doesn't show much interest. I still get all the back rubs though, I'll take as many of those from him as I can get!
My mom recently sent a surprise care package including my crocheted baby blanket, a couple of newborn things she kept from when I was little, and saltwater taffy from my favorite taffy place. All the feels!
@kswiger06 omg. I am never very fond of unsolicited belly rubs and I have made my immediate family very clear on that. Unless they can feel baby kicking, they don't usually touch. However, we had a going away party for my brother who is leaving for the navy and there were several extended family members there, including my intellectually disabled cousin. She ran up to me fast as she could, placed her hands on my pelvis and yelled loudly "can I talk to her?" and in an attempt to get the unwanted attention off me, I simply said, "the baby can't hear you yet." and my cousin took it as "yell really loud and hopefully she'll hear you!" So she presses her face against my belly and screams at the top of her lungs "HI BAAAAABY!" I know she can't help it, and she meant well. But it was so gosh darn awkward because the party had gone silent and all eyes were on me and my cousin with her face smushed into my stomach.
@MrsLittleMac I was wearing a baggy sweater shirt and I still didn't conceal it good enough lol... but my husband has been giving me various balls as descriptive words for my belly. He's said it's like a volleyball and a basketball so I guess if that's how I look it will be hard to hide haha I was also wanting to see how your dad is doing?? I hope he's still healing up nicely!
@LivingLaVidaGinger people know I don't like being touched, but for some reason they all think they are the exception. My mom knows it but will say "but I'm your mom" and my dad will say "but I'm your dad" my sister's will say "I know you don't like it, but since I'm your sister..." and it goes on for pretty much everyone I know, they all think that they are the exception to it lol aw that's a sweet story about your cousin, but I can definitely understand the awkward feelings you must have had. At least it makes a story to share! People were probably like awww that's cute!
SIL had her wedding on Saturday and everything went pretty well. My only complaint is that she texted DH at 12 and said we needed to be there at 2 because they were doing family pictures before the wedding (wedding was starting at 4 so we had planned on getting there around 3:30). Fortunately the kids fell asleep fast for nap so they weren't cranky and we had just enough time to get showered and ready, because we were covered in dirt from working in the yard.
At least we didn't have a 2 hour drive like other SIL did. We ended up having to wait for several of the pictures because the math just didn't work for her to finish getting ready and get there in time. As far as I could tell, that was the biggest thing that fell through the cracks, so I'd say it was successful.
@kswiger06 awe, thank you! He's healing well and ornery as ever. Out of the hospital and staying mostly with my grandma until he's fully recovered. Fortunately--and he must have had someone looking out for him--he made it out with just road rash and a large gash across his face where the shield from his helmet separated and left that area exposed. Had to have his nose put back together but that's the worst of it!
My mom was visiting this weekend and I am so irritated by her. I know I need to change my heart, but she isn't making it easy, at all! First of all, I can't believe she actually came. She likes about 5 hours away and for months has been scheduling then cancelling visits. She told me she was coming but I didn't believe it until I saw her Friday night. Second, she got a hotel. Its just bananas. We live in a ginormous house. Yes, we live with our friends in a kind of community living situation, but again- the house is over 5k sqft. Her hotel was 20 minutes away and she kept complaining she wished she could spend more time with us blah blah blah. Well, gee mom. 20 minutes from your hotel and back twice a day is over an hour. When our kids are only awake like 12 hours a day you do miss a bunch just because you wanted to make a point staying in a stupid hotel when we had a great guest room made up for you. Then, she refuses to go to church with us. Not because she is an atheist or doesn't agree with our faith, but because she "doesn't see the point because she spends time with God everyday, AND watches Joel AT LEAST two times a week". I've explained to her over and over that I really want her to come to see what has become our home and second family, but she never does. I've told her it really hurts my feelings and she just doesn't GAF. So yesterday, my H was teaching Sunday School for the 9AM service so I skipped with my kids to have breakfast with her. Usually I hang out around the church greeting people, filling in where I am needed and our girls love going to 2 lessons. As I was leaving breakfast to go to 2nd service my mom starts freaking out about her bathing suit that apparently ended up with my girls' bathing suits the night before.She wanted me to skip church to go home and get it. I told her I couldn't because I have duties at church and our kids aren't missing church, but she is more than welcome to let herself in the house to get it. She refused, pouted about it being the only suit she ever found that she likes and said something like "wow your church is more important than your mother." I am so irritated with her. She wants a really great relationship with my kids but refuses to try with me. Why can't she see that hurts and is fruitless? I am in an awful mood today and just want to sleep and snuggle with my cat all day.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Husband just mentioned to me that after the baby arrives, my MIL is going to come and stay with us. Ummmmmm excuse me? You didn't even ask me if that's okay with me! He already knows that MY mom is coming to help. I want MY mom. Not his old school, weird remedies mom. I legit don't even have energy to argue because I've been so busy all day. I even forgot to eat lunch. Thanks husband. This topic WILL be revisited when I'm all ready to fight and win.
DH and I decided today that we won't be going to MIL's beach vacation she is supposedly planning for his grandparents 50th wedding anniversary. It's the 1st week of April and if baby comes on due date she will be like 7 weeks. Forget the 13+ hour drive with a 5 year old, a 3 year old and a newborn but then wtf am I going to do with a 5-10 week old at the beach? Can't put on sunscreen her, I may not even be healed to enjoy it, and not to mention all the extended family (who are heavy drinkers and smokers) wanting to play pass the baby. It's not happening. /vent
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
@peachesnbean Stay strong! I don't get why women who've had kids don't get the recovery and having a newborn thing. I'm a FTM, but do you really forget that much?
@peachesnbean Stay strong! I don't get why women who've had kids don't get the recovery and having a newborn thing. I'm a FTM, but do you really forget that much?
@peachesnbean Stay strong! I don't get why women who've had kids don't get the recovery and having a newborn thing. I'm a FTM, but do you really forget that much?
@peachesnbean Stay strong! I don't get why women who've had kids don't get the recovery and having a newborn thing. I'm a FTM, but do you really forget that much?
I haven't
Me neither!
I have, but maybe that's bc my kid is 7 and it's been so long!
@peachesnbean Stay strong! I don't get why women who've had kids don't get the recovery and having a newborn thing. I'm a FTM, but do you really forget that much?
I haven't
Me neither!
I have, but maybe that's bc my kid is 7 and it's been so long!
My youngest is 7 too, but when I think back I feel like it just happened... however I do know some people who thought it was a good idea to send their son, and daughter in law on a "honeymoon" immediate following the delivery of their baby... most of us thought it was the most ridiculous thing we heard someone suggest. Obviously the couple did no traveling.
Thanks @WinchesterGirl and everyone else. I am not looking forward to the fallout as we have already agreed, but I am going to be strong. With any luck, MIL will be as flakey as always and planning will fall through.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
My mom arrived last night. She was supposed to come last week but was sick and had to postpone. She already insulted my name choice and told me I should pick something else. I'm sure I'll be back to this thread multiple times over the next few days.
I know I've mentioned this plenty of times, but one of the main reasons my hosts decided to give me a very early baby shower (it's in two weeks!) was to create some distance between my shower and another family baby shower, where the parents-to-be live across the country and don't have much flexibility on when they can make it home. Nobody wanted the same group of people to have to go to baby showers two weekends in a row. We were told this shower was in mid-November, were told the venue, were told it would be coed, but were never told a specific date. I assumed it would be 11/10 or 11/17. Well, we learned via Facebook yesterday that nobody ever actually planned a shower for this poor girl, and that she has cancelled her trip home and is just going to post her registries on social media (clutching my pearls over that one). I do feel very badly for her that she booked tickets on a false assumption from whoever her host was supposed to be. My MIL offered to help but her offers were repeatedly declined by the grandmas. What a mess.
I'll need to send her a nice gift. Sounds like her friends where she lives may throw her a smaller shower so at least she'll still get to celebrate a bit, but I know she was excited for the home event.
I know I've mentioned this plenty of times, but one of the main reasons my hosts decided to give me a very early baby shower (it's in two weeks!) was to create some distance between my shower and another family baby shower, where the parents-to-be live across the country and don't have much flexibility on when they can make it home. Nobody wanted the same group of people to have to go to baby showers two weekends in a row. We were told this shower was in mid-November, were told the venue, were told it would be coed, but were never told a specific date. I assumed it would be 11/10 or 11/17. Well, we learned via Facebook yesterday that nobody ever actually planned a shower for this poor girl, and that she has cancelled her trip home and is just going to post her registries on social media (clutching my pearls over that one). I do feel very badly for her that she booked tickets on a false assumption from whoever her host was supposed to be. My MIL offered to help but her offers were repeatedly declined by the grandmas. What a mess.
That is sad! It's not too late to throw together a shower, though. Why cancel the trip?!
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Re: Family Matters 10/2/16
Sorry I couldn't help myself. I loved this show. The title of this thread always reminds me of it.
H is the only one allowed, and the appeal has kind of worn off for him--every once in a while he'll put his face by my belly and talk to baby, tickling my belly with his fingers. Other than that he doesn't show much interest. I still get all the back rubs though, I'll take as many of those from him as I can get!
My mom recently sent a surprise care package including my crocheted baby blanket, a couple of newborn things she kept from when I was little, and saltwater taffy from my favorite taffy place. All the feels!
I know she can't help it, and she meant well. But it was so gosh darn awkward because the party had gone silent and all eyes were on me and my cousin with her face smushed into my stomach.
@LivingLaVidaGinger people know I don't like being touched, but for some reason they all think they are the exception. My mom knows it but will say "but I'm your mom" and my dad will say "but I'm your dad" my sister's will say "I know you don't like it, but since I'm your sister..." and it goes on for pretty much everyone I know, they all think that they are the exception to it lol aw that's a sweet story about your cousin, but I can definitely understand the awkward feelings you must have had. At least it makes a story to share! People were probably like awww that's cute!
This topic WILL be revisited when I'm all ready to fight and win.