I feel for the woman in the airport with the child leashes. I don't personally own any leashes for my 2 small kids, but there have definitely been times when I've thought "I totally get it." It can be a safety concern to try to keep them with you, especially in a place like an airport where it could be so easy for them to disappear.
Me: 1979 * Husband: 1976 * Little girl: 2010 * Little guy: 2013 * MMC: 2016 * Last baby: EDD 2/11/17!
I feel for the woman in the airport with the child leashes. I don't personally own any leashes for my 2 small kids, but there have definitely been times when I've thought "I totally get it." It can be a safety concern to try to keep them with you, especially in a place like an airport where it could be so easy for them to disappear.
Yep. I would rather someone mock me or roll their eyes than try to chase two toddlers running in different directions.
Yeah, I get the leash thing. I was always against it, I'm the person who'd say "My child is not a dog."...but then we went to the state fair this weekend and it was CRAZY packed and I thought yeah...a leash would be super useful here. I totally get it.
I used to think leashes were crazy and I don't have one BUT now that my kid is super unpredictable and doesn't listen very well (aka 2 year old), if I had two of them doing that and nowhere to strap them in (stroller) it would be insanity.
@Amber_Waves SO RUDE!!! If someone tells you the name they are thinking of, and they don't specifically say "Do you see any potential issues with our choosing that name for our baby" the only response is "That is a lovely name, and I can't wait to meet him or her"
So much this. I was hanging out with my aunt and best friend and one of them asked if we had a name picked out yet. I told them we were thinking about Kanan (yes, I'm aware of the potential pronunciation issues, but I'm not that worried about it, and we love it more and more everyday). Anyway, My aunt responds with confusion, "Kanan?? Where's that come from?" Understandable, so I explain. She then tells me she doesn't really like it. My best friend then chimes in with "How about you just name him Kayden! That's close enough and it sounds better!" My aunt agreed we should name him Kayden.
In my mind I said, "Bitch. No. I'm not interested in Kayden, I'm interested in Kanan. I never asked your opinions. You asked what we were thinking and I told you." But instead I just half smiled and said "No, I don't like Kayden." Ugh. I hate people. If you don't like my baby name, that's fine. Go home and talk about it with someone else, but don't mention it to me unless I ask you for your opinion.
And this story is why we don't plan to tell anyone what name(s) we pick until after the baby is born. Granted, I am not sure we will decide on something for sure until we meet the baby anyway, but I just don't really want to know anyone's opinion, thankyouverymuch. I feel like once the name is chosen and the baby is actually here, people are less likely to make negative comments (at least to the parents' faces). People are just really presumptuous about assuming you want their opinions on baby names.
The whole waiting to tell people the name until the baby is born thing seems to be the norm in my family... One sister just had a baby and didn't share the name until she was born (though I assumed they would pick the name they had because my sister and I had many discussions about names, and she kept going back to this one), and the other one had a kid a few years ago and didn't tell anyone her name until after she was born, either. That sister is pregnant again, and it has not even occurred to me - on any of these occasions - to ask what the name will be, because I assume she won't tell me.
I used a backpack leash with my son when I flew cross country with him at 2 years old by myself with layovers. He was also a runner. If it's between losing my son and keeping him safely with me while giving him some independence, I choose the leash. He loved his "backpack" and it made it sooo much easier to get through the airport.
And I was also 100% against kid leashes until taking my 2 year old to Disney. You bet your ass I bought one at the local target after the first day, lol.
Yup! I agree with @madamerwin. This is exactly why I won't be telling anyone our baby's name until she is born. I know I'll get a lot of questions next month during the baby shower but I plan on simply announcing "we do have a name picked out, and you all will get to know it when the baby is here." I figured this is better than lying and saying that we don't have one picked out, because then I know everyone is going to chime in with their two cents. Also, I'm prepared for mommy's boy DH to spill the beans about the name to his mother. (He told her the sex even though I told him not to.) In which case, if MIL tries to give me her opinion on the name I will hang up on her and not feel the slightest bit of guilt. At the wedding this weekend, everyone and their mother was asking me what the sex of the baby is. I told them we're keeping it a surprise. Ugh the comments they have on that, too.
Yea I'm all for the backpack leash. My kid is a runner and a 2yo who thinks chase is fun. Granted we usually have a stroller, but I've got a leash on my amazon wish list that I'm just waiting to buy for our next big outing(zoo,airport,Disney,etc)...
I'm glad to see other people are for backpack leashes! If our kid turns out to be a runner, and/or we go to busy places, I have no qualms with leashing them.
Well I am totally a FTM here...so my opinion on leashes could change down the line lol. My niece likes to run, BUT she listens well and knows if she isn't in the house than she needs to hold someone's hand to venture off. Thinking about the stories of how DH was as a kid.....our baby might need a leash backpack at some point after all. DH and his twin snuck out of the house past their Dad and got into Mom's car (in the back, they had one of the vans with seats in the trunk area) and she drove them to work with her and had NO CLUE they were in there hiding b/c they were completely quiet and then went strolling into her office about 10 minutes later and said they went in her car for a minute and fell asleep (little fibbers)....and DH took off on his Dad at a fair and was MIA for 15 minutes. Oh boy, I might be in for it...unless baby girl takes after her Mommy...I was mostly well behaved.....mostly...lol
Re: names- If someone told me our baby name sucked (once we pick one lol) or they didn't like it....ok cool? It wouldnt phase me one bit nor do I really crave the validation either way. People have opinions, and not everyone is going to love our child the way we will *shrugs*
I also see no reason to respond with anything more than an "Oh" when someone mentions a truly awful name for their child. The snark though, there will be oh-so-much snark it's just that very few people have the desire to do it in front of the actual parents. Your kids name is Syphillia? Good luck. I mean "oh awesome!" Is lying to someone's face really that much better?
My UO- please don't tell me that the F17 BMB has to become a safe space for baby names.
I have def been guilty of name judgement. I did flat out say once to someone that their kid might have a rough time in school with that name. One of my bridesmaids was going to name her daughter Anelia....she made it up because she liked Amelia and Anne. But she had a boy, so her boyfriend was relieved. No one liked that name she made up for a girl.
Re: names- If someone told me our baby name sucked (once we pick one lol) or they didn't like it....ok cool? It wouldnt phase me one bit nor do I really crave the validation either way. People have opinions, and not everyone is going to love our child the way we will *shrugs*
I also see no reason to respond with anything more than an "Oh" when someone mentions a truly awful name for their child. The snark though, there will be oh-so-much snark it's just that very few people have the desire to do it in front of the actual parents. Your kids name is Syphillia? Good luck. I mean "oh awesome!" Is lying to someone's face really that much better?
My UO- please don't tell me that the F17 BMB has to become a safe space for baby names.
@yogadevil I don't think F17 has to become a safe space for baby names. If someone posts their name here, I think they are doing so wanting an opinion. I posted about Kanan a while back because I genuinely wanted to know how you guys felt about it. I got same very valid concerns, which is totally fine. I wasn't upset at all. If someone doesn't want an opinion on their name, I don't think they'd post it here. I think I just got upset with my aunt and best friend because we are close and I wasn't expecting that sort of reaction from them.
My daughter wasn't a runner either. But in major crowds it's SO hard to keep track of them even when they stay close, and it can also be hard to hold hands the whole time. So that's when a backpack leash comes in handy
Re: first birthday parties. I also gave side eyes to people throwing a huge party for their toddler... until I had my own one year old, and just threw my own first birthday party. Still not a fan of the gifts, but heck, your baby only turns one once, life is too short-take advantage of every chance to celebrate life!
@BlondePeanut so I don't have a leash for my kid, but he has run away more times than I can count and going anywhere crowded with him means either carrying his 35 lb ass around or it being a two man job with one person watching him. Once I tried costco alone with him and he ran so far that my cart was gone by the time I got back to it. He will just climb right out of wagons, strollers, carts etc and he's NUTS fast.
Yesterday he decided he didn't like me anymore and ran down the street screaming "get away from me" while I was trying to wrangle the dog and be a calm and patient person.
I honestly think my dog would do better off leash than he does.
My UO: I really dislike made up names, but I think the worst offenders are the ones that look like misspellings of real names. Your kid is not to cool to use the original, calm down.
I was in Walmart a while ago and our cashier's name was "Denisse". What's wrong with Denise? Or I know this one is popular now (I'm prepared to be pelted with rocks), but Jaxson? What's wrong with Jackson?
My UO: Dogs don't have problems...I guess is how I'd word it.
My dog has serious anxiety. My dog doesn't always listen to me. Does your toddler always listen to you? No. I've put in countless hours with my pooch to help her just like you did for your kid. So back off, we are trying. if you don't want to take the time to help me train my dog (i.e 5 minutes to let her get used to you) don't ask to pet her and then tell me what I should do to make her "not scared".
I get the kids won't remember their first birthday but it was a celebration for us too for surviving that first year. We had a taco guy and alcohol and a jumper for the kids. We won't have a huge party for every birthday but I will definitely do a big 1st bday party for this kid too.
My UO - Forced volunteerism makes me very angry. Today, my team went to cook dinner for 72 women staying at a local homeless shelter. This is something that I believe is good; I've done this volunteer event previously of my own choosing. But, my boss/company making this mandatory really bothers me. I also disagree with forcing high school students to put in some specific number of hours. Volunteering is personal and I don't think that making people do things like this really encourages people to do good in the community long term.
Finally, I hate when a company forces a non-profit down it's employees throats. Like, if you still haven't signed up to make weekly donations to the thing we think is important, you'll continue to get heart wrenching emails telling you over and over why you should.
Oh, I didn't mean that I wasn't going to snark the hell out of someone's odd name choice behind their back. Is that rude? Maybe. But I think people have fleshed out the difference between soliciting opinions on name choices and just sharing. And if someone is just sharing the name they picked, I will smile with a face full of chiclets and then come snark on here.
As to F17 becoming a baby name "safe space" ... I say all is fair in love and war, until the kiddos arrive. If people are still snarking on name choices when births are announced, I will snark on the snark.
My UO: Dogs don't have problems...I guess is how I'd word it.
My dog has serious anxiety. My dog doesn't always listen to me. Does your toddler always listen to you? No. I've put in countless hours with my pooch to help her just like you did for your kid. So back off, we are trying. if you don't want to take the time to help me train my dog (i.e 5 minutes to let her get used to you) don't ask to pet her and then tell me what I should do to make her "not scared".
My son is a runner (even now at almost 6years old) some dumb reason, he is convinced that all cars can see him and it's ok if he runs out in a parking lot/road. He is so freaking hardheaded and i can't seem to get through his head that this is not always the case.
I don't use it anymore, but when he was younger hell ya i used a leash. But also reinforced that he had to hold my hand. It was a life saver. He didn't like the stroller, and would break out of them whenever he had the chance.
My UO, (because my sister and i have it out every so often) i have no problem giving my kid adhd meds. It has helped him stay focus in school, and there is always a huge difference on his behavior, when he is on the meds and when he is not
My UO: Dogs don't have problems...I guess is how I'd word it.
My dog has serious anxiety. My dog doesn't always listen to me. Does your toddler always listen to you? No. I've put in countless hours with my pooch to help her just like you did for your kid. So back off, we are trying. if you don't want to take the time to help me train my dog (i.e 5 minutes to let her get used to you) don't ask to pet her and then tell me what I should do to make her "not scared".
Rant? yeah. end rant.
Are you comparing dogs to toddlers?
lol I think she's comparing her dog to a toddler meaning it takes a bit of effort with new people. I get it, I have a dog with anxiety issues. Like with my toddler, it takes a few minutes of adjustment when meeting new people.
My son is a runner (even now at almost 6years old) some dumb reason, he is convinced that all cars can see him and it's ok if he runs out in a parking lot/road. He is so freaking hardheaded and i can't seem to get through his head that this is not always the case.
I don't use it anymore, but when he was younger hell ya i used a leash. But also reinforced that he had to hold my hand. It was a life saver. He didn't like the stroller, and would break out of them whenever he had the chance.
My UO, (because my sister and i have it out every so often) i have no problem giving my kid adhd meds. It has helped him stay focus in school, and there is always a huge difference on his behavior, when he is on the meds and when he is not
That is no a UO for teachers, I wish more parents where like you. There are kids who have real medical conditions and the parents who say no to meds, hurt their child and all the children who have to be stuck in a class with them. When a child is soo ADHD that no child wants to sit next to them or work with them no, that is not just boys being boys, please get your child help.
I agree with @skiingstark, @LinnyAnne10 That is not an UO in my books at all. My school is all about "ranges of normal" behaviour and, we work really hard with students to meet them where they're at and see them as whole students, not diagnoses. But getting a student the diagnosis and assistance they need is a huge part of learning success. Tell your sister to stuff it from all the teachers on here.
My UO is that I think a placenta is a beautiful and wonderful thing. But when it exists my body it is medical waste. I will not eat it or encapsulate it and I will judge the hell out of you if you make "placenta art." nope. just nope.
My UO is that I think a placenta is a beautiful and wonderful thing. But when it exists my body it is medical waste. I will not eat it or encapsulate it and I will judge the hell out of you if you make "placenta art." nope. just nope.
Yikes yikes yikes. I am so fascinated with placentas and with both my girls examined them with the MW as I nursed. LOL. I think placenta art is really cool but I would never display it for others. It would maybe be a bbay book thing. I am heavily debating encapsulating my placenta this go around. And and and as a scientist it is my dream to do a large scale double blind study on the effects of placenta consumption.
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17
Re: UO Thursday 09/22
I would rather someone mock me or roll their eyes than try to chase two toddlers running in different directions.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
The whole waiting to tell people the name until the baby is born thing seems to be the norm in my family... One sister just had a baby and didn't share the name until she was born (though I assumed they would pick the name they had because my sister and I had many discussions about names, and she kept going back to this one), and the other one had a kid a few years ago and didn't tell anyone her name until after she was born, either. That sister is pregnant again, and it has not even occurred to me - on any of these occasions - to ask what the name will be, because I assume she won't tell me.
And I was also 100% against kid leashes until taking my 2 year old to Disney. You bet your ass I bought one at the local target after the first day, lol.
Also, I'm prepared for mommy's boy DH to spill the beans about the name to his mother. (He told her the sex even though I told him not to.) In which case, if MIL tries to give me her opinion on the name I will hang up on her and not feel the slightest bit of guilt. At the wedding this weekend, everyone and their mother was asking me what the sex of the baby is. I told them we're keeping it a surprise. Ugh the comments they have on that, too.
I also see no reason to respond with anything more than an "Oh" when someone mentions a truly awful name for their child. The snark though, there will be oh-so-much snark it's just that very few people have the desire to do it in front of the actual parents. Your kids name is Syphillia? Good luck. I mean "oh awesome!" Is lying to someone's face really that much better?
My UO- please don't tell me that the F17 BMB has to become a safe space for baby names.
Mini-vans are lame ----> minivans are so spacious, give me one now!
My kid is never going to watch tv on my phone/iPad in a restaurant ---->thank gosh for Peppa Pig so I can eat my meal.
No plastic toys---> Gimme all the fisher price.
Keep it gender neutral ---> We need princess everything! Only pink!
Its so so annoying to hear but it's so true in many ways.
ME: 25, DH: 27
TTC #1 since 09/2015
Miscarriage @ 10 wks 02/28/2016
BFP 05/28/2016!
I'll name her Skyy!
Yesterday he decided he didn't like me anymore and ran down the street screaming "get away from me" while I was trying to wrangle the dog and be a calm and patient person.
I honestly think my dog would do better off leash than he does.
My UO: Dogs don't have problems...I guess is how I'd word it.
My dog has serious anxiety. My dog doesn't always listen to me. Does your toddler always listen to you? No. I've put in countless hours with my pooch to help her just like you did for your kid. So back off, we are trying. if you don't want to take the time to help me train my dog (i.e 5 minutes to let her get used to you) don't ask to pet her and then tell me what I should do to make her "not scared".
Rant? yeah. end rant.
Finally, I hate when a company forces a non-profit down it's employees throats. Like, if you still haven't signed up to make weekly donations to the thing we think is important, you'll continue to get heart wrenching emails telling you over and over why you should.
As to F17 becoming a baby name "safe space" ... I say all is fair in love and war, until the kiddos arrive. If people are still snarking on name choices when births are announced, I will snark on the snark.
I don't use it anymore, but when he was younger hell ya i used a leash. But also reinforced that he had to hold my hand. It was a life saver. He didn't like the stroller, and would break out of them whenever he had the chance.
My UO, (because my sister and i have it out every so often) i have no problem giving my kid adhd meds. It has helped him stay focus in school, and there is always a huge difference on his behavior, when he is on the meds and when he is not
Is that where you're going with it @jlellis603 ?
Married to my Soul Mate since 09/06/09
we just took a photo of a man sized turd DS did on the floor. I should make it my user pic.
My UO: I don't get this pearl party stuff on FB. It seems so strange to me. How do you even know they're real?
DD1- Aug11 Angel Baby- June13, said goodbye Oct12 DD2- Aug13 DD3- due Feb17