Hi mommies I just need to vent! And figured we could put all of our rants in one spot. I'd love so hear some of the things bothering you all!
I had lot and lots of problems breastfeeding and for no apparent reason my milk dried when DD was two months. I would nurse her for 45 minutes to an hour then since she wasn't gaining weight I would give her a bottle of formula. After our nursing session she would still eat 4 ounces from the bottle. I tried pumping and hand expressing and could not get a single drop. So I finally threw in the towel So, since she has been super fussy/cranky. To the point I cannot do anything except hold her while she screams. Her pedi diagnosed colic and reflux. Pedi said she should out grow them both by 3 months. Then she said give it until 4 month. Then she said give it until 5 months. Now at 5 months she still has some crazy reflux. A mommy friend suggested maybe she had a lip tie! When I began researching the symptoms fit her to a T! Symptoms that fit us:
discomfort while nursing
Sleep deprivation (because of baby not nursing efficiently, nursing more often to compensate)
Compromised milk supply
Reflux or colic
Guming or chewing nipple
Clicking noise while sucking
My poor baby, I have to manually untuck her upper lip to help her latch onto the bottle (it won't flare out on it own And will actually retuck itself)
The only symptom LO does not seem to have it poor weight gain. But I believe that is because I am a stay at home mom and I feed on demand (I sit almost all day with a bottle to Baby's mouth).
It so heart breaking. She cries and screams. She fights me every time I try to feed her but she cries before I feed her because she is hungry. Half of the bottle I make ends up all over her outfit (she still uses the newborn nipple. Tried to go up but was even worse!) because she can't get a good latch on the bottle and it spills out of her mouth. So after awhile of hammering Our pedi about possibly having a Lip tie she referred us to an ENT.
We waited two months!! For that appointment. Now that that appointment had come and gone I am as frustrated as ever!! We arrived 20 minutes early as requested. And sat for an hour and ten minutes PAST our appt time. so we had in the office for an hour and a half with a screaming baby. Ugh.
Then the ENT specialist spent 3 minutes with us. I kid you not, a literal 3 minutes!!! He looked and said she did have skin but 'it moves fine'. And since she Her weight gain is fine Then she is fine. Which I understand in theory is correct but I explained about all the reason why I thought she needed her 'possible tie' (<-- what he called it) clipped. And he said well if her weigh gain dips I'll take another look in 3 months. (Lo will be 8 months old by then! And this has been happening since day 1!) He then hurried us out of the office. I am so frustrated because I feel like no one is listening to me! She's my baby, I know her. I feel that because I look young (people always ask me if I am 16, but I am 21) no one ever takes my concerns seriously.
I understand that he doesn't see a weight gain problem however, like I stated before, I think that is because since I am a SAHM and feed on demand I am spending almost my whole day with a bottle in her mouth giving her many more ounces than a baby her age would normally take (because she only get a about 1/3 to 1/2 of each bottle in her tummy. The rest on her outfit)
My mother suggested taking her to a different ENT but we need a referral and pedi already referred is to this one so I don't see her giving us another.
Ugh! Sorry for the long post just needed to drop the feelings off somewhere!