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December 2016 Moms
jennbaylor12
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Moms with Toddlers - 8.29.16
jennbaylor12
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How've you been doing balancing a toddler(s) and your pregnancy this past week?
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
Rants/Raves/Questions:
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
Rants/Raves/Questions:
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
Re: Moms with Toddlers - 8.29.16
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you? Sometimes I simply forget I'm pregnant because I have 1,000 things on my mind. My first pregnancy I feel like I spent SO much time "getting ready" for baby and this time there's really not much to do...
Rants/Raves/Questions: Has anyone thought about yet if their husbands are going to stay in the hopsital with them the whole time or go home to play/spend time with toddler? My parents are happy to take care of him at our house but I'm wondering if DH should go home for a while during my two day stay so toddler doesnt' feel abandoned? I'm not sure what the "right" answer is here!
Anything you want to add/share? Nope
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet? He's going to be Curious George and DH is going to be the man in the yellow hat! I'm going to pregnant. Haha.
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you? It. So. Much. Harder. Not only was I sicker longer, but I don't get to relax and lie down whenever I want. I got to nap while pregnant with DS, and got to hang out with dh and relax, and with this pregnancy it's constant running errands, appointments, being crawled and jumped on, and very little actual relaxing.
Rants/Raves/Questions: He's so freaking sweet with the baby I can't stand it. Really working on the weaning before sleep thing since he has teeth and baby won't have teeth so baby needs boobies more than H does. He's starting to get it luckily.
@sarahf8611 I'm trying to convince DH to go home at least one of the two nights I'll be in the hopsital to keep H's life as normal as possible. My mom and step dad will be staying with him during the day and dh would just need to go at night, but he doesn't want to leave me and baby (who I'll be shipping off to the nursery anyway so I can sleep), which is sweet, but I don't want ds to feel abandoned.
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet? One of a few things, top choice is Daryl Dixon or Negan from The Walking Dead, or he may be a construction worker since we are obsessed with bob the builder and all things dirt/construction/tool related.
It was a tough week - he went to kindercare 2 days for the first time. Of course didn't nap on their schedule yet and then we were trying to be gentle and accommodating of sleep needs the rest of the week but he's just all out of whack. It really wasn't actually a big deal but it felt like it. He's also making language strides which is adorable.
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
I thought my body had recovered physically from last pregnancy. Turns out - nope. Everything feels like it's stretching out faster and farther than it needs to and I definitely am feeling "3rd tri" even though it's a couple weeks out. Last time I felt much better most of the way into my 3rd tri (though much much worse through most of my 2nd tri). I am not running this time which feels like a big change. I'm also not feeling the sense of loss of self that I had last time. I'm already momma slarty so that identity shift is not something I'm grappling with.
Rants/Raves/Questions:
Rave - my little guy is developing more language skills
Rant - he was up at 3am practicing saying eyes and nose repeatedly in his crib.
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
We had a really great week. DS started preschool 2 days/week in the morning and loved it!
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
@SarahF8611 - "My first pregnancy I feel like I spent SO much time "getting ready" for baby and this time there's really not much to do..." < This, exactly. I was just telling one of my girlfriends this yesterday. Last time there was so much to do/prep - the registry, picking things out, shopping, a shower, etc. None of that this time - we have just about everything we need. So I feel like I'm just in the business of baby growing, haha
@slartybartfast - I was saying this yesterday as well; I def feel I've hit 3rd tri sxs earlier this go-around
Rants/Raves/Questions:
DS is the sweetest thing! I'm really enjoying this stage :-D
Re: DH and the hospital stay. We've discussed this at length and feel comfortable with what we finally decided. My mom and his dad will primarily be watching DS at our house. Our hospital does room-in so this baby will be with me in the hospital room overnight so I will need DH there. We decided that DS will come visit around 11-ish each day and then DH will leave with him when he leaves to take him home for lunch and nap (DH will nap at home while DS naps) and play after nap and then will come back you spend the evening/night/morning with me and new baby.
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
Not sure yet.... Maybe Charlie Brown
jennbaylor12 - you articulating that your body was in 3rd tri mode the other day made me feel better about admitting it. It TERRIFIES me that I still have 15 weeks and I'm already at this point. I can't imagine what my body is going to look like at the end of this one... And now over to the why my pregnant self is crying thread...
This pregnancy has been so much easier and tougher at the same time. Easier in that I am less obsessive and more comfortable carrying this baby. Less ms in the beginning too. But like others, boy do I miss relaxing when I'd like to. Not to mention DD loves to climb me so I am constantly blocking the belly.
If you can believe it, haven't thought about Halloween costumes yet.
I still have rough days but I feel like I'm FINALLY getting the hang of this! I resigned from my job in May, and to be honest, I went through a pretty low point for the first two months I was home full time with my little guy. Being with a toddler all day was psychologically much harder then I was prepared for. I felt trapped and overwhelmed. (My husband was also out of town for six weeks which made it more challenging) I remember reading this thread and being envious of how well everyone seemed to be coping.
Since then I've built a weekly schedule and a community of other moms that has turned things around for me. It's still a steep learning curve, but I'm starting to feel like a semi competent mom which allows me to enjoy my time with my sweet boy more.
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
I am fortunate when it comes to pregnancy (delivery is a different story). Like the first pregnancy I barely notice I'm pregnant except for my belly which I think is bigger then last time but I can't be sure. I guess the biggest difference is simply that like @jennbaylor12 I have put zero preparation into this pregnancy. With the first pregnancy there were so many lists of things to do and get, and with this one I've pre-registered at the hospital and I'll set up a bassinet and buy some diapers and I think I'm good.
Rants/Raves/Questions: Anything you want to add/share?
For me being home with a toddler is much more difficult then being pregnant. I want to laugh when people ask me "How are you feeling" and I have to remind myself they're asking about my belly not my brain.
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
I think he's going to be one of the ninja turtles. DH and I are still arguing on which one (I'm team Donatello and he's team Raphael)
Anyways - impressed you're in the groove and yea, it's HARD.
Been a challenge with everyone sick in the house. I hate to say it but we've watched far too much tv.
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you?
The first 20 weeks of this pregnancy I had no symptoms except being tired. I felt great, was still running, and was convinced it was a boy because the pregnancy was opposite of dd1. At my AS I was told I have placenta previa so I had to start taking it easy. Then I've been sick for 3 weeks now. So different challenges.
Rants/Raves/Questions:
My DD is great with the whole baby in belly thing. She gives hugs and kisses and "check ups" with her fake medical toys.
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloween yet?
she wants minnie. I want something star wars so my belly can be bb8 or the death star. But she was r2d2 last year so I'd want something different and at 2yo she's super opinionated.
I hope everyone feels better soon!
I've actually been doing great this week but DS has started hitting and begun throwing himself on the floor for temper tantrums.
Weight gain. I gained 40 pounds total last time and this time I'm at 27+3 and I have only gained 4-ish pounds.
Nope!
I forgot how much my back hurt during pregnancy!
We are going as Little Red Riding Hood and the little Big Bad Wolf!
How've you been doing balancing a toddler(s) and your pregnancy this past week? School started back up for me which makes routines easier. I have gotten some spaces in teh new house (we just moved) more organized which makes it easier for me to be in the house with DS and not constantly have to be like, "NO!" "STOP UNPACKING THAT BOX!" lol.
What's the biggest difference between this pregnancy and the last one(s) for you? I got tired quicker this time and incapable of doing things quicker. We moved a month ago and I could barely help-my hips and back hurt so much afterwards. But things are going so much faster this time as well because I already have DS, plus I had school and moving to keep my occupied so I agree that sometimes I remember I am pregnant until she moves!
Rants/Raves/Questions: THis is a rant and a rave: Day 3 of school and my principal is already micromanaging my teammate and I and our routines-expecting our class of 8 behavior plan students and 8 IEP students (45 total kids between our two classes) to have our transitions down perfect. Super long story short but him and I have a history of clashing and I decided I'm not coming back after maternity leave. Like ever. So while I was 100% aware how difficult the job of a SAHM is, I never had to fully consider myself in that boat and probably around March(when I would have DS stop going to daycare after 'maternity leave.') I will officially be one. So excited for the new challenge but super wary listening to you guys describe your difficulty getting into the groove at first!
Anything you want to add/share?
Bonus Question: Do you know what your toddler is going to be for Halloweeen?Yes!!! We have three corgis and a basset hound, DH, DS, and me (and maybe my dad). We are going to be a TMNT crew here is the run down: dogs will be ninja turtles, DS will be splinter, if my dad comes DH will be casey jones and my dad will be shredder, but if my dad doesn't come DH has to be shredder-I don't think people will get Casey Jones alone. And I am going to be April! DH thinks I should be that bad guy with the brain in his stomach or Bebop/Rocksteady since I am hugely preggo but APril is a childhood hero of mine so I think I'll just be preggo april, lol.