I think about half of us are about halfway to our EDD's and I am already getting ready to setup a birth playlist. I *think* I am going to have 2- 4 separate playlists to keep me in the mood. JW what everyone else has planned. I know with hypnobirthing the sooner and more often you "practice" the better, so I hope to be able to listen to these playlists over the next few months to train myself in a semi-hypno-birthing sort of way.
My two schemas (schemata?) are this-
Schema (A)
Playlist 1 for early labor and afterbirth-nursing (calming, loving, nurturing, even mellow- I personally advise my clients to sleep as much as they can in early labor)
Playlist 2 for active, transitional and pushing (definitely more upbeat, very rhythmic, empowering)
Schema (B)
Playlist 1 for early labor
Playlist 2 for active/transitional labor
Playlist 3 for pushing
Playlist 4 for afterbirth-nursing
I guess it just depends on how knitty gritty I get. I will probably go with A so I am not worried about me or anyone else switching playlists around. I am looking into getting The Rhythm Within , which a doula helped to put together and I've heard amazing things about in doula circles, but I am still unsure. (link:https://www.prodoula.com/product/the-rhythm-within-2-cd-set/) (not an advertisement)
Anyway, lets all share our "Birth Soundtracks" .. please?
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
I've got a playlist going of mostly Creedance Clearwater Rev, Van Morrison and Eric Clapton so far. I like to clean and cook to oldies like that so I figure I'll just have Spotify make me a station based off those artists so I don't have to mess with it further.
Other than that I have a new-agey CD of music my dad used to play on the sailboat when I was little. The album itself is seriously 25-30+ years old and I just call it my "Sailing Music." It always takes me back to a really simple time in my life even nowadays I can listen to it on repeat daily and it relaxes me every time. Im used to meditating to it pretty often so im hoping it can snap me into a relaxed mindset the moment I hear it. It happens to be on Spotify as well so I'm all set I'm not going to micromanage different playlist for early labor/active labor/pushing/etc since I've never given birth before and have a feeling I won't be as aware of what I "should" be listening to at each step. I'll just play it by ear and hope for the best!
I never knew this was a thing either! I wonder how permissive the midwives will be at the hospital I chose. I live overseas and things can be pretty different here. *lurker from march'17*
I have been working on ideas for mine. I always like an eclectic music mix, so I'm just doing one whole labor playlist.
My style is a mixture of 70s love songs, classic/southern rock, modern day ballads, and several other things. Basically if it's unusual, or melodic, I like it.
DH told me I'm going to have my music going, and it's going to confuse the nurses. "Why are they chanting Ooga Chaca in that room?"
I played music while in the early stages of labor but I think it turned off. I will say that the most memorable music for me was when the photographer who came by the room showed us the photos set to a song. It's not a common song but I searched it out because whenever I hear it I have such strong memories of being in the hospital with my newborn and it always chokes me up.
@perrasucia DH and I loved it, and I still sometimes re-watch the series on netflix. But I asked because when one of the characters went in to labor, two other characters (musicians) went to the hospital and did a performance of salt n peppa's push it
@perrasucia DH and I loved it, and I still sometimes re-watch the series on netflix. But I asked because when one of the characters went in to labor, two other characters (musicians) went to the hospital and did a performance of salt n peppa's push it
Mine will be super random, but I'll share as I work on it! I'm not even sure if you're supposed to use music with hypnobabies but I'll definitely make one in case the plan changes or something.
I'm not hyno-ing anything, but I'll probably have my well-trained Pandora going until I get agitated at it and have it turned off. Perhaps you could start a few Pandora stations?
I love this conversation. I'll just have some stuff that's mellow/ relaxing then some more upbeat stuff. Our birthing center has set ups so we can play music.
I never knew this was a thing either! I wonder how permissive the midwives will be at the hospital I chose. I live overseas and things can be pretty different here. *lurker from march'17*
I don't know where overseas you are, but in Germany they definitely allow for your own music.
When I was in labor with my first I had the tv on for background noise. The movie knocked up was on. Once I got to transition/the pushing we turned it off though because it was irritating and distracting at that point.
With my first, they put on what are usually some of my favorite shows on tv, but things got intense very quickly and "irritating and distracting" very accurately describes how I felt about the shows being on at that point. I was actually angry and swearing at people about it, what a jerk lol Then someone (I think the doula) put on a Celtic CD of some really beautiful songs but honestly, I didn't even really hear it. It was like I didn't even notice it.
is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw this post was "best laid plans".
just remember - life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
some of you will have amazing birth stories of labor for an hour and one push.
some of you will have long stories of inductions and pushing and concern for your health or the baby's health, ending in an emergency c/s.
hopefully most of you will have something in between.
remember that:
it is OK to be dissapointed when things don't go as you had hoped.
a healthy baby and a healthy momma is the ultimate goal.
the day of your baby's birth is one day. pregnancy is 9 months long, raising a child is 18 years + and being a parent is a lifetime. it doesn't define you or your relationship with your child.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw this post was "best laid plans".
just remember - life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
some of you will have amazing birth stories of labor for an hour and one push.
some of you will have long stories of inductions and pushing and concern for your health or the baby's health, ending in an emergency c/s.
hopefully most of you will have something in between.
remember that:
it is OK to be dissapointed when things don't go as you had hoped.
a healthy baby and a healthy momma is the ultimate goal.
the day of your baby's birth is one day. pregnancy is 9 months long, raising a child is 18 years + and being a parent is a lifetime. it doesn't define you or your relationship with your child.
I cannot roll my eyes anymore than I have reading this. Jeebus.
Uhhhh. Yeah. Really? I think this is an overreaction to a few of us slapping together some iTunes playlists of music that might keep us entertained in the hospital.
@cinderin I think we're all adults here who know life doesn't go according to plan. There is no harm in picking out some music which makes us feel calm at a pivotal moment, or helps keep us motivated at what will be a difficult time.
Also I'm not sure what any of us said about this impacting our relationships with our children.
is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw this post was "best laid plans".
just remember - life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
some of you will have amazing birth stories of labor for an hour and one push.
some of you will have long stories of inductions and pushing and concern for your health or the baby's health, ending in an emergency c/s.
hopefully most of you will have something in between.
remember that:
it is OK to be dissapointed when things don't go as you had hoped.
a healthy baby and a healthy momma is the ultimate goal.
the day of your baby's birth is one day. pregnancy is 9 months long, raising a child is 18 years + and being a parent is a lifetime. it doesn't define you or your relationship with your child.
@cinderin did you find every patronizing meme on the Internet and condense them into one comment?
My FFC is I hate when people say "a healthy mom and baby is the goal." it is incredibly condescending and manipulative. It implies that we are incubators who should have no say over what happens to our bodies during pregnancy and labor "because of the baby." Of course we all want healthy babies. Not all of us will. We know that. And for most of us, there is nothing we can do about that that we are not already doing.
I didn't know that picking out some music to listen to would result in an accusation that I'm striving for an unhealthy me and an unhealthy baby. Thank you for helping me realize the true implications of my decisions.
is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw this post was "best laid plans".
just remember - life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
some of you will have amazing birth stories of labor for an hour and one push.
some of you will have long stories of inductions and pushing and concern for your health or the baby's health, ending in an emergency c/s.
hopefully most of you will have something in between.
remember that:
it is OK to be dissapointed when things don't go as you had hoped.
a healthy baby and a healthy momma is the ultimate goal.
the day of your baby's birth is one day. pregnancy is 9 months long, raising a child is 18 years + and being a parent is a lifetime. it doesn't define you or your relationship with your child.
Hi honey. I don't usually get super snarky on here, but I really can't help it as I am 10 minutes into a 70 minute trip with a bus full of kindergarteners singing Wheels on the Bus...
so, I am sure many will roll their eyes when I say this, but IDGAF I am proud and passionate about what I do so I'll say it a thousand times- I am a birth doula. That means I am trained and certified to know all about how quickly "the best laid plans" can unravel. I am also trained and certified to know how to not only prevent the unraveling as best as I can, but also to send moms into labor feeling confident and empowered about what lies ahead of them. So guess what? If having 4 separate playlists on my phone to equip and empower me for what is to come makes me feel an iota better- I'll do it. Guess what else? I have 2 med free births under my belt and I am praying to go for #3. Might I have a cesarean birth? Maybe. It's a possibility, but guess what again? Medical necessity for an emergency aside, the more confident I feel going in the lower my chances are of going under the knife.
We all know the horror stories about birth, and how treacherous and awful and painful and traumatizing it can be... and those kind of bull shit stories are what contribute to this (strong word) epidemic negative feelings associated with birth. Why condemn a woman trying to prepare for a very special day to feeling defeated? Maybe not your words, but that was the impression I got from what you said. Yes, it's one day but it's a pretty special effing day. My heart breaks for women who feel as though they were abused in their births. It happens... a lot.
And hopefully most of us have birth stories between amazing and awful? Sorry regardless of delivery method this mom and doula believes that every birth-home, water, induced, cesarean, vacuum, emergency, wtfevah is amazing.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
And, for the record, I've thought a lot about early labour music. Haven't thought about the pushing stage yet, but I'm thinking lots of Satie and Chopin at the beginning would be nice.
And while I'm at it- the heathy mom/healthy baby line is kind of bull crap. Unless you are including mom's MENTAL health underneath the blanket of "healthy". A mom who feel she unsatisfied with her birth isn't more likely to suffer PPD/PPA. and I'm not saying oh "what a wonderful world wasn't not playing when I pushed my kid out so now I'm blue"... I mean a woman who feels like things went badly and it's her fault. Know what prevents that? A prepared mother? A mom who comes out feeling like she did all she could is probably not going to get depressed. I might be reaching here but women with doulas typically have overall better birth outcomes and lower risk and occurence of PPD. Not every woman can afford or even want a doula, so here I'm equating a doula to overall preparedness. It's a good thing. Sure, Things can go awry, there is modern medical interventions that have their place BUT agai , don't condemn a woman to disappointment when in fact that preparing/planning might be what helps her.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
apparently my opinion riled some of you. I am sorry. that was not my intention.
my intention was to simply say that is it fine to plan and immagine but remember it sometimes doesn't work out the way you planned.
I have had more than a few friends who had emergency c/s and spend weeks/months/years upset that they felt like they failed. they didn't. some have had to seek professional help.
I sincerely hope everyone here has the exact birth experience that they want. I also hope that if they don't that they are still (mentally and physically) well.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Re: Birth Playlists
also it totally had salt and peppas push it on there.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Me: 37 - H: 39
TTC#1: 01/2016
BFP: 06/18/2016 - EDD: 02/20/2017 - Born: 01/27/2017
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
Other than that I have a new-agey CD of music my dad used to play on the sailboat when I was little. The album itself is seriously 25-30+ years old and I just call it my "Sailing Music." It always takes me back to a really simple time in my life even nowadays I can listen to it on repeat daily and it relaxes me every time. Im used to meditating to it pretty often so im hoping it can snap me into a relaxed mindset the moment I hear it. It happens to be on Spotify as well so I'm all set I'm not going to micromanage different playlist for early labor/active labor/pushing/etc since I've never given birth before and have a feeling I won't be as aware of what I "should" be listening to at each step. I'll just play it by ear and hope for the best!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
My style is a mixture of 70s love songs, classic/southern rock, modern day ballads, and several other things. Basically if it's unusual, or melodic, I like it.
DH told me I'm going to have my music going, and it's going to confuse the nurses. "Why are they chanting Ooga Chaca in that room?"
Married: 10/10
EDD: 8/27/16 MMC 1/16
Rainbow Boy: 2/04/17
TTC: 4/18 BFP: 1/2/19
EDD: 9/6/19
Ben and Maggie - 4/10/09
Mia - 6/16/11
Surprise! due 2/23/17
+1 to plz share your playlists!!
I won't be doing it again, just not for me.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
is it bad that the first thing I thought when I saw this post was "best laid plans".
just remember - life is what happens when you are busy making other plans.
some of you will have amazing birth stories of labor for an hour and one push.
some of you will have long stories of inductions and pushing and concern for your health or the baby's health, ending in an emergency c/s.
hopefully most of you will have something in between.
remember that:
it is OK to be dissapointed when things don't go as you had hoped.
a healthy baby and a healthy momma is the ultimate goal.
the day of your baby's birth is one day. pregnancy is 9 months long, raising a child is 18 years + and being a parent is a lifetime. it doesn't define you or your relationship with your child.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
Jeebus.
Also I'm not sure what any of us said about this impacting our relationships with our children.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
My FFC is I hate when people say "a healthy mom and baby is the goal." it is incredibly condescending and manipulative. It implies that we are incubators who should have no say over what happens to our bodies during pregnancy and labor "because of the baby." Of course we all want healthy babies. Not all of us will. We know that. And for most of us, there is nothing we can do about that that we are not already doing.
so, I am sure many will roll their eyes when I say this, but IDGAF I am proud and passionate about what I do so I'll say it a thousand times- I am a birth doula. That means I am trained and certified to know all about how quickly "the best laid plans" can unravel. I am also trained and certified to know how to not only prevent the unraveling as best as I can, but also to send moms into labor feeling confident and empowered about what lies ahead of them. So guess what? If having 4 separate playlists on my phone to equip and empower me for what is to come makes me feel an iota better- I'll do it. Guess what else? I have 2 med free births under my belt and I am praying to go for #3. Might I have a cesarean birth? Maybe. It's a possibility, but guess what again? Medical necessity for an emergency aside, the more confident I feel going in the lower my chances are of going under the knife.
We all know the horror stories about birth, and how treacherous and awful and painful and traumatizing it can be... and those kind of bull shit stories are what contribute to this (strong word) epidemic negative feelings associated with birth. Why condemn a woman trying to prepare for a very special day to feeling defeated? Maybe not your words, but that was the impression I got from what you said. Yes, it's one day but it's a pretty special effing day. My heart breaks for women who feel as though they were abused in their births. It happens... a lot.
And hopefully most of us have birth stories between amazing and awful? Sorry regardless of delivery method this mom and doula believes that every birth-home, water, induced, cesarean, vacuum, emergency, wtfevah is amazing.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
What a beautiful thing to wake up to.
And, for the record, I've thought a lot about early labour music. Haven't thought about the pushing stage yet, but I'm thinking lots of Satie and Chopin at the beginning would be nice.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
(P.S. if you haven't actually watched the skit this gif is from, do yourself a favor and youtube that ishh today! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LHx6nRtWIa4)
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
my intention was to simply say that is it fine to plan and immagine but remember it sometimes doesn't work out the way you planned.
I have had more than a few friends who had emergency c/s and spend weeks/months/years upset that they felt like they failed. they didn't. some have had to seek professional help.
I sincerely hope everyone here has the exact birth experience that they want. I also hope that if they don't that they are still (mentally and physically) well.
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
Expecting Baby Bean February 2017
Also i havnt mastered gifs yet so a meme will have to do......