I swear if one more person says baby will come when they come I'm gonna end up in jail.
I second this. There are actually many things that have a good chance of moving things along. Walking/hip rolls for example help move the baby into position. So I could wallow in my misery and just nap all day, but I'm almost 39 weeks and I do NOT want to be induced. Baby will come when he comes, but there are things I can do to help him and I will continue to do them.
If I hear, " baby needs to cook more" or "let baby cook as long as possible" I might punch someone. She's fine, she's developed, she can come out now! Mom on the other hand is not fine and is ready!
I am (and have always been) ridiculously independent, to a fault even. I am so stressed about "needing" help after the baby is born, esp since I will most likely be having a c-section. I know my MIL will be in charge of basically anything and everything I need but for some reason this lack of independence still stresses me out like crazy.
*American lady living in Tanzania.
DH - Tanzanian Maasai
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks) BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior. October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB:November 19, 2013)
@mrszoess yeah thats what I'm afraid of! hopefully I will be so enamored with little one that it keeps my mind off it?
*American lady living in Tanzania.
DH - Tanzanian Maasai
BFP #1 - MC Dec 2, 2015 (@ 9weeks) BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior. October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB:November 19, 2013)
@kmolleltz I hear you. I really take pride in running my house and keeping everything together. My midwives insist on a week of bed rest after delivery, even for vaginal deliveries. They attribute the rise in PPD to mom's not getting proper rest after having a baby. My fiancé is adamant that we follow this recommendation. It's going to be so hard for me to rest so I'm probably exactly the type of mom they have to put this in place for!
I'm being induced tomorrow and I still haven't decided if I'm going to get an epidural.
I'm going with yes, yes you will. I tried that with my first but pitocin contractions are no joke! I was induced again with my second and didn't even think about trying to be a hero that time, lol. They better have my epidural ready when I get there! Good luck with whatever you decide.
+1 for usually having a tendency to not accept/ask for help and to be stubborn about doing things myself but between being exhausted, hungry, uncomfortable/in pain, waking up to crime scene-like bleeding after overdoing it the other day, etc.....I've gotten much more comfortable delegating and telling/asking people to do stuff while I spend QT with this freaking adorable baby who has already grown a little! I have found that BFing and refusing to pump much at first is a great excuse for retreating with LO, too. Rather than letting anyone come over to snuggle your baby so you can do the dishes/laundry/cleaning, flip that shit on anyone who comes over "to help" immediately PP so you don't regret missing a second!
@NicholeL16 the week of bedrest sounds great! I couldn't medically do that because of the risk of blood clots post-CS...not sure if that applies to vaginal delivery too, but either way getting rest is sooo important. The only PP times I've cried are when I'm really exhausted and having trouble getting this baby to eat or sleep. Although I am cringing about the blah weather and sunlight change
Obviously I haven't had this baby yet but I think as a STM+ you become a little (possibly a lot) more willing to accept and even ask for help. Last time I wouldn't have wanted this but this time my MIL is coming to stay for a week or so once baby is here. Partly for the toddler's sake, and partly for mine- but I know I will need some extra hands.
I'm being induced tomorrow and I still haven't decided if I'm going to get an epidural.
I'm going with yes, yes you will. I tried that with my first but pitocin contractions are no joke! I was induced again with my second and didn't even think about trying to be a hero that time, lol. They better have my epidural ready when I get there! Good luck with whatever you decide.
Yeah, turns out epidurals are pretty great. I ended up getting one at 9 cm and it made my birth experience much better than the last.
@sjo_thetwins You have all my hugs girl, keep your chin up. It's so rough, but just keep reminding yourself they are getting the best possible care! Rest up as much as you can too, it won't last forever ♡
Married 11-11-11 TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year. BFP 02-15-16 with our first IT'S A BOY!!!
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Re: FFFC 9/30
I am uncomfortable talking or singing to the bump and somehow when I try I always use the voice I talk to animals with.
And regarding the GIF- I am excited to be able to watch daytime trash Maury again when I am off work. Those paternity results somehow never get old..
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior.
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB:November 19, 2013)
BFP #2 - Feb 2, 2016 --EDD 10/10/16 --Abigail- October 6, 2016. Heart warrior.
October 2017- Began fostering to adopt T, (DOB:November 19, 2013)
Good luck with whatever you decide.
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Yall, the NICU train is a hard one to ride. I miss my babies.
fx for a short nicu stay for your little ladies.
DH: 34
Married: May 2011
TTC #1: May 2015
DS: 10/20/2016
TTC #2: June 2019
#2 EDD: 2/20/2020
Me: 32 & DH: 37
BFP #2: 2/8/16 - EDD 10/20/16
IT'S A BOY!!!!
DS Born 10/16/16
TTC only since Dec 2015. I had some weight to get off. Been working hard in the gym for over a year.
BFP 02-15-16 with our first
IT'S A BOY!!!