Pregnant after a Loss
MommiFuego
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Pregnant 2 months after stillbirth... Nervous and Cramping, any similar stories feeling very alone
MommiFuego
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My daughter Nevaeh was born into Heaven on 7/2/16. I was 36 weeks along and It was due to a short cord, my midwife said it was a freak accident. I had a normal vaginal L&D no tearing, and bleeding stopped after 11 days. Well on September 3 I got a positive pregnancy test and it turns out I'm pregnant again. I'm really nervous because I've been having a good amount of cramping and I'm hoping it's just from getting pregnant so soon but I'm worrying about miscarriage. I'm very early right now and my obgyn can't date it right now because I haven't had a pp period since having Nevaeh, and it's too early to see anything on a scan. My doctor said some cramping is normal and to watch for a lot of it and bleeding. He's not really sympathetic to my situation and when I said "so bleeding is bad?" he said "Well no, it just means the pregnancy ended"
I know its probably because im early but still I've been through a lot in the past few months I must admit even tho I'm early its bringing me some light in life I wish he wasn't so cold. Now that I'm thinking maybe he just doesn't want me to get attached yet and see it as a miscarriage. Has anyone else gotten pregnant so soon after stillbirth? Was there a lot of cramping?
Re: Pregnant 2 months after stillbirth... Nervous and Cramping, any similar stories feeling very alone
I am soooo sorry for your loss. My mother lost 3 children after 28 weeks due to Premature aging of the placenta. My sis is her rainbow. I'm in a similar situation. I didn't have a stillborn but had a MC last month and just found out this week that I'm pregnant again. They think I may have conceived 2 weeks or so after my MC but not sure since I never got my AF back or was tracking ovulation. I just got my 2nd beta today and they said all looks good. I still have that sinking feeling though. I wouldn't worry too much about the cramping. I had cramping with my son the entire pregnancy. Mild cramping early is OK since the LO is just settling in. Also mild bleeding is normal for some women. With my MC I had serious cramping like I was in the middle of my period and very heavy bleeding and clots. I was def able to tell that something was wrong immediately. We have our first scan on 9/27 so they can give me a due date.Until then though I'm def on pins and needles. I agree in changing providers. You need to be with someone you feel comfortable with. I had a very difficult pregnancy with my son and my docs were very supportive the entire time (my practice has 15 docs and 6 midwives). FX for you on a healthy 9 months!
i also had lots of cramping and stretching with all of my pregnancies, successful and not - it's the uterus growing for your baby. I bet it happened last time but you weren't AS anxious so you didn't notice. Lots of love to you as you wait - and yeah, I agree your OB doesn't sound supportive enough! I know how hard it is to leave an OB when they already know your history, but finding a more supportive one would be worth it.
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2010: son born 9/1
2013: 2 miscarriages + d&cs, both at 10 weeks: April & July
2014: son #2 born 6/29
2016: Baby girl stillborn at 21w6d 4/29 and baby boy stillborn at 20w 3d 11/16