TTGP Check-In 9/15

KirstinH88 · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD?

How are you feeling?

R/R/Q:

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?

KirstinH88 · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 7w5d - 4/29/17

How are you feeling? Nausea is starting to get even worse. Sore boobs, RLP.

R/R/Q: Had an appt yesterday with ultrasound and everything looks amazing! Baby is still measuring right on track and heart is flickering away. I have another appt on 10/10 (11w2d) and will get another ultrasound! I'm so excited because it seems as though I will be getting more ultrasounds this time around than I did with DS.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?

i would love if my kids spent more time with my parents. My mom lives on the other side of town and so we just don't see her that often. She comes out to sports events and whatnot, but it's just not enough! My sister lives close to my mom and her kids see my mom all the time! (I'm a little jealous, obviously). My dad is constantly busy with work and it saddens me that he doesn't try to make more time for his grandkids. We live really close to my in-laws and see them all the time. MIL has been the main caregiver for DS while we work, but this baby will be in daycare. We will probably still see my in-laws more than my own parents.

mrsstuessy · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 9w5d today. Due date is April 15th (officially!)

How are you feeling? blah. Still nauseous. Mostly I just feel fat and lazy. It isn't really lazy so much as it is I am dying and can't do anything. But, it still makes me feel so blah and useless. And also so fat.

R/R/Q: Not much today. We are announcing officially to everyone a week from Saturday. Now that we know everything is ok in there I really just want to get it over with. I mostly want to tell my mom, but at this point I will wait to see her in person a week from Friday. My next appointment is 10/4. I might call and schedule the NT scan tomorrow though.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?
This is a tricky question for me right now. We recently just moved back to DH's hometown, where is parents and sister still live. His other sister is only 10 minutes away. I know his parent's love DD, but I also know it is a different relationship than they have with the other 2 grandkids. SIL has a 9 month old and she is a single mom on welfare while she goes back to school and tries to get her life together. She is very needy from them. MIL watches my nephew 2 days a week while I watch him the other 2 days (for now, but not for long). So, she sort of has the energy drained out by SIL and her kid. And my other SIL is like 14 years older than DH (a half sister to him). She has a 21 year old daughter with down syndrome and was also a single mom for most of her daughter's life. So, she sort of sucked out the life of DH's family as well. Not as dependent now. But MIL still needs to drive around my niece sometimes and she sleeps over a lot at their house. Basically I feel like we are last priority in their family because we are married and somewhat stable. My parents are awesome and I wish they lived in town. My mom would watch DD whenever I wanted. But they live 4.5 hours away and my mom is travel around the world for 4 or 5 months every year because of her new counseling/teaching career. So, it is a bit of a bummer for me and I don't like to think about it right now.

KirstinH88 · September 2016

@mrsstuessy How you feel about your child being last priority with DH's family is exactly how I feel about my children being last priority with my family. My mom is constantly helping my sister with her kids (although married, they don't make as much as we do). I don't need the hand-out, but it would still be nice of my family to put in the same amount of effort that gets put into my nephew and nieces.

shaunessa · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD?

10 weeks-4/13/17

How are you feeling?

much better now that I know I can sleep on my belly! I tried it last night and I was finally able to get some zzzz's

R/R/Q:

Finally had my 1st appt today and was able to see my little nuggets heartbeat! The tech said "there's your baby, congratulations". And my 2.5 year old son says "yay, mama!" Of course I teared up and cried.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?
I know my parents will be great with my kids, they live right around the corner! The in laws on the other hand, I hope with this news of a new baby, they will finally take down the pics of my Brother-in-laws EX step kid. There was no relation, nada, zilp, zilch. Take down her pictures already!!!!

TheJerilu · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD?

10w2d/April 11

How are you feeling?

Physically GREAT! Most of my anti-meat has gone away - I was able to make and eat Chicken curry last night and am having sushi tonight! Also my fatigue is basically gone, so I can work out again instead of feeling like my bones are melting. I was getting really thrown for a loop by the first two months and had been counting the days for my placenta to kick in.
Emotionally okay - it's hard coming to grips with not being as in control of my body or diet. Avoiding the scale and any discussions of weight gain/loss on here, so sorry if I dip out of participation when I see those threads pop up - it's a dangerous mental spot for me if I'm not careful because of past stuff.

R/R/Q:

Guys I ate a plantain, guava and peanut butter sandwich for lunch. I'm saying it's healthy because it had fruit. It was straight up delicious and I kind of wish I would have ordered two.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?
I'm surprised (but strangely relieved) to see similar "lower on the totem pole" situations to mine. Sadly, we live 8 hours from my folks and 21 hours from his folks, so it will be a minimized relationship compared to how we grew up (both of us had our grandparents living on the same block as us). Skype and google hangouts will great, and my folks will probably continue to visit at least 4 times a year and his will probably visit 0-1 times, and vice verse with us visiting them. Downside is that our sisters both can be a bit demanding for attention (his sister FAR worse than mine, my sister actually mellowed out with her child), so I worry about them getting jealous of their visits with seamonkey and trying to monopolize their attention back to them and their kids.

Regardless of distance, both of our parents have been really awesome grandparents to our niece and nephew, so I think they'll be lovely role models for ours as they grow up.

momtoleo · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 7w5d - 4/30

How are you feeling? Symptoms come and go. I threw my back out on Tuesday (I know exactly when I did it), so the pain of that has sort of masked other symptoms. And then of course if you google "back pain while pregnant" you get a whole host of responses ranging from "it's totally normal" to "omg, miscarriage." Not helpful. It's frustrating to not even be able to take ibuprofen though.

R/R/Q: My first appointment is next week and the wait is driving me crazy! I mean, I feel pregnant and there were lines on that test, but I can't wait for it to be confirmed. That's when it will really be real.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together? This grandchild will be the first on my side and the 4th on DH's side. With my parents, I believe they will be very hands on, around as often as I want (even though they live 3 hours away) and it will be the shining star in our family. Is it wrong to say that on DH's side, I think it depends on the sex of the baby? They already have three grandsons and have made it explicitly clear that they want a granddaughter. If this baby is a girl, she is going to be spoiled rotten. If it's a boy, eh, they've been there, done that.

KirstinH88 · September 2016

momtoleo said:

Is it wrong to say that on DH's side, I think it depends on the sex of the baby? They already have three grandsons and have made it explicitly clear that they want a granddaughter. If this baby is a girl, she is going to be spoiled rotten. If it's a boy, eh, they've been there, done that.

This exactly. The last girl born in DHs family will be 19 by the time baby comes. I have already been told multiple times to let them know if it is a girl because they need to start shopping. Like they won't go shopping for a boy?

KirstinH88 · September 2016

momtoleo said:

Is it wrong to say that on DH's side, I think it depends on the sex of the baby? They already have three grandsons and have made it explicitly clear that they want a granddaughter. If this baby is a girl, she is going to be spoiled rotten. If it's a boy, eh, they've been there, done that.

This exactly. The last girl born in DHs family will be 19 by the time baby comes. I have already been told multiple times to let them know if it is a girl because they need to start shopping. Like they won't go shopping for a boy?

catem07 · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 11w6d

How are you feeling? Meh. I think getting better, but still tired and facing weird food things.

R/R/Q: I've been pretty much eating straight carbs lately. Yum carbs.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?

Our 1-3 year plan is to move out of the city and have my parents move in with us in an in-law site situation. They'd be there April-May and Sept-Dec (FL and Jersey shore the other months). My mom will also spend a good deal of time at our current place when baby is born. ILs live closer than my family (2.5 hours away) but right now they never come here, we just go there. Don't know how that will change with baby but they just built a vacation home in a place we love so we will likely go there a decent amount.

HappyAnjel · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 11+1 , April 7th

How are you feeling? Symptoms are very mild today but severe nausea and vomiting come and go.

R/R/Q:

GTKY: what kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together?
- hopefully my parents are the same with this baby as with my daughter.. and my in laws I'm hoping are better than they were with daughter.. they are good now but for the first 2.5 years they didn't make much of an effort to see her. We always brought her to them. MIL doesn't really care for my mom (she's never said this to me. But did tell my friend she works with) so probably avoided coming around bc my mom was always there. Oh well, I'm not telling my mom to go stop being so involved.

clover28 · September 2016

How far along are you? EDD? 10w today. Due date 4/15!

How are you feeling? Like crap. Still taking diclegis three times a day with Zofran twice a day and phenergen in the evening if I haven't kept anything down that day. I haven't lost any more weight so I'm happy about that but I've been unsuccessful in keeping my prenatal down (I've tried them all) and I know my nutrition isn't the greatest.

R/R/Q: I have to go to Costco today. I'm trying to get myself amped up for it but after my last pukefest at Target I'm a little nervous. I wish pregnancy started out with a bump at like 6 weeks because I feel like people who don't know I'm KU just assume I'm hungover.

GTKY: What kind of relationship do you hope your parents will have with their grandchild? How much time will they spend together? My in laws are in Canada but we try to see them every four months or so. Its getting harder to travel there with a toddler so they are coming here more often. My parents live three hours away and come every other weekend or so. We have a pretty good relationship with both sides because our son is the first grandchild.

mrsstuessy · September 2016

@clover28 That sounds horrible. I am so sorry. That was my last pregnancy, so I get it. If it makes you feel any better, with this 2nd pregnancy I definitely could have passed as pregnant at 6 weeks with the right clothes. And at 10 weeks my SIL comments every single morning how adorable my bump is looking. So, if you plan on having more kids, you are in luck.

clover28 · September 2016

@mrsstuessy Its so nice to hear that others have been through this too. I had HG with my first child as well and had to be hospitalized a few times for fluids... so far I've stayed out of the hospital so I feel like this pregnancy is at least a little better than my last. Its hard chasing a toddler and being sick but the end result will be so worth it... or at least that's what I keep telling myself. I feel like sometimes I look like I have a little bump, but I think I'm just really constipated from all of the zofran. I'm ready to start showing again so that this pregnancy will feel "real" and I won't just feel like a hungover narcoleptic anymore.

TheJerilu · September 2016

@HappyAnjel
Did you have a different username while on the Trying To Get Pregnant board? I don't recall seeing this one over there.

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