PGAL Check-In (9/21)

pshaortao · September 2016

This is for all our May moms who have experienced a loss - we are here to support one another!

1. Introduce yourself if you haven't yet

2. How far along are you?

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO?

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months?

vrj0522 · September 2016

8w3d

I am doing mostly well. We got to see a healthy hb on Monday so that gave me hope. Then yesterday someone asked about odds after you've seen the hb and I started googling and came upon things that I shouldn't have read so that scared me. I've been trying not to think about what I read too much. Next milestone is getting genetic testing in 2 weeks. I will be anxiously awaiting those result

Bucket list: Get my house perfectly clean. It's amazing how much more aware I am right now of little things that I would've overlooked before I got pregnant. Nothing else really that I feel like must absolutely do before baby comes.

pshaortao · September 2016

5w5d

I'm okay. A ball of anxiety if we're being honest. I woke a few times throughout the night, mostly because my loss happened the morning I was 5w5d back in May. No blood this morning and I POAS and the line came up so fast which was nice to see. I have my appointment tomorrow and I'm hoping they will do an u/s to confirm there's a baby and that it's measuring okay. I will update here after! DH had noticed I've been a bit off this week and even after explaining what's going through my head, he thinks it's "stupid" that I'm even worried/anxious. He just doesn't understand what a mind-eff this has been, especially since we were successful with DD without any issues.

On the top of our bucket list is to buy a house! Our lease is ending in early April so we hope to have a house to start moving into by early March. I am also determined to plan more weekend getaways as a family too. DHs bday is coming up and he really wants to go to the beach (3hr drive) in spite of the dropping temperature. Whatever makes the man happy ha.

mcvgal · September 2016

2. How far along are you? 7w6d

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO? I am ok, just a little bummed about my mom's reaction to the news. I'm taking it one week at a time and am very happy about a great ultrasound yesterday. SO is handling everything very well right now.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: After my mom's reaction I was even more thankful for my baby bro. He's 28 but will always be the baby and he's super excited and supportive.

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months? Not so much a bucket list item, but a major to-do. I want to redo DS1's room. Right now I am imagining myself a professional designer and have so many ideas in mind.

flychick-2 · September 2016

2. 7 weeks

3. I was way more calm about the outcome of this pregnancy until we had the ultrasound last week at 6 weeks. We saw a heartbeat and it looked good, but now I'm just worried because it was so early and I want this one to work so bad.

4. Nothing really

5. I'm trying to change the maternity leave policy at work! The current policy is outdated and many similar companies have started to change their policies but many haven't. What's worse is that I know so many women who have been pregnant while at my company and the policies and treatment have been so bad that they've quit. I need other women to get on board with this but it's so hard since the majority who have been pregnant aren't around anymore! Anyway I'm optimistic but it's a lot of work.

flychick-2 · September 2016

@vrj0522 I did the same thing after the ultrasound! And now I wish I hadn't. It's like the odds are pretty good after you see a hb at 6 weeks, but I wanted it to be like 99% good and it wasn't that at all.

Jellybeanqueen13 · September 2016

2. How far along are you?
5 weeks 4 days

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO?
Looking forward to and extremely anxious for our first u/s next Friday. SO doesn't talk about our loss unless I bring it up. It's fine though. I don't wish he would act one way or another. Everyone handles things differently.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
The weather is nice and cool today, which is great!

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months?
Nothing as of now. I'm not getting into planning anything or really allowing myself to look that far ahead until we know what direction things are going.

jdebaie · September 2016

2. How far along are you?: 6w 5d

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO?: Counting down the days until my October 3rd ultrasound/appointment with equal parts excitment and dread. (Edited for SO part) - If DH husband is nervous this time around he's definitely kept it hidden. He's all positivity, which has been good for me.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: The "morning" (aka "all day") sickness started about two days ago. I had it bad with DD but not as badly with the baby I miscarried so I'm hoping (for me) it's a good sign. I took Zofran with DD starting at week 15 and going through the rest of my pregnancy. I'm really hoping it's not as serious as that. It does make going to work extra hard though.

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months?: Get our new house in order! Both the prengnacy and buying the new house weren't supposed to happen together but it did and we are rolling with it!

Knottie1448065635 · September 2016

FlyChick said:

2. 7 weeks

3. I was way more calm about the outcome of this pregnancy until we had the ultrasound last week at 6 weeks. We saw a heartbeat and it looked good, but now I'm just worried because it was so early and I want this one to work so bad.

4. Nothing really

5. I'm trying to change the maternity leave policy at work! The current policy is outdated and many similar companies have started to change their policies but many haven't. What's worse is that I know so many women who have been pregnant while at my company and the policies and treatment have been so bad that they've quit. I need other women to get on board with this but it's so hard since the majority who have been pregnant aren't around anymore! Anyway I'm optimistic but it's a lot of work.

Good for you!!!! It's amazing how hard it is to get other women to rally around this. It's like they all forget after they have their kids or don't think about what it will be like when the do have kids.

Keep pushing! Dont give up!

LCRbelle · September 2016

1. Cautiously joining you guys. I introduced myself on the EDD page but had accidentally logged into my old account! My DH and I have been married a little less than a year and a half. Been TTC the whole time we've been married. We had one loss in March. I was TTC for three years with my ex with two losses.
Currently under the care of a reproductive specialist, we did clomid and a trigger shot this month. Plus I'm on progesterone suppositories and baby aspirin. I was diagnosed with APS but my doctor doesn't think my levels were high enough for anything more than the baby aspirin.

2. 4W 4D

3. I'm doing ok, today has been a little rough. Had my first appointment and ultrasound and the doctor didn't say anything reassuring at all. As he was leaving he said something like we will hope and pray this works out. It's silly, but I left the office crying.
I'm looking forward to seeing if this pregnancy is actually going to work out. Trying so so hard to be positive but it's hard.
My DH has been fine. I feel like neither one of us are really acknowledging the pregnancy. Just trying to act normal. When I told him I just said the test was positive I couldn't even use the words pregnant.

3. My rant would be related to number 2. Annoyed with my doctor for not being more helpful. Like If thinks don't look good tell me! If things are looking great tell me that as well! I went in Today hoping to have at least some insight into what's going on in my own body.

4. Finishing our condo renovations! We recently bought/moved into a condo and we still have a lot of work to do.

Hope all of yall are having a wonderful day! I look forward to getting to know everyone. Hope we all get to stay.

Jkp7749 · September 2016

6 weeks

I'm fine. Exhausted and I feel yucky, but I don't want to admit that I even feel pregnant until I see that there is a healthy baby growing. My last miscarriage was a missed miscarriage and I no longer felt pregnant but dh was excited and I later felt silly for being excited about being pregnant when I no longer was, but just didn't know it yet... if that makes sense? My dh took both pretty hard and now he makes these comments that really hurt my feelings... for example: I saw a cute maternity shirt and wanted to go back and get it. He said " might as well because you'll be pregnant at some point..." like he thought we'd lose it but I'd get to wear the shirt at some point. He's said a few things like that and it sucks.

I forgot how much the 1st trimester stinks compared to the rest. Nobody knows to be excited with (other than dh obviously), I don't feel good, and I can't feel the baby move yet.

we bought our house two and a half years ago and miscarried the day we closed and got the keys. it was a fixer upper but I didn't feel up to decorating everything right away. We conceived my daughter and again, I didn't feel so great so things were on hold. Then my daughter was colicky and had a horrible time sleeping, so more things went unfinished. Before this baby comes I want to finish EVERYTHING and be done

cclaineDC · September 2016

2. How far along are you? 7 weeks

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO? I'm doing great, actually. I've made it 2 weeks past my last pregnancy, so I'm hoping things are lookin' up. I'm a little anxious about my sono tomorrow. Moment of truth, right? Anyway, my hub has been supportive, but I think he's more cautious about getting his hopes up than I am. He works constantly (lawyers...), but he'll take care of the cat litter, and if I ask him nicely, he'll even take out the trash and do the dishes so I don't throw up all over the kitchen. I'm hoping the Dr visit tomorrow will be just as informative for him as it will be for me, and that it'll make asking for his help feel a little less like nagging. I'm not sure that'll ever change though... haha.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I got nothin' today.

5. GTKY: What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months? If everything works out, we'll need to move to a bigger place. I need to do some apartment/house hunting.

sqfibemom · September 2016

1. Introduce yourself if you haven't yet I have but I will again, I'm sqfibemom I had a loss before DS and then again last cycle so I'm praying this baby gets comfy.

2. How far along are you? 5w

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO? I'm ok. I have another blooddraw on Friday so I'm praying that it shows my numbers are nice and high. I'm just ready to know that, at least for now, this baby is sticking around. My SO is much better this time than last time we had a loss. He understands and respects that I'm anxious and need more support and patience so that's nice.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Just prayers that this baby stays put would be great. Also, I have a cold right now, that sucks, a lot, and my TMJD is acting up which also sucks.

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months? Staying pregnant. Hahaha! I don't really have anything else I'd like to accomplish over the next few months.

Cubslove12 · September 2016

2. How far along are you? 7w2d

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO?

I'm doing ok, I have my first OBGYN appt today so I'm just praying for a healthy baby! My SO is slightly detached this pregnancy, I think he's guarded until we see a heartbeat. The last loss was really hard on him since we had seen a heartbeat while I was spotting and didn't expect it to end. I personally had felt something wasn't right so I think it was easier for me.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes:
I'm doing well, I"m just beyond excited for tonight!!

5. GTKY: What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months?
I don't know if I have anything on my bucket list... for the next few months, I just want a healthy baby right now.

cmcookaln · September 2016

1. I had a D&C in August of 2013. I conceived again in January of 2014 and have a beautiful daughter who is almost 2.

2. I am 8w2d

3. I am doing pretty well. We had the first ultrasound on Monday and were super relieved to hear a heartbeat though my blood pressure was through the roof with the anxiety and worrying.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I have been feeling pretty nauseous which I did not feel at all with my first pregnancy, but I was horribly sick with DD so I'm hoping that's a good sign. My next appointment is Oct. 31 so I will anxiously await that date or at least my 12w mark because I know the chances of miscarriage decrease dramatically after that.

5. Get DD potty-trained so I will only have one in diapers and remodel the basement so we can move the guest bedroom down there, move DD to the old guest room and have the nursery for the new baby.

NotAPlaya-JustCrushAlot · September 2016

2. 6wks3d

3. I had my first appt today and scheduled an u/s for Monday. Not that they can "see" much at the first appointment, but it definitely lifted my mood today. This might be the first day I've let myself get pretty excited about this pregnancy. I mean, I was excited but the anxiety is lifting a bit. DH is quietly nervous and we haven't really discussed this pregnancy much. It just occurred to me that my silence was worrying him so I'm making an effort to talk about it and let him know I'm ok.

4. Wooziness. It just kicked in today. I never had this with my DD or my MC. I'm hoping this is as far as it gets.

5. I just want to lose my PGAL anxiety and enjoy this pregnancy. I loved being pregnant w/ DD and this is likely our last kid.

lilylover27 · September 2016

1. Introduce yourself if you haven't yet
Just posted on the intro thread but will add here as well. Second pregnancy, first resulted in a missed miscarriage at 8 weeks that was diagnosed at the 12 week appointment. TTCAL June 16, BFP 8/26.

2. How far along are you?
7w2d by LMP as of yesterday but had our first appointment yesterday and was measuring 7w4d.

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO? I am doing ok today, seeing the little bean yesterday with a strong heart beat of 150 was a little reassuring. I have another appointment on 10/4, my OB said given my last pregnancy she would like to see me every two weeks until we are out of the first trimester, which should help to also ease my PGAL brain. DH is very optimistic this time as it has been a completely different pregnancy from last time so far.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: Just trying to take it one day and one appointment at a time right now. Only rant is we told our family last time after the first ultrasound and then we had the MMC. Well they said they didn't want to know next time until it was safe, which I kind of get, but also think it is a little selfish. I mean it was great to have the support last time and we really wanted to have someone to share the good ultrasound with yesterday. DH said he doesn't care what they said that after the next one he wants to tell them, next one I will be about 9 weeks.

5. GTKY: 35. What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months? Just having a healthy baby, that is all I can really focus on right now. I am sure once we pass that 1st trimester "danger zone" I will be able to relax and think of things I actually want to get done, but for now just focusing on this baby and getting through the 1st trimester and being healthy.

ETA: I am tentatively joining in over here finally but have been lurking for a while now.

libby+nate · September 2016

So glad to see this check-in!
1. I'm Libby and used to be active on ttcal and pgal, then moved over to the "other place" and am now back here. I have one Rainbow DD after a MMC at 12+5.
2. I am 8+4 (May 1st EDD)
3. I'm sooo tired, but unsure if it's just too difficult for me to maintain a healthy balance trying to nurse through diet restrictions and be pregnant. I feel too busy to worry as much this time, but I'm still so, so very anxious. My SO is very supportive and was my rock during our loss.
4. I don't have my first u/s until 11 weeks, which is really a mind trip after a missed miscarriage. Counting down the days. Some days I feel positive and other days I just know something is wrong. We had scans at 7 weeks, 8 weeks, 10, 12, 20, 28 and 37 with my last pregnancy, so this is new to me! My OB just did them each appointment for peace of mind the first trimester and then later on we dealt with kidney issues and IUGR.
5. I'm hoping to sell our home and build another, leave my PRN position at the hospital and have a healthy baby!

libby+nate · September 2016

cmcookaln said:

1. I had a D&C in August of 2013. I conceived again in January of 2014 and have a beautiful daughter who is almost 2.

2. I am 8w2d

3. I am doing pretty well. We had the first ultrasound on Monday and were super relieved to hear a heartbeat though my blood pressure was through the roof with the anxiety and worrying.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: I have been feeling pretty nauseous which I did not feel at all with my first pregnancy, but I was horribly sick with DD so I'm hoping that's a good sign. My next appointment is Oct. 31 so I will anxiously await that date or at least my 12w mark because I know the chances of miscarriage decrease dramatically after that.

5. Get DD potty-trained so I will only have one in diapers and remodel the basement so we can move the guest bedroom down there, move DD to the old guest room and have the nursery for the new baby.

When is your daughters birthday? Seems like our littles and EDD are very close!

pshaortao · September 2016

@libby+nate @cmcookaln

Ditto! DD just turned two

libby+nate · September 2016

@pshaortao that is so neat! My little one is Nov 18th!
Any updates from your appointment? I tried to look, but I may have missed it.

pshaortao · September 2016

@libby+nate Thanks for asking! I met with a midwife (as a new patient) and because they don't do blood draws over the weekend, I would have to wait until Mon and Wed. I was clearly frustrated with the idea of waiting longer, so she ended up doing a vaginal ultrasound to if she could find anything. There was definitely a sac with a fetal pole that measured exactly as it should be. She didn't try to look for a heartbeat since she thinks it's too early, so I go back on the 6th when I'm 8 weeks. It's at least a lot of anxiety lifted off my shoulders but pgal brain is still sticking around regardless.

libby+nate · September 2016

@pshaortao my first ultrasound is on the 6th!! I will be 10+4 I believe. I had a nurse appointment where they draw lab (no quant HCG though) checked urine, did vitals etc. I'm anxious to see my OB and hopefully have a good scan! So glad yours seems to be right on track!

waitingforblueskies · September 2016

1. Introduce yourself if you haven't yet- Hi All. I just recently introduced myself in the Intro thread, but I will do it again here. 25 years old, married 2.5 years, two fur babies (pom and yellow lab). I am a long-term substitute teacher; my husband is an application developer. We are foster parents. My husband and I have been TTC for a little over a year. First BFP was August 2nd, miscarried on the 18th at about 7 weeks. I kind of felt like something was going wrong, but It was still shocking when it started. I went to the Emergency room for the pain and bleeding. While there I found out that I am Rh- so we got the Rhogam shot after two different ultrasounds where the tech couldn't see anything. The ER doctor "wasn't sure" if we were miscarrying or not, but I was pretty sure we were. The miscarriage completed that night at home. Shockingly, I ended up ovulating two weeks later without expecting it and here we are.

2. How far along are you? 4 weeks 3 days (ish) could be more, could be a little less

3. How are you doing? What is the next milestone you're looking forward to? How is it being PGAL with your SO? I am doing okay. I am trying to be cautiously optimistic about it all. I was looking forward to my hCG test results which came back yesterday (161 Weds, 438 Fri). I have not gotten a call from my doctor about them yet or to set up an appointment, so I guess that is what I am looking forward to next. My husband is great about supporting me and my "POAS just to see that it is still pink" habits, so that is great.

4. Rant/Rave/Positive Vibes: It is getting cooler out and more Autumn like! I love it!

5. GTKY: What’s on your bucket list for the next 7-8 months? Finish the fence in our new yard! Our dogs will be so happy to run out in the yard and be free! Honestly though, that should get done in the next few weeks. After that...I am not sure. I guess to just enjoy nesting if we get to that point.

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