Individual or couples therapy?

Re: Individual or couples therapy?

• rlbrooks84 member

  September 2016

  I go to therapy for myself but its because of my depression and anxiety. I didn't like it at first but now I look forward to it. It's nice to talk to someone that doesn't have a side on whatever is on your mind. I do think in your position couples therapy would be most helpful. You're in this marriage together and should work on it together. Good luck!

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• vintagevix2016 member

  September 2016

  We haven't but we are pro-therapy. We've talked about going every now and then for "tune ups" but haven't yet.
  
  When a friend of mine was having communication issues with her husband, they did couples therapy and individual (both of them did it). They said that doing both types helped their relationship leaps and bounds since the one-on-one helped them focus on their own needs and issues and the couple therapy helped focus on them as a unit. Her husband really didn't like the idea of therapy but was more willing when she said she would be doing sessions on her own too. 

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• lm45678 member

  September 2016

  vintagevix2016 said:

  We haven't but we are pro-therapy. We've talked about going every now and then for "tune ups" but haven't yet.
  
  When a friend of mine was having communication issues with her husband, they did couples therapy and individual (both of them did it). They said that doing both types helped their relationship leaps and bounds since the one-on-one helped them focus on their own needs and issues and the couple therapy helped focus on them as a unit. Her husband really didn't like the idea of therapy but was more willing when she said she would be doing sessions on her own too. 

  Same here- we even have the name of someone but always forget to call. DH has been in individual therapy for about 2 years to do depression/anxiety and it has helped immensely. He had a rough family life growing up and needed to work on things on his own. If that's the cause with your H I would say do individual and couples therapy. (If here is a specific reason for his poor communication). If it is just a rough patch in your marriage, which everyone has at least once, then just couples therapy should probably be enough.
  
  Keep us posted

  Me (31) & DH (32)

  Married 9/27/2014

  DD Born 6/23/16
  Baby #2 Due 3/7/20

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• AmberLiz99 member

  September 2016

  Thanks for sharing your experiences! I really appreciate it. I don't really have friends I could talk to about it. 
  
  Dh did therapy a few times in the past for addiction related things and his growing up situation, and he didn't have the best experience, so I know he wouldn't be up for doing individual on his own. I mentioned to him the idea of couples counseling and you would have thought I asked for a divorce. He totally acted like I was overreacting and he thinks we'll be fine on our own. I got him to agree to think about it. I don't know the right answer yet, but will keep working for something 

    
   
  
  

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• Lizbeth86 member

  September 2016

  I think when someone suggests counseling it comes off as an accusation which is annoying because that's probably the reason you want to go, to be able to discuss things at face value, without baggage and misinterpretations. Good luck and please keep us posted if you go and if it helps.

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