R/R: my guestimate of O (based off opks, CM & other secondary signs...i don't advise to go by this and will never not temp again) may be really off or I will possibly be having a shortened LP because AF cramps and that overall AF feeling started creeping in mid-day yesterday and full force today. Im bummed but I'll pick up my Clomid and ovidrel scripts tomorrow so at least I have a plan in place for next cycle which eases the disappointment slightly. I know I'm not out yet. Just feeling that way.
CS/Q:
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
we are home bodies so our date night consists of ordering in a bunch of food and catching up on our Dvr shows lol. If we do go out for a date night, we go to Trivia night at a local bar which is a lot of fun! It's more fun to go with a big group but OH and I still have a good time if we go just the two of us.
R/R: went to the rustic wedding I was talking about yesterday it was gorgeous! People were asking me from the pictures I posted what venue it was at and couldn't believe it was their family barn property. They did such an amazing job it was split between 3 separate barns was absolutely beautiful!
CS/Q: had a high temp spike last night which was great to see until I realized it was from having a few drinks last night!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) DH and I have done a couples "paint night". My favorite one was paint your pet! (I'm on mobile so I apologies in advance if the pictures are huge)
CD/DPO: I could be wrong, but 22/10? 23/10? Not in front of my calendar so I'm useless
Timing: everyday
Testing: today, bfn
R/R: I think I'm out. I usually have a 12 day LP, and today my boobs stopped hurting which always happens a day or so before my period so pretty sure this wasn't our month. I figured it wouldn't be because of how ridiculously sick I was. Now I'm ready to get my period and start month 2!
CS/Q: none
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
Not at night, but we hike a lot and it gets us out exploring our state and neighboring states. A real date night we go out to dinner somewhere nice or to benefits
Testing: going away next weekend when I would be 8-11DPO so I will try very hard to resist the urge to bring Wondfos with me. I usually get 28-31 day cycles so I'll just wait for AF (I say this now. Talk to me in 5 days and my story will be wildly different!)
R/R: it's my 1st cycle TTC again so I'm not expecting much. Took us 9 months last time (4 once I started OPKs). Forgot how stressful this is. I usually don't get a + OPK until day 18-20 and have a very short LP so an early positive at CD17 was nice.
CS/Q:
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? Good bottle of wine and morphing into our couch seeing as how I'm exhausted usually due to my work schedule. I'm boring AF.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
Sorry for the poor man's siggy...ticker won't load regardless of how many tips I read.
Testing: BFN again so now I'm just waiting for AF to arrive
R/R: I had the worst night last night. So, when my husband and I started fertility treatments early last year we both quit smoking. It was just as important for him to quit as it was for me because we have MFI. So yesterday I caught him smoking again!! Apparently he's been sneaking cigarettes for two months now!!! On top of it being so bad for him AND that he's been lying about it, he's already got MFI and smoking is going to make it SO much worse. I'm so angry
CS/Q:
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) going to dinner and then a concert!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We usually open a bottle of wine, cook dinner, eat and maybe go out for some FroYo before settling in on the couch with a movie
@dungeontrollmel exactly!! He obviously doesn't care otherwise he never would have started again. It makes me so angry that for the last two months he's been watching me get so sad over BFNs all the while he's been secretly smoking!!!! We only have 1 frozen embryo from our IVF, and we will never be able to afford to do another round again and now he's started smoking again...
Testing: not today, bfn yesterday, so waiting to see if af shows tomorrow and maybe test again.
R/R: I bought a treadmill yesterday. I'm excited to have something to work out on. I hate running outside, but I do okay if I have a treadmill and can watch tv while I work out! Excited to try to workout more regularly.
CS/Q: nope
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) we usually just stay home and binge some tv. Though we are trying to do more things, so we have recently gone on a foodie crawl, we are going to go see the Rise of the Jackolanterns at the end of the month, and we are going to another food festival in November.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
Testing: no... the urge is getting stronger though for sure! Still no symptoms really so that's probably helping. Hoping to make it till Thursday
R/R: meh not much. We were supposed to go to a fair yesterday and do our long run. Instead DH didn't feel good so he pretty much slept all day after picking up our CSA (if he still doesn't feel good today I'll just go on my own) and I ended up stalking the Birth Month Boards hardcore... definitely a productive alternative haha
CS/Q: nope
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) Umm... in the summer we love to hang out by a sandy beach (we have a river near us that's got a sandy bottom... so it's easy to find a secluded spot) and just enjoy the sunshine and a few drinks. When it gets colder... (since you're looking for ideas)- we love to go fall hiking. We rarely go out to dinner- so that would be a special date for us (we do takeout usually instead) and we both love to go thrift shopping together so that would be a "fun" thing for us to do too.
@tripledaggerWed95976 my DH snuck back to chewing tobacco after quitting for a year (he was using this 100% mint leaf substitute)... and proceeded to lie about it for like, a solid month. It wasn't until I found hard evidence in his truck (skoal) and proceeded to put the stuff that he had in his "fake chew" container that was in the house in my mouth and say "THIS ISN'T YOUR FAKE MINT CHEW" did he come clean. He totally made it out like I was being crazy and trying to just pick an argument. I was SO angry! It seems not as big of a deal in retrospect (besides the whole lying part... but that's a whole 'nother can of worms, since there has been some trust issues there from the past) Anyhow... I can relate, except you're situation is worse, because his fertility is involved, and you're doing your part, and he needs to do his.
@tripledaggerWed95976 sorry to hear that I can only imagine how upsetting and frustrating that must be! Especially since you worked just as hard to kick the habit and stay consistent!
Testing: probably not for a few days now because pretty certain period is coming
R/R: Had some cramping last night which is what makes me think AF is imminent. Had two very odd dreams last night also...in one I was talking to my late grandparents about our lives and how we may be relocating and it felt so real and normal. In the dream I was secretly pregnant but trying to not spill the beans, it wasn't until I was walking out the door of their old home that I realized this didn't make sense because they died years ago and woke up pretty emotional. **TW for mention of (fake) BFP**In my second dream all I know is I took 3 HPTs, and 2 of the 3 were positive. **end TW** I woke up really tempted to test but had to stop myself because 1) I had a BFN just on Friday and well, logic...and 2) I figured it was a terrible idea to test in the heat of the moment when my hopes were unreasonably up like that. So strange though, I normally do not remember dreams and the last 3 nights they've been really vivid. My SS has been to a minimum this cycle, so I hate that it's toying with my emotions.
TLDR; nothing important- the BSC has just now followed me into my subconcious thoughts so...great.
CS/Q:
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity?Netflix and takeout most weekends.... sometimes if we are itching to get out of the house we will go to one of those movie theatres where it's 21+ and you order food to your seat. If there's a play in town/special occasion we might get dressed up and do that.
@beachbunnyxo123 We have a place by our house that does couple's painting nights...with wine I might add I unfortunately can't convince DH to go. It looks so fun!
@tripledaggerWed95976 As a former smoker, there were times before we were TTC and things were stressful at work, when I was SO tempted to do what you're DH has been doing. I couldn't bring myself to lie like that to DH...it was right before our wedding at the time and it felt like a big betrayal. I can understand how you'd be feeling hurt/pissed, and the TTC thing just adds another layer. I hope you guys can work through it.
R/R: DD is a mess today...I'm certain her molars are finally coming in. She's drooling like a faucet, extra cranky, extra clingy, and sleepy. Her schedule is all jacket up already bc she fell asleep on me on the couch for 30 minutes almost an hour before naptime...she woke up screaming and disoriented so I put her directly in her crib and now I'm hoping for the best. Of course DH has been gone all weekend. Every time she is teething he just happens to be gone. Sigh. This is so sad but I can't wait to go to Walmart by myself when he gets home later. Mommy needs a break.
CS/Q: I've had weird cramping since yesterday. Not normal for me at all, either under normal circumstances or when I was pregnant so who knows what that is about. I'm not super hopeful about tomorrow, I just want to know one way or the other.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) Hahahaha we don't have date nights.
Testing: 8 more days. I swear, the first 6 days of this TWW have been the longest 6 days of my life and I still have 8 more to go! Gah! I am hoping all this anticipation is, in a small part, due to the fact that this is our first month trying for first baby and this TWW will get easier with each cycle we try to get pregnant. Although, after stalking through a lot of these discussions, it doesn't sound like that will be the case!
R/R: I've been trying to keep busy and keep my mind off babies by working on my Halloween costume. I love Halloween so much and I really get into my costumes. It has been a nice distraction
CS/Q: Nope!
GTKU (Favorite date night activity): Every once in a while, my DH and I will splurge on a smorgasbord of fancy cheese, meat, crackers and wine. We'll stay in to watch new movies in our PJs and stuff our face with delicious food all night long.
R/R: my brothers wedding was beautiful and exhausting!! I'm so bummed about this cycle. Like full on depressed about it. I really had high hopes. I'm drowning my sorrows in mimosas and snacks and football.
CS/Q:
GTKY: we really like to eat out. Probably our favorite is a byob, a nice bottle of wine and a meal followed by the couch and a movie. If you live near a city, a lot of them do a first Friday which is something fun/different to do. I also like bowling for the same reason.
Testing: Tried to test this morning, but spilled the cup (why do I keep doing that?) But that's probably a good thing, its still too early to get a real result.
R/R: It's a lazy Sunday! And it's cool weather, if only just for a day or two! I'm snuggled on my couch with my dog, working on an adorable modern cross stitch project (thank you etsy!), and watching movies. I hope everyone is having a good Sunday!
CS/Q:
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We're so boring. It's usually going out to dinner or a movie. We'll occasionally do day dates, the most recent was taking our dog to the beach for the first time. We got a takeout and had a beach picnic. We had so much fun!
Jan18 June Siggy Challenge: Fav Fictional Dads
Married April 2016 BFP: 4/21/2017 EDD: 12/31/17 TTC #1: 4/2016 - 4/2017 Became a momma to a wonderfully weird rescue dog in May 2016
@tripledaggerWed95976 Ugh, what a completely frustrating situation; I would be absolutely livid as well. I remember years ago when my older sister and my BIL made a pact to quit smoking; they decided to have him quit first (which he did, cold turkey) and then her. Well, she was sneaking cigs and BIL found out and it was a mess. ***Possible TW*** Only reason my sister stopped was when she found out she was pregnant with my niece ***End TW*** On the other hand, good on you for sticking to your end and continuing to not smoke!
@delujm0 Not sure why, but I giggled irrationally at Walmart being your getaway. Hope you get a break soon!
@Amanda Moon **Failed tag; I have no idea how to tag you properly, sorry!** Iremember my first TWW felt like it dragged on for yeeaaarrrrsss. While it still seems slower than any other part of the month, they've gotten better (in my experience at least). Hopefully you won't have to worry about any more TWWs after this one; here's to time speeding up for you!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
CD/DPO: 25/4
Timing: -3, -1, O, +1
Testing: Nope
R/R: My temp spiked up higher today, helping to further confirm my suspicion of a slow rise this cycle. It's just so strange since there's usually a nice spike, but I noticed on the chart I have for the only other cycle where I've O'd this late I also had a slow rise so maybe it's just a thing for me. In other news, DH has been gone all weekend but he comes home today! I can't wait!
CS/Q: Not today
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We are so lazy and old and the exact opposite of inspiring. We usually just make dinner and watch Netflix with our dog on the couch.
@tripledaggerWed95976 I'm sorry about how things are going with your husband. Guys can be so dumb sometimes. I hope it's just that he's been stressed too and didn't consider the consequences - doesn't make the lying better but hopefully it wasn't all intentionally hurtful. *hugs*
@magnolia131 I drempt once about my grandma shortly after she passed. In my dream, I got a phone call and it was my grandma. It was hard to hear her, like she was calling from somewhere very distant. She said she missed me but was happy and loved me very much. I also knew in the dream that she was no longer living. It still makes me cry to think about. I really do believe that sometimes things happen beyond our understanding. I'm not going to elaborate more but I think those moments should bring some comfort, even in sadness.
Cycle: 2/2
CD/DPO: 24/11
Timing: Good
Testing: Latest BFN this morning.
R/R: Stiiiiiill just waiting on AF. Heavy dark brown spotting since 7 DPO, cramps, etc - all the signs that AF is imminent. Despite hating this wait, at least this means my LP is longer than 10 days this month!
CS/Q: Nada. My chart looks great but I'm certain that means nothing. Bring on the next cycle!
GTKU: Our best dates are usually hanging out at a bar having dinner and just talking between the two of us. Something about not sitting face-to-face in a booth allows for some pretty open and intimate conversations. I always leave reminded of way I married my DH.
@beachbunnyxo123 My mom and sister and I are signed up for one of those paint your pet nights in a few weeks. I had never heard of that before. Glad to know its fun!
R/R: Rave: Did a deep clean of the entire apartment yesterday! Rant: DH is working all weekend
CS/Q: None.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) I'm really boring. I just like to watch tv or a movie. Sometimes we go out and play Poke'mon together.
@beachbunnyxo123, that paint night stuff sounds really fun!! I don't think my DH would go for it though. Nice job on the paintings! @kiwi6268, sorry for the bfn. FX you just tested too early and AF isn't on her way. @trippledaggerWed95976, UGH!! What is your H thinking?!? I'm so sorry. @flinstone, sorry for the bfn. It's still early!! @littlebug2010 sorry for the bfn but your foodie crawls sounds so fun!!! Oh, and we need a treadmill too. Which one did you get?
Month/Cycle: 4/4
CD/DPO: 17/5
Timing: -3, -1, +1
Testing: next Sunday
R/R: Rave: I actually found a pair of shoes and some pants while shopping yesterday!! Rant: My back is now killing me because I've spent like 2.5 hours removing multiple layers of old caulk and recaulking the shower.
CS/Q: nadda.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We don't have what I would call "date nights" but when we go out it's usually for dinner, movie, wine tasting, etc. nothing too out of the ordinary.
Me: 31 DH: 32 Dating since: 11/17/2001 Married: 9/26/2009 TTC: June 2016
Testing: Truly going to hold off (try) until 10/13 which is beta day
R/R: The trigger shot I was given this cycle, which is not something I've used before, makes my nipples hurt! This must be what it feels like during pregnancy lol.
CS/Q: Nah!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We usually like to go out to eat. Nothing fancy. We are really big homebodies so after that we more than likley will come home and put a movie on. Fun fact: In the 3.5 years we've been together we have never been to the movie theaters together. Crazy!
Testing: BFN yesterday -- decided not to test again until Tuesday
R/R: After 4 days of rain, I'm so glad that the sun is shining today!
CS/Q:
GTKU: We always start out with good intentions of trying a new restaurant or seeing a movie...and end up with take out and wine watching Netflix with our pups. We have more luck with weekend day dates to try a new restaurant or brewery/winery.
Me: 32 H: 32 Married: October 2009 TTC#1: August 2016
@tripledaggerWed95976 Noooooo! On top of your BFN, I am sooooo angry for you about catching your H smoking AND lying; ESPECIALLY when you're dealing with MFI!!! I'd be fuming. So sorry (my H is trying to quit)
@DungeonTrollMel fx for you and glad not temping is helping your sanity
@littlebug2010 awesome about the treadmill; that will be nice! I'm hoping to go to the gym more now that the weather is cooling off but sometimes tough with one vehicle and my pain has been bad. But a treadmill at home would be great!
@magnolia131 so sorry about your dreams When I have dreams about my late stepfather I tell myself it was him visiting me through my dreams and sometimes helps me be less sad. But I have pregnancy/BFP/giving birth/c-section/crazy ass baby dreams, too and they can be sooo hard
@beachbunnyxo123 I wish we had a couples painting night; that would be so fun! Especially with booze like magnolia said lol There might be drop in pottery classes that DH said he'd be up for tho! Also, now that I think of it, we have a ton of art supplies....maybe DH would enjoy that at home as a fun activity!
How do you tag people with spaces in their names? Amanda Moon, ya I don't think TWW gets easier with time, unfortunately Your date night sounds like one of our faves, too! I love a big appy/cheese & meat etc spread!
Testing: it's Canadian Thanksgiving next Monday, which will be 11dpo so I hope I can at least wait til then, tho I'd like to wait longer
R/R: everything is pretty great except my low back is hurting again. But DH is off getting snacks and then we're having a Netflix day Ladies....he doesn't know what queso dip is!!!! So I told him to grab chips and salsa and I have the rest of the ingredients to make a nice non-velveeta queso dip, so that should be fun
CS/Q: FF tried putting my O day at CD12 I think, based on my positive OPK and EWCM but my temps clearly indicate CD15 O. I changed it manually but just want to make sure y'all agree:
GTKY: we like going on day hikes when we get the chance but also are big on takeout sushi and movies/shows. Sometimes we go to local open mic/jam nights because I sing & play uke
R/R: Rant - it was a beautiful weekend and I had to study.
CS/Q: None
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) - we go out to dinner a lot, to new bars around town and events. Anything to get dressed up!
I hadn't thought about my username being difficult to tag. I will see if I can fix my username so it's one word instead of two!
@Sirius37 That is good to hear! I hope I will have the same experience.
@JulesDP That Southpark wine pic is hilarious, I love it!
@rainbowturtles I might just need to preemptively fill my two weeks between ovulation and AF with lots of things to do to keep me busy! I have a hard time staying off the computer looking and reading about baby stuff when I'm at home. It makes the wait so much worse!
@Marley629 I'm sorry you feel like AF is coming, but I'm glad you have a plan for next cycle! Trivia night sounds like so much fun! H is one of those people who remembers random facts about everything, so I feel like he would love something like that.
@beachbunnyxo123 I love the paintings of your puppy! I might need to sign us up for something like that!
@tripledaggerWed95976 I'm so incredibly sorry about your fight with your H. I would be upset, too!It's definitely not okay that he's been lying to you, but I hope you two can find a solution soon! Thinking of you today.
@Sirius37 I usually have a slow rise, and it can be really frustrating. "Did I O? Oh, maybe not. Oh wait, maybe so!" Ugh. If you ever need a chart stalk, we're here for you!
@rainbowturtles I definitely agree with CD 15. Did you take any more OPKs after CD 12? That's kind of a long time to O after a positive OPK, but maybe you (would have) had more positives.
@leekat14 I almost always have dotted CHs. Like I really celebrate if I get solid ones, but I am able to confirm O every time. Want a chart stalk?
Month/Cycle: 15/12
CD/DPO: 24/6
Timing: -3, -1, O, +1
Testing: next weekend, if needed
R/R: We got home around 2:30 this morning from the game, and I'm soooo tired today! I'm getting too old for this. Lol. We had a great time, though.
CS/Q: No questions today!
GTKU: We're usually pretty boring: Netflix and take out, but I love to go out to eat and then walk on the beach.
Me: 26, H: 28
Married since 2012
TTC #1 since July 2015 **TW**
Laparoscopy and Endometriosis dx February 2016
HSG and SA all clear! September 2016 Testing with RE October 2016 BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
@pretzel2plus1The two opks I took on CD13 looked very close to positive but I swear were just a shade/touch lighter than the one I got on CD12 in the evening (7pm). I have them all taped to a piece of paper tho and looking back on them I could probably get away with calling them positive on CD13, but they were definitely not positive on CD14. I was definitely surprised, as last cycle I O'd the day of my positive opk...but pleasantly surprised if it is CD15 O, as you can see we only got in two BD sessions since DH was OOT!
@pretzel2plus1 I would love one. I do agree with O date but this slow rise is new. I did switch to a Mabis so I'm sure my old one rounded up more looking like a bigger temp rise.
@BertieMeetsGertie I got one off of Amazon for pretty cheep. I'm not a runner so I figured that a small (I'm only 5 feet tall) and not super intense one would be fine. Its the Weslo Cadence G 5.9.
@julesdp and @rainbowturtles thanks! I'm excited! My old apartment building had a gym in it, and I was way more likely to go workout after work, but in our new house I just had no desire. I'm hoping the fact that I just spent a bunch of money for one will help.
**TW Loss/pregnancy mentioned** Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 5/30/16 and MC on 7/6/16 BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17 BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19 BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19 BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2 Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage IVF started Feb 2020 retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal. Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Mommy to a super cute havanesse puppy and baby boy!
@pretzel2plus1 I would love one. I do agree with O date but this slow rise is new. I did switch to a Mabis so I'm sure my old one rounded up more looking like a bigger temp rise.
I do agree with your O date. Your chart actually looks like many of mine. FF probably has your CHs as dotted because of the EWCM on CD 19. I'm interested in your temp drop this morning, but maybe see what your temps do over the next few days. Switching thermometers probably has a lot to do with the new pattern, too. If I were you, I would note that somewhere in your chart, just so you will remember that for comparison purposes in the future. FX for you! Your timing looks great!
Me: 26, H: 28
Married since 2012
TTC #1 since July 2015 **TW**
Laparoscopy and Endometriosis dx February 2016
HSG and SA all clear! September 2016 Testing with RE October 2016 BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
@rainbowturtles I agree with CD15. I bet if you kept checking CM and taking OPKs, you might have had more info. I usually get 3 days of + OPK on Wondfos and my EWCM can be that long too. I always keep checking both until it's clear with temps for several days after because I've had a false surge before. @Sirius37@leekat14 I usually get a big spike and now I've had a very consistent slow rise. It's weird, but then again this whole cycle has been out of the ordinary with an early O for me. You're regular until you're not! @tripledaggerWed95976 I caught DH with Skoal in his truck once. He used it in the Army to keep awake during missions and started it again after fire shifts when he was sleep deprived. Now he does espresso or Mountain Dew. None of it is good for him or TTC!
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
Re: TWW Sunday
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
we are home bodies so our date night consists of ordering in a bunch of food and catching up on our Dvr shows lol. If we do go out for a date night, we go to Trivia night at a local bar which is a lot of fun! It's more fun to go with a big group but OH and I still have a good time if we go just the two of us.
DX Diminished Ovarian Reserve, Factor V Leiden Mutation, Secondary Infertility
MFI (SA #1Count 11mill, Motility: 18%, Morphology: 1%)
AMH .328 | FSH 13.2
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
DH and I have done a couples "paint night". My favorite one was paint your pet! (I'm on mobile so I apologies in advance if the pictures are huge)
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? Good bottle of wine and morphing into our couch seeing as how I'm exhausted usually due to my work schedule. I'm boring AF.
So yesterday I caught him smoking again!! Apparently he's been sneaking cigarettes for two months now!!! On top of it being so bad for him AND that he's been lying about it, he's already got MFI and smoking is going to make it SO much worse. I'm so angry
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
going to dinner and then a concert!
@Marley629 So sorry you're feeling out, but glad you have a plan in place to look forward to, either way ;)
@tripledaggerWed95976. Ughhhh!!! I would be so *pissed* too!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
We usually open a bottle of wine, cook dinner, eat and maybe go out for some FroYo before settling in on the couch with a movie
DS born 9.17
TFMR 10.19
Month/Cycle: 10 with RPL
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
my my favorite is getting take out and going to the drive in when the weather is finally cooler here
BFP #2: 4.14.16 CP: 4.17.16
BFP #3: 6.10.2016 CP: 6.17.16
RE appt: 6.27.2016- saline sono all clear
Progenity: + carrier Tay-Sachs, Gaucher's, hemachromatosis. DH: carrier Alpha 1 anti-trypsin
PCOS, hypothyroid, MTHFR, hx of LEEP in 2006
Clomid + TI Cycle #1: 50mg Trigger 8.24.2016- BFN
Clomid 75mg + IUI#1 9.25.2016- BFP #4 10/6
Beta #1 15 Beta #2 38 Beta #3- 71 beta #4 171 Beta # 5- 21 Natural MC 10/21
HSG- clear
IVF Jan 2017
Egg Retrieval 1.22.17: 32 eggs retrieved,29 mature, 24 fertilized, 14 to blastocyst for biopsy
PGS results: 4 PGS normal 2 XX, 2 XY
FET: 3.13.2017 for 2 PGS embryos
Beta#1: 3.24.2017......... 78; Beta # 2 241; Beta #3 4198
Baby BOY due 11.29.2017
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
we usually just stay home and binge some tv. Though we are trying to do more things, so we have recently gone on a foodie crawl, we are going to go see the Rise of the Jackolanterns at the end of the month, and we are going to another food festival in November.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) Umm... in the summer we love to hang out by a sandy beach (we have a river near us that's got a sandy bottom... so it's easy to find a secluded spot) and just enjoy the sunshine and a few drinks. When it gets colder... (since you're looking for ideas)- we love to go fall hiking. We rarely go out to dinner- so that would be a special date for us (we do takeout usually instead) and we both love to go thrift shopping together so that would be a "fun" thing for us to do too.
@tripledaggerWed95976 my DH snuck back to chewing tobacco after quitting for a year (he was using this 100% mint leaf substitute)... and proceeded to lie about it for like, a solid month. It wasn't until I found hard evidence in his truck (skoal) and proceeded to put the stuff that he had in his "fake chew" container that was in the house in my mouth and say "THIS ISN'T YOUR FAKE MINT CHEW" did he come clean. He totally made it out like I was being crazy and trying to just pick an argument. I was SO angry! It seems not as big of a deal in retrospect (besides the whole lying part... but that's a whole 'nother can of worms, since there has been some trust issues there from the past) Anyhow... I can relate, except you're situation is worse, because his fertility is involved, and you're doing your part, and he needs to do his.
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TLDR; nothing important- the BSC has just now followed me into my subconcious thoughts so...great.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity?Netflix and takeout most weekends.... sometimes if we are itching to get out of the house we will go to one of those movie theatres where it's 21+ and you order food to your seat. If there's a play in town/special occasion we might get dressed up and do that.
@beachbunnyxo123 We have a place by our house that does couple's painting nights...with wine I might add
@tripledaggerWed95976 As a former smoker, there were times before we were TTC and things were stressful at work, when I was SO tempted to do what you're DH has been doing. I couldn't bring myself to lie like that to DH...it was right before our wedding at the time and it felt like a big betrayal. I can understand how you'd be feeling hurt/pissed, and the TTC thing just adds another layer. I hope you guys can work through it.
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GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) Hahahaha we don't have date nights.
GTKU (Favorite date night activity): Every once in a while, my DH and I will splurge on a smorgasbord of fancy cheese, meat, crackers and wine. We'll stay in to watch new movies in our PJs and stuff our face with delicious food all night long.
Married: 8/30/2015
TTC since: Sept 2016
CD/DPO: 42/12
Timing: good
Testing: BFN again today. I'm out. Temp dropped.
R/R: my brothers wedding was beautiful and exhausting!! I'm so bummed about this cycle. Like full on depressed about it. I really had high hopes. I'm drowning my sorrows in mimosas and snacks and football.
CS/Q:
GTKY: we really like to eat out. Probably our favorite is a byob, a nice bottle of wine and a meal followed by the couch and a movie. If you live near a city, a lot of them do a first Friday which is something fun/different to do. I also like bowling for the same reason.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) We're so boring. It's usually going out to dinner or a movie. We'll occasionally do day dates, the most recent was taking our dog to the beach for the first time. We got a takeout and had a beach picnic. We had so much fun!
Married April 2016
BFP: 4/21/2017 EDD: 12/31/17
TTC #1: 4/2016 - 4/2017
Became a momma to a wonderfully weird rescue dog in May 2016
@delujm0 Not sure why, but I giggled irrationally at Walmart being your getaway. Hope you get a break soon!
@Amanda Moon **Failed tag; I have no idea how to tag you properly, sorry!** Iremember my first TWW felt like it dragged on for yeeaaarrrrsss. While it still seems slower than any other part of the month, they've gotten better (in my experience at least). Hopefully you won't have to worry about any more TWWs after this one; here's to time speeding up for you!
Month/Cycle: 3/3
In other news, DH has been gone all weekend but he comes home today! I can't wait!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
We are so lazy and old and the exact opposite of inspiring. We usually just make dinner and watch Netflix with our dog on the couch.
@magnolia131 I drempt once about my grandma shortly after she passed. In my dream, I got a phone call and it was my grandma. It was hard to hear her, like she was calling from somewhere very distant. She said she missed me but was happy and loved me very much. I also knew in the dream that she was no longer living. It still makes me cry to think about. I really do believe that sometimes things happen beyond our understanding. I'm not going to elaborate more but I think those moments should bring some comfort, even in sadness.
Cycle: 2/2
Heavy dark brown spotting since 7 DPO, cramps, etc - all the signs that AF is imminent. Despite hating this wait, at least this means my LP is longer than 10 days this month!
GTKU: Our best dates are usually hanging out at a bar having dinner and just talking between the two of us. Something about not sitting face-to-face in a booth allows for some pretty open and intimate conversations. I always leave reminded of way I married my DH.
Edit: I can't spell today.
@magnolia131 I keep having TTC dreams too!
Married April 2016
BFP: 4/21/2017 EDD: 12/31/17
TTC #1: 4/2016 - 4/2017
Became a momma to a wonderfully weird rescue dog in May 2016
CS/Q: None.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
I'm really boring. I just like to watch tv or a movie. Sometimes we go out and play Poke'mon together.
@kiwi6268, sorry for the bfn. FX you just tested too early and AF isn't on her way.
@trippledaggerWed95976, UGH!! What is your H thinking?!? I'm so sorry.
@flinstone, sorry for the bfn. It's still early!!
@littlebug2010 sorry for the bfn but your foodie crawls sounds so fun!!! Oh, and we need a treadmill too. Which one did you get?
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
We don't have what I would call "date nights" but when we go out it's usually for dinner, movie, wine tasting, etc. nothing too out of the ordinary.
Dating since: 11/17/2001
Married: 9/26/2009
TTC: June 2016
EDD: 5/14/2018
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
We usually like to go out to eat. Nothing fancy. We are really big homebodies so after that we more than likley will come home and put a movie on. Fun fact: In the 3.5 years we've been together we have never been to the movie theaters together. Crazy!
@Flinstone @kiwi2628 @Saralee797 @TalesOfASocialIntrovert sorry for the BFNs
@littlebug2010 enjoy the treadmill! I don't use mine nearly as much as I should!
@magnolia131 BSC has followed me to my dreams too
Month/Cycle: 3/2
GTKU: We always start out with good intentions of trying a new restaurant or seeing a movie...and end up with take out and wine watching Netflix with our pups. We have more luck with weekend day dates to try a new restaurant or brewery/winery.
Married: October 2009
TTC#1: August 2016
DD Born 10/20/17
@DungeonTrollMel fx for you and glad not temping is helping your sanity
@littlebug2010 awesome about the treadmill; that will be nice! I'm hoping to go to the gym more now that the weather is cooling off but sometimes tough with one vehicle and my pain has been bad. But a treadmill at home would be great!
@magnolia131 so sorry about your dreams
@beachbunnyxo123 I wish we had a couples painting night; that would be so fun! Especially with booze like magnolia said lol There might be drop in pottery classes that DH said he'd be up for tho! Also, now that I think of it, we have a ton of art supplies....maybe DH would enjoy that at home as a fun activity!
How do you tag people with spaces in their names? Amanda Moon, ya I don't think TWW gets easier with time, unfortunately
@Saralee797 very sorry for your BFN
Month/Cycle: 4/3 TTCAL
CD/DPO: 18/3
Timing: -1, +1
Testing: it's Canadian Thanksgiving next Monday, which will be 11dpo so I hope I can at least wait til then, tho I'd like to wait longer
R/R: everything is pretty great except my low back is hurting again. But DH is off getting snacks and then we're having a Netflix day
CS/Q: FF tried putting my O day at CD12 I think, based on my positive OPK and EWCM but my temps clearly indicate CD15 O. I changed it manually but just want to make sure y'all agree:
GTKY: we like going on day hikes when we get the chance but also are big on takeout sushi and movies/shows. Sometimes we go to local open mic/jam nights because I sing & play uke
Made a nice batch of soup today, did a little work but pretty lazy. Soaking up what I can of the nice weather.
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!)
We are so lame. Movies and takeout and we usually fall asleep before the movies!
GTKU: What is your favorite date night activity? (Hoping to get some new ideas here!) - we go out to dinner a lot, to new bars around town and events. Anything to get dressed up!
@Sirius37 That is good to hear! I hope I will have the same experience.
@JulesDP That Southpark wine pic is hilarious, I love it!
@rainbowturtles I might just need to preemptively fill my two weeks between ovulation and AF with lots of things to do to keep me busy! I have a hard time staying off the computer looking and reading about baby stuff when I'm at home. It makes the wait so much worse!
Married: 8/30/2015
TTC since: Sept 2016
@Marley629 I'm sorry you feel like AF is coming, but I'm glad you have a plan for next cycle! Trivia night sounds like so much fun! H is one of those people who remembers random facts about everything, so I feel like he would love something like that.
@beachbunnyxo123 I love the paintings of your puppy! I might need to sign us up for something like that!
@tripledaggerWed95976 I'm so incredibly sorry about your fight with your H. I would be upset, too!It's definitely not okay that he's been lying to you, but I hope you two can find a solution soon! Thinking of you today.
@Sirius37 I usually have a slow rise, and it can be really frustrating. "Did I O? Oh, maybe not. Oh wait, maybe so!" Ugh. If you ever need a chart stalk, we're here for you!
@rainbowturtles I definitely agree with CD 15. Did you take any more OPKs after CD 12? That's kind of a long time to O after a positive OPK, but maybe you (would have) had more positives.
@leekat14 I almost always have dotted CHs. Like I really celebrate if I get solid ones, but I am able to confirm O every time. Want a chart stalk?
GTKU: We're usually pretty boring: Netflix and take out, but I love to go out to eat and then walk on the beach.
**TW**
Testing with RE October 2016
BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
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@julesdp and @rainbowturtles thanks! I'm excited! My old apartment building had a gym in it, and I was way more likely to go workout after work, but in our new house I just had no desire. I'm hoping the fact that I just spent a bunch of money for one will help.
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
**TW**
Testing with RE October 2016
BFP 11/5/2016 ~ EDD 7/19/2016
@Sirius37 @leekat14 I usually get a big spike and now I've had a very consistent slow rise. It's weird, but then again this whole cycle has been out of the ordinary with an early O for me. You're regular until you're not!
@tripledaggerWed95976 I caught DH with Skoal in his truck once. He used it in the Army to keep awake during missions and started it again after fire shifts when he was sleep deprived. Now he does espresso or Mountain Dew. None of it is good for him or TTC!
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility